ADHD reWired

We are back with part 2 of the first mastermind episode for our Addmin from our 21st season. Today we have Roxie, Jessica, Natalie with Moira in the hot seat, continuing the discussion around rethinking her professional world and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Eric and the mastermind continue the conversation around the podcast Moira would want to put out and whether she wants to do it independently or be under the ADHD reWired umbrella. They talk about what she feels her biggest weakness would be and how close she is to gather the information around her vision.

Listen as Eric discusses the equipment and software she needs for the podcast and the best location to record with the best acoustics. They talk about where to research, how to podcast, who to listen to, and where to learn about editing and podcasting. The team finishes up with some words of encouragement and tells her to set a goal for when she wants to go live with her first episode and work towards that goal.

We hope you found something you can take away from this mastermind session. Whatever the idea you have, we know that as people with ADHD; we have a lot of really big ideas, and we tend to be the ones who are crazy enough to think that we can do it. It always starts by figuring out what that first step is. You don't need to know all the steps; just start with the first thing and follow your passion.

You'll learn:

  • [02:16] Eric shares the things Moira would need if she wanted to podcast.
  • [03:44] Would you want to do your own thing or do your own thing under the ADHD reWired umbrella?
  • [04:35] Moira speaks about the time it would take to quit her job and start her new career.
  • [06:08] What do you think your bandwidth would be? How much time could you spend?
  • [09:07] Moira discusses being in Canada and what that would like with people in the U.S. when it comes to rates.
  • [11:13] Eric shares what he is looking for when bringing in coaches.
  • [12:51] People with mental health challenges and knowing how to handle them are where Moira feels her weakness.
  • [15:10] There are many books and research out there around coaching and mental health issues.
  • [18:34] Moira is a very visual person and has gathered a lot of information about making the change and getting a vision.
  • [20:01] Jessica will send a form to Moira to help her get everything she needs to get her brand ready.
  • [22:01] When would you like your first episode of the podcast air?
  • [25:50] Moira says she might be able to air her first episode by the end of the year.
  • [28:00] If you were to launch your podcast in the first week of January, what would you need to do this week?
  • [30:40] Eric talks about doing a podcast on the cheap to start and what equipment she needs.
  • [33:16] Eric lets her know she will need to learn how to edit and some suggestions on who to listen to.
  • [35:45] Jessica and Natalie give her some words of encouragement.
  • [37:31] Thank you for listening to part 2 of this mastermind session.
  • [39:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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"I have always gravitated to children with ADHD, and I couldn't understand why other adults couldn't understand them. I thought I was an Empath; turns out I was just one of them." Listen to this first mastermind episode for our Addmin from our 21st season. Today we have Roxie, Jessica, Natalie with Moira in the hot seat with questions about rethinking her professional world and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Moira discusses changing how she works and focusing more on helping women with ADHD as opposed to working with children. Moira talks about coaching, heading groups, speaking, and possibly doing a podcast focusing on women with ADHD, but her narrow focus would be on moms with ADHD.

Natalie and Jessica share their insights into what they are hearing and ask some thought-provoking questions. Eric discusses wanting to grow ADHD reWired to more than just himself and centered around community and asked Moira what platform she would pick to get her message across and about the logistics of making it work financially.

There is much more to this conversation, so part 2 will be in your feed tomorrow.  

You'll learn:

  • [03:21] Eric has the mastermind voices share who they are and when they started as Addmin.
  • [05:10] Moira shares an overview of what it is she wants to mastermind.
  • [07:13] Roxie, Natalie, and Jessica ask Moira more questions for clarification.
  • [08:40] Moira describes what she means by a dimmer switch.
  • [11:13] If you change the context of work, how is everything else going to change?
  • [13:57] Eric describes how he sees hyper-focus.
  • [15:40] Moira wants to reconcile her direction.
  • [18:05] Roxie wants to know what she wants to focus on.
  • [25:32] Moira says that if she could do what she wants to do, it would be to coach and have a bigger voice.
  • [27:38] If you could work on ADHD reWired, what would you want to do?
  • [30:34] Moira would want her narrow focus to be moms with ADHD.
  • [32:29] Natalie shares her thoughts.
  • [35:13] Eric discusses niche's and your avatar.
  • [38:13] Moira speaks about putting herself out there to help people and the value it brings.
  • [40:43] Jessica shares her insights on what Moira is looking for.
  • [41:26] Jessica asks what fears and roadblocks are holding Moira back.
  • [44:03] If you were doing something you wanted to do, would you be able to keep yourself to part-time hours?
  • [48:22] Listen as they discuss the logistics Moira needs to figure out to quit her teaching job.
  • [51:23] She needs to have something that grows and changes, so she doesn't get bored.
  • [53:40] Eric wants to grow ADHD reWired to be more than just him centered around a community.
  • [55:23] If you were to pick a platform to get your voice out there, what would it be?
  • [58:50] Tomorrow, on your podcast feed, you will see part 2 of this conversation.
  • [59:55] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Productivity Q&A

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"Have you been told that your ADHD is so severe that it limits your education and career choices? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Jason Burns discuss giving up his career in the entertainment industry to start his own company plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Jason is an entrepreneur, public speaker, and former entertainment executive. He's the President and CEO of the company Fidgetland, a company he started to help fellow ADHDers and others to benefit from fidgeting. You may also have seen Jason, also known as the fidget man, on ABC's The Shark Tank, where he scored a deal with Barbara Corcoran. 

Jason discusses how he came up with the fidget idea, his online sales, getting a deal on Shark Tank in 2015, and the challenges of marketing something designed to be discreet. If you listen all the way through, you will receive a code to get 20% off your purchase at Fidgetland.com.

Listen, as Jason speaks about being told that his ADHD was so severe that he'd never be able to have a career where education was needed, how medication changed his life, and how ADHD awareness has changed since he was diagnosed over thirty years ago. He now speaks at schools to educate students on how fidgets helped him focus and his journey with ADHD.

Jason shares some stories of working with people like Adam Sandler, Kevin Hart, and Stan Lee. He also tells us he went to high school with Joel McHale, and they have worked together on a couple of projects. Jason says that he doesn't miss working with the stars and the agent side, but he enjoyed making things and the business's content side.

You'll learn:

  • [02:54] Welcome to the show, Jason!
  • [04:29] Jason shares how his fidget business got started.
  • [06:43] Jason describes his fidget design for the listeners.
  • [08:39] Listen, as Jason speaks about dropping his prototype and a co-worker picking it up and loving it immediately.
  • [11:14] Jason talks about the online sales and then in 2015 going on Shark Tank.
  • [13:30] They discuss the challenges of marketing his fidget.
  • [21:45] Jason speaks about his educational journey and the challenges he faced.
  • [24:54] Jason shares his struggles with ADHD in his business and life.
  • [28:44] Listen, as Jason talks about having your own company and dealing with business and ADHD things.
  • [30:05] Jason discusses what he did in the entertainment industry.
  • [31:45] He believes that being an entrepreneur is lonely.
  • [35:35] Eric says as an entrepreneur, it's important to do everything you can to have the maximum time in your area of strength.
  • [35:57] Jason shares that his brain is always telling him he can do something better, and it can be paralyzing.
  • [42:34] Jason discusses talking to schools about fidgeting and ADHD.
  • [44:10] they diagnosed him with ADHD thirty years ago, and he used to think it was just about medical management.
  • [46:26] Jason shares working with Adam Sandler, Kevin Hart, Stan Lee, and Joel McHale.
  • [49:10] He speaks about Adam Sandler being laser-focused and very detail-oriented.
  • [50:40] Do you miss working and being around the stars?
  • [52:22] Jason discusses a subscription model he wanted to implement, but the response wasn't favorable.
  • [54:05] Jason gives a discount code for the listeners to purchase a fidget.
  • [56:16] Thank you for being on the show!
  • [57:08] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Productivity Q&A

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"Anything you can move to the night before, move to the night before and make it part of your wind-down ritual." Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, and Moira Maybin, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

John starts the questions about how to know if he is in the right career for him, and Susan wants suggestions for adjusting her mental model of herself since being diagnosed with ADHD and taking meds. Katherine wants to know what Moira's new podcast is about, so Moira shares her background, her ideas for the podcast, and why she created it.

Christina wants suggestions on dealing with significant stress and keeping her emotions out of it. Ella needs ideas on keeping her on track with her daily routines and how to keep from getting sidetracked. Another listener has a 10-year-old with ADHD and oppositional defiance. She needs some guidance on what to do since she hasn't been able to get anyone to see her child because of the pandemic.

The last question today is from Rock. He wants guidance on how an ADHD parent can emotionally navigate the very pronounced ADHD symptoms presenting itself in his youngest child? Do any of these questions resonate with you? Were they helpful? We do this every month, so join us here next month for another episode of ADHD reWired Q & A.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:

You'll learn:

  • [01:36] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb, Brendan Mahan, and Moira Maybin.
  • [02:22] John starts by asking a question about not fitting in and wondering if he is in the right career for him.
  • [03:54] Eric wants to know what challenges he has faced so far in his work experiences.
  • [05:47] John shares that he could play all day in the google playground if he didn't have any restrictions.
  • [09:11] Brendan gives his insights into John's questions.
  • [11:31] Moira asks John if changing teams is a bad thing in the software engineering industry.
  • [13:28] Eric suggests that there are a lot of assumptions in John's perspective.
  • [15:03] Susan wants to get suggestions for adjusting the mental model of herself since taking medicine for her ADHD.
  • [15:41] Eric believes the first step is acceptance.
  • [16:23] Will adds that it takes a long time for your brain to accept a new reality.
  • [17:20] Moira shares a couple of things she noticed when she started taking meds.
  • [19:45] Eric encourages her to leave breadcrumbs to lead her back to the project she is working on.
  • [20:37] Brendan believes that stopping when doing a project is a skill you have to train yourself in.
  • [23:08] Eric says that one strategy is to drink water, which is the brain's oil.
  • [25:12] Kathrine asks Moira what her podcast is about.
  • [25:48] It will be about trying differently instead of harder in creating an ADHD lifestyle.
  • [26:32] Moira shares her background and what she does now.
  • [27:55] Christina asks how to deal with a significant amount of stress while keeping her emotions intact.
  • [28:30] Eric has some questions about the dosage of medicine she is on.
  • [29:44] Eric believes that if he doesn't exercise every morning, he feels stress and can't keep his emotions checked.
  • [30:06] Brendan discusses asthma and how that can make him anxious.
  • [31:00] Moira agrees with Brendan and adds that coffee can add to anxiety too.
  • [32:08] Will says to stop doom scrolling because it raises your anxiety.
  • [40:11] Ella knows what she needs to do, but it never seems to happen.
  • [41:00] ADHD is the disorder of good intentions, and it's not odd to have trouble starting something that needs to be done.
  • [42:06] Eric wants to know what other stuff is going on in her mind when she doesn't do what she needs to do.
  • [42:48] Moira addresses her puttering and losing focus.
  • [45:11] Eric asks her what the first thing she sees when she gets out of bed each morning.
  • [47:11] Will shares his insight into cleaning up the night before.
  • [50:03] Brendan shares how dopamine is part of the problem.
  • [51:26] Eric talks about doing a dopamenu.
  • [52:49] Brendan shares where to get a 10-year-old treated for ADHD and oppositional defiance.
  • [55:13] Eric says to focus on the relationship with your child.
  • [57:59] Moira believes it's important to take care of the parent who also has ADHD.
  • [59:23] Rock wants to know how to guide an ADHD parent to emotionally navigate the very pronounced ADHD symptoms presenting itself in his youngest child?
  • [1:00:07] Brendan says to hang out with your kids more; some of the issues is your kid needing connection.
  • [1:03:12] Thank you for listening!
  • [1:03:59] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_348_October_2020_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

"All of those people trying to work hard to take these behaviors away when it's already a part of you makes you internalize it and feel more shame than necessary." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Abigail Dube talk about her waiting for a diagnosis because of COVID, the pain of hiding the challenges she's had, and not living up to her parents' expectations, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Abi is the owner of a small corporation and is also training for her first amateur fight. She has been boxing for almost two years and shares that she got into boxing because it called to her, and enjoys the challenge. Because of COVID, her event business has slowed to nothing, and she is hoping to branch out into content creation soon on a new podcast she and a friend are launching.

Listen, as Abi shares how it felt when she realized she probably had ADHD, how it explained so much about her childhood, and the challenges she had in school. Abi discusses the job she held after college and why she felt like she was going to be fired. Abi speaks about her event business, boxing, and why she wants to launch a podcast.

Once Abi started researching ADHD and recognized herself in everything she read, she wanted to cry and ask why no one took the time to figure this out when she was younger. School, college, and life would have made more sense if she knew why she was so different from everyone else. Does Abi's story resonate with you? Listen to find out more about Abi Dube'

You'll learn:

  • [02:01] Welcome to the show, Abi!
  • [04:04] Abi shares how long she has been boxing and why she got into it.
  • [06:20] Abi tells a story of when she was in first grade and was sent to the principal's office.
  • [09:20] She has fidgeted and had issues in school since elementary school.
  • [12:07] Abi shares some ways her father talked to her and reprimanded her about everything.
  • [13:45] "Masquerading as normal is exhausting."
  • [16:04] Abi discusses going to college in Canada, which is like a trade school in the U.S., and knew she needed something hands-on, so she chose Film/TV.
  • [22:46] Abi speaks about the job she got out of college, and feeling like her life wasn't where it needed to be.
  • [25:37] She constantly felt guilty because she didn't always function the way she should, so she quit her job and did contract work in event planning.
  • [27:23] Abi shares that she started feeling like she had ADHD during COVID while searching on google.
  • [29:20] How did you feel once you figured out that you probably had undiagnosed ADHD your entire life?
  • [30:59] Abi discusses how her mom reacted to the news.
  • [33:48] Abi asks, why wasn't I worthwhile enough or important enough for someone to recognize ADHD in her?
  • [35:01] Eric shares some things that can be helpful when you hear the itty bitty shitty committee tell you you suck.
  • [45:51] What does your brain feel like when you are in the boxing ring?
  • [48:47] Abi speaks about her fear of driving, and long it took to get her license.
  • [51:20] Abi discusses the podcast she is launching and what they will showcase on the show.
  • [54:40] Eric and Abi share that paperwork and laundry are things they are allergic to.
  • [57:05] "Don't feel ashamed and don't feel you have to fit into other people's expectations" are words that Abigail wants to leave the listeners with.
  • [58:06] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_347_Abi_Dub_Fighting_to_Focus.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Does your brain make things more difficult than they need to be? Listen to this mastermind episode with Eric, Natalie, Blake, Erika with Jessica in the hot seat. Jessica has difficulties juggling the important things in her life. She needs help with making a routine around exercise and meditation without being overly detailed about it, and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Jessica discusses her OCD and that she would like to be able to implement a routine without going overboard with details. She shares that she is using project management software, and it's helping as long as she has everything synced and can see what needs to get done, but she hasn’t been putting exercise and meditation on her calendar.

Eric shares ways that Jessica can exercise with her injured foot and have everything ready to take outside, so no distractions are pulling her away from exercising. Blake, Natalie, and Erika give their insights into ways to transition from the house to the pool and back to the house easier so that Jessica isn't pulled away to another task.

Routines are difficult to build, and they take time, but if you slowly begin doing the same thing every day, you will gradually build a routine one brick at a time. They also discuss Jessica's hypervigilance, how she notices when she is being sucked into it, and how to get out of it once she is in it.

If you can relate to what Jessica is going through, you don't want to miss this discussion.

You'll learn:

  • [02:31] Jessica shares what she needs the mastermind's support for today.
  • [04:28] She wants some way to implement a routine without being overly detailed about it.
  • [05:41] When you are getting into the OCD mode, do you see yourself getting sucked in?
  • [07:26] Jessica used project management software that allows her to see what needs to be done.
  • [09:07] She has an injury that doesn't allow her to exercise the way she wants to.
  • [12:00] Eric and Jessica discuss ways that she can exercise in her pool.
  • [14:54] Eric speaks to Jessica about making things easier by having everything ready, so there are no distractions when going to exercise.
  • [22:08] Put swimming on the calendar and making things as easy as possible is the first domino Jessica is trying to put into place.
  • [22:25] Taking a shower is the second domino.
  • [24:44] What are your hardest transitions?
  • [26:47] Natalie gives some suggestions about making the pool transition easier.
  • [29:07] Natalie speaks about making sure what she is carrying isn't too heavy.
  • [31:41] Blake gives his insights into Jessica writing down her routines.
  • [34:05] Erika discusses changing routines and how difficult they are for Jessica.
  • [36:48] Jessica gives the energy pull that keeps her from her routines a name.
  • [37:58] Routines are built like the bricks of a building, one brick at a time.
  • [41:55] How sensitive are you to your environment?
  • [42:50] Erika discusses how perfect Jessica is for her business.
  • [45:03] Jessica talks about her meditation room being upstairs now, instead of being downstairs like it usually is and why.
  • [48:00] Blake asks Jessica a question about putting down a sword.
  • [50:49] Erika shares her insights into what Jessica is talking about.
  • [53:58] Are you stuck in a state of hypervigilance?
  • [56:22] Eric wants to know how to make Jessica aware of her hypervigilance.
  • [59:14] Jessica talks about the feeling she gets before she gets into her zone of brilliance.
  • [1:02:01] How do you complicate simplicity?
  • [1:03:11] Jessica speaks about what she is taking away from this discussion.
  • [1:05:50] Thank you all for being on the show!
  • [1:06:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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What role does your schedule play in your effort to get things done? Listen to this mastermind episode with Eric, Jessica, Natalie, Blake, and Erika in the hot seat. Erika needs help with actually looking at and following the schedule she makes for herself on this episode of ADHD reWired.

 

Erika discusses taking the time to put everything on her schedule, but her resistance is to look at it. They talk about how the pandemic has eroded everyone's schedule and the difficulty they have had trying to get back on it. Blake speaks about how to balance event reminders on google calendars, and Jessica digs deeper into Erika's resistance to her schedule.

 

Eric shares how difficult it is to stop one task to move onto another task, Blake talks about chaotic situations, and Natalie speaks about Erika's goal for the year of becoming a functional adult. Doing multiple tasks is difficult, but doing one thing really well is something that people with ADHD excel at.

 

Eric believes that Erika should schedule her number one priority first because the later in the day you get, the less stuff on the calendar will get completed. Erika shares that she feels like her schedule is a punisher, not a partner and Jessica asks if she could look at her calendar as more of an assistant than a dictator.

 

Between Eric, Natalie, Jessica, and Blake, Erika feels like they have given her some great insights and will try to implement the things they have suggested. She doesn't know if she will ever be friends with her schedule, but she will try to let it assist her in her daily tasks. 

 

You'll learn:

  • [03:07] Erika shares what she needs the mastermind's support for today.
  • [04:27] Eric asks Erika to describe her relationship with schedules.
  • [05:38] When you schedule your day, how much stuff do you put on it?
  • [06:30] Eric shares his thoughts on what Erika is putting on her schedule.
  • [08:41] Jessica gives Erika her insights.
  • [11:50] Erika discusses how the pandemic eroded her routine.
  • [13:42] Eric wants to know what kinds of technology Erika has available where she is working.
  • [15:58] What are your default settings on your calendar for reminders?
  • [17:02] Blake speaks about how to balance event reminders on google calendar.
  • [24:50] Jessica talks about Erika's resistance to looking at her schedule.
  • [26:52] Eric discusses wrapping up the current task before starting a new one.
  • [29:59] Blake shares how hard it is to handle a chaotic situation.
  • [31:29] Natalie speaks about resentment.
  • [33:24] Natalie talks about Erika's goal for the year of becoming a functional adult.
  • [35:46] Eric believes we can do one thing really well, but when you add things, it all goes to hell.
  • [36:58] Schedule your number one priority first for the day.
  • [43:22] Erika feels like her schedule is a punisher, not a partner.
  • [45:00] Jessica wants to know if Erika can look at her schedule like an assistant instead of a dictator.
  • [49:32] Blake shares his insights into Erika's questions.
  • [52:38] Eric discusses what he does when he feels resistance to following his calendar.
  • [53:29] Jessica speaks about how she handles her calendar.
  • [55:11] Natalie shares how she punished and bullied herself around getting things done.
  • [58:27] Let your calendar be the reflection of the life you want.
  • [1:00:14] Erika shares her takeaway from today's mastermind.
  • [1:03:27] Thank you for listening!
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"Rather than looking at a job as just a paycheck, look at it in terms of the skills it's teaching you." Listen as Eric Tivers with his guest, Brendan Mahan, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Ben starts off the questions with one about strategies to keep the novelty of a new job from wearing off. Another question is about how to keep from losing motivation and productivity at work, and Ella has a question for Brendan about the wall of awful; she wants to know how to find the door. Another listener wants to know where to look for a career counselor for someone with ADHD, and Richard wants to know how to become good at being a morning person.

Listen as Eric and Brendan coach Bri on how to keep her new job when she has been fired from so many, Shalene has a question about knowing she has ADHD but not having been diagnosed, and the best way to find a provider. Zora would like to know how to motivate herself to exercise at home. To finish this episode, a listener asks some questions around her ADHD meds, raising her blood pressure, and what she can do about it.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:

You'll learn:

  • [01:57] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Brendan Mahan.
  • [02:49] Eric shares a crazy dream he had last night.
  • [03:48] Brendan interprets Eric's dream.
  • [05:22] Ben has a question about strategy when the novelty wears off of his new job.
  • [06:36] Eric addresses this question with some strategies he can use.
  • [08:16] Brendan says to connect with people who are doing what he is doing to have someone to talk to for motivation.
  • [11:18] The next question is about losing motivation and productivity at work.
  • [11:18] Brendan speaks about some things that have worked for him.
  • [12:47] Eric discusses how he deals with this issue.
  • [15:40] Brendan talks about how he plans his week.
  • [16:47] Ella has a question around the wall of awful; she wants to find the door out.
  • [17:27] Brendan describes the wall of awful and how to get past it.
  • [20:27] Ella walks through a scenario so that the guys can help her find the door.
  • [27:13] Are there many career counselors for people with ADHD?
  • [27:23] Eric refers them to his friend that is a career counselor and gives a shout out.
  • [28:25] Richards asks what good ways to want to become a morning person are.
  • [28:34] Brendan says to get a dog because then you are forced to get up.
  • [29:02] Eric gives his thoughts to Richard.
  • [31:24] Bri has a question about a new job and how to stop her fear of losing the job.
  • [33:06] Eric speaks about having 21 jobs before he was 21 and shares his insights.
  • [34:38] Bri shares that she was recently diagnosed with ADHD and had a visual disability.
  • [36:14] Brendan jumps in to help Bri like her job.
  • [37:59] "Rather than looking at a job as just a paycheck, look at it in terms of the skills it's teaching you."
  • [41:36] Eric shares about a book he has read recently.
  • [46:01] Eric tells Bri to have an open discussion with her boss about her inability to be on time.
  • [48:03] In ADHD and life, keep trying things.
  • [51:30] Shalene wants suggestions for people who know they have ADHD but have never been officially diagnosed.
  • [52:12] Brendan breaks the question down for Shalene.
  • [53:21] Eric speaks about how to find a provider to diagnose her ADHD.
  • [55:25] If ADHD is one of like ten specialties, they don't specialize in ADHD.
  • [55:34] Zora asks how to motivate herself, to work out at home and how boring it is to be stuck at home.
  • [55:51] Brendan says to buy a sandbag and explains why.
  • [56:44] Eric talks about joining the Peloton movement.
  • [58:30] Hunter asks for recent bio hacks/exercise routines/that you have been experimenting with?
  • [59:18] Brendan shares his Monkii Ball and what he uses it for.
  • [1:01:57] A listener is having issues with their ADHD meds that are increasing their blood pressure.
  • [1:02:44] Eric discusses some things the listener can do number one is talking to your doctor.
  • [1:03:22] What is a positive and healthy way to include our significant others in our short- and long-term planning when they have an aversion to planning?
  • [1:03:31] Brendan says to talk to them in advance and ask them what they want to be included in.
  • [1:04:45] Matthew has a habit of buying things off Amazon and has issues returning the items.
  • [1:05:10] Eric gives his tips for returning items.
  • [1:06:26] Brendan shares that he has trained himself to stop and wait until the next day and see if he still wants it.
  • [1:07:23] Thank you, Brendon, for being on the show!
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"Being in the Arts as an ADHD person, I need something that engages me; it is what makes me feel alive." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Sarah Gise discuss being an artist with ADHD, how she stays focused, and the stigma around ADHD in the creative profession plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Sarah is an actor, teacher, artist, director, and audiobook narrator who grew up in San Antonio, TX, but moved in 2013 to Chicago. She holds a BFA in acting from the University of Southern California and, in 2013, received the LA Weekly Best Actress Award for her performance in the Belle of Belfast. Sarah also has a podcast called The ADHD Artist.

Sarah discusses the inspiration behind starting the podcast, the focus she finds when performing, but how distracted she can get during rehearsals and auditions. Sarah believes that Mindfulness meditation saved her life and career, and she shares the time she went blank on stage during a performance.

Listen, as Sarah speaks about the theatre company she is a part of, the raw, relevant, and rare productions they do and the most memorable performance she had done with the company. Sarah also talks about how she keeps performances interesting and exciting when doing the same show repeatedly.

Sarah says that she is in mourning because of the theatres being shut down and what she has been doing to keep her creative juices flowing and her mental health healthy. Are you an artistic person? Listen and see if you can relate to the things that Sarah has gone through.

You'll learn:

  • [03:19] Welcome to the show, Sarah!
  • [04:17] Sarah shares what she remembers about growing up with ADHD.
  • [07:04] How did your family react when you were diagnosed with ADHD?
  • [07:55] Listen, as Sarah discusses performing in a performance group since she was about eight and her love of dancing and singing and art.
  • [09:57] Eric shares that the idea of going to school for music was something he didn't get to do.
  • [12:20] How hard is it to be in the arts as an ADHD person?
  • [15:15] Sarah speaks about the culture shock she had when she moved to Chicago and went to college.
  • [17:01] Sarah discusses how Adderall messed her up when she first started college.
  • [24:41] Listen as Sarah speaks about the stigma around ADHD in the creative profession.
  • [27:46] Sarah shares the inspiration behind starting the podcast.
  • [29:28] When Sarah is performing, she rarely loses focus because she is so immersed, but she gets distracted in auditions and rehearsals.
  • [31:19] Mindfulness meditation saved her life and career.
  • [33:37] Have you ever been performing on stage and blanked?
  • [38:04] Sarah describes the Interrobang Theatre Project that she is a part of.
  • [40:45] Sarah talks about the projects that Interrobang produces, which are always raw, relevant, and rare.
  • [42:04] What is the most moving or memorable performance that you have done with this company?
  • [43:45] Sarah shares how they keep it interesting and exciting when you do the same show over and over, sometimes twice a day.
  • [45:30] What are you and the theatre community doing during the pandemic closures?
  • [47:18] Eric and Sarah discuss what major key points that she would want in a show about The ADHD Artist.
  • [50:18] Sarah speaks about what she is doing during the shutdown to keep her creative juices flowing and her mental health healthy.
  • [52:49] Eric talks about recently discovering that he can draw; he didn't know he could do it.
  • [54:48] Sarah shares some final thoughts with the listeners.
  • [55:58] Thank you so much for being on the show!
  • [57:09] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Do you have trouble transitioning from work to being at home? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Adison Smith discuss how ADHD has impacted her life. Eric shares some coaching around balance, burnout, transitions, and accountability, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Adison has recently realized that she might be the living embodiment of the phrase 'jack of all trades, master of none' since she has had five jobs in the last five years, not including the job she has now as a greenhouse gardener for a nonprofit garden in Dallas, TX. She loves to garden, paint, ride horses, be outside, and spend time with her husband and three dogs.

Adison shares why she got bored with her previous jobs and why being a gardener keeps her engaged. Adison recognizes that she can't do life like everyone else, but after learning more about ADHD, she understands that she can live life her way. Adison discusses her issues with transitioning with Eric, and he shares some ideas on ways that helped him.

Listen, as Adison speaks about how her relationships with friends have suffered because she is so focused on her job; she doesn't want to stop to meet up with them as they planned and is always canceling on them. Eric suggests flipping the script and prioritizing friends and just making room for work.

The issues that Adison is having around these topics are issues that Eric says most people with ADHD face. If you ask yourself the same questions as Adison, this is an episode that you can't miss.

You'll learn:

  • [02:25] Welcome to the show, Adison!
  • [03:21] Adison shares her background and her ADHD diagnosis.
  • [06:02] Adison speaks about her roommates in college being upset with her because she wouldn't share her medication.
  • [08:00] She discusses some of her jobs she left because they bore her.
  • [11:14] Adison shares about a gardening program she really liked and why it holds her attention.
  • [12:55] Adison says that she can't do life like everyone else.
  • [14:50] She speaks about learning so much from the podcasts she has been listening to.
  • [21:21] Adison discusses where she has the most difficulties with transitioning and how it shows up.
  • [23:15] Eric shares how he handles transitioning from vacation to going back to work.
  • [26:39] If you were to reflect on what you've already done today, what would that look like?
  • [28:46] How much time do you think it would take you to do it?
  • [29:44] Adison explains why she doesn't take breaks when she is at work.
  • [32:32] Eric discusses time tracking, so Adison would know what time she needs to get started.
  • [34:02] Adison shares what she could do during her break times that she would enjoy.
  • [37:09] Eric believes that you need focus at work, but not hyper-focus.
  • [41:37] Adison talks about how her relationships have been affected by this new job.
  • [44:05] There is nobody on their deathbed that wished they would have worked more.
  • [46:24] Eric suggests flipping the script and prioritizing friends and just making room for work.
  • [48:22] Adison discusses her friends and talking to them about her ADHD.
  • [51:33] Eric speaks about having her friends make her accountable when she has plans with them.
  • [54:00] Adison shares about her relationship with her husband and her impulse buys.
  • [56:51] Eric suggests ways she could stop her impulse buys.
  • [59:24] How many reminders do you need? As many as it takes.
  • [1:00:17] Thank you for being on the show!
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"When I took the medication, I couldn't stop the momentum." On this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric welcomes Sharon Ruchman. Sharon is a composer, musician, and author; her music can be heard on classical radio stations worldwide. Today she is composing original music for Sonoro, a contemporary music performance.

Sharon speaks about her late in life ADHD diagnosis, the medicine they put her on, and the side effects that led her to stop taking it. Once she stopped taking the prescription, she says that her brain recalibrated, and she didn't need the medicine anymore. Eric shares that ADHD meds aren't studied in people over 55, so they don't know how older adult brains work.

Listen as Sharon shares a story about her great uncle Rudy, who died at a young age and who was also a musician, The journey she took to find out everything she could about him and how that journey led to her understanding her life a little better and letting go of the past so she could be very happy with her future.

Sharon is in her seventies, but she isn't stopping. She is learning a new instrument, writing new music and says that knowing why she couldn't concentrate and get the music in her head out when she was younger has made her ADHD diagnosis a godsend. This is an extraordinary conversation that you don't want to miss.

You'll learn:

  • [02:30] Welcome to the show, Sharon!
  • [02:52] Sharon shared when she was diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [04:35] She speaks about getting off her medicine because of side effects and how she believes her brain recalibrated.
  • [05:34] What were some symptoms you were experiencing?
  • [08:24] Eric shares that ADHD meds aren't studied in people over the age of 55.
  • [09:18] Sharon discusses how, as a child, she couldn't sit still very long to practice her music.
  • [12:36] Sharon describes the OCD tendencies she has had her entire life.
  • [13:58] Eric speaks about some work he's done around the role of complex PTSD in ADHD.
  • [19:05] Sharon shares a story about her great uncle Rudy, who died on a sightseeing plane at the Chicago World's Fair.
  • [21:29] She speaks about an unknown woman who sent her pictures of her uncles Viola that she later bought.
  • [23:44] Sharon speaks about getting a recording of her uncle performing.
  • [26:09] Eric talks about Sharon's clarity when it comes to what she wants to accomplish with her music.
  • [27:56] Eric shares that in college, he used to write a lot of music.
  • [29:49] Sharon discusses her piano teacher and visiting her years later and how nothing had changed.
  • [30:57] Why were you so driven to find out about your past and Rudy?
  • [32:46] Sharon shares how happy she is with her life right now.
  • [37:27] Sharon talks about some challenges she still has with ADHD and how she handles them.
  • [39:46] Listen as Sharon discusses the training she is taking to learn the Viola and how regimented she is during her practice time.
  • [42:06] Sharon describes how comfortable she is playing the Viola.
  • [43:22] How do you handle doing daily household chores and paying bills?
  • [44:12] Sharon talks about some other challenges she had when she was young, before her ADHD diagnosis.
  • [46:21] What is it like to be in your seventies?
  • [47:57] Eric believes that life is too short not to do what you want to do.
  • [49:07] It's never too late, pause, and each decision you make can change the direction your life is heading.
  • [50:32] Sharon's last words for the audience are follow your dreams!
  • [50:40] Thank you for being on the show!
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Has your world stopped amid the pandemic and social unrest?" Listen as your host, Eric, and the admin from season 19 of ADHD reWired coaching and accountability groups. They are discussing how they are getting through this year dealing with COVID and Black Lives Matter. Eric is here with his guests Tina, Carl, Marisol, and Kat.

Marisol starts the panel discussion off with how she has dealt with the pandemic as a teacher and not knowing when she will go back. Kat shares how her life has been the last few months, Tina says that she hasn't been watching the news, and that's made it easier to deal with, and Carl discusses trying to home school his son.

They each speak about how they have been doing emotionally and keeping themselves and their families safe from COVID. The panel also discusses how it has affected their parenting and how hard it has been to stay on a schedule. Tina shares how much her business has grown on eBay during the pandemic.

Listen as they all give their insights into Black Lives Matter; they share their stories and how their lives have been impacted by being different or being married to someone who has darker skin. Marisol believes that the key is to start a conversation because once you hear someone else's story, they stop being black, Hispanic, Asian, etc., and just become people. 

Eric finished the episode by saying register to vote and set up absentee voting because you don't want to be exposed to the virus if the cases start rising before election day. You can't make changes if you don't vote, and you don't have the right to complain about who is in the office if you don't vote, the choice is yours.

You'll learn:

  • [01:57] Welcome to the show, everyone!
  • [03:52] Marisol shares how her life has been these last few months with job uncertainty as a teacher.
  • [06:45] Kat speaks about how she is dealing with the pandemic.
  • [08:56] Kat discusses the group she created called accountabilibuddies.
  • [11:18] Tina shares that she has coped with 2020 by not watching the news.
  • [14:43] Carl says that he is doing well even with the crazy days trying to home school his son.
  • [17:18] He has learned to manage his expectations.
  • [24:42] Marisol discusses how she is doing emotionally.
  • [26:47] Marisol speaks about how bad it was to do homeschooling.
  • [28:48] She believes that COVID-19 will have to run its course like everything else.
  • [32:15] Kat shares that her kid plays soccer and helps her around the house.
  • [33:01] Kat speaks about the guilt she feels because she isn't having trouble with her son and how grateful she is that he is such a great kid.
  • [35:29] Carl discusses how he is coping with parenting during the pandemic.
  • [38:03] Carl says that the baby's schedule has kept him on track.
  • [42:45] Tina talks about her adult children and that she is doing good emotionally.
  • [44:16] Tina discusses how great her business is doing on eBay.
  • [45:23] What are the weirdest things that people are buying?
  • [46:50] Eric shares how he has been dealing with COVID itself.
  • [50:32] Carl speaks about how his family is safe during COVID.
  • [53:50] Marisol believes that nothing will get solved until everyone realizes people are individuals and have their own stories.
  • [56:19] She believes what it comes down to is people talking to each other, and you hear their story because then they are not black, Hispanic, Asian; they are people.
  • [58:13] Marisol speaks about being taught that we should all be color blind, but that isn't how it is today.
  • [1:00:01] Eric shares his guilt around not adding his voice to the BLM conversation because he didn't know how to address it.
  • [1:00:43] Carl discusses, his husband being Puerto Rican/Jamaican and his son asking about his dad being different.
  • [1:04:05] Tina speaks about places she wasn't allowed to go because she was white.
  • [1:05:09] Eric discusses where he grew up and being an upper-middle-class in an affluent neighborhood.
  • [1:06:20] He speaks about the topic of a paper he had to write during a semester of school.
  • [1:08:02] A common trait with ADHD is that you feel outraged by social injustice.
  • [1:09:18] Kat discusses her take on diversity.
  • [1:12:15] Kat speaks about people leaning into defensiveness, ambivalence, embarrassment, and discomfort.
  • [1:15:02] Marisol starts a conversation about vaccinations and what happens when we don't get them.
  • [1:17:59] Eric believes that we have to take care of ourselves and support each other.
  • [1:20:28] Eric says to register to vote and set up for absentee voting.
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Did you know that the ADHD brain doesn't have enough Dopamine to get the intrinsic reward from doing small things like washing dishes? Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Melissa starts us off with a question about keeping her house clean because, with nothing else to do during COVID, they cleaned things that haven't been cleaned in years. Another question is about resources to examine before she has her first ADHD testing. Daniel asks a question about how to build habits for things that have future payoffs.

Autumn wants to know how to limit or correct her eight-year-old daughter's action with scissors. Bri is struggling with impulsiveness and regulating her emotions. Deborah has a problem getting her twenty-year-old to take their medicine, and she is worried because he will be leaving home again soon. Ari is asking for some of their favorite autobiographies or memoirs written by people with ADHD. Erica is looking for ways to set a schedule now that she is unemployed and has trouble getting anything accomplished. 

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:

You'll learn:

  • [01:50] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [02:12] Melissa has a question about how to keep her house clean.
  • [02:58] Eric shares some things that help him keep things up.
  • [05:04] Brendan shares his thoughts on decluttering.
  • [08:00] Eric says that any task we do requires three things.
  • [12:20] A listener wants to know if there are any resources she can look at before her first test for ADHD next week.
  • [15:01] Brendan and Will give their insights into what she will experience during her testing.
  • [16:52] Will shares what he wishes he would have none when he was diagnosed.
  • [19:44] Daniel would like some support around getting through things that are future-directed.
  • [21:15] Brendan shares how ADHD works on the brain with Dopamine.
  • [24:25] Daniel says that using the payoff as a reward doesn't work for him.
  • [31:54] Autumn asks about how to take scissors away from her eight-year-old daughter.
  • [33:34] When a kid says I don't know why I did, it is a valid answer.
  • [35:40] Eric shares his thoughts on this.
  • [37:19] Could this be a sensory issue?
  • [39:48] Bri struggles with impulsiveness and regulating her emotions.
  • [42:50] Eric wants to find out more about her fear around medication.
  • [45:27] If your medication is correct, you will feel you are thinking clearly.
  • [48:15] Eric shares how long he has been on stimulant medicine.
  • [49:13] Brendan shares his ideas around this question.
  • [52:58] Deborah would like help with her child that refuses to take medicine and has depression.
  • [54:35] Eric says that she needs to take his side effects seriously and to quit pushing the meds on him.
  • [55:45] Brendan speaks about how he felt when he was twenty, and his mom was trying to decide for him.
  • [57:52] Will says that if you are going to force him to do one thing, make it either meds or coaching.
  • [59:48] Ari wants to know some of the best autobiographies or memoirs by individuals with ADHD?
  • [1:00:08] Eric, Brendan, and Will share some of their favorites.
  • [1:02:22] Erica was just released from a job and wants to know if they have any suggestions for setting up a daily routine.
  • [1:05:04] Eric suggests planning out what she wants to do for that day and being accountable to a friend to complete it.
  • [1:08:04] Brendan shares some ideas with Erica for setting goals.
  • [1:09:49] Will speaks about getting an alarm clock that makes you get out of bed to turn it off.
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Direct download: 339_August_2020_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Financial management is really emotional management. Welcome to this episode of ADHD reWired with your host Eric Tivers and his guest, Rick Webster. Rick is the CEO and Founder of Rena-Fi and has spent the last two decades deeply involved in the ADHD community, helping people with ADHD find solutions for their own challenges. Rick is on a mission to help people find their path to financial freedom.

Rick shares his ADHD journey, what prompted his diagnosis, his background in financing, and where the interest in financial matters came from. Rick believes that you need to stay in touch with your creditors when you can't pay, don't put your head in the sand and hope it will go away.

Listen, as Rick gives some tips and tricks to help you get control of your budget, don't be afraid of your accounts, check them every day, and some simple ways to track your spending, which is the first step in figuring out a budget. Rick also talks about some tools that can help you with tracking your expenses.

Rick speaks about paying back IRS taxes, putting money back for retirement, and how to know if you can afford a new car. He shares some insights on mortgages, the end-of-life conversation, and to hire a bookkeeper or someone else if you are struggling with keeping your accounts up to date.

Listen as Rick shares what his company is about and what they do to help people who are overwhelmed with their financials and need someone to dig them out of the abyss they have fallen into. This is a conversation you don't want to miss if any of this resonates with you.

You'll learn:

  • [02:17] Welcome to the show, Rick!
  • [02:49] Rick shares his journey with ADHD and how his life fell apart before his diagnosis.
  • [03:32] What is your background in financing?
  • [05:03] Rick shares where his interest in financing matters came from.
  • [07:20] Financial management is really emotional management.
  • [08:34] Rick discusses the need to stay in touch with your creditors and pull your head out of the sand.
  • [11:40] What do you recommend for people to get over the overwhelm of taking control of your budget.
  • [14:43] Eric says to touch the financial stuff every day.
  • [15:09] Rick speaks about people with ADHD being afraid of checking their accounts.
  • [16:50] What are some simple ways people can track their spending?
  • [19:14] Eric speaks about not knowing how much he has been paying his accountant because he wasn't paying attention.
  • [20:01] Rick shares some automated tools he recommends for helping keep track of stuff.
  • [22:36] Take half of your discretionary money and put it in your savings, year after year, and fifty percent of your raises.
  • [27:32] What do you recommend for people who haven't paid taxes for a few years?
  • [31:02] Reaching out to the IRS is less painful than emptying your checking account if you keep ignoring them.
  • [32:44] Rick speaks about how to know when you can afford a new car.
  • [38:21] How do you help people who have put nothing back for retirement?
  • [40:27] Don't save your extra money in your twenties, but in your thirties, save 50% of your raise, and you will do great at retirement.
  • [41:53] Rick discusses mortgages and whether you should pay more each month.
  • [44:59] Rick speaks about other ways to manage your debt.
  • [46:47] They talk about end-of-life care.
  • [48:22] You are your own best payer; paying your debts is better than investing elsewhere.
  • [50:53] If you struggle with math, hire a bookkeeper to help you.
  • [52:13] Rick talks about other professionals that can help keep you on track.
  • [55:04] How can you not pay someone to help you get your financial life straightened out?
  • [57:37] Rick speaks about his company and what they are about.
  • [59:01] Rick, thank you so much for being on the show!
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Direct download: ADHD_338_Money_Management_w_Rick_Webster_from_Rena-Fi.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Thank you for listening to this continuation of yesterday's episode with your host Eric, and his guests Jessica, Erica, and Blake, with Natalie in the hot seat, continuing the discussion on how to build a business. Natalie is an Occupational Therapist and is looking to start her own practice but needs help from the mastermind on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Listen as the mastermind continues to give Natalie suggestions and feedback on her idea of starting a virtual and in-home Occupational Therapy Practice. Blake speaks about a book on marketing that he recommends, and Jessica thinks that Natalie should write out her vision statement and put it on her wall for encouragement.

Eric suggests that she get a website, and Jessica offers to set it up for her while Erica adds her insights into building a website. Eric suggests doing some SEO research to determine better her domain name and Blake discusses the niche group that Natalie wants to work with.

Natalie wants to have a cash-only business, but Eric suggests looking into a membership type business model. He says that when working with your core values, the energy for what you do will never falter. To close out, Natalie shares what she will commit to after she gets off this call and her goal for the next seven days. 

You'll learn:

  • [02:28] Blake speaks about marketing and a book that Blake and Eric recommend.
  • [03:08] Jessica speaks about Natalie writing her vision statement out and putting it on the wall.
  • [04:57] Eric shares what he did to stay excited about starting his business.
  • [06:52] Eric tells her she has to have a website.
  • [07:39] Jessica says that she could do a website for Natalie.
  • [09:25] Erica shares her views on a website.
  • [11:42] Eric suggests doing SEO research and seeing what people are searching for when they look for an OT.
  • [13:24] Blake discusses the niche group that Natalie wants to work with and her idea of mixing in-home and virtual therapies.
  • [14:52] Jessica shares an idea she thought of around her YouTube channel.
  • [16:55] Start looking for conferences that you can speak at.
  • [17:56] Blake tells her to listen to a group he recommends.
  • [20:23] Eric talks about being a student of social media when he first started his business.
  • [26:46] Eric speaks about reading the book Profit First by Mike Michalowicz.
  • [29:12] Blake shares something else for her garage.
  • [31:24] Eric suggests building a membership community.
  • [33:28] When you are working in your core values, you have unstoppable energy.
  • [35:18] Listen as Natalie shares what she will commit to.
  • [37:56] Natalie speaks about her goals for the next seven days.
  • [39:38] Thank you for listening!
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Direct download: 337_Mastermind_Session_Part_2_-_Launching_my_Buisness_with_Natalie.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Could you use a mastermind group to help you start your business?" Listen as your host, Eric, and his guests Jessica, Erica, and Blake, with Natalie in the hot seat, discuss how to build a business. Natalie is an Occupational Therapist and is looking to start her own practice but needs help from the mastermind on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Natalie shares that she wants to open a cash practice that centers around invisible illnesses and work with the LGBT community as well as the Trans community. Her job is to fix people's environments, not people, and she feels that with the insurance regulations that she isn't allowed to help people the ways she wants to.

The mastermind discusses what part of control is important to Natalie, is she good at saying no if a client calls her on her day off, and Eric suggests she makes her company an LLC. They talk about having an accountant and an attorney to ensure she is financially safe and an attorney to be on her legal council. 

We have broken this episode into two parts, so if you notice an awkward ending, that's the reason. Because the content is so good, we didn't want to lose your attention by playing the entire hour and twenty-minute show. So stay tuned for Part 2, dropping into your feed tomorrow. 

You'll learn:

  • [02:35] Welcome to the show, everyone!
  • [03:18] Natalie kicks it off with her reason for being on the hot seat.
  • [05:33] Natalie is speaking about having a cash practice with no insurance billing.
  • [06:59] Her job is to fix people's environments, not people.
  • [08:43] Natalie shares how big an LGBT community that they have in Indianapolis.
  • [10:05] Blake speaks about how concise and put together Natalie's plans are.
  • [11:20] Blake wants to know what control is important to Natalie.
  • [13:21] Eric asks how good she is at saying no.
  • [15:29] Erica wants to know if anyone else is doing this business model that Natalie wants to do, and if she knows what she needs to make monthly.
  • [16:51] Jessica speaks about being let down by the healthcare system and proud of Natalie for wanting to build her practice.
  • [24:10] Eric discusses the first steps that Natalie needs to think about.
  • [26:03] Eric suggests that Natalie makes her company an LLC.
  • [27:30] Blake shares some thoughts he has on this.
  • [29:01] Natalie speaks about finding an accountant to handle the financial side of the business.
  • [34:33] Erica wants to know if Natalie has a place where she has been putting all her ideas.
  • [35:56] How developed is your audience on your YouTube channel?
  • [38:34] Natalie discusses what certificates that she can get that will allow her to charge more.
  • [41:13] Eric says that there are people who move things forward in healthcare, and there are people who don't want to change.
  • [43:30] Eric suggests that Natalie get an attorney as she starts this business.
  • [45:37] Thank you for listening to part 1. We will drop part 2 tomorrow.
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

"Is stress a big factor in your life? Listen as your host, Eric, and his guests Jessica, Natalie, Erica with Blake in the hot seat, discuss Blake's issue of getting himself going to start his day. He shares that it takes hours for him to function enough to start work, and he is looking for solutions so he can get more out of his day on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Blake summarizes the issues he is having with getting started in the mornings. Eric believes that Blake needs a sleep study, and Jessica shares some ideas that might help. Blake shares that he sometimes gets anxiety when he sleeps, and Erica shares some facts about adenosine and sleep pressure.

Natalie talks about how Blake's situation sounds like what she went through, and Eric shares that once he started eating protein shakes for breakfast and cut back the carbohydrates, he stopped having the same issues. Jessica speaks about a book that turned her life around called The Power of When.

They also discuss the fact that Blake plays video games for an hour to an hour and a half every morning. Eric shares that when you consume instead of generating output you don't get your brain activated, and he suggests walking first thing in the morning instead of the video games

Does any of this resonate with you? If it does, this is a mastermind episode that you don't want to miss. Eric, Jessica, Erica, and Natalie give Blake some expert advice, tips, and tricks to get his morning started so that the rest of the day can be as productive as he needs it to be.

You'll learn:

  • [01:17] Welcome to the show, everyone!
  • [03:14] Blake summarizes the issue he is bringing to the group.
  • [06:10] Blake shares what his average morning looks like.
  • [07:15] Eric asks some questions for clarification.
  • [10:01] Eric says the first thing Blake needs is a sleep study.
  • [10:40] Jessica asks Blake to expand on his bedtime routine.
  • [12:25] Jessica shares a few ideas she has that might help him.
  • [14:39] She discusses having hypoglycemia but thought it was a panic attack.
  • [16:23] Erica asks Blake some additional questions around anxiety.
  • [19:33] Erica speaks about adenosine and sleep pressure.
  • [26:15] Eric talks about sweating, exercising, and if Blake is getting his heart rate up to 150 or 160.
  • [28:26] Natalie discusses how Blake's situation sounds like the situation she was in a few years ago.
  • [31:49] Eric speaks about having the same issue as Blake, and as he stopped eating carbs, it stopped.
  • [34:49] Jessica shares a book called The Power of When and how it helped her.
  • [36:55] Erica asks some additional questions about Blake.
  • [38:01] How long do you play video games in the morning?
  • [38:48] Eric says that Blake is consuming instead of generating output.
  • [41:31] Blake shares why he was late to the smartphone party.
  • [47:13] Eric believes that Blake needs to have exercise be his morning routine and do it before his brain can talk him out of it.
  • [48:43] Jessica suggests that Blake move his video game system away from his couch and put his walking shoes on the couch to change the loop.
  • [51:40] They discuss Blake's fitness program for the Wei.
  • [54:19] Eric speaks about what he did during COVID to get his heart rate up.
  • [55:49] Blake, has this conversation helped you?
  • [59:21] Thank all of you for being on the show!
  • [1:00.10] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: ADHD_335_Mastermind_Session_-_Overcoming_Morning_Impotence_with_Blake.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

"Do you have a problem prioritizing" Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan, and Will Curb answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Daniel starts the questions with one around lack of motivation and follow through and how to tell if it's from ADHD or depression. Christina wants to know how to set a routine and follow through for over two weeks because that's when she stops, and Tony is struggling with behavior around emotional flooding.

Sheila asks for suggestions on how to turn the TV and computer off at night, and the consensus is to set the time on both to shut off at a given time, therefore taking the decision out of your hands. Victor wants to know what the chances are of being misdiagnosed with ADHD when it is actually complex PTSD. Eric shares that they are both disorders, and their symptoms are similar.

Pat wants to discuss being a new dad with ADHD and his need to stay busy. Stephanie is writing a book and is asking for ways to hold herself accountable so she can get more done each day, and Kendra is always distracted and overbooked and is looking for help to keep from saying yes to everyone who wants her help. Will shares that every time you say yes, you are saying no to something else, and Brendon tells her to have a not-to-do list.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:41] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:04] Daniel has a question about motivation and follow through and when to know if it's from depression or ADHD.
  • [05:03] Will gives his insight into this question.
  • [07:19] Christina asks a question about making new routines and being consistent with them.
  • [09:51] Eric speaks about ways to self regulate.
  • [13:18] Why do you recommend an external timer instead of an app timer?
  • [13:32] Will explains why this is recommended.
  • [15:21] Tony wants to know about tools to handle certain behaviors he has been struggling with.
  • [21:14] Brendon addresses this question with examples of how he handles it.
  • [22:53] Eric speaks about his issues with having hard conversations.
  • [25:20] If it's easier to write things down than talk to someone, write things down in advance.
  • [28:30] Eric speaks about talking to his therapist and sharing what's in his head.
  • [30:40] Sheila asks for suggestions on how to turn off the tv and computer at night.
  • [31:09] Eric discusses what has worked for him.
  • [34:40] Victor wants to know the chances of a person being misdiagnosed with ADHD when they have complex PTSD.
  • [36:17] Eric believes there is a very high correlation between the two.
  • [37:43] Brendan gives his insights into this issue.
  • [39:46] Pat has a question about tactics, inspirations, or war stories related to being a new dad that doesn't sit very well.
  • [44:55] Will explains what he thinks is going on with Pat.
  • [46:56] Brendan believes that it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks; you are doing it right.
  • [49:30] Eric believes that as parents, we judge ourselves too harshly.
  • [52:07] Stephanie asks how she can hold herself accountable when writing a book.
  • [52:44] Eric shares that when you have ADHD, you must ask someone else to hold you accountable.
  • [54:08] Will suggests that she set herself goals.
  • [57:30] Brendan says that accountability buddies do not work for him.
  • [59:25] Kendra's question is about being distracted all the time, and how to combat her lack of focus.
  • [1:01:06] Eric discusses Kendra's self-regulation and having too much on her plate.
  • [1:03:11] Brendan speaks about a not-to-do list.
  • [1:05:42] Will adds a few suggestions to the conversation.
  • [1:07:31] Every time you say yes, you are saying no to everything else.
  • [1:10:05] Thank you for all of your questions.
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

"You develop a codependent relationship with work or with the world as a person of color because you end up playing to how people see you." Welcome to this episode of ADHD reWired with your host Eric Tivers and his guest, Romanza McAllister, LCSW. Romanza is a psychotherapist, and in 2008 she graduated from Hunter College School of Social Work, where she majored in case management and group work. Over the last ten years, Romanza has provided focused solution group and family counseling with inpatient and outpatient settings.

Romanza shares her experience of being black and diagnosed with ADHD at ten years old, and she speaks about how it affected her school years and career. Romanza discusses working for herself and the relief she feels, knowing she doesn't have to wonder why she was hired.

Eric asks some questions he is uncomfortable with, trying to learn how to approach certain subjects. Romanza states that there is no such thing as color blindness and how it's our responsibility to create a safe space through empathic and reflective listening.

Romanza shares how validated she feels when people ask her questions about being a woman of color. She says that it makes her feel like people are listening and trying to understand how her life is different. Eric and Romanza also speak about RSD and what can trigger the reaction.

Is sensitivity training enough? No, and Romanza feels like everyone, regardless of color, can benefit from anti-racism training. She also speaks about what they can do from a policy standpoint around ADHD, children of color, and schools so that people of color don't have to be either black or ADHD; they can be who they are. This is a compelling conversation that everyone should hear.

You'll learn:

  • [03:18] Welcome to the show, Romanza!
  • [03:42] Romanza shares her experience of being diagnosed at 10 with ADHD and as a child of color.
  • [06:38] How did the family deal with your ADHD diagnosis?
  • [07:57] Romanza speaks about dealing with ADHD throughout her school years.
  • [11:37] Romanza discusses being a woman of color with ADHD and how that has affected her work history.
  • [14:17] Have you ever sat at your desk and wondered why you were hired?
  • [16:12] Romanza speaks about working for herself and how it makes her feel.
  • [19:38] Listen as Eric shares that Issues around social justice fire people up with ADHD.
  • [25:03] Eric talks about asking Romanza some hard questions. 
  • [26:16] Romanza shares that talking to progressive people can be difficult because they are sometimes fragile.
  • [26:52] There is no such thing as color blindness.
  • [28:00] Creating a safe space through empathic and reflective listening.
  • [29:51] Romanza shares a story about micro-invalidation.
  • [33:28] When you get asked a question like what does it feel like to be a black person, is there validation in that someone is asking the question?
  • [35:56] Romanza says to ask but ask permission to the client first.
  • [40:16] Eric defines RSD because it is becoming more talked about in the community.
  • [41:46] Romanza discusses RSD and how it can be triggered when trying to have white/black conversations.
  • [44:01] Romanza speaks about the things she has to consider before she reacts to a situation.
  • [47:21] Romanza says she likes the idea of this racial RSD feedback loop.
  • [48:02] Romanza speaks about the story of a young girl that didn't turn in her homework.
  • [48:50] Romanza believes that everyone can benefit from anti-racist training no matter what the color.
  • [50:34] Is sensitivity training enough?
  • [52:40] Romanza speaks about what needs to be done from a policy standpoint in the ADHD space to create more equity.
  • [54:10] Say the words, address the thing!
  • [55:10] Romanza believes that everyone should check their bias with the Project Implicit bias meter.
  • [56:38] Thank you for being on the show!
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Did people notice that you had ADHD before you did? Eric and his guest, Dr. Melissa Barlett, better known by her students as Dr. B, is an Associate Professor in Life Sciences at Mohawk Valley Community College in Utica, NY. Listen as they discuss helping students come back to college and adjusting to change dealing with online learning, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Listen, as Dr. Barlett shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and what caused her to seek a diagnosis. She also discusses some challenges she sees with online learning because of COVID-19 and how she has adapted her teaching style to help her students. 

Dr. Barlett speaks about what she believes fellow professors are struggling with when being thrown into this alternative method of teaching. She shares what she thinks will happen with fall classes and how she believes schools can keep students safe. Students with ADHD, in particular, have a different set of struggles with virtual learning, and Dr. Barlett shares some suggestions she has to help them cope.

Because the situation is fluid and information changes daily, Dr. Barlett speaks about how to prepare if you have to pivot mid-semester. She shares that community colleges are already set up for students with challenging schedules, so if you don't think you can go to school because you have to work, a community college might be the best bet for you.

Dr. Barlett shares some great tips and tricks for learning with ADHD, especially with the pandemic's distractions. She is willing to answer any questions you might have, so please find her information in the links at the bottom and be positive about the upcoming school year. 

You'll learn:

  • [03:18] Welcome to the show, Melissa!
  • [04:16] Melissa shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and how her intelligence allowed her to fly under the radar.
  • [05:32] What caused you to seek a diagnosis for ADHD?
  • [07:30] Melissa speaks about knowing something was wrong once she changed direction in her career and got more administrative tasks.
  • [10:03] Listen, as Melissa shares some challenges she sees with online learning since COVID-19.
  • [12:10] Melissa speaks about how she adapted.
  • [13:05] What would you suggest to fellow professors struggling with learning a whole new way of teaching?
  • [15:24] Melissa believes that nailing learning objectives to the life skills that they need instead of detailed skills takes learning in the right direction.
  • [21:14] Listen as Melissa describes what she thinks school will look like in the fall.
  • [22:46] Melissa discusses how she believes we can keep students safe.
  • [25:36] Melissa suggests what students with ADHD especially can do to be prepared for online learning.
  • [28:40] When taking notes, make sure you write them in your words. Read a paragraph or two and write a summary in your words.
  • [29:50] Eric shares some strategies he used when he was in college.
  • [31:57] Your brain wants it to be easy. Practice the actual process of recall.
  • [35:04] It takes an intelligent person to understand this concept, but it takes a genius to explain it to a kindergartner.
  • [36:54] What are some other challenges a student with ADHD might face when taking virtual classes?
  • [37:44] They speak about going on rate my professor and check out their teaching style.
  • [44:14] Melissa talks about handling going back to class and then if COVID-19 spikes again having to go back to social distancing.
  • [46:51] Melissa discusses students not having regular hours because of jobs or children in her community college.
  • [48:22] Melissa says that community college is already set up for people with challenging schedules.
  • [49:53] What are some reasonable steps students might be able to take to prepare students if they have to go back to virtual classes.
  • [52:16] Melissa shares some final tips for students.
  • [54:42] Thank you for being on the show!
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Have you tried to be normal and repress your ADHD instead of leaning into your weird? Listen as Eric and his guest, Andy J. Pizza, discuss leaning into neurodiversity, a creative approach to your career path, win because of your weird not in spite of it, and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Andy is an American illustrator, podcaster, and public speaker; his explosive color-drenched illustrations have brought hope and smiles to clients like The New York Times, YouTube, and Warby Parker. He is the founder of the Creative Pep Talk podcast, which does what it says on the tin and the author of the book Creative Pep Talk.

Andy shares his ADHD story, the start of his illustrating career, and the recession that almost took it all away. He talks about sending some work to Nickelodeon, the response he got, and the work it took to hone his craft and the jobs that built his freelance career. Andy also speaks about Color Me Blank; collaborative art shows that he took part in with giant markers that allowed everyone to color on blank paper.

If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain. Listen as Andy shares about knowing he could be a successful illustrator because he saw people just like himself doing it. Andy also speaks about how he finishes projects by making everything he has to do, something he wants to do. Andy is a very colorful character with an engaging tone that you won't want to miss.

You'll learn:

  • [02:04] Welcome to the show, Andy!
  • [04:57] Andy shares his ADHD story.
  • [06:13] Andy speaks about his mom and the fact that she was never around.
  • [09:48] He discovered illustration in high school and realized the path he wanted to take.
  • [12:22] Eric speaks about trying to refinance his house, and the challenge it is when you are self-employed.
  • [19:34] Andy shares his secret sauce and why he has a puppet sitting behind him.
  • [21:10] He speaks about going to college to find his style.
  • [22:30] Andy talks about his indie rock coloring book that kicked off his career.
  • [23:17] He shares the trials he had during the recession and getting a job.
  • [26:10] Andy discusses an opportunity to work with Nickelodeon.
  • [27:53] Andy says that his wife stood with him during the bad times and made it through.
  • [29:04] What ended up happening with the Nickelodeon gig?
  • [31:08] Andy speaks about a collaborative art show called Color Me Blank.
  • [34:32] Andy discusses doing more personal projects and being asked to take the Color Me Blank project on the road.
  • [35:15] He was asked to do more illustrations for Nickelodeon, which built his freelance career.
  • [36:53] If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain.
  • [39:08] Relationships, in general, are not about the other person; they are about how the other person reflects you.
  • [43:30] Andy speaks about aliens and what he thinks about neurodiverse people.
  • [46:08] The industrial revolution system was about maximizing the average so we can become interchangeable parts.
  • [49:32] Listen as Andy shares how he finishes his projects.
  • [51:10] Andy says that he went into his podcast, knowing that he needed to do it long enough to get good at it and long enough for people to hear it.
  • [53:08] Andy has encouragement for anyone starting a podcast.
  • [55:25] Andy shares his take-home message for the listeners.
  • [57:06] Thank you for being on the show!
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Do you have trouble transitioning from work to home? Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan, and Will Curb answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Ella starts off this Q&A episode with a question about how to avoid doing things that pop up when things have to be done. Listen as Karen has a question that we are all dealing with now, working from home versus being in the office and the pluses and minuses of both. Matt has a question about relationships and his inability to be patient when trying to make friends.

Audrey has two questions for the panel: writing more concise email responses and tips on ways to stop losing things. Blake asks a question for his wife. When they have children, how hard will the load be on her? The panel says that you can only speculate on the challenges that they will face until you have kids.

Nathan was recently diagnosed with ADHD and wants to know the first five things he should learn about ADHD, and the last question is on Zoom fatigue and what causes it. If you had a question that wasn't answered, please ask it in our Facebook community, and someone will share their insights, and we will catch you next month on our next Q&A episode.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:01] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:28] Ella has a question about avoiding things that pop-up instead of what I should do?
  • [05:55] Will speaks about discipline and how that is hard with ADHD.
  • [07:11] Brendan gives his insights on this issue.
  • [09:31] Karen has a question about the pluses and minuses about working from home or the office.
  • [10:55] Eric says that everyone's experience will be different and for Karen to ask her team which they prefer.
  • [12:09] Will speaks about how different it is to work from home when you have kids and how going to the office gives him a stop time.
  • [14:22] Brendan discusses the transition from the office to home.
  • [16:27] Even if you have phenomenal communication skills, you might not notice how stressed your team members are if you don't see them.
  • [17:31] Eric shares his experience when working with an assistant.
  • [19:31] Matt has a question about relationships.
  • [20:38] Eric says that relationships are one of the hardest domains in life.
  • [21:22] Brendan gives his insights on relationships and how he made his friend group an adult.
  • [24:30] Eric comments on how Brendan shares intimacy with his friends.
  • [26:47] Eric believes that making friends as an adult is a topic more people need to talk about.
  • [32:44] Audrey asks how I can write emails to be more concise.
  • [33:50] Eric speaks about some tools that can help you respond to emails.
  • [35:21] Brendan shares his thoughts on this question.
  • [37:20] Will discusses what has helped him answer emails.
  • [38:31] Audrey wants tips on how she can keep from losing things.
  • [40:28] Brendan shares what he has done since high school to keep from losing things.
  • [41:46] Will says he loses things a lot because he sets things down in weird places.
  • [44:09] Do you look for something even though you are convinced you will not find where it is?
  • [47:40] Blake wants to know what kind of load his wife will bear if they have kids.
  • [48:35] Once you have kids it is much easier to navigate the challenges
  • [50:11] Nothing can prepare you for having children is an accurate statement.
  • [52:07] Will suggests balancing the load of work between both of you.
  • [53:28] Brendan shares his insights.
  • [54:46] Eric says that deciding to have children is the hardest decision anyone has to make.
  • [56:32] They give Nathan recommendations on the five things he should learn first after his recent ADHD diagnosis.
  • [58:38] Will says that getting sleep is the most important thing you can do.
  • [58:52] Brendan says that forgiveness is critical to self-care and ADHD management.
  • [59:22] How do we complete things? Is the next question they share.
  • [1:00:19] Brendan says to define done and set a boundary around what done means.
  • [1:01:11] The panel discusses Zoom fatigue and what the cause could be.
  • [1:03:49] If you want deeper dives into your questions, join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for the Patreon coaching call.
  • [1:04:29] If you are not a Patreon, share your questions in our Facebook community.
  • [1:04:37] We appreciate you for listening to the show!
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Direct download: ADHD_330_June_2020_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? Listen as Eric and his guest, Dr. Jared DeFife Ph.D., discuss one of the messier complexes, twist yourself in knots aspects of ADHD, which are emotions in relationships, narcissism, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Jared is a clinical psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. He has a private practice that specializes in men's mental health and therapy for adults with ADHD. Dr. Jared is a former clinical fellow of Harvard Medical School and has been a media expert for Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Networker, The Huffington Post, BBC News, and many more.

Dr. Jared speaks about his learning disabilities and the social relationship issues he had in school. He talks about how his emotional life transformed once he was medicated. Dr. Jared also shares how hard it can be to live with a person with ADHD and narcissism. 

Dr. Jared discusses the common complaints he hears from partners in his practice, and the difference between ADHD self coping or management and narcissism. He speaks about what you can do to regulate emotions, and Eric talks about ways to run interference with them. Dr. Jared shares how cognitive elements can affect how you feel.

When your spouse talks to you, do you hear what they are saying? Dr. Jared talks about what a partner can say to be helpful, and maybe you can say, 'I heard you, and I am working to do better.' Dr. Jared shares some very enlightening information around dealing with relationships and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you and your partner, this episode could be a tool to keep you together.

You'll learn:

  • [02:08] Welcome to the show, Jared!
  • [03:18] Jared shares his ADHD story.
  • [05:04] When did you first realize you had ADHD?
  • [06:45] They discuss the apparent signs of ADHD that were missed through school.
  • [07:31] Eric and Jared speak about their learning disabilities.
  • [09:00] Jared speaks about his social relationships in school.
  • [11:44] Jared shares the journey into the psychology field.
  • [13:14] When Jared got medicated, his emotional life changed drastically.
  • [16:13] If you are worried that you are a narcissist, you are not a narcissist.
  • [21:06] Jared discusses how hard it is to live with a person with ADHD.
  • [23:40] Do you think we can develop conscientiousness through active practices?
  • [25:40] Jared shares the two most common complaints he hears in his practice.
  • [28:25] Jared speaks about the reasons partners talk about narcissism.
  • [31:34] What is ADHD coping and self-management, and what is pure narcissism?
  • [34:43] Do emotions sometimes take over, and you do not understand what to do with them?
  • [39:09] Jared discusses what we can do about regulating our emotions.
  • [41:02] Have you ever been in a self-imposed time out in your relationship?
  • [43:43] Eric shares what someone in his coaching group shared about putting a timer on their discussion.
  • [46:04] Eric talks about running mental interference with emotions.
  • [47:20] Jared speaks about how cognitive elements can affect how you feel.
  • [49:04] Jared talks about what a partner can say that can be helpful.
  • [52:46] Can you say, I hear you, and I am working to do better!
  • [54:13] Jared, thank you so much for being on the show!
  • [56:14] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Eric's guest Jeremy is a forty-six-year-old freshman at Marshall University. His path back to school and most of his life has been anything but typical. He got into a lot of trouble but was lucky enough to have people in his life that helped him from one extreme to another along the way. Listen, as Jeremy tells his story on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Jeremy shares the behavioral issues he had as a child but was still the kid that everyone liked in high school. He discusses getting married right out of high school to his pregnant girlfriend and quitting college to do the right thing. The relationship didn't last, and after trying to go back to school, he quit, and the challenges kept coming.

Listen, as Jeremy shares the poor choices he made along the way with relationships. He speaks about choosing homelessness, about losing his dad, and going to jail. Jeremy met a woman that wanted to help and got the process started in jail, and once he was released. He speaks about getting diagnosed with ADHD and medicated finally a few months ago, and he finally feels like he is on his intended journey.

Jeremy is on the path of improvement and is getting an engineering degree. His journey back to school was a long one, but now he has the tools to help him succeed. Do you resonate with Jeremy's story? If you do, this is an episode that you need to hear and share.

You'll learn:

  • [02:37] Welcome to the show, Jeremy!
  • [03:36] Jeremy shares what life was like when he was a kid.
  • [05:08] He speaks about his mom and the medication she was on while pregnant with him.
  • [05:56] What were you like in high school?
  • [08:26] Jeremy shares his life after high school and what happened in his life.
  • [11:18] He speaks about not going to school because he wanted to do the right thing for his child.
  • [15:33] Do you feel you tried to do the right thing, but when you tried to do that, everything got blown up?
  • [16:31] Jeremy discusses the incidents in his life once he dropped out of college.
  • [19:11] In 1996, he started drinking and getting into trouble while grieving for his mother.
  • [21:08] Jeremy speaks about his extended family's strength and knowing he was loved and felt safe.
  • [30:14] Jeremy discusses his hitchhiking days and the poor choices he made during that time.
  • [33:46] He shares about his spirituality and what led to where he is now.
  • [37:21] Jeremy speaks about a town that wanted him to get out.
  • [41:22] What led you to get diagnosed?
  • [44:05] Jeremy discusses his issues with the legal system, and people were telling him he was too smart to be where he was.
  • [47:00] He shares about being homeless as a choice and finding a person who took an interest in him.
  • [49:51] Jeremy speaks about having warrants but knowing his dad was dying and in hospice care.
  • [51:34] He did two years in jail, but he found help to get him on the right track.
  • [54:00] Jeremy shares about finally getting on medication for his ADHD, even though he had never been officially diagnosed.
  • [58:22] Jeremy talks about what gave him the initiative to go back to school at 48 years old.
  • [01:00:42] He speaks about asking for help and getting what he needed.
  • [01:02:08] Jeremy says that you have to face the man in the mirror at some point in time.
  • [01:04:14] Jeremy expresses how logical and practical he feels ADHD reWired is and how much he likes the show.
  • [01:05:11] Eric says that Jeremy shows that it's never too late to get on the path to improvement.
  • [01:06:46] Thank you for being on the show!
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Do you celebrate all of life's moments, good or bad, with food? Eric and his guest, Luz Jaramillo, discuss why this can lead to eating disorders, how you can break this habit, and achieve a healthy lifestyle and wellbeing plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired. 

Luz is the owner of Brain Body Coach, has a Master's in Social Work, is a certified life coach, Masters in Neuro-Linguistic programming, a certified brain health coach, and many more. Luz is also a best-selling author, motivational speaker, and has ADHD, dyslexia, and learning difficulties. She has suffered from an eating disorder most of her life, but after studies and research, she could heal and lose over 50lbs, improving her focus and health.

Listen, as Luz and Eric discuss how to switch your emotional thoughts, change thought patterns, and the importance of eating healthy food. Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not process carbs well, so most times, it is better to limit them and substitute protein for more energy.

Consistency is the Key! Luz speaks about food, not being your friend; it is fuel and needs to be treated that way. Eat to live; don't live to eat! Luz and Eric share some ways that you can get healthy snacks prepared and portioned out so you can grab a bag and go quickly and conveniently. Know that if you slip, it's ok to get back up and try to be better tomorrow.

Luz has been there, done that, she knows about eating disorders and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you, this is an episode that you can't miss. Listen to what she has to say. It may be the difference between life and death.

You'll learn:

  • [01:56] Welcome to the show, Luz!
  • [03:24] Luz shares when she learned she had ADHD.
  • [03:58] How did your eating disorder lead you to learn you had ADHD?
  • [05:12] Luz speaks about what form her eating disorder took.
  • [07:28] When did you decide you needed help with this disorder?
  • [10:10] Luz used neuro linguistic programming to switch her emotional thoughts from food to thoughts of pleasure.
  • [12: 23] When you change your thought patterns, your internal critic screams louder and calls you a fraud. This is normal, and it takes time.
  • [14:35] Luz was ready to have weight loss surgery before her sister got her to change her mind.
  • [16:29] Looking back, how do you feel about how desperate you were?
  • [21:11] Eric speaks about some regular issues around food and how he deals with the cravings.
  • [23:06] Set up your environment to be conducive to what you need.
  • [23:57] Luz shares how important it is to have nutritious food for at least three meals a day.
  • [26:01] Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not do a good job of breaking down carbs.
  • [28:08] Consistency is the key!
  • [31:04] Luz suggests to people that food is not your friend, food is fuel.
  • [32:03] How do you suggest that people stop when they know they are in the middle of a binge?
  • [34:04] Replace the food with something else.
  • [35:20] Eric shares that many people he knows are doing a sugar detox.
  • [37:00] How sensitive to sugar are you? Have you been tested?
  • [38:03] Luz says you should tell yourself it's just for today, focus on one day at a time.
  • [41:10] Meditation and mindfulness are the keys to success.
  • [46:42] Luz shares some tips on how to have healthy food ready to eat for snacks.
  • [49:55] Have you found any services or different resources to help people systemize eating nutritious foods?
  • [52:01] You have to have the correct mindset, it might be harder if you have ADHD, but it is still doable.
  • [52:46] Know that you will slip, and that's ok get yourself right back up.
  • [55:00] Willpower starts strong in the morning, and it's a slippery slope later in the day if you don't recharge your system with the right food.
  • [57:17] Thank you so much for being on the show!
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Brain Body Coach
@brainbodycoach
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Has taking medication for your ADHD changed your life? Eric and his guest, Marissa Marangoni, discuss what led her to look for a diagnosis for ADHD, her difficulties in college and grad school, and the challenges of working for herself on this episode of ADHD reWired. 

Marissa is a mom, a writer, and a former teacher. She runs Marangoni Write and Design, where she works as an instructional designer and technical writer. Marissa writes creatively and podcasts when she's not working or spending time with her son. She loves lists, popcorn, and baking, animals, sweating, and deep human connection.

Listen as Marissa shares her struggles through high school, college, and grad school without knowing she had ADHD. Her challenges with sensory processing, she shares that she cannot sleep with any noises that aren't even and steady. Marissa also has a powerful sense of smell, and her sense of touch keeps her from liking the feel of fleece on her skin.

Marissa discusses some things that have been very helpful in dealing with her ADHD, like medication and Eric's coaching groups. She shares that the medication she is on has a lot, and if they had diagnosed her earlier, she wouldn't have had to work so hard in school. Marissa talks about the podcast she started with a friend with ADHD called 'The Holey Happy Podcast.

Eric and Marissa have a great conversation about some of their struggles with ADHD. Listen to see if you can pick up any tips or tricks that will help you as you travel the same journey they have.

You'll learn:

  • [02:27] Welcome to the show, Marissa!
  • [02:45] Marissa shares what brought her to get her diagnosis with ADHD.
  • [04:06] When you watched videos on ADHD, were there things that you recognized in yourself?
  • [09:55] Marissa speaks about not being able to absorb what she was reading, which is crazy since she is a writer.
  • [10:25] Marissa shares how she got through literature classes.
  • [11:00] Do you love cliff notes? Did they help you understand what you were reading?
  • [14:02] She discusses how she memorized everything to get through high school, but it didn't work so well in college.
  • [16:41] Once she got her second master's degree, she became a literature teacher.
  • [24:48] Marissa discusses the challenges she has around sensory processing.
  • [25:15] She speaks about her issues with sleeping and why she needs a white noise machine. 
  • [28:33] Marissa says that distinct smells will wake her up.
  • [30:30] She describes the feel of fleece on her skin, but she loves a weighted blanket.
  • [33:19] Do you have any senses that aren't as intense?
  • [34:20] Eric and Marissa discuss their difficulties with their vision and wonder if their other senses are so keen to make up for their vision issues.
  • [37:20] Marissa chats about having eye surgeries when she was a kid.
  • [41:05] Marissa discusses her podcast called 'Holey Happy.'
  • [43:08] What are some things that have been the most helpful in managing your ADHD?
  • [45:11] Eric and Marissa talk about the medication she is on.
  • [46:56] Do generic drugs affect you differently than brand names?
  • [49:07] Marissa shares how joining one of Eric's coaching groups has helped.
  • [50:11] Marissa speaks about some things she took away from the coaching groups.
  • [53:08] The group helped Marissa with anxiousness.
  • [55:40] Thank you so much for coming on the show!
  • [57:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The Holey Happy Podcast

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Have a question for the brain trust?  Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests Brendan Mahan, Will Curb and MJ answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

We start the episode out with Erica asking what self-care means and when it is numbing instead of self-care. Eric shares that anything that restores health and wellbeing is self-care. Another listener asks about when something takes you off a task, what mental strategies he can use to resume the not so fun duties. Susan wants to know how to quell the agitation of waiting. Eric says to focus on the things you can control and influence, and boredom is the birthplace of creativity.

Tyler discusses a late in life ADHD diagnosis, and Cheryl wants to know some alternatives to medication for focus, attention, and alertness. Melissa would like to know how to make herself get out of her chair in the evening to take her pills and brush her teeth. Ella wants to know how to stop losing things like her keys and glasses all the time.

Steve makes the best chocolate, per Eric, and was in the middle of a significant expansion of his company Freespir when the coronavirus hit. He is having trouble dealing with the chaos of not knowing when he can resume, and it's hard on his mental health. The guys suggested that he make chocolate gift bags and take them to first responders and other people in his community to keep him busy and brighten their days.

Brendan shares that we are in the middle of a pandemic. It is ok to feel frustrated, lost, and tired. Everyone is feeling the same way and waiting to get back to our daily lives is increasing frustration. Practice your self-care, exercise, get plenty of rest, and try to stop stressing. We all need to remember that this too shall pass and try to learn something from it.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:00] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb, Brendan Mahan, and MJ.
  • [03:43] Erica asks, what does self-care mean?
  • [04:38] Eric says that things that restore health and wellbeing are self-care.
  • [05:33] Brendan shares his thoughts on self-care and what SHRED means.
  • [07:28] Are massages a luxury or self-care?
  • [09:17] Will speaks about self-care and the difference between numbing and self-care.
  • [12:03] Trang has a question about when something takes us off task what mental strategies can we use to disengage to resume not such fun duties.
  • [13:15] Eric says the first thing is to realize that you are off track and pause.
  • [14:25] Will shares some helpful tips to use to get back on track.
  • [15:55] Brendan speaks about what he does to stay on task.
  • [18:58] Susan asks how do you quell the agitation of waiting.
  • [19:47] Will says the anticipation of being bored is worse than waiting.
  • [20:59] Brendan speaks about how he plans for waiting.
  • [23:11] Focus on the things you can control and influence.
  • [24:16] Boredom is the birthplace of creativity.
  • [25:23] Tyler wants to know how people who received a diagnosis late in life pivot and move forward.
  • [32:08] Tyler speaks about the pain points he is having.
  • [34:45] What are the things that are getting in your way right now?
  • [36:38] Brendan shares what he did to figure out if he wanted to do ADHD Essentials.
  • [39:01] Eric discusses therapy and coaching for Tyler.
  • [40:44] Brendan shares a new, better sleep assessment tool.
  • [43:21] Cheryl asks what other treatments besides medication are suitable for focus, attention, alertness, and energy.
  • [43:58] Why are you looking for alternatives? 
  • [44:28] Eric says he is 100% pro trying medication.
  • [46:38] Exercise is one of the top things that you can do with ADHD.
  • [47:43] Brendan's SHRED model encompasses everything that you need.
  • [48:43] Melissa wants advice on self-activating in the evening instead of lounging.
  • [50:47] Eric says to have realistic expectations of what you can accomplish in the evenings.
  • [52:13] What can you prep, so it's easy for you to get things done?
  • [54:14] As an alternative, Brendan suggests having something far away from you go off, so you have to get up to stop it from happening.
  • [1:00:35] Steve shares that he is having trouble getting a new routine in this chaos and feeling tired all the time.
  • [1:02:50] Steve speaks about trying to manage during the pandemic and waiting for funds from the government.
  • [1:04:17] Are you able to produce your product?
  • [1:05:06] Eric is trying to come up with ideas on how Steve can move forward with everything in New Jersey being shut down from COVID-19.
  • [1:07:11] Brendan shares the trauma of this pandemic is bringing people down and making them tired and restless.
  • [1:09:30] Do you have something that you can do to help people?
  • [1:10:21] Steve is feeling recharged, thinking of how he can help first responders with his chocolate.
  • [1:12:42] Ella wants suggestions on how to stop misplacing objects like glasses.
  • [1:12:58] Brendan says he loses items because he doesn't realize he has put them down. Be mindful of where you put things.
  • [1:13:48] Eric says that Tile is the best invention for when you misplace something.
  • [1:17:15] Thank you, everyone, for listening!
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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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Do you have a problem with structure and clarity in your life? Listen, as Eric coaches his guest, Ruthie Lipschultz, on some of these same challenges. Ruthie is a musical performer and has studied voice her entire life, and now she is just trying to figure out life. She got her dream job straight out of college playing Pocahontas on a cruise ship, but her difficulty learning the material caused her not to get asked back.

Listen as Ruthie needing accountability with structure when she is practicing. She shares her love of performing her goal of being a lead on Broadway and her challenges with the expectations that being in a lead role will have. Ruthie speaks about having to move back in with her parents when she lost her job and the issues that have caused.

Ruthie discusses the fact that her parents' house has a lot of distractions; she describes what happens around her when she is trying to practice. Eric asks if there is another place that she could use outside of their home and if she is consistently practicing the same time each day. Ruthie discusses her mom's Codependency and what she can do to break that pull.

The heart of being a successful adult with ADHD is accepting that you can't wait until you feel like doing something as your cue to do it. Eric shares the definition of distraction and tells Ruthie to start small, see if what you are doing is working, if not reassess and pivot. The questions that Ruthie has in this coaching call will resonate with many of you. 

You'll learn:

  • [01:52] Welcome to the show, Ruth!
  • [02:39] Ruthie shares a little about her performing background and the challenges it brought her.
  • [04:54] What problems are you facing?
  • [07:01] Ruthie speaks about how she went about setting up routines to help her with structure and accountability.
  • [09:22] Has there been a time when practicing was more accessible for you? 
  • [10:00] Ruthie shares how much time she spends practicing and how she feels like her gut is resistant.
  • [12:53] She shares why she performs and what her goal in the industry is to have a leading role.
  • [14:39] Why is getting a prominent position on broadway so important?
  • [16:32] Ruthie discusses the expectation of a performer in a lead role.
  • [20:15] Eric says that looking at your environment in a context that you can be successful in is essential.
  • [21:00] Ruthie shares that in her home, she has a lot of distractions.
  • [22:40] Ruthie speaks about what is around her in her parents' house when she is trying to practice.
  • [27:49] Are there any places you have been able to practice outside of your parents' home?
  • [30:39] Eric suggests letting her guitar playing be good enough but let her voice carry her because she has been practicing voice her entire life.
  • [32:10] Codependency can hold people back; talking with a therapist can help with the situation.
  • [34:00] Ruthie asks what she needs to ask a therapist about this codependency issue.
  • [36:06] What options do you have for other places to practice?
  • [43:46] Is it possible for you to have a consistent time to practice every day?
  • [45:05] Ruthie speaks about how important exercise is for her, but she feels pulled in different directions.
  • [47:19] Eric shares the definition of a distraction.
  • [49:01] Having acceptance of the fact that you can't wait until you feel like doing something as your cue to do it is the heart of being a successful adult with ADHD.
  • [53:19] Start small and see what is working for you if it's not reevaluating and shifting focus could help.
  • [55:59] Have you ever focused on something that felt big like moving a grand piano when all you needed to do was go downstairs.
  • [58:55] What is one thing you want to commit to doing based on this conversation?
  • [1:01:12] Eric tells Ruthie to ask herself what could get in the way when she is planning her day.
  • [1:01:53] Ruth, thank you so much for being on the show today!
  • [1:03:35] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

"Feedback is the oxygen of growth." Listen, as Eric and his guest Peter Montoya discuss what he means by this and why feedback should always be done confidentially. Peter talks about leadership development, conquering challenges, and the real-life experiences that drive his insights and ideas.

 Peter Montoya is the best-selling author of “The Brand Called You” and his latest books, “Meetings Without Walls” & “Leadership Power”. He’s also a sought-after and highly motivational keynote speaker and leadership development strategist, specializing in developing high-performance teams. To find Peter, visit www.PeterMontoya.com or call (949) 334-7070.

Peter discusses what led to his ADHD diagnosis, how he tames his beast of a mind, and the barriers people have with self-reflection. Peter shares his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings and the three key steps to take to make them successful. Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today.

Do you have trouble staying on task? Listen as Peter shares how he keeps focused on what he needs to do. He speaks about how leaders need to steer meetings and pull them back when they go off task, how to ask people for feedback, and accepting feedback without feeling defensive. Defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us.

Peter is a triple threat, a gifted speaker, best-selling author, and successful entrepreneur. He has done so much in his life, and you won't want to miss him telling us some key things he has picked up along the way.

You'll learn:

  • [02:06] Welcome to the show, Peter!
  • [02:26] Peter shares what he means by feedback is the oxygen of growth.
  • [03:53] Peter says you should make sure your feedback is kind, honest, and specific.
  • [05:12] Eric shares that sometimes feedback is delivered in two ways.
  • [07:22] Peter speaks about how he was shamed in eighth grade.
  • [09:58] When did you find out you had ADHD?
  • [11:08] Peter discusses what it's like being an attendee at workshops.
  • [14:30] Does it make you mad to not be understood?
  • [15:52] Peter shares what he had to do to tame his beast of a mind.
  • [17:04] Peter speaks about the barriers people have with self-reflection.
  • [23:38] Peter shared his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings.
  • [25:26] What are the critical steps to having a successful meeting?
  • [27:23] Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today.
  • [29:16] Peter speaks about how he stays on task and follows through with what needs to be done.
  • [33:18] Peter shares suggestions on grabbing the key takeaway of a meeting in a more efficient way.
  • [34:37] What do you do to bring a meeting back on task?
  • [35:24] Peter speaks about how long and what he does to prepare for a meeting.
  • [36:53] How long do you think a meeting should last? Should meetings be fun?
  • [42:09] Peter shares how to ask people for feedback.
  • [43:57] Peter speaks about what you should do if you get defensive while getting feedback.
  • [46:17] Eric says that defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us.
  • [48:48] What is the most influential piece of feedback you have ever received?
  • [51:11] Peter speaks about how he keeps himself mindful when he tends to do something that isn't helpful in meetings.
  • [53:54] Peter shares how people can learn more about him and his company.
  • [54:36] Peter, thank you so much for sharing this time with us.
  • [55:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Boredom is the mother of creativity. Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Dr.Kirsten Milliken discuss the ways you can keep yourself and your kids busy during social distancing, having fun at the grocery store, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Dr. Milliken is a licensed clinical psychologist, an ADHD Coach, and the author of PLAYDHD: Permission to Play...A Prescription for Adults With ADHD. She works and plays in Portland, Maine, with her two kids and partner Perry. She has ADHD and often says three quarters kidding and half-serious if it's not fun, I'm probably not doing it. As a psychologist and Coach, Kirsten has focused on educating her clients on the value of play in all of its forums.

Listen as Eric and Kirsten discuss the new project she is doing called the World Without ADHD, why this project interested her, and the book she is writing with the same name. Kirsten speaks about feeling guilty about working and making money during this crisis when others are struggling and that she and her partner are rehabbing a classic RV to stay busy during the pandemic.

Eric and Kirsten share their favorite board game and arcade games, and Kristen speaks about wearing an inflatable pink unicorn costume when she goes to the grocery store as PPE and the response she gets. If you want to participate in the World Without ADHD project, please submit artwork, written word, or stories to www.worldwithoutadhd.com, and if they like it, we will showcase it in the book and online. Kirsten says to use your boredom to get creative and submit your entries before the July 1, 2020 deadline.

You'll learn:

  • [01:37] Welcome back to the show, Kirsten
  • [04:10] Kirsten shares a new project she launched called World Without ADHD.
  • [05:49] Would you like to imagine a world without ADHD?
  • [08:23] Do you think ADHD holds you back?
  • [11:33] Eric speaks about the virtual open mics on Zoom that he has been doing.
  • [13:42] Kirsten shares the reason they started this project.
  • [16:24] Kirsten chats about needing people to submit a piece of art or written words to compete to publish their work in the book they are writing.
  • [26:15] Kirsten shares that if you want to participate in the project, go to the website www.worldwithoutADHD.com
  • [29:21] What kind of writing do you do besides writing books?
  • [30:14] Kirsten speaks about rehabbing a classic RV.
  • [31:59] Kirsten shares how she has fun at the grocery store in her pink rainbow unicorn costume.
  • [34:51] She talks about her baby head garden that comes out in the spring.
  • [40:50] Kirsten chats about being in the pink uniform costume and the response she gets at the grocery store.
  • [42:31] The due date for submission for World Without ADHD book is July 1, 2020, but get it in as soon as possible.
  • [44:06] Kirsten, do you have a story you can share that you wrote?
  • [47:05] Kirsten says that she believes play is one of the real natural anecdotes to ADHD challenges.
  • [49:03] Eric discusses the board game Catch Phrase.
  • [ 49:55] Kirsten speaks about her favorite arcade game when she was young.
  • [51:00] Use your boredom to be creative!
  • [51:25] Thank you so much for being on the show!
  • [52:21] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Are you almost always uncertain of the expectations and on shifting sand? This is just one topic we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Andrea starts off the questions, wanting to know what the guys do to get started when there are things to get done. Kelvin has some questions about hair loss while taking Ritalin, and a listener wants to know if they should make a doctor's appointment for their child if they think they have symptoms of ADHD.

Listen, as Eric speaks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo, Sara wants to know how to take a break when she is hyper-focused, and a listener wants to know how to take a course while struggling with structure. There is also a question about the perfect app for ADHD life management, and MJ wants to know how the guys are handling food and nutrition for their children since they don't have to pack lunches.

A listener asks about how to build consistency, how to address the stress of not having enough work to do, and Cheryl has a question about people talking so fast that she is having issues understanding them. Remember, during this time, your children are not expected to progress in school, they are expected to maintain what they have already learned so make learning fun.

As usual, the answers are varied and entertaining, but with what is going in our world, being entertained is what we need. So listen to this episode of ADHD, it will put a smile on your face.

Your Resources:

You'll Learn:

  • [01:42] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:22] Brendan shares his positive perspective on Covid-19 and ADHD.
  • [05:48] What is it you can do to thrive during this pandemic?
  • [07:31] Will shares that he has less time now with the pandemic.
  • [10:04] Andrea wants to know if any of the guys have a mantra or saying that kicks them into action.
  • [11:03] Will shares what he says to find his first steps.
  • [12:08] Brendan gives us what makes him start in the morning.
  • [14:26] We can do hard things, but we don't have to do them in the hardest way possible.
  • [16:50] Kelvin wants to know if Ritalin has hair loss side effects and can a cardiologist tell if my heart is fit for Ritalin?
  • [17:48] They will do an EKG, and the cardiologist can discuss it with you from there.
  • [18:54] Should I make a Dr appointment for my child because I think he has ADHD?
  • [20:36] What are your thoughts on Sluggish Cognitive Tempo?
  • [21:55] Eric addresses this disorder and shares what they looked at during a study.
  • [24:14] Sara asks, how do you stop and take a break when hyper-focus takes hold?
  • [29:36] Will speaks about taking planned breaks, drinking lots of water so that it forces you to take breaks.
  • [30:15] Brendan says there is no rule that says you have to take a break.
  • [33:35] Eric says with all strategies experiment with what works for you.
  • [36:34] I want to use this time to take a course but I am struggling with structure, any thoughts?
  • [36:54] Brendan says to ask and see if anyone wants to take it with you, which will add structure.
  • [38:09] Do you have a favorite recommended fully integrated ADHD life management app?
  • [38:23] There is no perfect app, look for function over form.
  • [39:29] How do you determine what is the most important thing you need to do that day instead of bouncing around from task to task?
  • [39:39] Eric says he rolls a die sometimes, something is better than nothing.
  • [40:34] Think about what one thing you can do that will have the domino effect to make all the other tasks more manageable.
  • [42:04] MJ's question is, how is everyone navigating nutrition at home, with not needing to pack lunches.
  • [42:51] Eric talks about ordering food online and how frustrating that you can't always have what you want.
  • [43:42] Will talks about what his children asked him to give them for breakfast.
  • [45:00] Brendan goes to the store and is making more of an effort to make healthy lunches.
  • [54:24] How do I build consistency? 
  • [54:48] Erics speaks about consistency is a byproduct, not a goal!
  • [55:45] If you write things down, you won't have a blank page every day.
  • [56:28] Have a schedule posted to remain consistent.
  • [57:57] Please address the stress of not having enough work to do.
  • [58:26] Check in's work, and it's okay not to work 8 hours a day.
  • [59:03] Do what you can do if your boss is not being transparent about what they want you to do.
  • [1:00:31] Cheryl's issue is when people speak too fast and get upset with me when I ask them to repeat it.
  • [1:01:05] Eric addresses this and shares how difficult it can be.
  • [1:02:32] MJ, what are your thoughts on this?
  • [1:03:39] Do you have any advice for parents who are trying to come to terms with teaching children from home during this uncertainty?
  • [1:04:14] Your kids are not expected to progress during this time, maintain what they have already learned. Have fun!
  • [1:06:34] Brendan and Will do you have a goal about how you want to feel this time next month?
  • [1:08:25] Brendan's goal is to lead and to help as many people as he can while prioritizing his family over everyone else.
  • [1:09:18] Eric wants to be doing just a little much better than he is right now.
  • [1:09:42] Thank you, Brendan, Will, and MJ for being on this show!
  • [1:10:03] Always do your best and know that your best will be different every day.
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Have you ever done anything consistently for six years? Listen, as your host, Eric, and all 20+ guests share stories about their connection to ADHD reWired and how the show has helped them on their ADHD journey. Join us as we celebrate six years of podcasting on this special episode of ADHD reWired,  

Jessica shares what she has learned from Eric and how the show and being part of the ADHD community has helped her understand how her brain works. Adeola speaks about how he gained insight into his ADHD through the show and what he has accomplished in his life since he started listening to the podcast. Natalie talks about signing up for coaching with Eric after she heard her first episode, and Dr. Millican discusses what she is doing now.

Listen, as Sharon speaks about how she found Eric and the podcast, another Jessica tells her story, and Eric shares what ADHD reWired is all about. Jessica Stilwell speaks about the scholarship she helped create for coaching groups, and Andrea talks about being diagnosed when she was nine but not understanding it until she started listening to the podcast. Jessica McCabe plays a song on her Ukulele and sings the beautiful words that mean so much to her.

Gail discusses her diagnosis at age 58, and how she didn't have any information on it until she started listening to the show. MJ speaks about how she ended up in the community, and Daniel says he has no idea how he found Eric, but he is glad he did. These are just some of the stories from listeners who have been impacted by the ADHD reWired podcast, and they are all very grateful to Eric for shedding light on ADHD.

You'll learn:

  • [03:00] Hello, everyone!
  • [03:51] Jessica McCabe shares where she heard of the show and how much she has learned from Eric.
  • [06:19] Jessica thanks Eric for him helping her understand her brain.
  • [08:11] How has being a part of an ADHD community helped you on your journey?
  • [10:52] Adeola says he gained more insight into his ADHD and what he has accomplished since listening to the show.
  • [12:35] Did many people reach out to you after you were on the show?
  • [14:31] Natalie speaks about when she first started listening to the podcast and how she signed up for coaching right after she listened to the first episode.
  • [17:01] She shares when she heard Eric say thank you to her on episode 300.
  • [18:55] Adre chats about listening to the podcast for many years and how she met a bunch of people in Eric'sEric's mastermind.
  • [21:34] The mastermind group let her know that she was good enough.
  • [23:38] Hello Dr. Millican, how are you?
  • [24:30] Eric shares who Dr. Millican is and what she is excited about doing now.
  • [25:22] She is writing a book and is gathering words and artwork from people with ADHD. The website is www.worldwithoutadhd.com
  • [28:31] Sharon shares her story and how she found Eric and the podcast.
  • [30:14] Sharon is now advising a group of coaches to notice the difference between ADHD and willpower.
  • [39:00] Jessica says congratulations for six years and shares her story and diagnosis.
  • [40:37] She speaks about starting at episode 1 and working her way through to the most current one.
  • [42:46] Jessica joined a coaching group to be able to show up in her life.
  • [44:31] Getting together, having a growth mindset, and working on stuff together is what ADHD reWired is all about.
  • [46:04] Jessica Stilwell helped create a scholarship for the coaching group and has been listening to the podcast since the beginning and joined the accountability group.
  • [49:22] How is your inbox? Is it still a struggle?
  • [51:04] Andrea shares that she is very new to the group and was diagnosed with ADHD when she was nine.
  • [53:09] She feels like in the last couple of weeks listening to the podcast she has learned more about herself than ever before.
  • [54:52] Pat speaks about being in the most recent batch of the accountability group.
  • [56:56] Thank you, Eric, for all the work you have done.
  • [59:11] Jessica McCabe plays a song for us on her Ukelele that has a lot of meaning for her.
  • [1:07:26] Gail discusses being diagnosed at age 58, but she still felt like there was no information for her, it wasn't until she met an adult ADHD coach.
  • [1:10:31] She speaks about the fantastic support she has found in the community during this pandemic.
  • [1:13:10] MJ shares how she ended up in the community and how she stumbled upon the podcast.
  • [1:15:32] She loves being a part of such a like-minded group and she is a top-level Patreon.
  • [1:16:17] Daniel says he has no idea how he found the podcast. 
  • [1:17:30] He signed up for the coaching groups and noted that it helped so much and knowing that he wasn't alone.
  • [1:19:56] Emily wants to express her gratitude and share her story.
  • [1:20:39] She always considered herself chronically disorganized because she couldn't handle her email.
  • [1:21:49] ADHD reWired is the first podcast she ever listened to and then signed up for an accountability group.
  • [1:24:14] Mimota shares her story and what it felt like to connect with people.
  • [1:27:00] Barbara shares what it has been like for her to get to know this community.
  • [1:28:36] Thank you all for being here.
  • [1:29:22] ADHD is the best community to connect to online.
  • [1:30:00] We will do this again around year ten.
  • [1:31:41] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: ADHD_320_6_Years_of_podcasting_Listeners_Sharing_Stories.mp3
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Have you ever asked yourself, 'what's wrong with me?' Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Stacey Machelle discuss the challenges she faced in her career and personal life. Stacey talks about her diagnosis with ADD many years ago, and how her prayers and Ted Bundy led her to help.

Stacey is a journalist by training and profession turned actor and stand up comedian. She works as a warm-up comic on A Little Late With Lilly Singh, the late-night talk show on NBC, and she has about a dozen other side hustles. Stacey wanted to come on the show to talk about educating black women who are undiagnosed and untreated.

Listen as Stacey shares her story and how she was diagnosed with ADD over twenty years ago and prescribed Ritalin. Still, since she saw no difference, and decided she didn't have it and forgot about it. Years later, when she was watching a Ted Bundy documentary, she heard what people said about him and thought hmmm. 

Stacey discusses what happened when she disclosed her ADHD to her family and how it has gone a long way to healing the relationship she has with her mother. With her diagnosis, her mother and brother are looking at the possibility of also having ADHD, being very supportive, and learning all they can learn about ADHD.

Listen as Stacy shares, wanting to get the message of ADHD out to the African American community because they will usually suffer in silence, put their head down and not tell anyone. Her message is you don't have to be silent any longer, talk about your mental health, and get help. She is using her platform as a comedian to raise awareness and put a face to ADHD.

You'll learn:

  • [03:02] Stacey, glad you are here!
  • [03:12] Stacey shares her background and when she found that she was having challenges that others were not.
  • [05:59] Stacey speaks about a therapist asking her if she thought she may have ADD.
  • [08:55] Stacey shares that when she was working at the news stations she was fired and almost fired from many jobs.
  • [10:48] What did you tell yourself when you had so many challenges in your careers?
  • [12:58] Stacey talks about her therapist not knowing anything about ADHD.
  • [16:43] Stacey shares a story of how she prayed for tools and the way her prayer was answered.
  • [19:27] Stacey discusses Ted Bundy and how she googled her symptoms because she thought she might be a psychopath.
  • [26:30] What was the response when you shared your ADHD with your family?
  • [27:51] Stacey shares what happened when she disclosed her condition to a friend of many years.
  • [30:47] Eric shares one of his favorite quotes from Brené Brown.
  • [32:33] Stacey shares that her grandparents raised her.
  • [33:49] Stacey discusses what happened when she told her mother.
  • [37:23] Has your family been supportive of you and your diagnosis?
  • [41:30] Stacey speaks about getting information to African American women and showing them the face of ADHD.
  • [43:42] Stacey feels like nobody in the African American community will discuss mental health issues.
  • [46:02] Stacey shares that her grandparents' generation didn't talk about their problems, but she is sure her grandfather had ADHD.
  • [47:58] Stacey discusses going through a divorce and how her mother reacted when she set up a go fund me page.
  • [51:30] She chats about being unmedicated for the last few days because she ran out of her medication.
  • [53:04] Would you consider reaching out to your church to see if you could talk to the congregation about ADHD?
  • [53:18] Stacey speaks about starting a YouTube channel and using sketch comedy to address symptoms.
  • [54:55] What advice do you want to leave the listeners? 
  • [57:42] When you are doing something that is purpose-driven and for others and changing people's lives, you get taken care of. 
  • [59:10] Stacey, thank you so much for coming on and sharing your story!
  • [1:00:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

Are you finding it hard to be productive while working from home? Listen, as Eric and his guest Thanh discuss easy ideas and tips for working more productively from home. Thanh is the founder of Asian Efficiency, where he helps people become more productive at work and in life. He's also the co-host of the top productivity podcast The Productivity Show, on which Eric enjoyed being a guest not too long ago.

Listen as Thanh shares why he decided to, and his struggle to be productive in a different atmosphere. Having a home office is the number one thing he believes you need. It can be anywhere, but it needs to be a dedicated place for you to work. Thanh also tells us what three things he feels are most important to have for that office.

Do you set yourself a schedule while working from home? Listen, as Thanh discusses how important having a schedule is for productivity. He says to make your schedule is based on the time of day that you are most focused, whether that be the morning or afternoon. Eric and Thanh discuss the different calendar and to-do apps they like and what they recommend.

Listen as Thanh speaks about finding the triggers you used at the office to make you productive and implement them at home. Block websites that distract you and put your phone in a different room or drawer so you can stay focused on the job at hand. Thanh says to set one goal a day and follow through on that but also get yourself into a routine.

With so many people working from home, these tips and tricks that Thanh is sharing will keep us all productive even when we don't have the office structure to fall back on. If you are struggling with your work from home routine, this is an episode that you need to hear.

You'll learn:

  • [02:00] Thanh, welcome to the podcast!
  • [03:25] Thanh shares a little about his background and how hard his commute to work was.
  • [06:00] Thanh talks about why he needed to work from home and how his boss responded to his request.
  • [08:45] Thanh discusses the three things people need to work productively from home.
  • [11:09] How do you guide people to get their homes set up?
  • [12:26] Thanh says you need a lovely backdrop behind you when working from home.
  • [14:26] Don't use a wrinkled bed sheet; it looks very unprofessional.
  • [15:19] A desk lamp is another thing that Thanh thinks is very essential.
  • [17:26] Thanh says that a standing desk is also a great addition to your home office.
  • [22:02] Eric believes that having the things you want and need easily accessible is beneficial.
  • [28:05] Thanh discusses how important it is to have a schedule when working from home.
  • [29:59] Create your plan for when you are the most focused.
  • [31:51] Using a calendar when you have ADHD it is almost like learning a foreign language. Experiment and find what works for you.
  • [33:54] Do you have trouble sticking to what you put on your calendar?
  • [35:47] Thanh believes that having a schedule allows you to coordinate some time with other people.
  • [37:07] Thanh shares what he believes are the best calendar apps.
  • [40:01] Eric speaks about the apps he likes and uses.
  • [44:01] Eric shares what he teaches in his coaching groups around to-do lists.
  • [49:04] Thanh discusses how to be productive and execute now that you have your office and schedule set up.
  • [50:12] You need to be aware of the differences between working from home and going to the office like the dress code and the extra time you have because you don't have to drive.
  • [51:51] He says to think about the triggers you have at the office that make you productive and recreate that at home.
  • [53:01] Eric says to experiment with what works for you. He feels that he is more productive when he dresses casually.
  • [55:12] Thanh believes that blocking websites that distract you is essential.
  • [56:16] The number one distraction is your phone, so try putting it away in another room or a drawer.
  • [58:24] Thanh speaks about setting one goal for yourself a day so you can get work done.
  • [59:34] Eric says to make your one goal ridiculously simple if you have ADHD.
  • [1:00:12] The last thing that Thanh suggests is to get yourself into a routine.
  • [1:02:27] Thanh, do you have any final thoughts for the listeners?
  • [1:04:51] Thank you so much for being on the show!
  • [1:06:02] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Asian Efficiency

The Productivity Show Podcast

Direct download: ADHD_318_Working_From_Home_with_Thanh_Pham.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Do you have an issue getting out of the house early that you are not late? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Mary has the first question today about how to get out of the house early enough to be on time because she is always late, Karen needs some advice on how to get her fourteen-year-old daughter to speed things up, and Gail wants to know if she has ADHD or if her challenges could stem from being OCD. Listen as Eric, Brenan, and Will give their insight and advice to each of these listeners.

Ella would like to know how to close loops and finish projects, Alison is always late and is looking for ways to leave the house without having to finish something and Blake asks about how he can figure out if he is getting close to burnout at his job. Listen to what the panel tells these listeners and see if there is something that you can learn from the answers they give.

The monthly Q&A is for you the listeners; it's an easy way to get answers to questions you don't want to ask anyone else. Eric, Brendan, and Will usually have had experience or have heard any question you can ask, so you can be sure that they will always give you their perspective and insight. 

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You'll Learn:

  • [01:20] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [02:07] Mary is asking what she can do to keep from being late to everything.
  • [03:58] Will shares how he was able to get into the habit of being on time.
  • [04:52] Eric speaks about the impulse to do just one more thing.
  • [07:24] Do you pay attention to how long you take to get out of the house?
  • [10:16] Eric believes you should make predictions and then track time.
  • [11:09] Karen's question is about her daughter with ADHD, who is slow in all aspects of life and is asking for advice.
  • [12:52] Brendan says to make things easier as much as possible, using music to set the pace.
  • [14:29] They all believe that it's ok not to give your all in all things, sometimes it's ok to be good enough.
  • [17:18] Redefine your best because it can change daily.
  • [19:01] Gail asks how do I know if my challenges are ADHD or could I be OCD?
  • [20:56] Executive functioning is any goal-oriented behavior that is sent out to the world with a feedback loop that comes back to ourselves.
  • [23:09] Eric speaks about rewiring the brain by increasing anxiety and then alleviating it, and your mind will be happy that it has helped you out.
  • [24:46] Brendan chats about one area that ADHD and OCD can hang out together.
  • [27:11] How much is your OCD affecting other people?
  • [27:50] Gail shares some specific things she wants advice about.
  • [30:33] Eric believes that Gail should practice leaving her house the way she should so that her brain knows what that means.
  • [33:27] Is it possible to layout your day and put the value you place on each item?
  • [39:11] Ella has a question about closing loops and unfinished projects.
  • [41:07] Eric shares his ideas to help Ella get things done.
  • [43:47] Shrink the scope; you can organize a shelf by taking out just one object; you don't need to clear the whole rack.
  • [45:44] They share the difference between a maximizer versus a satisfier.
  • [48:03] Brendan says that you are allowed to have things in more than one place.
  • [49:33] Alison shares that she is always late and would like to know what she should do.
  • [53:35] Blake wants to know what he can do during his workday to find out the pace he is working at.
  • [53:51] Will gives his insight into this question with examples.
  • [55:18] What have you done to prevent burnout before it's too late?
  • [58:12] Eric says to take your vacations, and figure out if there is a time of year you feel burned out.
  • [59:16] Brendan speaks about planning a break when you want to take one, so he doesn't just go on Facebook.
  • [1:03:02] Check out Brendan and Will's podcasts and coaching groups.
  • [1:04:04] Thank you, everyone, for listening.
  • [1:04:52] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: 317_March_2020_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Hey there, ADHD reWired listeners, this is not a typical episode. This is a bonus episode that I am dropping in your feed. It is audio from a webinar with Dr. Diana Hager that we recorded on April 1, 2020. Diana is a medical doctor and a member of the ADHD reWired community, and I am just really grateful that she could spend an hour with us answering questions from a lot of you.

Diana answered questions from the ADHD community on a variety of things like, how to keep yourself safe if you have asthma if you have kept yourself at home for two weeks can you be reasonably sure you don't have the virus and her thoughts on working from home. She also addressed how to keep people six feet away from you when they don't understand the meaning of social distancing and where to find your states updated information on the number of infected people and deaths from the coronavirus.

They discuss throwing away the bags you bring your groceries home in, taking off your shoes when you walk in the door, and washing down your fruits and vegetables. Diana believes that you can use soap instead of disinfectants and that if you rinse with hot salty water, you can reduce your risk by forty to fifty percent. 

Diana also debunks some myths around the virus and believes that it will not go away; we are all going to become immune to it. The virus doesn't seem to mutate as fast as the flu virus, so she believes that it will take about two years for a new strain to hit, and by then we should have a decent vaccination. 

Diana shares that dealing with this virus while also having ADHD has enhanced all of her symptoms and made everything more intense. Have you noticed the same thing? Do you have any questions? This is the episode you need to listen to, so sit back and hit play.

You'll learn:

  • [03:14] Enjoy this special bonus episode with Dr. Diana Hager.
  • [03:20] Diana starts out by giving us a little of her background and qualifications.
  • [03:55] How has COVID19 impacted your work?
  • [04:40] Diana answers Tara's question about how to keep safe when you have asthma.
  • [07:11] Can we be reasonably confident that we don't have the virus if we have been quarantined for over two weeks?
  • [09:22] Diana believes that if you work from home, you don't have to worry about touching your face at your desk.
  • [10:58] How do you suggest we keep people six feet away from us when they don't seem to understand why.
  • [13:31] Diana shares the world map that is updated with total infected and total deaths.
  • [16:00] Check your state's health department for the most accurate totals.
  • [18:00] Eric speaks about how he handled the sack he got his prescriptions in.
  • [19:07] How can my partner, who is installing air conditioning units, protect himself when he goes to people's homes?
  • [21:40] Diana doesn't think regular cloth masks are effective when working in the medical field.
  • [24:35] Diana believes that sleep is very important, sleep when you can get your full amount of sleep will help your immune system the most.
  • [26:01] Covering your hair and rinsing off your groceries are things that you should do when bringing your groceries home.
  • [28:03] How can we keep ourselves from being bored to death?
  • [30:05] Diana says that when our percent per day comes down below ten percent, the curve is flattening.
  • [33:59] Can I use soap instead of disinfectants?
  • [34:49] Diana shares that gargling with hot salty water can help forty to fifty percent.
  • [36:51] How can you tell looking at a death rate of say 10% whether that is due to insufficient testing or the overwhelmed medical system?
  • [38:18] Diana speaks that it could be another month before they do widespread testing.
  • [41:06] What should someone do if they have an urgent medical need and they live in a hot spot?
  • [44:16] Diana addresses a question about being exposed from walking on our dog's paws or the road.
  • [45:37] Diana says that the virus is nothing more than a strand of genes inside of a protein capsule.
  • [47:18] How do we handle mail and Amazon deliveries?
  • [48:10] As a doctor with ADHD, how is ADHD showing up for you with all of this? Has it become more intense?
  • [49:49] Diana debunks some myths around the virus.
  • [51:12] Are we going to have to deal with this in the fall?
  • [52:56] Are babies safe? Are children? Expectant mothers?
  • [55:05] Is there anything else you want to share with the listeners?
  • [55:29] Thank you so much for coming on the show and answering questions.
Direct download: ADHD_BONUS_COVID19_Questions_answered_by_Diana_Hagar.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Do you know anyone who has been diagnosed with both Autism and ADHD? Listen, as Eric and his guest Becca discuss her diagnosis, how ADHD shows up differently in women, why she is interested in studying conscientiousness in this realm and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Becca is earning her master's degree in Industrial-Organizational Psychology and hopes to use her knowledge in individual differences, such as ADHD in personality and training in Industrial-Organizational Psychology, to help organizations create inclusive work environments for employees. 

Becca challenges the statement that people with Autism and ADHD are not high in conscientiousness. She shares her understanding of Autism and how it shows up for her, and how she has been told that she can't be on the spectrum because she is so smart. Eric discusses the difference between Autism and Aspergers and the arguments around both.

Listen, as Becca speaks about how gender and conscientiousness change the manifestation of ADHD, withdrawing from people because of her daily struggles and what led her to seek a diagnosis for ADHD. She shares her sensory challenges, and the never-ending battle to be on time.

Did you know that social communication is an executive social function? Eric and Becca discuss the fact that women are socially wired to mirror their environment and how she works through social interaction. Eric asks a hypothetical question about a red pill and a blue pill if one of them would cure ADHD. Would you take it?

Becca shares her struggles with Autism and ADHD; some of them are embarrassing, while others are frustrating. Her goal is to help others by telling her story and let people who have the same issues know they are not alone. This is one of those conversations that will make you look at yourself and say, hmmm.

You'll learn:

  • [02:32] Becca, welcome to the podcast!
  • [03:01] Becca shares her diagnoses of Autism and ADHD.
  • [06:46] She challenges the statement that people with Autism are not high in conscientiousness.
  • [09:03] Eric shares the definition of conscientiousness.
  • [10:03] Becca questions whether people with ADHD are low in conscientiousness.
  • [12:00] Have you been told you can't be on the spectrum because you are so smart?
  • [13:14] Eric says that it is essential to understand that we are all different in the way we show up.
  • [13:37] What got you interested in studying consciousness in this realm?
  • [15:34] Becca shares her understanding of Autism and how it shows up for her.
  • [18:02] Becca speaks about having a case manager come to talk to her and her mom and ask if she could use a spoon and fork.
  • [19:45] Eric chats about the difference between Autism and Aspergers and the argument around both.
  • [26:02] Becca speaks about how gender and conscientiousness change the manifestation of ADHD.
  • [28:44] Have you felt shame or guilt because you forgot to go to the store or didn't have dinner?
  • [30:18] Becca speaks about withdrawing from others because she struggles to manage her everyday life.
  • [32:00] Becca shares a story about what led to her diagnosis of ADHD.
  • [33:03] Becca chats about the struggle to be on time when she goes somewhere.
  • [34:37] What is the hardest part for you of having ADHD?
  • [36:34] Becca speaks about having sensory challenges and what it is like for her.
  • [38:38] Did you know that social communication is an executive social function?
  • [40:20] Eric speaks about some studies that show women are more socially wired to mirror their environment.
  • [47:32] Becca shares how she works through social interaction in her brain.
  • [49:30] Do you show empathy differently from people around you?
  • [51:18] Becca speaks about smiling and laughing at funerals when everyone else is crying. Not because she is happy, but because she can't control it.
  • [53:32] Eric chats about teaching micro-expressions and training.
  • [56:02] Are you different but not less? Do you know your strengths and challenges?
  • [58:16] Eric speaks about the hypothetical question about if you could take a pill to make your ADHD go away would you take it?
  • [1:00:52] Is there anything you want to say to the listeners?
  • [1:01:03] Becca, thank you so much for sharing your story!
  • [1:01:18] If you are wondering if you have Autism or ADHD, find a specialist.
  • [1:02:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: 316_Autism_ADHD_Gender__Conscientiosness_Becca_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

What is it about the word suicide that makes you want to whisper? Is it a feeling of shame, guilt, or isolation? Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Dr. Lindsay Weisner discuss the stigma around the word suicide and how important it is for people to have the conversation. They also share that talking to someone about your feelings lets you know that you are not alone, and it might help you find happiness in your life, and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired

 Lindsay is a clinical psychologist in Long Island, NY, and graduated from Georgetown University. She was awarded fellowships in child development at the National Institute of Health and the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. Lindsay also received her doctorate at CW Post LIU and pursued postdoctoral training at the American Institute of Psychoanalysis. Dr. Weisner is the current host of the Neurotic Nourishment Podcast and the Co-Author of the book Ten Steps to Finding Happy.

Listen, as Lindsay describes being diagnosed with ADHD at forty-two, her son being diagnosed, and the impact that the prescribed medicines have had on them both. Lindsay also speaks about the book she co-authored and her mom's substance abuse and mental health issues. She shares about her mom's multiple suicide attempts, what that did to her family, and why she believes that helping individuals who are thinking about suicide is her calling.

Talking about mental health issues and suicide isn't easy, but if you push the trepidation aside and open up the conversation, you might be surprised at what you can accomplish. Dr. Lindsay Weisner's passion is to help bring light to people who only see darkness. If you resonate with any of this, please listen to this episode and start the conversation.

You'll learn:

  • [02:38] Lindsay, welcome to the show!
  • [05:10] Lindsay shares about being diagnosed with ADHD eight months ago after she was told she wasn't living up to her full potential as a child.
  • [07:16] She speaks about her son being diagnosed with ADHD and depression. 
  • [10:11] Lindsay shares how getting him on meds changed him completely.
  • [11:11] She chats about being diagnosed with ADHD and what that meant for her.
  • [14:00] They discuss her being a psychologist, not a psychiatrist.
  • [18:44] Lindsay discusses her book and why she wrote it.
  • [19:49] Eric warns that they will be talking about suicide.
  • [21:16] Lindsay talks about winning the first-ever Cosmopolitan Fiction in 2014 and meeting the author she wrote the book with.
  • [25:24] Lindsay speaks about a slew of teenagers in her small town killing themselves. 
  • [28:04] She talks about growing up knowing her mom had some substance abuse issues and finding out her mom had attempted suicide.
  • [30:03] Lindsay chats about being in graduate school and her mom's other suicide attempts.
  • [36:50] Lindsay shares what made her want to work with the suicidal population.
  • [38:48] She discusses the Marchman Act, which allows someone to be put on a 72 hours hold against their will.
  • [43:15] Lindsay chats about setting up an event to raise awareness of suicide.
  • [45:33] Lindsay speaks about all the celebrities she got to back the event.
  • [47:54] How are you coping with this and taking care of yourself?
  • [50:26] Lindsay gives her insight into why people are afraid to bring up suicide.
  • [54:25] Lindsay shares her favorite one of the ten steps, which is 'find your passion, find your purpose.'
  • [57:41] Thank you so much for sharing with us on the podcast today.
  • [59:17] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 315_Finding_Happy_with_Lindsay_Weisner.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Does humor help you get through insane moments in your life? Eric and Jessica wanted to do this special episode to give you the listeners some ideas on what you can do to stay sane during this uncertain time in the world, and humor is at the top of the list along with exercise and staying in touch with the ADHD community.

They share the alternatives they found for exercise when the gym is too risky, why going to the store can bring on anxiety, and what they plan to do if they run out of toilet paper. Jessica speaks about what the media is reporting and how, at times like this, reporters need to be very careful about what they share.

Eric and Jessica chat about the paper product shortage, the hope that mindsets will change once this is over, and the good that can come from all of this uncertainty. They discuss why social distancing is so essential and how this would be a good time for a futuristic technology like doors that don't have a doorknob.

Since laughter is always the best medicine, they share jokes, Facebook posts, comments, and other nonsensical things to lighten the mood because you can only take so much of this new reality. Eric and Jessica also chat about being kind to your significant other if you are both stuck working from home. Try not to fight.

Have you heard that meditation exercises are a great way to cope with stress and anxiety? Listen as Eric and Jessica give some tips and ideas on ways to use this technique. They also share how grateful they are for their ADHD communities and the hope that this episode will ease some issues that can come from the craziness in this beautiful world we live in.

You'll learn:

  • [02:38] We wanted to do this episode to share ideas on how to stay sane during this crazy time.
  • [03:16] Jessica is here to discuss the importance of humor in this unique situation.
  • [05:22] They speak about how things are weird now, especially for those with ADHD.
  • [07:12] Have you found an alternative to exercise? What is it?
  • [09:50] Eric shares how exercise helps him cope with life, but it isn't worth the risk of going to the gym.
  • [12:01] Eric chats about what he found to replace going to the gym.
  • [14:34] Jessica speaks about how overwhelming things are right now and how it is affecting her mental health.
  • [16:40] Does going to Costco or Sam's right now cause you to have a panic attack?
  • [18:51] When watching the news, think about what information you need in your life.
  • [21:01] They discuss the shortage of toilet paper and paper towels and alternatives if they run out.
  • [22:43] Jessica believes that some good stuff will come from all of this uncertainty.
  • [23:42] Eric hopes the mindset changes around the culture of selfishness.
  • [25:04] Jessica says that is very important for the media to be careful with what they share.
  • [27:37] Eric shares why social distancing is so essential to keep the virus at manageable levels.
  • [29:25] They discuss some funny things they have read on Facebook.
  • [32:30] Are you working from home with your significant other? Are you fighting?
  • [34:15] Eric speaks about posting on his Facebook page asking everyone how they were doing.
  • [36:21] Jessica chats about posting on Twitter and the responses she is getting.
  • [38:35] Eric and Jessica share jokes that were published in their groups.
  • [42:01] Eric shares the audio of a government official forgetting to take their mic off when they went to the bathroom.
  • [45:01] Do you think there will be futuristic technology put in place because of the coronavirus?
  • [47:16] Jessica shares that Forbes agrees with her that laughing is the best medicine to deal with COVID-19.
  • [49:00] Without a routine, do you feel like you don't know what you are doing or get anything done?
  • [51:07] If you are new to ADHD and don't have any coping strategies and are quicker to frustration, try meditation practices.
  • [53:49] Eric describes how you can use food as a form of meditation.
  • [56:10] What do you have to have to keep you sane for the next few weeks? Food? Exercise?
  • [59:00] Eric shares how his seasonal affective disorder makes him feel.
  • [1:01:23] They feel like this situation is stripping everyone back to the basics.
  • [1:03:58] Do gratitude practices make you feel worse? 
  • [1:05:21] You can't chase happiness because a lot of things we do to pursue happiness make us unhappy.
  • [1:07:26] Eric speaks about being grateful for the community that they have.
  • [1:09:36] Jessica, what are you doing this weekend for self-care?
  • [1:13:10] Drink water, hold on to an ice cube, or dunking your head in water are ways to ground you during an anxiety attack.
  • [1:15:21] Eric discusses family planning during this time of self-quarantine.
  • [1:16:45] While we may be dealing with some severe stuff, let's try not to take ourselves so seriously.
  • [1:18:42] Stay connected to the community if you need to talk.
  • [1:19:54] If you can support Jessica on Patreon at www.patreon.com/howtoadhd, it would be much appreciated.
  • [1:25:30] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 314_Toiletpaperpocalypse_with_Jessica_McCabe.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Has your ADHD meds made a difference in your life? Listen as Eric and his guest, Jordan Marsh, discuss this and much more in this episode of ADHD reWired. Jordan is a semi self-employed professional tattoo artist and single parent. He was diagnosed with ADHD about two years ago and is just now learning how profoundly his ADHD has affected his life and relationships and is possibly the reason he started doing tattoos as opposed to a more conventional career.

Jordan shares the reason he started doing tattoos, why he enjoys giving and getting them, and the connection for him between pain and expression. He gives his opinion on what people don't understand about tattoos and the challenges he faces with being a single dad and his work schedule. Jordan chats about raising a child who has ADHD, how he reels himself in when his son is disrespectful, and how his meds have helped him in both work and his life at home with his son.

Have you ever wanted to get a tattoo? Jordan talks about some tattoos he wishes he didn't have and why he got them. Take notes as he explains some ways to remove them and why colors sometimes don't look the same when you use them to cover up specific colors of tattoos.

Listen as Jordan discusses how ADHD affected his past relationships, what he has learned about himself and relationships, and what he will look for in his next relationship. Jordan also describes his seasonal depression and the final thoughts he wants to share with the listeners. You won't want to miss Eric's conversation with this fascinating man with a highly misunderstood career.

You'll learn:

  • [02:31] Jordan, welcome to the show!
  • [03:41] Jordan shares why he started in the tattoo field.
  • [05:20] Why do you think tattoos are your passion?
  • [07:32] Jordan explains the connection for him between pain and expression.
  • [08:56] What do you think people don't understand about tattoos?
  • [10:45] Jordan speaks about the tattoo on his face, why he got it there.
  • [13:36] Jordan discusses being a single father and the challenges with his schedule.
  • [15:08] Jordan shares what it's like being ADHD and raising an ADHD child.
  • [16:24] What do you think helps you reel yourself back in when he's disrespectful?
  • [23:32] Jordan explains why he said that his job is the most terrible, perfect job.
  • [26:44] Jordan shares how being diagnosed with ADHD and taking the meds have affected his work.
  • [28:50] Have you ever made a mistake when doing a tattoo? Can you tell us about it?
  • [32:45] Jordan chats about constantly diagnosing his clients mentally with ADHD.
  • [33:41] Do you have any tattoos you regret getting? Can you tell us why?
  • [38:59] Jordan discusses how in hindsight he can see how ADHD affected his past relationships.
  • [41:56] They talk about his son's mother and the relationship he had with her before being diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [43:17] Jordan shares what pushed him to seek a diagnosis.
  • [44:02] Jordan speaks about his last relationship and how it was affected by his ADHD.
  • [45:42] What have you learned about yourself as a result of going through relationships now that you have ADHD?
  • [47:55] Jordan chats about not wanting to disappoint people and feeling like he was never enough.
  • [49:36] Jordan shares what he will watch for and look for in his next relationship and the whiteboard on which he writes everything he needs to remember.
  • [51:52] Do you have any final thoughts for your listeners?
  • [52:54] Jordan, thank you so much for sharing your story!
  • [53:47] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 313_ADHD_Inks_in_Creative_Work__Relationships.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Forgiveness and acceptance are critical when learning to manage your ADHD while remembering it is a rollercoaster, and the goal is to make the ups and downs a little less extreme. This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our first question today is how to revive yourself after a hard task when your tank is empty, and Lauren asks for tips when prioritizing projects. Debra has two topics she wants to discuss: one is about comorbidities like attentive type anxiety and depression, and the second is advice on coping strategies for a nineteen-year-old.

Another listener is requesting tips for scheduling life stuff rather than work stuff, Emma wants some ways to manage her hyperfocus at work, and Princess wants to know what the first thing she should tackle when trying to control her ADHD. A listener asks if it's okay to take her medication only during the week and take the weekends off, and Eric shares that it is recommended to maintain your dosage each day seven days a week.

Listen in as we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss not only your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your and your experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:21] Welcome our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:23] Erica asks the first question about how to revive after a hard task when your tank is empty.
  • [06:01] Erica and Eric speak about coping mechanisms.
  • [08:20] Brendan shares his thoughts on Erica's question.
  • [09:47] Will suggests scheduling a five to ten-minute walk to give the brain a break.
  • [12:01] Lauren wants to know their best tips for prioritizing.
  • [14:18] Eric shares a book that he requires his members to read called "The ONE Thing." 
  • [16:00] They speak about prioritizing self-care and planning goals in advance.
  • [19:26] "You can do anything, but you can't do everything."
  • [25:45] Debra has a question about comorbidities like attentive type anxiety and depression.
  • [27:10] Eric shares his thoughts on how common anxiety and depression are with late-diagnosed ADHD.
  • [28:43] What are some coping strategies for a nineteen-year-old in college?
  • [30:11] Eric shares his college experience at nineteen and how hard it was for him to go to morning classes.
  • [32:31] Make it Stick the Science of Learning is a book that Eric recommends to any college student.
  • [34:02] A listener wants some tips for scheduling life stuff rather than work stuff.
  • [36:18] Brendan shares his ideas on this subject and how he handled it.
  • [39:51] Will gives his insight on working so much you don't have time for life stuff.
  • [43:30] Emma has a question about managing her hyperfocus at work.
  • [46:09] Eric speaks about going into hyperfocus in a planned way.
  • [49:12] Brendan, do you have anything you want to add?
  • [51:22] Will shares his thoughts on hyperfocus and what she could try.
  • [52:37] Princess wants to know the first thing they suggest to tackle when trying to manage her ADHD.
  • [55:01] They all speak about knowing when ADHD wins and don't beat yourself up; forgiveness and acceptance are so important.
  • [57:19] Do you recommend continuing your medication on weekends?
  • [58:35] Eric chats about what can happen when you don't take your medicine as prescribed.
  • [1:00:52] Will shares his experience with taking his meds.
  • [1:03:14] As always, talk to your doctor and make sure they know ADHD.
  • [1:04:10] Thank you, Brendan, and Will for being on the show.
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Direct download: 312_Q__A_Feb_2020.mp3
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Do suspect you have ADHD, but you don't know for sure because you have to wait months for your diagnosis? That is precisely what Eric's guest Angela is waiting on. Listen as Eric and Angela discuss the challenges she is facing trying to cope with this while balancing school, work, and family life while also dealing with Migraines and Fibromyalgia.

Angela shares how watching the way her son acted gave her flashbacks to herself at that age and was the catalyst that made her look into ADHD as a cause. She also speaks about having migraines most of her life and how her parents' mistrust of doctors made it challenging to find a medicine that would help. Angela describes what she goes through when she wakes up with a migraine and what steps she has to take to make sure she can function with her busy schedule.

When you went to college, did you know what you wanted to do, or did you change majors multiple times? Listen as Angela shares her journey through college to finally determining that psychology is where her heart is. She also discusses her Fibromyalgia diagnosis, her pregnancies, going back to school to get her graduate degree, and why she won't stop until she achieves it. Angela speaks about how important it is to her to learn all she can about ADHD, so if the diagnosis is definite, she will know what to do and how to help her son.

Angela is a very strong, determined woman and even though she has faced adversity her whole academic career she has never let go of the to finish what she started. Her strength and determination are to be celebrated, and maybe listening to her will push you forward to finishing something you didn't think you could do. 

You'll Learn:

  • [02:44] Angela, welcome to the show!
  • [03:40] Angela shares that she has been waiting since October for the evaluation to diagnose ADHD.
  • [04:27] What triggered the thought that you might have ADHD?
  • [07:02] Angels speak about her family not really believing in doctors and dealing with migraines without proper treatment.
  • [09:04] Angela chats about her sensor sensitivity and how it can sometimes be overwhelming.
  • [11:20] Angela describes how it feels when she wakes up with a migraine.
  • [13:09] How do you get up every day knowing that one of these episodes can knock your whole day off-kilter?
  • [15:58] Angela shares why she has her drive and grit to succeed and doesn't let anything stop her.
  • [18:00] Angela chats about being able to sing opera and what caused her to lose the joy of singing.
  • [20:30] She speaks about how hard the decision was to quit singing.
  • [22:50] Angela says that singing didn't fulfill her, and she felt like she was preparing to make other people happy when she didn't care about it at all.
  • [26:43] Angela describes all the different majors she chose at the University of Oregon.
  • [29:15] Angela shares what made her get into psychology.
  • [32:44] How long has it taken you to get through the undergrad years in college?
  • [35:00] Angela speaks about her grades and having incompletes which kept her from graduating in 2010.
  • [36:54] She started taking pre-reqs for nursing in 2014 while pregnant.
  • [37:41] How was your pregnancy with all of your sensory sensitivities?
  • [40:34] Angela shares that two years after her son was born she went back to the University of Oregon for psychology and has almost finished her degree.
  • [43:01] Being a stay at home mom left her feeling unfulfilled because she had things she wanted to do.
  • [44:43] Angela shares when she was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.
  • [46:31] Angela describes what having Fibromyalgia feels like.
  • [53:00] What was the tipping point that made you want to seek out an ADHD diagnosis?
  • [55:14] Angela says that her life has a bunch of pieces like a messy puzzle.
  • [57:55] Angela shares her job as a project coordinator for a neuroscience experience, and how much time it takes.
  • [59:13] Angela started reading about ADHD and it resonated with her.
  • [1:00:19] How has the experience been for you as you learn more about ADHD?
  • [1:03:03] Angela speaks about the struggle she faces going back to school for her graduate degree.
  • [1:04:52] Angela shares that she let her professor know the issues she was having and her waiting on the ADHD diagnosis and his lack of response.
  • [1:07:10] They discuss how nervous she was to come on the podcast and talk about her possible ADHD diagnosis.
  • [1:10:10] Eric acknowledges Angela's grit and tenacity to keep going to school even though it has taken many years.
  • [1:12:36] Are you someone who appreciates harmony and beauty? Someone who resolves issues?
  • [1:13:09] Angela, thank you for sharing so much with us!
  • [1:15:20] Eric believes that everyone should make their mess their message.
  • [1:16:46] Angela, do you have anything else you want to share with the listeners?
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Direct download: 311_Migraines_Fibromyalgia_Grit_Is_it_ADHD.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Have you ever just wanted to sit in a closet for some quiet time to study and eliminate distractions? Listen in as Eric and his guest Merage Ghane discuss why she did this, and many other topics on this episode of ADHD reWired. Merage is a Clinical Psychology Ph.D. student in the eighth year of her PH.D. She shares her journey through being turned down many times to Ph.D. programs to finally being accepted and then getting her ADHD diagnosis.

Merage shares the struggles she had in college with concentration, how her parents reacted to her ADHD diagnosis, and why she chose to research the topic of uncertainty for her dissertation. Merage also discusses her research, what she is looking for within the study, the details of the scenarios she puts her test subjects through and how this research plays out in real-world situations with the variables that can affect the analysis.

Listen as Merage shares why she initially started her research on individuals with autism and attention networks, what she is looking for with her research, and the hardest thing about managing her ADHD while going through the P.h.D program. Merage used her real name in this episode because even though there could be repercussions, the fact is that she has ADHD, and she doesn't want to hide it.

Merage and Eric discuss how magical the ADHD community is, and what takeaways from the alumni coaching group she finds helpful. Merage is showing everyone that people with ADHD can accomplish anything they set their minds too. She isn't letting her diagnosis slow her down, and neither should you. If any of this resonates with you, plug in and listen to this amazing woman.

You'll Learn:

  • [01:46] Merage, welcome to the show!
  • [02:37] Merage shares where she went to school and where she is now.
  • [03:27] She shares her story from almost being diagnosed with ADHD in high school to her college career.
  • [05:04] Merage speaks about grad school and taking time off to get married.
  • [07:33] Have you always had a resilient spirit?
  • [08:10] Merage shares when she was actually diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [10:00] Merage speaks about studying in a closet with a silence please on the door.
  • [13:08] When you were diagnosed were you struggling with classes?
  • [14:20] Merage chats about being a girl with ADHD and how many women are diagnosed.
  • [16:09] She shares how telling her parents about the diagnosis and their acceptance.
  • [17:56] Merage tells us her parents were immigrants and how that affected who she trusted as she grew up.
  • [20:47] Merage shares what her research is about and how she decided to research this topic.
  • [26:00] She speaks about the issues she is studying for her dissertation.
  • [26:58] What are you looking for with this research?
  • [28:33] Merage describes the scenarios she puts before her subjects.
  • [31:41] How does your research play out in real-world situations?
  • [33:03] Merage shares the variables she is looking at that can affect the outcome of her research.
  • [34:27] Merage says she takes a very dimensional approach to psychopathology.
  • [37:34] Are you looking at the day to day decision making?
  • [40:32] Merage shares why she started looking at individuals with autism and attention networks.
  • [42:45] They speak about social executive function and how emotions change often and move quickly.
  • [44:23] Merage chats about a 3-minute talk competition she took part in and why.
  • [45:28] What's the hardest thing for you while managing your ADHD through a P.h.D program?
  • [46:13] Merage shares why she decided to use her real name even though there could be repercussions.
  • [54:23] Merage speaks about being in some coaching groups and the relatable experiences people shared.
  • [56:18] Why did you want to join the coaching groups?
  • [58:21] She discusses the challenges she had finding room in her schedule for the groups and how flexible the supervisors were.
  • [1:00:56] What did you take away from the coaching groups?
  • [1:02:51] Merage shares how she has been sleeping and the fact that she isn't getting any natural light.
  • [1:05:02] What are some things from the alumni sessions that have been helpful?
  • [1:08:02] Eric speaks about the ADHD conference and how magical the ADHD community is.
  • [1:09:10] Do you have anything else you want to share with the listeners?
  • [1:11:24] Merage thank you so much for being on the show today!
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Direct download: 310_Decision_Making_and_uncertainity-Merage_Ghane.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Breaking down the increments of time to organize behavior for people with ADHD is like driving in fog at slow speed. Listen to Eric and his guest Dr. Russell Ramsay as they discuss this, and many other topics on this episode of ADHD reWired. Dr. Ramsay is the co-founder and co-director of the University of Pennsylvania Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program and an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry in the Penn State Medical School. He is also the author of five books, including the recently released Rethinking Adult ADHD, along with many articles with issues relating to ADHD. 

How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable? Listen as Eric, and Dr. Ramsay discuss Cognitive Behavior Therapy, the difference between agency and efficacy, automatic negative thoughts, and core beliefs. Dr. Ramsay also shares that there are no trade secrets with coping strategies; the issue is with implementation and follow-through. Eric wonders if clients can be taught to change the questions they ask themselves and instead of being discouraged because all of something does not work, look and see if a part of it will work, look at the smaller picture. 

Listen in as Dr. Ramsay shares the difference between procrastination and front end perfectionism, along with general cognitive disorders in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD. Dr. Ramsay says that it is ok to start toward something with the end in mind, but remember to implement the next incremental step to reach the goal. 

Eric and Dr. Ramsay both share some extraordinary information about ADHD. Even though Cognitive Behavior Therapy sounds hard, these two break it down into layman terms so that we can all understand it. Small steps with realistic expectations can help you reach whatever goal you want to achieve.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:47] Dr. Russell Ramsay, welcome back to the show!
  • [03:09] Dr. Ramsay why are we rethinking adult ADHD?
  • [05:40] He speaks about the main cognitive theme in CBT [Cognitive Behavior Therapy].
  • [08:04] Dr. Ramsay discusses a scale that measures distorted positive thoughts.
  • [09:57] Do you know the difference between agency and efficacy?
  • [12:30] Dr. Ramsay speaks about automatic negative thoughts and core beliefs.
  • [15:45] There are no trade secrets for coping strategies we know they work, the problem is implementation.
  • [18:06] How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable?
  • [28:56] Dr. Ramsay addresses the overgeneralization of distortions in positive and negative ways.
  • [31:46] Eric wonders if maybe clients should be taught to change the questions they ask themselves.
  • [33:17] Dr. Ramsay says that writing is hard for everyone, so if you can sequence your thoughts conversationally, it can help you express things in a more precise way.
  • [34:20] Are there differences in general cognitive distortions in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD?
  • [37:02] Dr. Ramsay speaks about procrastination and front end perfectionism.
  • [38:03] Dr. Ramsay shares some areas of perfectionism that many people do not recognize and productive procrastination.
  • [41:04] What something you can do behaviourally even though it is not actionable?
  • [47:44] Dr. Ramsay discusses the unrealistic expectations of reality, lowering the bar of sufficiency.
  • [50:30] Organizing behavior across time towards an outcome that we want to achieve.
  • [51:33] Dr. Ramsay says to start with the end in mind but implement the next incremental step toward your goal.
  • [53:51] How long does it take for replacement thoughts to become automatic?
  • [56:39] Dr. Ramsay gives examples from a study of framing bias and remarks that framing a task so that it is actionable makes it seem more natural to accomplish.
  • [57:43] Dr. Ramsay, do you have any final thoughts for our listeners?
  • [59:28] Thank you so much for being on the show today.
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Direct download: 309_rethinking_Adult_ADHD_Dr._Russell_Ramsay.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Have you ever heard anyone say, "lazy is learned helplessness brought about by a lack of skills"? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

We start with a question about doing tasks when you don't feel well and how to hit a pause button around these tasks instead of a stop button. Getting accountability groups set up when you want to make sure you are accomplishing what you set out to do, how to ask a friend to be your accountability partner, and how to set up ground rules about what accountability is and isn't. It is always easier to have an accountability partner that is doing something similar or at least in the same ballpark as what you are doing.

A mom of a 7th grader asked the team how she should respond to his failing grades and his resistance to taking the prescribed medicines. Laura asks for tips on how to not beat yourself up over a failure to complete calendar tasks, and Jennifer from the U.K. wants to know if they have ever had someone on the podcast from an area where the resources are limited. Jennifer is also curious about the team's response to podcasts that are selling products to manage ADHD like essential oils as an alternative to medicines.

Listen in as we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:19] Welcome our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brenden Mahan.
  • [03:00] Madeline starts off with a question about getting tasks done when she is not feeling well.
  • [04:40] Will and Brenden give their feedback on what is a priority when they are not feeling well.
  • [07:01] Eric speaks about having the flu and the response he got when he couldn't get an episode out.
  • [08:50] Beware of the guilt, shame and anxiety feelings that can surface.
  • [12:08] Blake has an issue with his accountability and is asking for help.
  • [14:35] Eric asks if there are certain things he has found helpful in the past.
  • [15:45] What is the purpose of your need for accountability?
  • [18:05] They discuss setting up a daily task list and sharing it with someone.
  • [20:21] The follow up is a crucial thing with accountability. You need to report back to someone.
  • [23:21] Alexis is asking how do you choose a non-therapist to be your accountability partner?
  • [23:41] Eric speaks about needing to know what accountability is and what it isn't.
  • [24:29] Will says that setting up ground rules, in the beginning, is very helpful.
  • [26:20] Do you need an accountability partner to be doing something similar to what you are doing?
  • [32:02] Andrew feels either everything is great or everything is terrible and wants to know if they have any tips to help to level this out.
  • [33:57] Eric wants to know what time he is going to bed versus what time he is falling asleep and when he is waking up.
  • [36:34] Do you regularly? Do you eat correctly?
  • [39:08] When you have ADHD you have to think about your brain, do things that self-monitoring.
  • [40:20] A mom shares that her son is struggling with school and resistant to meds, she is asking for ideas.
  • [41:35] Brenden says that she needs to find out where the breakdown is at school and activate his school team to help figure this out.
  • [44:09] Do you know where the skill deficit is? What is going on right now?
  • [46:51] Brenden gives an example of how it feels to kids when they are trying hard, but the outcome doesn't show it.
  • [48:46] Laura wants to know how to manage the tendency to ignore your calendar to-do list?
  • [50:03] When you realize you haven't looked at your calendar, look at it, don't beat yourself up. Be more resilient, get up when you fall down.
  • [52:03] If you can only get one thing done today, what would that be?
  • [52:44] Will shares his tricks for getting back on track when he falls down.
  • [54:18] Don't beat yourself up because you missed a few days on your calendar starting with today.
  • [58:48] Jennifer wonders if they have ever had anyone on their podcasts from different areas like the U.K. about the limited resource.
  • [1:03:08] Do you have any tips for people looking for evidence-based resources on ADHD?
  • [1:05:05] Drug-free advertising for all-natural approaches for ADHD keeps people from trying the medication that could get their lives together.
  • [1:07:11] Brenden gives his insight into alternative ways to manage ADHD.
  • [1:10:30] Will believes that the more things claim to cure, the less it probably cures.
  • [1:11:26] Eric says that they support science and are curious about magic is what he believes is the consensus.
  • [1:12:03] Jennifer, thank you for your questions!
  • [1:13:16] Will and Brenden thank you as always.
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Direct download: 308_Jan_2020_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Were you aware that suicidal tendencies are more common in people with untreated ADHD? Listen to Eric's guest, Roberto Olivardia, as he explains his findings and gives his insight into the research that supports these statistics. Roberto is a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the Department of Psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School. He also has a private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, where he specializes in the treatment of ADHD and many other disorders. 

Roberto shares how he got involved with the study of ADHD and suicidality, and the research showing that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide. explains the Roberto believes that people with ADHD sometimes feel like they don't fit in, which is why finding their tribe is so important. 

Feeling like you don't belong, and are a burden to the people you love, can be a catalyst to suicide. If this resonates with you, please don't hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 for help.

Do you have any thoughts of hurting or harming yourself? If you are worried about someone, don't be scared to ask them this question. Roberto informs us that asking the question can erase the stigma and let them know that others are having these kinds of thoughts, and it's ok to talk about it. Listening without overreacting is the first thing you should do and never simplify what they are feeling. But if you believe that they are in imminent danger, it's time to get help by whatever means necessary.

Listen to this in-depth conversation on the statistics of suicide and ADHD. Eric and Roberto give a roadmap on what to do and say if you know someone who might be following a path of darkness without any hope of finding the light. Suicide is a subject that should be talked about, so spread the word you never know who you might be able to help.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:57] Roberto, welcome back to the show!
  • [03:07] Roberto please fill us in on how you got involved with ADHD and suicidality.
  • [04:12] He gives us statistics on the number of people who die by suicide every year.
  • [05:52] Roberto shares how ADHD can impact the treatment when dealing with both issues.
  • [07:04] There is research that shows that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide.
  • [07:24] Does that include people with ADHD but have never had depression?
  • [09:31] Roberto shares a study following kids with ADHD ages 4 to 6 for fourteen years showing how many of them had a plan for suicide during that time.
  • [10:32] Roberto describes the difference between self-harm versus suicide.
  • [13:02] He speaks about author Dr.Thomas Joiner a leading suicide specialist and his book 'Why People Die by Suicide.'
  • [15:57] Because people with ADHD are prone to impulsiveness, could there be a non-attempt attempt at suicide?
  • [18:34] Roberto tells us that many people who attempt suicide feel like they are burdens to their families and leaving will make it easier on them.
  • [21:06] If you feel like you are a burden or that you don't want to be here, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 to talk to someone about what you are feeling.
  • [27:01] Roberto shares a story where a client had rehearsed his suicide so often in his mind that he used it to self-soothing.
  • [29:40] Coping mechanisms can take many different forms, but you shouldn't be ashamed to tell someone about them.
  • [31:00] Roberto speaks about how he struggled in high school to find out where he fit in the world.
  • [34:41] How should someone respond if a loved one comes to them with thoughts of suicide? He says the first thing is to listen without overreacting.
  • [36:06] Praise them for being open and trusting you with these thoughts.
  • [37:31] Give them the National Suicide Prevention Hotline number 800-273-8255 and don't simplify it.
  • [39:57] If there is an imminent risk that they will follow through, it's time for them to get help as quickly as possible.
  • [41:39] Roberto shares that 50% of suicides are by firearms, 66% of gun deaths are suicides. 
  • [43:28] What are some lessons you have learned from people who have attempted suicide?
  • [45:00] If you have ADHD and major executive dysfunction it can be very difficult but there are ways and strategies to get through the challenges.
  • [47:56] Roberto chats about how important finding your tribe or community is because you are not alone.
  • [50:41] Roberto shares that non-suicide contracts do not work and are not effective.
  • [52:32] He speaks about occasions when churches wouldn't do funerals of people who died from suicide because of the stigma that lingers even today.
  • [54:22] Roberto wants listeners to know that there is help out there for anyone that has feelings of suicide.
  • [55:01] Thank you, Roberto, for being on the show, please come back again.
  • [55:47] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 307_Suicide_and_ADHD_-_Roberto_Olivardia.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am CST

There is healing power in being creative as Eric's guest, Roxanne Jarrett, can testify. Roxanne is a singer and coach who performs in five languages and provides one on one intensive services to help creatives with ADHD finish their dream projects. As an arts educator, she facilitates workshops on various subjects, including acting, videography, writing, Shakespearean language, and authentic relating. Roxanne is living proof of the healing power of creativity. She practiced multiple art disciplines to heal from PTSD and no longer meets the criteria for that diagnosis.

 

Roxanne shares her journey of being a gifted child and the loneliness of being different. Being in high school at age twelve, college at sixteen and feeling overwhelmed and unequipped to handle the day to day struggles. Getting creative with how she studied got her through the next three years, and she graduated in four years on the Dean's list. Listen as she speaks about grad school, her stress level and finally breaking down and being hospitalized.

 

Roxanne speaks about being homeless because she fell into severe depression, how blessed she feels to have been exposed to art therapies and creativity, and why she decided to make creativity her primary recovery practice. She believes that creativity doesn't just build your self-esteem; it helps you maintain it. Roxanne shares that taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your hand is tangible proof of your value.

Even though Roxanne has faced many challenges, she has learned to see the beauty of those experiences. Can getting creative help you on your journey with ADHD? This conversation will show you the possibilities so relax and listen and hear.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:41] Roxanne, welcome to the show!
  • [03:32] Roxanne shares her journey from being a gifted child feeling lost to the success she has now.
  • [07:10] She chats about getting noticed by a teacher for her singing voice and how life-changing that was.
  • [09:43] Roxanne started high school at age 12 and by 16 she was leaving home to go away to college.
  • [11:55] She speaks about almost failing out of college her first year but the desire to stay caused her to get resourceful and creative to bring her grades up and graduate. 
  • [12:53] Did you go to any parties or where you totally focused on academics?
  • [13:34] Roxanne shares how she organized her second year of college so that she didn't have the same challenges as the first year.
  • [16:15] Roxanne and Eric discuss the similarities in their college experiences.
  • [23:58] Roxanne continued to improve in college and graduated in 4 years on the Dean's list and went to grad school.
  • [25:57] She got a master's in educational theater at NYU, directed a children's theater, worked as a researcher for the university, and started making.
  • [27:10] How was your stress level during this time? Did you have a breakdown?
  • [28:35] Roxanne shares falling into a deep depression after grad school and her self esteem bottoming out.
  • [30:41] She chats about the fear she buried after being kidnapped by a teacher when she was in high school.
  • [35:35] Roxanne speaks about being hospitalized at 25 and how that finally helped her start the healing process. She finally felt like she had hope.
  • [40:30] She talks about being in and out of recovery therapy for many years, once she found drama therapy she learned how to speak up for herself.
  • [43:27] Do you have a small voice telling you that you are not good enough?
  • [45:11] Roxanne wants anyone who is feeling unfulfilled or depressed to get creative by any means necessary, find what brings you joy.
  • [46:15] Taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your own hand is tangible proof of your value.
  • [48:44] What do you say to someone who says I am not a creative person?
  • [53:04] You can write and create from happiness, it might look different but it can be done.
  • [54:55] How do you help people with ADHD finish projects? 
  • [57:10] Roxanne says that a lot of people with ADHD need ongoing support and accountability.
  • [1:02:06] Roxanne sings a part of "Simple Gifts" for us.
  • [1:02:46] Thank you so much, Roxanne, for being on the show! 
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Direct download: 306_Creativity_Heals_with_Roxanne_Jarrett.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Welcome to episode 305 of ADHD reWired a mastermind session with your host Eric and a panel featuring Roxy, Tina, and Will. Aggie is in the hot seat, talking about expectations around communication and establishing boundaries around her need for it. She also wants to set boundaries when it comes to her phone and other areas daily so that she feels more productive and less stressed.

 

The group discuss Aggies issues with replying to texts with an affirmative to meet up with friends later but then not making it or being late. She chats about how people's expectations of her make her feel like a failure because she can't live up to them even though she tries.

 

Have you ever wanted to turn your phone off and be unreachable? Listen in as they talk about the habits they all have around their phones and how in the moment you can be when your phone is off. Aggie speaks about not paying attention when texting someone back and giving them the wrong information, not remembering events that are texted to her, and maybe trying to add the events to her calendar consistently. 

 

Do you have trouble with communication? Are you on time for commitments? Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. These mastermind sessions are a great way to get thoughts and insights from your peers on issues that you might think only affect you. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.

 

 

You'll Learn:

  • [02:08] The mastermind today will be with Aggie.
  • [03:03] Aggie tells us what she wants help with.
  • [04:25] What other should be we know about?
  • [06:04] Do you feel like there have been changes with communication since your mastermind a year ago?
  • [08:13] They discuss her scheduled social interaction and what happens with it.
  • [09:10] What questions do you all have, Roxy, Tina or Will?
  • [09:50] Aggie says when the request is immediately she is more successful with going.
  • [11:13] Roxy wants Aggie to expand on the expectations of others and the challenges.
  • [13:40] Do you feel shame when you don't return calls or texts?
  • [15:00] Aggie discusses being late and her friends being upset because it always happens.
  • [16:48] Can you have people in your life that you feel comfortable having a conversation about your struggles?
  • [18:11] Will speaks about the issues that Aggie has been having.
  • [20:38] Do you like the feeling of being off the and no one can get a hold of you?
  • [21:57] They discuss having automatic messages saying when you will return calls.
  • [26:41] The group chats about their phone habits and when they turn them off.
  • [29:17] Do you sleep at night? Do you get texts when you are asleep? Yes, you can make it so that people can't contact you at certain times.
  • [31:23] Aggie discusses what time would be a great time to not have her phone on.
  • [32:44] Where do you find your cellphone helpful as a tool?
  • [34:04] Roxy talks about the wallpaper on her phone that says, "Why are you here?"
  • [36:10] Will speaks about how he uses his phone and the roadblocks he uses.
  • [37:43] Aggie in what way are you being distracted by your phone?
  • [40:01] Have you ever messed up a reply when texting someone because you weren't paying attention?
  • [44:20] You can add events on your text directly to your calendar, do you do that consistently?
  • [48:04] Roxy adds her insight to texting and it not being casual anymore. She also speaks to a failproof way of communication for Aggie.
  • [50:58] Aggie chats about taking a pause before replying to text messages.
  • [52:44] Roxy tells Aggie what she used to do to cover the face of her phone so she couldn't see messages.
  • [53:28] Will talks about his Apple watch and how that has helped him when viewing and replying to text messages.
  • [55:05] How often do you get long texts from people? Do you send long texts?
  • [59:01] Finding Aggie a spot to text from, so she has to go there to text.
  • [1:00:51] Maybe only using your computer when replying so that you can schedule for more than just a day.
  • [1:01:46] Any other commitments you want to share right now?
  • [1:02:08] I hope this was helpful to you, Aggie, and I hope it was helpful to you, the listeners.
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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

This is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our first question is from a listener who has been struggling to get a professional diagnose of what she believes is ADHD. She keeps getting the runaround and is asking for advice on where to go from here. Vanessa wants tips for dealing with avoidance issues when it comes to her work and financial habits, and another listener is asking what they should be looking for in an ADHD coach and what they should expect once they find one. 

Daniel wants to find out what he can do when he lacks the motivation to get things done, why sleep is so important, and getting tested for sleep apnea. Emily's question is what can she do with her history of unfinished projects, and Ben has a question about how marijuana and alcohol affect people with ADHD. Another listener asks the panel how to stay focused on a project once the new wears off.

We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:

You'll Learn:

  • [02:04] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A.
  • [02:33] Listener talks about trying to get diagnosed and having issues with professionals that don't have any knowledge of ADHD.
  • [03:45] They suggest she get a second opinion and still do the management techniques.
  • [06:03] What is causing you to down an ADHD diagnosis? What are your challenges?
  • [07:01] How long have you suspected you have ADHD?
  • [07:17] The challenges of just starting college is something they give some feedback on.
  • [09:42] Vanessa's question is around tips for dealing with avoidance issues with her work habits, she explains.
  • [12:21] Eric is asking the panel, who of you have ever felt this way?
  • [13:33] They talking about and discussing some core issues.
  • [14:15] In regards to your finances, what have you put into place to help you?
  • [15:49] The next question is what should I look for in an ADHD coach and what should I expect once I have one?
  • [16:13] Will says it depends on how old you are and where you are in your life because that makes a difference. They talk about the credentials you should look for.
  • [18:06] They talk about the ways to find a coach that works for you and the personality that you might work best with.
  • [24:24] We are back with Vanessa once she finished what Eric asked her to do.
  • [27:24] Daniel wants help with a lack of motivation to do things he needs to do and wants to do.
  • [27:45] Eric gives a rundown on ADHD and motivation.
  • [29:50] What is your need for stimulation? Are you low energy or high energy?
  • [31:28] They discuss his lack of sleep and how important it is for people with ADHD to get rest.
  • [37:32] How would you feel if you looked back on your life 30 years from now and know that you wanted to make changes but didn't.
  • [39:46] Emily says that her life is a series of unfinished projects, what can she do?
  • [41:01] Eric addresses this with her.
  • [45:46] How long have you had boxes in your home? How long has it been since you moved?
  • [51:40] Ben has a question about how alcohol and pot affect ADHD.
  • [52:13] Eric says that the current research doesn't now encourage the use of marijuana to manage ADHD symptoms; he gives details.
  • [55:48] A listener has a question around the hyperfocus of starting something new and then getting tired of it as the new wears off.
  • [58:19] Can you set yourself up so that you are doing more than one thing at a time?
  • [1:01:47] They discuss planning breaks, do a project, and then give yourself a time frame for time off.
  • [1:05:08] We do this every 2nd week of the month with Will and Brendan.
  • [1:06:38] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Direct download: 304_December_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Kyle. Kyle is a nineteen, born and raised near Vancouver British Columbia and was diagnosed with ADHD, an attentive type in June of 2019. Since his diagnosis, he has learned a lot about himself, how ADHD affects him and many great and not so great things that life has to offer. He is on the show for some coaching and assistance from Eric about the choices he needs to make and how ADHD can affect his future.

Kyle discusses his childhood, pivotal moments growing up, and how school was always easy for him. He speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD as a senior, then realizing he could see himself in the way his dad did things and how he talked to him about getting tested for ADHD. He also tells us about partying in 10th grade, how it affected his classes, and how marijuana helped and hindered his ADHD. He also talks about his friend dying right in front of him and how it was his wake up call that something needed to change.

What is your action plan to make college happen? This is a question Eric asks because Kyle wants to go to college, but right now, he is not financially able. They discuss asking his parents for money, getting student loans, and the pros and cons of both. Kyle doesn't like to ask for help, but to make this dream come true, he is going to have to do something. Eric talks to him about making the plan and following through, whatever that might look like.

Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. Once you have an action plan and the process, it doesn't seem so overwhelming. If you are not happy with your job prospects straight out of high school, ask for help, and take the next step in your education like Eric is encouraging Kyle to do. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.

You'll Learn:

  • [01:39] Kyle, welcome to the show!
  • [02:40] He is looking for some coaching and advice about what he wants to do with his life.
  • [04:31] Kyle talks about his childhood and some of the pivotal things that have occurred in his life.
  • [07:05] How was a school for you growing up?
  • [08:26] Kyle speaks about what he did when school got too hard and how he handled it.
  • [09:43] He tells us that in grade 10 he started partying and when he stopped doing homework.
  • [11:16] Did your parents provide structure for you growing up?
  • [12:42] Kyle discusses telling his parents and siblings they need to get tested for ADHD.
  • [15:39] In 10th grade did your grades decline?
  • [16:43] He chats about how marijuana affected his ADHD both the good and the bad.
  • [18:37] Kyle talks about a traumatic event that happened to him this last year.
  • [19:48] Did the realization of your mortality wake you up?
  • [25:56] Kyle says that he wants to go back to school, but the cost of living is so high that he can't work part-time and survive financially.
  • [27:06] Have you started saving money while you are working?
  • [27:35] Are your parents not able to help you with college? Have you thought about student loans?
  • [28:50] Kyle speaks about not wanting to ask his parents for money to help him.
  • [30:01] How are you with asking for help in general?
  • [31:15] Did your parents go to college? Would you be the first one in your family to get a degree?
  • [32:21] He chats about his extended family.
  • [34:30] He talks to Eric about the homework Eric assigned him to do before the podcast.
  • [36:38] What are your earning prospects at your current job? What is the highest earning potential?
  • [39:34] Kyle tells what his go-to response is too tricky situations?
  • [42:34] He wants to work with people and help them through situations he has been through. They discuss his whycue.
  • [47:00] Eric talks to Kyle about college and how to save money, time, and career choices.
  • [48:45] Kyle tells us he is always trying to find ways to save money.
  • [51:34] What actions do you need to do to make visiting colleges possible?
  • [52:17] They discuss his action plan to make college possible in his future.
  • [57:05] You have been talking about one school, what are the other options?
  • [58:22] What about online courses? Have you ever taken one?
  • [59:35] What are all the helping professions in the area you live in?
  • [1:01:00] Kyle says he has a cousin that has a degree in social work, so Eric says to message her.
  • [1:02:27] Now that you messaged her, how does it feel? Do you feel empowered?
  • [1:04:34] They review the action steps and go through each one to see the objective.
  • [1:07:01] Eric encourages Kyle to take the next step and move forward.
  • [1:09:23] Can you make school your full-time job?
  • [1:10:44] When will you take the following action step and call to set up an appointment with the college?
  • [01:11:34] Eric asks Kyle to contact him later today and let him know what he found out.
  • [01:12:49] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_303_Kyle_Taking_the_next_step.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

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