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126 | Emotional Distress Syndrome

126 | Emotional Distress Syndrome

Emotional Distress Syndrome

Emotional Distress Syndrome, discovered and coined my James Ochoa himself. James had training working with people with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). In time he saw similarities in some of his clients and the people with PTSD with one exception. For some, it wasn’t going away. Some of his clients, were not getting better in the way people with PSTD generally did.

These clients of his suffered from the exact same thing:

  • Chronic breakdowns
  • Lack of self-worth
  • They felt bullied
  • They were all misunderstood

He determined that for these people he would have to rebuild their internal sense of self.

EDS is manageable and treatable thanks to the work James is doing.

Coaching Session

James has difficulty being consistent with singular systems. He tries many things such as post-it notes, phone apps, etc. He prefers to write things down. Currently has four systems and he is not able to follow through with any of them. He finds himself not having enough time. Eric has James scrounge up a pen and paper to write the following

  • A Accountability
    • Who are you accountable to?
  • T Timers
    • Timing tasks makes you more accountable and keep you focused
    • Make predictions as to how long a task will take
  • R Reminders
    • Include the why with the what
  • I Inputs
    • To do lists, calendar, email, voice mail, pile#1 Pile#2….
  • P PlanningProcessProcesses
    • Streamline and improve. Evaluate what works and what does not work

James was excited and eager to begin using this system when he left the show.

 

About James Ochoa

James Ochoa is on a mission. In a way he always has been. He was born the seventh of eight children in Houston, Texas and almost immediately began to feel the faint hum that all ADHD sufferers feel. It would be safe to say that his journey to find answers for his issues began as early as is humanly possible.

Then, at the age of four, he had a traumatic accident that would alter his life forever. While playing on his parent’s car, he fell, hitting his head on the concrete. After the doctors examined him they were not hopeful, and everyone prepared for the worst. While in the hospital, James had what he describes as his first spiritual experience, one that he can still recall with great clarity and emotion. His father had been in Vietnam working a construction job, and he took a leave from his contract to come visit James in the pediatric ward of their local hospital. As his father walked toward him, James remembers seeing a blue orb-like structure above his bed. In his mind, this was a sign and he knew it immediately. His father didn’t see the blue orb, of course, but James remembers that he was stunned to hear James announce, “Dad, I’m not gonna die. I’m here for a reason.” As it turned out, many decades would pass before James truly understood what that moment and that proclamation meant.

In fact, it mostly eluded him until the summer of 1989 when he was working at an ADHD summer program for kids. “It was total chaos,” he says. “But the lights and intrigue that these kids came to the table with was like…Oh my God, they’re brilliant and we’re not seeing it.” He immediately recognized his calling and resolved to spend his life trying to find answers for himself and others. For almost two decades, now, he has done just that.

His work with patients and extensive personal study of the neuroscience of ADHD has allowed him to find answers that work. His new book Focused Forward: Navigating the Storms of Adult ADHD is just the latest mile on a many-long miles journey he is on. His discoveries and success in his own life and with his patients have made him a much in demand speaker these days.

James lives in Austin, Texas with his wife, Edie. They have two sons, Gabe, 25, and Jules, 20.

How to Reach James

Web

http://www.tlec.info/

Facebook Page

https://www.facebook.com/TheLifeEmpowermentCenter/?fref=ts

Twitter @adhdinsights

 

Audible books mentioned 

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The War of Art: Winning the Inner Creative Battle by Steven Pressfield

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 http://adhdrewired.com

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125 | Success Despite ADHD

125 | Success Despite ADHD

 

Hello everybody. Tom Nardone here,

 This week, we had the pleasure of speaking to Dan Spears. Dan learned of his ADHD as a result of the problems it was causing in his marriage. This episode hit especially close to home for me.

 Dan saw a therapist in the fall of 2015. He was diagnosed and given a prescription. The therapist he was seeing at the time recommended he read, “Driven to Distraction” which was somewhat helpful. While the book spoke of helping with strategies, it was the emotional side of things that presented the biggest challenges in his life.

 Dan speaks of his experience with procrastination, accountability and memory. These issues have caused problems for him, and consequently for his wife in their communications with one another. Dan cannot recall the simplest of things to memory when his wife engages him, in what should be a normal conversation. He has trouble not just remembering names, but entire events of which he was a part of. He often has only vague memories of things they have done or places they have been to.

 Those of us with ADHD know this feeling all too well. Our inability to focus on the things we are doing, prevents us from being able to recall them later. This causes those who know and love us to feel like we are not interested in them or in the things they say to us or do with us.

 This is not just a problem with our families. We struggle at work where forgetting something can present a completely different set of problems.

 We see the so called “regular people” and wonder how they seem to master interactions and tasks with little to no effort. We wonder what they have that we do not. We ask ourselves, “Is it something we will ever learn?” We ask ourselves, “How to they do this without having to look for a strategy”

  For many of us, this is where we begin to feel inferior or not good enough. Those of us with ADHD will usually take one of two paths. We will simply give up or mentally check-out and accept defeat, or we will seek the help of a professional. Thankfully Dan Spears has chosen the latter.

 Dan works in IT and a big part of his job is preparing time sheets. This is very important because it is the way they ensure that clients are billed properly. This is where Dan struggles the most. He has tried many different methods to achieve this but nothing has worked for him in the long term.

 We invite you to listen as Eric discusses solutions and helps Dan not only develop new strategies, but leaves him with a genuine enthusiasm about their implementation on this 125th episode of ADHD reWired.

 

Bio: Dan Spears

 

Dan is a 36-year-old native of Liverpool, England, who unfortunately does not sound like one of the Beatles. He immigrated to the US in 2005, landing in Texas, then ventured north to Ohio in 2010, where he lives with his wife, 3 step-children, and 2 cats and according to Dan, a rabbit that hates him.

 

Dan was finally diagnosed with ADHD in 2015.

  Stay tuned to ADHD reWired for follow-up sessions with past guests who have allowed Eric to help them and keep up with their progress.

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a Coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

  

Audio books mentioned in the show.

Driven to Distraction – Edward M. Hallowell

The Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg

The Willpower Instinct – Kelly McGonigal

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124 | 5 Ways to Crush Procrastination

124 | 5 Ways to Crush Procrastination

 

 

124 | 5 Ways to Crush Procrastination

 

This week, Eric and the staff at ADHD reWired welcome back one of our fan favorites. Alan Brown returns to discuss “5 ways to Crush Procrastination”.

Productivity knows few if any greater foes than procrastination. This can manifest itself as a feeling of being stuck. Sometimes, even though we want something to be completed, our lack of ability to focus on one thing prevents us from even starting the task or project.

Today, Alan brown will show us that when you have a big meal to eat, it is best to devour it in a series of courses instead of a single bite.

Alan speaks of a cycle of procrastination.

  1. We become overwhelmed
  2. We look for an escape
  3. We Procrastinate (check our email, or check Facebook.)
  4. As a result, our to do list continues to grow
  5. We fall further behind
  6. This leads to under-achieving or screwing up
  7. We are then…miserable

 If you have had the pleasure of ever seeing Alan Brown’s award winning ADD Crusher videos you may remember hearing Alan say:

YOU ARE JUST KICKING YOUR OWN A$$”

 

Alan’s method of crushing his procrastination is primarily achieved through his asking himself specific questions. For example, Alan will ask himself, “Are any of my to-do’s a problem right now?”

Sometimes the things we believe to be the most critical have the least amount of significance in the end. Alan helps us by offering methods to determine what is truly important and how to attack these tasks.

 

reWired Coaching (Alan Brown in the hot seat)

 

Alan Brown, during the coaching session of ADHD reWired shares some things he would like to improve in regard to the production of his amazing CrusherTV show.

Alan Brown:  Alan explains that he struggles with coordinating the main processes of producing CrusherTV. There are many moving parts such as editing, sound, booking guests, and of course not having as much time as he needs to do get the job done.

Eric Tivers:  Eric instructs Alan Brown to make 3 columns and head each of them as follows

  1. Things I don’t like doing
  2. Things I can’t do
  3. Things I should do

Alan Brown:  Alan adds a fourth step

  1. Things that must be done by me.

Eric Tivers:  Eric asks for action steps

Alan Brown: Alan responds with 3

  1. Spend time filling in the three columns
  2. Do this with honesty
  3. Involve his wife to help him execute

 Eric Tivers:  Eric asks Alan to set a date to begin and a date for follow up

Alan Brown:  Alan complies

It is always a treat when Alan comes on the show. His balance of helpful information and humor are unmatched. If you would like to get in touch with Alan you can got to:

http://cruchertv.com

http://addcrusher.com

Or email him at info@cruchertv.com

 

Alan Brown Bio

Meet mess-to-success entrepreneur, productivity coach Alan Brown. An unmitigated mess before diagnosis — booze, drugs, massive under-achievement and irresponsible space case. Now a successful executive, investor and entrepreneur, he crushed his own ADD using the proven ADD Crusher™ strategies. Personal mission: Help ADHD adults around the world live to their potential through alternative ADD treatments and solutions.

CrusherTV ™ is a weekly online TV show delivering life-changing solutions to its members-only audience – crazy-busy people just like you.

Each week productivity coach Alan Brown hosts A-list guest experts sharing brain hacks and other simple solutions to turbocharge your productivity and quality-of-life: Crush procrastination. Get more stuff done. Have more free time. Just to name a few.

But it's more than just the TV show that makes you more productive. CrusherTV ™ members enjoy loads of other benefits...

Stay tuned to ADHD reWired for follow up sessions with past guests who have allowed Eric to help them and keep up with their progress.

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123 | 5 Principles of a Good System

123 | 5 Principles of a System

Marina Darlow

There are many people with ADHD, who aspire to be entrepreneurs. Being an entrepreneur requires a focus on many areas. Creativity, management, products and projects to name a few. People with ADHD have difficulty with some of the tasks that are necessary to keep it on track.

Many people are so overwhelmed with the smallest things. However, this is often where the majority of their time is spent. Without systems and strategies in place it can be near impossible for the entrepreneur with or without ADHD to succeed.

It would be nice if there were professionals who focused on the needs of ADHD entrepreneurs. If only there were people whose job it was to develop and help implement real useable strategies catered to the challenges of people with ADHD who want to succeed in business.

Well, those people do exist. ADHD reWired is proud to introduce such a person. Meet Marina Darlow as she joins Eric Tivers in the ADHD reWired virtual studios.

Marina Darlow works with creative people to help them develop strategies and methods for freeing up time that allows them to focus on what is really important.

Marina got into this because she wanted to make the world a less violent place. After she came to the realization that she did not want to be a field agent with the CIA. She worked as a project manager for several non-profit corporations and then she became a Systems coach catering mostly to those with ADHD.

Marinas “Five Principals of a System” are:

  1. System must be easy to use.
  2. Never forget reminders
  3. System must be flexible
  4. System must be fun
  5. System must have Accountability

 COACHING SESSION

Marina puts her career in Eric’s hands as she confides in him about an upcoming challenge. Marina has to make contacts and reach out to some venture capitalists. Marina struggles a bit with rejection. She mentions that she procrastinates to avoid what she knows she should be doing.

She and Eric come up with a strategy and Marina seemed to leave the session with noticeable excitement.

Contact Marina: http://www.vision-framework.com/

Go to http://adhdrewired.com  for a free downloadable PDF from Marina.

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Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a Coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions contact Eric Tivers at http://adhdrewired.com 

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