ADHD reWired

Do you have trouble transitioning from work to being at home? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Adison Smith discuss how ADHD has impacted her life. Eric shares some coaching around balance, burnout, transitions, and accountability, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Adison has recently realized that she might be the living embodiment of the phrase 'jack of all trades, master of none' since she has had five jobs in the last five years, not including the job she has now as a greenhouse gardener for a nonprofit garden in Dallas, TX. She loves to garden, paint, ride horses, be outside, and spend time with her husband and three dogs.

Adison shares why she got bored with her previous jobs and why being a gardener keeps her engaged. Adison recognizes that she can't do life like everyone else, but after learning more about ADHD, she understands that she can live life her way. Adison discusses her issues with transitioning with Eric, and he shares some ideas on ways that helped him.

Listen, as Adison speaks about how her relationships with friends have suffered because she is so focused on her job; she doesn't want to stop to meet up with them as they planned and is always canceling on them. Eric suggests flipping the script and prioritizing friends and just making room for work.

The issues that Adison is having around these topics are issues that Eric says most people with ADHD face. If you ask yourself the same questions as Adison, this is an episode that you can't miss.

You'll learn:

  • [02:25] Welcome to the show, Adison!
  • [03:21] Adison shares her background and her ADHD diagnosis.
  • [06:02] Adison speaks about her roommates in college being upset with her because she wouldn't share her medication.
  • [08:00] She discusses some of her jobs she left because they bore her.
  • [11:14] Adison shares about a gardening program she really liked and why it holds her attention.
  • [12:55] Adison says that she can't do life like everyone else.
  • [14:50] She speaks about learning so much from the podcasts she has been listening to.
  • [21:21] Adison discusses where she has the most difficulties with transitioning and how it shows up.
  • [23:15] Eric shares how he handles transitioning from vacation to going back to work.
  • [26:39] If you were to reflect on what you've already done today, what would that look like?
  • [28:46] How much time do you think it would take you to do it?
  • [29:44] Adison explains why she doesn't take breaks when she is at work.
  • [32:32] Eric discusses time tracking, so Adison would know what time she needs to get started.
  • [34:02] Adison shares what she could do during her break times that she would enjoy.
  • [37:09] Eric believes that you need focus at work, but not hyper-focus.
  • [41:37] Adison talks about how her relationships have been affected by this new job.
  • [44:05] There is nobody on their deathbed that wished they would have worked more.
  • [46:24] Eric suggests flipping the script and prioritizing friends and just making room for work.
  • [48:22] Adison discusses her friends and talking to them about her ADHD.
  • [51:33] Eric speaks about having her friends make her accountable when she has plans with them.
  • [54:00] Adison shares about her relationship with her husband and her impulse buys.
  • [56:51] Eric suggests ways she could stop her impulse buys.
  • [59:24] How many reminders do you need? As many as it takes.
  • [1:00:17] Thank you for being on the show!
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"When I took the medication, I couldn't stop the momentum." On this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric welcomes Sharon Ruchman. Sharon is a composer, musician, and author; her music can be heard on classical radio stations worldwide. Today she is composing original music for Sonoro, a contemporary music performance.

Sharon speaks about her late in life ADHD diagnosis, the medicine they put her on, and the side effects that led her to stop taking it. Once she stopped taking the prescription, she says that her brain recalibrated, and she didn't need the medicine anymore. Eric shares that ADHD meds aren't studied in people over 55, so they don't know how older adult brains work.

Listen as Sharon shares a story about her great uncle Rudy, who died at a young age and who was also a musician, The journey she took to find out everything she could about him and how that journey led to her understanding her life a little better and letting go of the past so she could be very happy with her future.

Sharon is in her seventies, but she isn't stopping. She is learning a new instrument, writing new music and says that knowing why she couldn't concentrate and get the music in her head out when she was younger has made her ADHD diagnosis a godsend. This is an extraordinary conversation that you don't want to miss.

You'll learn:

  • [02:30] Welcome to the show, Sharon!
  • [02:52] Sharon shared when she was diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [04:35] She speaks about getting off her medicine because of side effects and how she believes her brain recalibrated.
  • [05:34] What were some symptoms you were experiencing?
  • [08:24] Eric shares that ADHD meds aren't studied in people over the age of 55.
  • [09:18] Sharon discusses how, as a child, she couldn't sit still very long to practice her music.
  • [12:36] Sharon describes the OCD tendencies she has had her entire life.
  • [13:58] Eric speaks about some work he's done around the role of complex PTSD in ADHD.
  • [19:05] Sharon shares a story about her great uncle Rudy, who died on a sightseeing plane at the Chicago World's Fair.
  • [21:29] She speaks about an unknown woman who sent her pictures of her uncles Viola that she later bought.
  • [23:44] Sharon speaks about getting a recording of her uncle performing.
  • [26:09] Eric talks about Sharon's clarity when it comes to what she wants to accomplish with her music.
  • [27:56] Eric shares that in college, he used to write a lot of music.
  • [29:49] Sharon discusses her piano teacher and visiting her years later and how nothing had changed.
  • [30:57] Why were you so driven to find out about your past and Rudy?
  • [32:46] Sharon shares how happy she is with her life right now.
  • [37:27] Sharon talks about some challenges she still has with ADHD and how she handles them.
  • [39:46] Listen as Sharon discusses the training she is taking to learn the Viola and how regimented she is during her practice time.
  • [42:06] Sharon describes how comfortable she is playing the Viola.
  • [43:22] How do you handle doing daily household chores and paying bills?
  • [44:12] Sharon talks about some other challenges she had when she was young, before her ADHD diagnosis.
  • [46:21] What is it like to be in your seventies?
  • [47:57] Eric believes that life is too short not to do what you want to do.
  • [49:07] It's never too late, pause, and each decision you make can change the direction your life is heading.
  • [50:32] Sharon's last words for the audience are follow your dreams!
  • [50:40] Thank you for being on the show!
  • [51:27] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Sharon Ruchman
The Gift of Rudy
Sonoro

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 341_Its_Never_too_Late_with_Sharon_Ruchman_V2.mp3
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Has your world stopped amid the pandemic and social unrest?" Listen as your host, Eric, and the admin from season 19 of ADHD reWired coaching and accountability groups. They are discussing how they are getting through this year dealing with COVID and Black Lives Matter. Eric is here with his guests Tina, Carl, Marisol, and Kat.

Marisol starts the panel discussion off with how she has dealt with the pandemic as a teacher and not knowing when she will go back. Kat shares how her life has been the last few months, Tina says that she hasn't been watching the news, and that's made it easier to deal with, and Carl discusses trying to home school his son.

They each speak about how they have been doing emotionally and keeping themselves and their families safe from COVID. The panel also discusses how it has affected their parenting and how hard it has been to stay on a schedule. Tina shares how much her business has grown on eBay during the pandemic.

Listen as they all give their insights into Black Lives Matter; they share their stories and how their lives have been impacted by being different or being married to someone who has darker skin. Marisol believes that the key is to start a conversation because once you hear someone else's story, they stop being black, Hispanic, Asian, etc., and just become people. 

Eric finished the episode by saying register to vote and set up absentee voting because you don't want to be exposed to the virus if the cases start rising before election day. You can't make changes if you don't vote, and you don't have the right to complain about who is in the office if you don't vote, the choice is yours.

You'll learn:

  • [01:57] Welcome to the show, everyone!
  • [03:52] Marisol shares how her life has been these last few months with job uncertainty as a teacher.
  • [06:45] Kat speaks about how she is dealing with the pandemic.
  • [08:56] Kat discusses the group she created called accountabilibuddies.
  • [11:18] Tina shares that she has coped with 2020 by not watching the news.
  • [14:43] Carl says that he is doing well even with the crazy days trying to home school his son.
  • [17:18] He has learned to manage his expectations.
  • [24:42] Marisol discusses how she is doing emotionally.
  • [26:47] Marisol speaks about how bad it was to do homeschooling.
  • [28:48] She believes that COVID-19 will have to run its course like everything else.
  • [32:15] Kat shares that her kid plays soccer and helps her around the house.
  • [33:01] Kat speaks about the guilt she feels because she isn't having trouble with her son and how grateful she is that he is such a great kid.
  • [35:29] Carl discusses how he is coping with parenting during the pandemic.
  • [38:03] Carl says that the baby's schedule has kept him on track.
  • [42:45] Tina talks about her adult children and that she is doing good emotionally.
  • [44:16] Tina discusses how great her business is doing on eBay.
  • [45:23] What are the weirdest things that people are buying?
  • [46:50] Eric shares how he has been dealing with COVID itself.
  • [50:32] Carl speaks about how his family is safe during COVID.
  • [53:50] Marisol believes that nothing will get solved until everyone realizes people are individuals and have their own stories.
  • [56:19] She believes what it comes down to is people talking to each other, and you hear their story because then they are not black, Hispanic, Asian; they are people.
  • [58:13] Marisol speaks about being taught that we should all be color blind, but that isn't how it is today.
  • [1:00:01] Eric shares his guilt around not adding his voice to the BLM conversation because he didn't know how to address it.
  • [1:00:43] Carl discusses, his husband being Puerto Rican/Jamaican and his son asking about his dad being different.
  • [1:04:05] Tina speaks about places she wasn't allowed to go because she was white.
  • [1:05:09] Eric discusses where he grew up and being an upper-middle-class in an affluent neighborhood.
  • [1:06:20] He speaks about the topic of a paper he had to write during a semester of school.
  • [1:08:02] A common trait with ADHD is that you feel outraged by social injustice.
  • [1:09:18] Kat discusses her take on diversity.
  • [1:12:15] Kat speaks about people leaning into defensiveness, ambivalence, embarrassment, and discomfort.
  • [1:15:02] Marisol starts a conversation about vaccinations and what happens when we don't get them.
  • [1:17:59] Eric believes that we have to take care of ourselves and support each other.
  • [1:20:28] Eric says to register to vote and set up for absentee voting.
  • [1:21:34] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 340_Coping_with_2020_-_Panel_Discussion_V2.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Did you know that the ADHD brain doesn't have enough Dopamine to get the intrinsic reward from doing small things like washing dishes? Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Melissa starts us off with a question about keeping her house clean because, with nothing else to do during COVID, they cleaned things that haven't been cleaned in years. Another question is about resources to examine before she has her first ADHD testing. Daniel asks a question about how to build habits for things that have future payoffs.

Autumn wants to know how to limit or correct her eight-year-old daughter's action with scissors. Bri is struggling with impulsiveness and regulating her emotions. Deborah has a problem getting her twenty-year-old to take their medicine, and she is worried because he will be leaving home again soon. Ari is asking for some of their favorite autobiographies or memoirs written by people with ADHD. Erica is looking for ways to set a schedule now that she is unemployed and has trouble getting anything accomplished. 

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:

You'll learn:

  • [01:50] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [02:12] Melissa has a question about how to keep her house clean.
  • [02:58] Eric shares some things that help him keep things up.
  • [05:04] Brendan shares his thoughts on decluttering.
  • [08:00] Eric says that any task we do requires three things.
  • [12:20] A listener wants to know if there are any resources she can look at before her first test for ADHD next week.
  • [15:01] Brendan and Will give their insights into what she will experience during her testing.
  • [16:52] Will shares what he wishes he would have none when he was diagnosed.
  • [19:44] Daniel would like some support around getting through things that are future-directed.
  • [21:15] Brendan shares how ADHD works on the brain with Dopamine.
  • [24:25] Daniel says that using the payoff as a reward doesn't work for him.
  • [31:54] Autumn asks about how to take scissors away from her eight-year-old daughter.
  • [33:34] When a kid says I don't know why I did, it is a valid answer.
  • [35:40] Eric shares his thoughts on this.
  • [37:19] Could this be a sensory issue?
  • [39:48] Bri struggles with impulsiveness and regulating her emotions.
  • [42:50] Eric wants to find out more about her fear around medication.
  • [45:27] If your medication is correct, you will feel you are thinking clearly.
  • [48:15] Eric shares how long he has been on stimulant medicine.
  • [49:13] Brendan shares his ideas around this question.
  • [52:58] Deborah would like help with her child that refuses to take medicine and has depression.
  • [54:35] Eric says that she needs to take his side effects seriously and to quit pushing the meds on him.
  • [55:45] Brendan speaks about how he felt when he was twenty, and his mom was trying to decide for him.
  • [57:52] Will says that if you are going to force him to do one thing, make it either meds or coaching.
  • [59:48] Ari wants to know some of the best autobiographies or memoirs by individuals with ADHD?
  • [1:00:08] Eric, Brendan, and Will share some of their favorites.
  • [1:02:22] Erica was just released from a job and wants to know if they have any suggestions for setting up a daily routine.
  • [1:05:04] Eric suggests planning out what she wants to do for that day and being accountable to a friend to complete it.
  • [1:08:04] Brendan shares some ideas with Erica for setting goals.
  • [1:09:49] Will speaks about getting an alarm clock that makes you get out of bed to turn it off.
  • [1:11:46] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

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Direct download: 339_August_2020_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Financial management is really emotional management. Welcome to this episode of ADHD reWired with your host Eric Tivers and his guest, Rick Webster. Rick is the CEO and Founder of Rena-Fi and has spent the last two decades deeply involved in the ADHD community, helping people with ADHD find solutions for their own challenges. Rick is on a mission to help people find their path to financial freedom.

Rick shares his ADHD journey, what prompted his diagnosis, his background in financing, and where the interest in financial matters came from. Rick believes that you need to stay in touch with your creditors when you can't pay, don't put your head in the sand and hope it will go away.

Listen, as Rick gives some tips and tricks to help you get control of your budget, don't be afraid of your accounts, check them every day, and some simple ways to track your spending, which is the first step in figuring out a budget. Rick also talks about some tools that can help you with tracking your expenses.

Rick speaks about paying back IRS taxes, putting money back for retirement, and how to know if you can afford a new car. He shares some insights on mortgages, the end-of-life conversation, and to hire a bookkeeper or someone else if you are struggling with keeping your accounts up to date.

Listen as Rick shares what his company is about and what they do to help people who are overwhelmed with their financials and need someone to dig them out of the abyss they have fallen into. This is a conversation you don't want to miss if any of this resonates with you.

You'll learn:

  • [02:17] Welcome to the show, Rick!
  • [02:49] Rick shares his journey with ADHD and how his life fell apart before his diagnosis.
  • [03:32] What is your background in financing?
  • [05:03] Rick shares where his interest in financing matters came from.
  • [07:20] Financial management is really emotional management.
  • [08:34] Rick discusses the need to stay in touch with your creditors and pull your head out of the sand.
  • [11:40] What do you recommend for people to get over the overwhelm of taking control of your budget.
  • [14:43] Eric says to touch the financial stuff every day.
  • [15:09] Rick speaks about people with ADHD being afraid of checking their accounts.
  • [16:50] What are some simple ways people can track their spending?
  • [19:14] Eric speaks about not knowing how much he has been paying his accountant because he wasn't paying attention.
  • [20:01] Rick shares some automated tools he recommends for helping keep track of stuff.
  • [22:36] Take half of your discretionary money and put it in your savings, year after year, and fifty percent of your raises.
  • [27:32] What do you recommend for people who haven't paid taxes for a few years?
  • [31:02] Reaching out to the IRS is less painful than emptying your checking account if you keep ignoring them.
  • [32:44] Rick speaks about how to know when you can afford a new car.
  • [38:21] How do you help people who have put nothing back for retirement?
  • [40:27] Don't save your extra money in your twenties, but in your thirties, save 50% of your raise, and you will do great at retirement.
  • [41:53] Rick discusses mortgages and whether you should pay more each month.
  • [44:59] Rick speaks about other ways to manage your debt.
  • [46:47] They talk about end-of-life care.
  • [48:22] You are your own best payer; paying your debts is better than investing elsewhere.
  • [50:53] If you struggle with math, hire a bookkeeper to help you.
  • [52:13] Rick talks about other professionals that can help keep you on track.
  • [55:04] How can you not pay someone to help you get your financial life straightened out?
  • [57:37] Rick speaks about his company and what they are about.
  • [59:01] Rick, thank you so much for being on the show!
  • [59:49] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: ADHD_338_Money_Management_w_Rick_Webster_from_Rena-Fi.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

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