Episode topic: ADHD, sex, desire discrepancy, intimacy, communication, kink, queerness, polyamory, and what happens when libido doesn’t match in relationships.

Content note: This episode includes candid adult conversation about sex, desire, libido, kink, dating apps, polyamory, and sexual communication.

Episode Summary

What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? What if ADHD affects libido in both directions? And what if “just do it” is actually some of the worst advice out there?

In this episode, Eric is joined by Laura Jurgens, a dual-certified master relationship and intimacy coach, desire and arousal specialist, and host of The Desire Gap podcast. Laura helps individuals and couples create more authentic sexual connection, including when one or both partners are neurodivergent.

Eric and Laura get into a candid, shame-free conversation about ADHD, sex, mismatched libido, desire discrepancies, rejection sensitivity, sensory needs, communication, and why so many people struggle to talk openly about what they actually want.

Laura explains why desire differences are incredibly common in long-term relationships, why obligation sex can create resentment and shut down libido, and how ADHD can shape both high and low desire. She also shares how people can begin reconnecting with their bodies, practicing self-attunement, and communicating more clearly with partners.

The conversation also explores sex positivity, kink positivity, queer dating, bisexuality, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and the importance of honest, embodied consent.

This episode is frank, playful, personal, and deeply human.

In This Episode, You’ll Hear About

• Why desire discrepancy is common in long-term relationships
• How ADHD can contribute to both high libido and low libido
• Why “just do it” is terrible advice for mismatched desire
• The difference between sex for connection and sex for nervous system regulation
• How obligation sex can lead to resentment, shutdown, pain, or sexual dysfunction
• Why a partner can start to feel like a “tool” or “medication” when sex becomes self-regulation
• The role of dopamine, novelty, and hyperfocus in ADHD sexuality
• Why some ADHDers struggle to get out of their heads and into their bodies
• How stress, burnout, and nervous system activation can shut down libido
• Why self-attunement is a key starting point for intimacy
• How alexithymia can complicate emotional and sexual communication
• What “sex positive” and “kink positive” can actually mean
• Why embodied consent matters more than intellectual “I guess this is fine” consent
• How kink communities can model explicit communication and negotiation
• The risks of opening a relationship when the relationship is already disconnected
• Why polyamory requires a high level of trust, communication, and self-awareness
• Dating while bisexual, queer, neurodivergent, or exploring new relational identities
• How to disclose needs and patterns without using ADHD as a “get out of jail free” card
• Why communicating about withdrawal, burnout, and alone time matters in relationships

Notable Moments / Quote Pulls

“Obligation sex is the worst possible advice.”

“If you are trying to manage your partner’s feelings with your body, that is a one-way ticket to resentment town.”

“Sex can become the way an ADHDer gets into their body and out of their head.”

“Your partner starts feeling like a tool or a medication rather than a person you authentically want to connect with.”

“Compatibility doesn’t mean there are no differences. It means there are differences you can navigate.”

“Do I love the sex I’m having? That’s a question a lot of people aren’t even asking themselves.”

“Practice with the kitten to play with the tiger.”

“Don’t yuck on someone else’s yum.”

“You don’t have to be evangelically polyamorous.”

Guest Bio

Laura Jurgens is a dual-certified master relationship and intimacy coach and host of The Desire Gap podcast. She is a desire and arousal specialist who helps individuals and couples discover authentic sexual connection, including when one or both partners are neurodivergent.

Her approach helps people release shame, shed relationship anxiety, and build confidence through more effective communication. Her work is play-based, practical, inclusive, trauma-informed, and grounded in current research.

Laura is a former university professor with a PhD in biological sciences, with certifications from the Somatica Institute, The Life Coach School, and the NeuroAffective Touch Institute.

Learn more about Laura at laurajurgens.com and listen to The Desire Gap podcast.

Resources & Links

• Learn more about Laura Jurgens: laurajurgens.com
• Listen to Laura’s podcast: The Desire Gap
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• Learn more about ADHD reWired: adhdrewired.com
• Join Adult Study Hall, our virtual coworking community: adultstudyhall.com
• Support the show on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired

Sponsor / Program Mention

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In this live Q&A episode, Eric Tivers and ADHD reWired coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts answer listener questions about the overlap between ADHD and autism (AuDHD), and how to better understand your brain through both coaching and therapy.

They explore how coaching and therapy serve different—but complementary—roles, especially when it comes to turning insight into action. You’ll hear practical examples of how to use each space effectively, whether you're job searching, working through burnout, or trying to follow through on what matters.

Eric also breaks down the concept of monotropism—a lesser-known but powerful way to understand autistic attention—and how it differs from ADHD hyperfocus.

Later in the episode, the conversation turns to late autism diagnosis, self-identification, and the emotional impact of finally understanding yourself through a new lens. Eric shares openly about his own diagnosis and how it’s shaped his relationships, self-compassion, and recovery from burnout.

They also tackle questions about:

• Why autism is often diagnosed earlier than ADHD in children
• How to advocate for your child when concerns are dismissed
• Auditory processing challenges and sensory sensitivity
• The growing conversation around self-diagnosis

This is a wide-ranging, honest, and deeply validating conversation about what it means to better understand how your brain works—and what to do with that understanding.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• Coaching helps with execution and follow-through, while therapy focuses on emotional processing
• Monotropism explains long-term, topic-based focus often seen in autistic individuals
• Late autism diagnosis can lead to increased self-compassion and clarity
• Self-diagnosis can be valid when grounded in thoughtful research and reflection
• Sensory and auditory processing challenges are often context- and stress-dependent
• Advocacy is essential when concerns about children are dismissed

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Registration events are happening Thursday and Friday.
The next group starts next week.

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This episode includes a short, experimental song made with Suno Ai explaining the coaching groups.
If you’re listening after the registration window closes, future groups will be announced on the website.

What if the reason you haven’t finished the thing you keep thinking about isn’t motivation, discipline, or follow-through — but fit?

In this episode, Eric is joined by Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD, an AuDHD coach, educator, and author, for a conversation that starts with writing a book and quickly becomes something much bigger: how neurodivergent adults actually get meaningful work done.

They explore why so many ADHD and AuDHD adults carry “someday projects” for years, how structure (not willpower) turns intention into action, and why unmasking isn’t just about identity — it’s about designing systems that work with your nervous system instead of against it.

Writing is the case study.
Adaptation is the point.

In This Episode, We Talk About

• Why motivation isn’t the real problem for ADHD and AuDHD adults

• How an interest-based nervous system shapes creativity and follow-through

• The role of structure, deadlines, and external accountability in finishing big projects

• ADHD, autism, and the balance between novelty and predictability

• Unmasking your process and letting go of “normal” ways of working

• Why you don’t have to love the process to do meaningful work

• Perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and surviving the one-star review

• Dictation, movement, printing drafts, and other non-traditional workflows

• How support, containers, and community make progress possible

A Key Takeaway

You don’t need to become more disciplined.
You need a container that fits.

When the system works for your brain, the work has a chance to happen.

About the Guest

Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD is an AuDHD coach, educator, and author. She holds a PhD in education, is trained through the International ADHD Coach Training Center and Impact Parents, and is currently studying to become a mental health counselor.

Katherine is the author of The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls and is currently working on her second book focused on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria.

• Website: https://catherinemuttidriscoll.com

• Book (The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls, New Harbinger):
  https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648482809/the-adhd-workbook-for-teen-girls/

Resources & Links Mentioned

• ADHD reWired (podcast, resources, and programs):
  https://www.adhdrewired.com

• ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups:
  https://www.adhdrewired.com/arc

• Adult Study Hall (ADHD-friendly virtual coworking):
  https://www.adultstudyhall.com 

• Internal Family Systems (IFS / parts work):
  https://ifs-institute.com

• Interest-Based Nervous System (ADDitude overview):
  https://www.additudemag.com/interest-based-adhd-nervous-system/ 

If you’ve ever had a week where your intentions were solid… and your follow-through vanished into the void, you’re not alone.

In this episode, Eric is joined by writer, teacher, and ADHD coach Paulette Perhach, who shares the FINISH framework: a simple, ADHD-friendly approach to actually completing projects, building consistency, and getting unstuck.

Paulette’s take is refreshingly honest: ADHD can feel like the superpower and the kryptonite at the same time. She talks about getting diagnosed at 38, learning to ask for accommodations without shame, and building systems that support creative work… even when your brain fights you every step of the way.

This conversation is part practical strategy, part nervous-system-friendly encouragement, and very “you’re not broken, you’re under-supported.”

✅ In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why ADHD brains often need “fake stakes” (engineered urgency) to follow through

• How to break big goals into small increments that create momentum

• The importance of nixing distractions (without relying on willpower)

• How to protect hyperfocus and use it intentionally instead of accidentally

• Why community and body doubling are so powerful for ADHD

• How self-compassion becomes a real strategy, not just a nice idea

• What to do when you’re having a “bad brain day” and can’t access your usual tools

🧠 The FINISH Framework (Six Elements to Finish Anything)

Paulette breaks down the acronym FINISH:

F — Fake Stakes

ADHD motivation often needs emotional urgency.
Fake stakes are “real enough” accountability: deadlines, commitments, public accountability, or putting something on the calendar that makes it harder to ghost your own goal.

I — Increment

Instead of “write the book,” aim for 500 words a day.
Small daily targets create dopamine, progress, and trust.

N — Nix Distractions

This is about designing your environment so you don’t have to wrestle your brain all day long.
Tools like app blockers (Freedom App) and external reminders can support focus.

I — Immerse

Make space to hyperfocus on purpose by doing the planning/admin work ahead of time.
Paulette calls this a weekly “writer’s refresh” to calm the nervous system and reduce background stress.

S — Share

Community matters. Body doubling matters.
Doing things with other people (even silently) can dramatically increase follow-through.

H — Hype

This one is about self-talk and emotional regulation.
Exercise, meditation, and kindness toward yourself aren’t luxuries, they’re performance tools for ADHD brains.

🔥 Standout Moments

• Paulette’s line: “My version of consistency is that I get back up every time I fall down.”

• The difference between luxury vs. accommodation, especially when traveling

• Eric’s take on requesting extra time to board flights and why it can be a legitimate accommodation

• The idea that shame doesn’t create change (it creates shutdown)

• Why ADHD-friendly success often looks like iteration, not perfection

🎧 ADHD-Friendly Takeaway

If your brain only gives you one usable step today, let it be this:

Pick the smallest thread you can hang onto to stay connected to the work.
Open the document. Read one paragraph. Write one sentence. Show up for one increment.

That counts.
That builds trust.

👤 About Paulette Perhach

Paulette Perhach is a writer, teacher, and ADHD coach who helps writers and creatives build sustainable, fulfilling creative lives. Her work has appeared in major outlets, and she leads writing and meditation sessions through her community programs.

🔗 Resources Mentioned

• Paulette Perhach (website): paulperhach.com

• Writer’s Mission Control Center: thewritermissioncontrolcenter.com

• Freedom App (distraction blocking)

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In the final Q&A of 2025, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired coach Brian for a candid, intimate conversation about ADHD, AuDHD, burnout recovery, unmasking, grief, and what it looks like to rebuild momentum without torching your nervous system in the process.

They answer listener questions ranging from “what I wish I knew before my autism diagnosis” to “what burnout actually looks like,” and they zoom out to something simple but powerful: community and accountability aren’t “nice extras,” they’re often the difference between knowing what helps and actually doing it.

Also: a listener puts Eric in the hot seat about getting back to pickleball… and it turns into real-time accountability, immediate action, and a follow-up update that he’s now going 3–4 times a week.

In this episode, we cover

• Personal updates: burnout recovery, nervous system capacity, and Eric’s autism diagnosis

• Why AuDHD can increase burnout risk (and why recovery can take longer than you expect)

• Brian’s reflections on exploring autism and recognizing long-term burnout patterns

• Unmasking: what it really means (beyond “coming out”) and how it impacts relationships

• The balance between honoring your needs while still caring about impact on others

• Grief and burnout: how loss affects the nervous system, energy, and expectations

• What burnout looks like in real life: apathy, feeling rudderless, skill regression, and “my usual motivators aren’t working”

• Eric’s working theme for the year: attunement (listening to self, body, and capacity)

• Favorite AI tools right now: thinking partner, planning support, and everyday practical use

• Autism assessment options in Chicago (including what worked for Eric)

• A playful-but-serious accountability moment that leads to real behavior change

Listener Q&A highlights

What are your favorite AI tools right now?

Eric and Brian share how they’re using ChatGPT in everyday life and personal/professional planning, including using AI to organize thoughts, support self-reflection, help with decisions, and even analyze photos for practical problem-solving.

What do you wish you’d known before being diagnosed autistic?

Eric talks about high-masking autism, and how repeated success can quietly raise internal expectations year after year… until the nervous system taps out.

How has grief impacted your nervous system and burnout?

Eric reflects on losing his dad (and grandmother), how grief shows up unexpectedly, and choosing to let grief be grief rather than trying to “bounce back” on a schedule.

What does burnout look like for you?

Eric describes burnout as apathy, feeling rudderless, needing far more recovery time, anxiety no longer activating last-minute productivity, and struggling to do even the helpful things (like exercise/pickleball).

What’s the smallest step I can take to get back into pickleball?

A listener challenges Eric to take one tiny step… and it becomes immediate action, membership sign-up, and later consistency.

Resources mentioned

ADHD reWired (podcast, programs, and more):
https://www.adhdrewired.com

Learn about Coaching & Accountability Groups:
https://www.coachingrewired.com

Adult Study Hall (virtual coworking + community):
https://www.adultstudyhall.com

Support the show on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/adhdrewired

Prosper Health (online autism evaluations):
https://www.prosperhealth.io

Devon Price (author + clinician mentioned in the episode):
https://www.drdevonprice.com

Key takeaway

Burnout recovery isn’t linear. For AuDHD folks especially, the cycle of “I feel better → I go full throttle → I crash again” can repeat fast. This episode is a reminder that community and accountability aren’t just support… they’re infrastructure.

Next live Q&A

March 10 at 12:30 PM Central

“I’m Fine”: What My Dad Taught Me About Resisting Help

On August 14th, my dad passed away. In the weeks since, I’ve been reflecting on his life, his humor, his resilience — and his signature phrase: “I’m fine.”

He said it when he was hooked up to machines in the hospital. He said it when he was on the roof cleaning gutters, even though his balance was shot. And most of the time, he wasn’t fine at all.

In this episode, I share some of the lessons I learned from my dad about adapting — and about the cost of resisting it. From the adult trike he never would have bought for himself, to the senior living community he resisted but came to love, my dad’s story is a mirror for the ways we all struggle with change, masking, and accepting support.

I also talk about my own journey: being diagnosed with ADHD at 19, and more recently, with autism — a diagnosis that really came into focus during a season of burnout. Like my dad, I’ve had to learn that determination isn’t enough. Saying “I’m fine” isn’t enough. What matters is adapting — and allowing ourselves to receive help when we need it.

If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’m fine” when you’re not, this one’s for you.

In This Episode

• The phrase my dad used that wasn’t always true — “I’m fine.”

• How his resistance to adapting shaped my understanding of masking.

• The trike that gave him joy he wouldn’t have chosen for himself.

• Why moving into a senior living community became one of the best decisions he never wanted to make.

• What his struggles taught me about ADHD, autism, burnout, and learning to adapt.

Resources & Links

• Learn more about ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com

• Join our virtual co-working community: adultstudyhall.com

• Support the podcast on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired

🧠 Episode Summary:

Are you building a business (or a life) that supports your life—or one that runs you into the ground?

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by business systems coach and automation strategist Stephanie Blake. Diagnosed with ADHD later in life, Stephanie shares how simplifying her business, embracing structure, and getting honest about burnout helped her reclaim her energy and build a business that works for her, not the other way around.

They talk about the unique ways ADHD brains thrive with streamlined systems, why too many tools can be a trap, and how authenticity and self-awareness fuel sustainable success. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed trying to do all the things, this episode is your permission slip to do less—better.

You’ll also hear tips for where to start with automation, how to avoid shiny object syndrome, and why consistency matters more than complexity.

⏱️ Timestamps & Topics:

00:00 – Intro
02:02 – Stephanie's story: diagnosis, business, and burnout
06:11 – “Simplify to scale”: the ADHD-friendly approach to business
11:58 – Tools and systems that actually help (and what to ditch)
18:05 – Where to start with automation (without breaking your brain)
21:42 – The myth of doing it all—and why solo doesn’t mean alone
26:39 – What’s behind our addiction to new tools
30:14 – The power of community and authenticity in building your brand
35:20 – Why revisiting your systems is a must, not a maybe
38:17 – Final thoughts: automate the right things, at the right time
40:36 – Learn more from Stephanie + Fall Coaching Groups are open!

👤 Guest Bio:

Stephanie Blake is the founder of the Simple Business School and Simple Business Suites. She helps entrepreneurs scale to six figures and beyond by simplifying their business systems, automating strategically, and building offers that align with their values. As a mom, a CEO, and an ADHDer, Stephanie believes in doing business your way—and building something that lasts.

🌐 Learn more at: theblakecollective.com
📱 Instagram: @theblakecollective

🔧 Tools & Resources Mentioned:

• ClickUp – Project Management

• Airtable – Databases / Organizing Everything

• Zapier – Automation

• StreamYard – Live Streaming Platform

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What does it really mean to know when to push, when to pause, and when to let go? In this heartfelt conversation, Dr. Portia Preston returns to ADHD reWired to share insights from her book Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go? We talk about burnout, shame-free wellness, and the small practices that can help us create a more sustainable rhythm in life.

This episode weaves together stories of resilience and grief, the reality of living with ADHD and autism, and Portia’s SANE model (Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate)—a simple framework to help you reset when overwhelm takes over. We also talk about support squads, the hidden cost of hustle culture, and what it means to choose rest without shame.

If you’ve been running on empty, carrying grief, or just wondering if there’s another way forward, this conversation is for you.

00:00 – Introduction: Shame Free Wellness and unlearning harmful beliefs
01:07 – Welcome to ADHD Rewired, host Eric Tivers introduces the show
01:31 – Eric shares personal news: loss of his father and recent illness
03:06 – Portia Preston joins: author, speaker, and executive coach
05:36 – Portia discusses the motivation behind her book and the concept of sustainable rhythm
07:54 – The SANE Cycle: a four-step process for self-reflection and growth
08:49 – Book launch experiences, balancing promotion, and authenticity
10:57 – Defining “hustle” and “flow” in the context of wellness
13:00 – Letting go: the challenge and importance of releasing what doesn’t serve you
15:21 – The SANE model explained: Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate
17:06 – Portia’s favorite part of the book and audience reactions
17:52 – Break: Coaching and accountability group info
  - ADHD Rewired Coaching & Accountability Groups
  - ADHD Rewired Virtual Coworking Community
18:48 – Grief, burnout, and the importance of sitting with discomfort
22:00 – Building a support squad and the difference between solitude and isolation
25:00 – Neurodivergence, intersectionality, and Portia’s experience as a Black woman with ADHD and autism
29:00 – Audience feedback on the book and the importance of vulnerability
33:00 – Shame Free Wellness Manifesto (read aloud)
35:44 – The importance of rest, authenticity, and self-acceptance
39:00 – Context shifting, capacity vs. discipline, and self-compassion
  - Dr. Raquel Martin on Instagram: @drraquelmartin
43:00 – Teaching students about shame-free wellness and legacy
46:00 – Grief, community, and turning pain into purpose
49:00 – The value of showing up authentically and embracing imperfection
52:00 – Where to find Portia’s book and connect online
  - Book: “Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go: A Guide to Shame-Free Wellness”
   • PortiaPreston.com
   • Amazon Book Link
  - Instagram: @drportiapreston
54:00 – Closing thoughts: SANE model reminder and encouragement
56:00 – Outro: gratitude and next steps

People-pleasing isn’t a personality flaw—often it’s a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to unpack how the fawn response shows up with ADHD, trauma, and RSD; how it differs from masking and conflict avoidance; and what real change looks like. We cover Anita’s “Empower → Resilient → Authentic” model, ADHD-friendly EMDR adaptations, and the messy-but-worth-it work of boundaries (including with narcissistic family dynamics).
Resources, Anita’s links, and a quick survey about a potential evening coaching group are in the full notes at ADHDreWired.com.

Guest: Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, EMDR-Certified, ADHD-CCSP — therapist, supervisor, and author of Broken Chains (English & Spanish). Host of Empowering Women in Conversations and creator of Empower Her Pathways.

We cover:

• People-pleasing as a neuro-adaptive response (fight/flight/freeze/fawn)

• People-pleasing vs. conflict avoidance vs. masking

• ADHD & RSD: why “neutral” feedback stings and how regulation shifts it

• Differentiating from personality disorders (dependent/BPD)

• Hypervigilance, ACEs, and emotional regulation circuits

• Boundaries with narcissistic dynamics (including the “victim narcissist” pattern)

• Anita’s staged model (Stages of Change × grief work): Unaware → Aware → Ready → Action → Maintenance → Integration (Empowered → Resilient → Authentic)

• Therapies that help ADHD brains: EMDR with resourcing, IFS/parts work, polyvagal-informed regulation

• Eric’s EMDR story: from trigger spirals to co-regulation

Try this:
Notice your next automatic “yes.” Ask: Is this aligned with my values, or is my nervous system chasing safety? Then practice one tiny boundary this week and track before/during/after.

Resources mentioned:

• Anita Sandoval — anitasandoval.com (course: Empower Her Pathways)

• Broken Chains (English/Spanish)

• Dr. Ramani’s work on narcissism (Should I Stay or Should I Go?)

• Modalities: EMDR, IFS/Parts, Polyvagal-informed approaches

Coaching & community:

• Evening Coaching Group — interest survey
  We’re exploring a fall evening section (proposed Wed, Sept 18 • 5pm PT / 8pm ET) led by ADHD reWired Coach & LCSW Kristin Marts, at a budget-friendly rate (starting at $999) if we move forward. Deadline to weigh in: Aug 15. Take the short survey at www.coachingrewired.com. 
  Complete the survey to enter to win 6 months free in our Alumni community ($240 value) or 1 year free of Adult Study Hall ($240 value).

• Adult Study Hall (ASH) — virtual co-working & body doubling. Free 1-week trial, then $19.99/mo or $150/yr at www.adultstudyhall.com.

Connect with Anita: www.anitasandoval.com | Podcast: Empowering Women in Conversations

What is OCD, really? It’s far more than the stereotypes of handwashing, tapping, or lining up your pens just right. On today’s episode, Eric is joined by Natalia Aíza — a therapist, parent, writer, and co-founder of Kairos Wellness Collective — who specializes in supporting individuals and families navigating OCD and anxiety. Together, they explore how OCD can show up in less obvious ways, especially for those with ADHD.

You’ll hear:

✅ Why OCD is often missed or misdiagnosed in ADHD brains
✅ How intense nostalgia, perfectionism, and social media checking can all be forms of OCD
✅ The difference between typical anxiety and OCD
✅ Why intrusive thoughts don’t define you
✅ How exposure response prevention (ERP) and medication can help
✅ Eric’s own reflections on healing unexpected layers through EMDR and discovering his autism

If you’ve ever felt stuck in mental loops, struggled with perfectionism, or wondered whether your patterns might be more than “just” ADHD, this episode is for you.

Learn more about Natalia Aiza and Kairos Wellness Collective:
👉 Instagram: @letstalk.ocd
👉 Kairos Wellness Collective: kairoswellnesscollective.com
👉 Email: natalia@kairoswellnesscollective.com

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Episode Overview:
In this episode, Eric is joined by Ari Tuckman, PSY.D, MBA, psychologist, international presenter, and author of the new "ADHD Productivity Manual." Together, they dive deep into the realities of productivity for people with ADHD, exploring motivation, activation, self-compassion, and practical strategies for getting things done.

Key Topics Discussed:

• The difference between motivation and activation, and why both matter for ADHD brains
• How perfectionism and unrealistic expectations can sabotage progress
• The importance of understanding your "why" for each task, not just the "what"
• Social aspects of productivity: people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and communicating when you can’t meet a deadline
• Real-world strategies and creative hacks from Ari, Eric, and their clients (including timers, accountability, and engineering urgency)
• The value of celebrating small wins and tracking progress over time
• Self-compassion and letting go of impossible standards
• How to build systems that work for your unique brain, not just follow generic advice

Guest Bio:
Dr. Ari Tuckman is a leading ADHD expert, psychologist, and author of five books, including the "ADHD Productivity Manual." He brings decades of clinical experience and a practical, compassionate approach to helping people thrive with ADHD.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Ari and his books: adultadhdbook.com
• Join ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com
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Support the Show:

• Become a patron for bonus content and monthly coaching calls: adhdrewired.com/patreon
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Takeaway:
You’re not broken, and you don’t have to do hard things the hardest way or alone. Progress is possible—one step, one system, and one act of self-compassion at a time.

Thanks for listening!

🎧 Special Announcement: Alumni Voices + Your Chance to Join ADHD reWired

In this special announcement episode of ADHD reWired, Eric shares something a little different: a powerful 10-minute audio montage of alumni from our most recent coaching group — voices from ADHDers just like you who finished the program not long ago.

You’ll hear, in their own words, why they joined, what they were struggling with, and what changed for them over 8 weeks of coaching, accountability, and connection. From burnout and overwhelm to self-doubt and shame, these stories highlight the real transformations that can happen with the right support.

👉 Our second-chance registration event is Thursday, June 26th at 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern!
✅ Pre-registration is due by Wednesday, June 25th at least 24 hours before the event.

📝 Session details:

• Mondays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays

• 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern

• July 24th through September 18th

💥 Ready to join us? Here’s your next step:
1️⃣ Go to coachingrewired.com
2️⃣ If you’re not already on our interest list, click the button to join
3️⃣ Check your email and confirm your address so you don’t miss anything

When you join the interest list, you’ll also get:

• A free time tracker we use in group

• A letter you can share with your employer about the program

🎧 Even if joining this season isn’t possible for you, we hope these alumni stories remind you:
👉 You’re not alone.
👉 You can do hard things — and you don’t have to do them the hardest way possible.

🎧 Episode Overview

Join host Eric Tivers and three incredible panelists—Nathan James, Meg Zirger, and Christal Wang—for the second-annual Neurodivergent Queer Pride panel, organized by Shimmer. In this landmark conversation, we explore:

• Masking vs. Unmasking: Why hiding feels safe and how reclaiming your authentic self fuels resilience.

• Intersectional Identities: How ADHD, autism, and LGBTQ+ pride intersect—and why that intersection is a source of strength.

• Political Climate & Pride: Strategies for holding onto joy and courage when the world feels heavy.

• Power of Community: From isolation to solidarity—why peer support is essential for lasting change.

Whether you’re neurodivergent, queer, an ally, or simply curious, this panel offers actionable insights, heartfelt stories, and affirmations to help you thrive.

🎯 Key Takeaways

1. Masking Is Exhausting

   • Childhood “survival mode” often becomes adult burnout.

   • Unmasking is an ongoing, courageous process of self-discovery.

2. ADHD + Queer = Unique Superpower

   • Both identities challenge “scripts” society hands us.

   • Embracing difference unlocks creativity, empathy, and authenticity.

3. Pride Under Pressure

   • Celebrate safely: balance vigilance with joy.

   • Collective conversation and advocacy build courage.

4. Community as Catalyst

   • Small cohorts and online groups reduce shame and spark accountability.

   • Shared experiences create “me-too” moments that heal and empower.

⏱️ Timestamps

• 00:00 Welcome & Episode Intro

• 01:04 What Is Neurodivergent Queer Pride?

• 03:07 Panelist Introductions & Backgrounds

• 09:30 Personal Identity Journeys: “Scripts” & Masking

• 17:36 Societal Expectations: Fitting In vs. Standing Out

• 29:18 Deep Dive on Masking & Self-Acceptance

• 38:59 Holding Pride in a Difficult Political Climate

• 48:12 The Role of Community in Connection & Healing

• 54:48 Final Affirmations & Advice

• 57:41 Closing Thoughts & Next Steps

🔗 Resources & Links

• Join ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups (Season 41)
  ▸ Live kickoff: Wed, June 18 • 2 PM CT
  ▸ Pre-registration due: Tue, June 17 • 2 PM CT
  ▸ 👉 https://www.coachingrewired.com

• Shimmer (Episode organizer; online ADHD coaching platform)
  ▸ Co-founder & panel host: Christal Wang
  👉 https://www.shimmerplatform.com

• Adult Study Hall (24/7 ADHD-friendly coworking)
  👉 https://www.adultstudyhall.com

💡 Next Steps

1. Subscribe to ADHD reWired so you never miss an episode.

2. Share this episode with friends who identify as neurodivergent, queer, or allies.

3. Explore our summer Coaching & Accountability Groups to turn these insights into real-world growth.

Your whole self belongs. Let’s celebrate, connect, and thrive—together.

In episode 550 of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers sits down with Dr. Shannan Palma to explore Decide—a suite of AI-powered decision-support tools built by and for neurodivergent brains. Throughout this conversation, you’ll hear about:

• How Decide leverages AI (Gemini and large language models) to help with everyday choices and multi-step tasks.

• The story behind IT Assistive Technologies and the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network.

• Real-world examples of “decision fatigue” and how Decide’s guided and randomized features ease choice paralysis.

• The balance between AI assistance and human insight—and why a trusting, well-prompted tool can feel like a personal neurodivergent life coach.

• Pricing, privacy, and the community-focused mission: 85 percent of ITI’s profits fund disability-led initiatives.

• Bonus segments on Pride Month, coaching groups, virtual coworking, and how to get involved with ADHD reWired’s summer programs.

Use these show notes to get a quick overview, find useful links, and discover why Decide might become your new go-to when you’re stuck choosing dinner, figuring out a daily routine, or simply need a gentle “nudge” to move forward.

Episode Summary

Dr. Shannan Palma—co-founder of Decide and co-director of the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network—joins Eric to unpack how tools designed by autistic and ADHD adults can transform decision making for all of us. Shannan shares her own late autism and ADHD diagnoses, the challenges she faced finding resources after getting “the piece of paper,” and how a 48-hour hackathon sparked a project that won first prize and secured nearly $400 k in grant funding.

From door-dash dilemmas to life-altering choices (like whether to adopt a foster dog), Decide offers two core modes:

1. Randomized Choice Generator

   • Users create custom lists (e.g., favorite restaurants, daily routines) and assign energy costs.

   • The app selects an option based on your current energy level—no more breakfast indecision or “what to watch next” paralysis.

2. Guided Decision Assistance

   • A series of friendly, “affirmative” prompts mirror a real-time coach.

   • By reflecting back your own criteria (energy, resources, priorities), Decide delivers a percentage-confidence recommendation and rationale—so you can make a defensible, informed choice without overthinking.

Along the way, Shannan emphasizes the importance of privacy (your data always belongs to you), ethical AI (focusing on “do no harm”), and how Decide’s freemium model avoids the “ADHD tax” by offering 10 free guided decisions per month. Premium access is available for $4.99/month, but you can cancel at any time without losing progress.

Key Takeaways

• Why “Decision Fatigue” Matters:

  • Neurodivergent brains often struggle with countless small choices (e.g., “What’s for dinner?”).

  • Decide’s randomized generator isn’t just for fun—it reduces executive-function load by factoring in your energy level and pre-ranked options.

• Guided Mode = Personalized Neurodivergent Coaching:

  • Instead of writing complex prompts for ChatGPT or Claude, Decide asks you targeted yes/no/unsure questions.

  • Once you answer, it gives a clear recommendation (with a confidence score) plus a brief “why,” so you trust your decision-making process.

• Built by Autistic + ADHD Makers:

  • After Shannan’s late autism diagnosis, she realized few supports existed for lower-visibility autistic adults.

  • A 48-hour hackathon (Give Back Hack Columbus) brought together autistic and ADHD engineers, designers, and researchers—leading to Decide’s prototype and subsequent $400 k grant from Ohio’s Department of Developmental Disabilities.

• Community-First Funding Model:

  • 85 percent of any IT Assistive Technologies’ profits flow back to the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network (ASR).

  • ASR focuses on autonomy and resources for autistic adults—rather than caregiver research—aiming to expand capacity and economic inclusion across the lifespan.

• Privacy & Data Rights:

  • Decide won’t train AI on your personal data, and you retain full ownership of anything you input.

  • Future plans include an opt-in research repository for autistic/ADHD lifespan data—governed by community safeguards.

• Bonus: Pride Month & ADHD ReWired Community Updates:

  • Neurodivergent Pride Panel: Friday, June 13th at 10 AM PT / 1 PM ET (free registration at adhdrewired.com/pride2025).

  • Summer Coaching Groups kick off July 24th—save $200 by joining the registration kickoff on June 18th (more info at coachingrewired.com).

  • Adult Study Hall: Virtual coworking with monthly “Pomodoro Dance Parties” (4th Friday, Pride-themed on June 27th). Try a 1-week free trial at adultstudyhall.com.

  • Next Live Q&A: Tuesday, June 10th at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM ET (become a Patron at patreon.com/adhdrewired for behind-the-scenes coaching calls).

Resources & Links

• Decide AI Decision Assistant
  • Web: iassist.com/decide
  • App Store (iOS) & Google Play (Android)
  • Guided decisions: 10 free/month; Premium: $4.99/month (cancel anytime)

• Dr. Shannan Palma & IT Assistive Technologies
  • IT Assistive Technologies (for-profit): itassist.com
  • Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network (non-profit): autisticselfreliance.org
  • LinkedIn: Shannan Palma (mention you heard the podcast!)

• Neurodivergent Pride & June Events
  • Neurodivergent Pride Panel (June 13): adhdrewired.com/pride2025
  • Adult Study Hall Pomodoro Dance Party (June 27): adultstudyhall.com

• ADHD ReWired Coaching & Community
  • Summer Coaching Groups (start July 24): coachingrewired.com
  • Live Q&A (June 10): RSVP details sent to interest list
  • Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired

• Books & References
  • Annie Duke, Thinking in Bets (on decision quality vs. outcome quality)
  • “Selling Out the Spectrum” by Ryan E. Conviction (autistic journalist on research ethics)

Summer coaching groups start on July 24th. LIstners can save $200 by signing up at the registration kickoff event on June 18th. Learn more and get on the interest list at www.coachingrewired.com 

Eric shares updates about prioritizing sustainable energy practices and coping with recent family challenges, including the passing of his grandmother and his father's health issues. 

The main segment features Dr. Shannon Palma, founder and CEO of ITI Assistive Technologies, discussing her late autism and ADHD diagnoses. She shares insights into her decades-long journey with executive function challenges, her comprehensive self-diagnosis process, and the development of support tools for neurodivergent adults.

Shannon and Eric delve deeply into the nuances of autistic and ADHD burnout, the differences between autistic burnout and occupational burnout, and the challenges of masking and managing sensory sensitivities. The episode also reveals the host's own recent autism diagnosis, providing a reflective and personal perspective on understanding neurodivergence.

The episode wraps up with contact information and a teaser for a follow-up episode focusing more on Shannon's work and the host's continued exploration of his diagnosis.

https://itiassist.com  

https://autisticselfreliance.org/ 

00:00 Introduction and Announcements

02:30 Eric’s Personal Updates and Challenges

05:12 Guest Introduction: Dr. Shannon Palma

06:32 Shannon's Diagnosis Journey

09:42 Sensory Sensitivities and Family Traits

16:56 Burnout and Neurodivergence

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26:56 Support and Community

28:36 Join Coaching Rewired This Summer

28:42 Introducing Adult Study Hall

30:54 Exploring Autism and ADHD

34:12 Self-Diagnosis and Professional Insights

35:29 Navigating Social Cues and Sensory Sensitivities

40:35 Understanding Neural Processing

46:56 Social Interactions and Coping Strategies

53:37 Wrapping Up and Contact Information

What happens when two ADHDers realize there's more to the story?

In this deeply personal and exploratory episode, Eric is joined by his friend and fellow coach, Portia Jackson Preston, for an honest, vulnerable, and unmasked conversation about discovering—later in life—that they’re not just ADHD… they're also autistic.

April is Autism Acceptance Month and there’s no better time to peel back the layers. Eric and Portia share their parallel journeys of exploring what it means to be AuDHD, how autism was hiding in plain sight for both of them, and how late diagnosis is reshaping their self-understanding, their relationships, their parenting, and their work.

Together, they unpack:

• What unmasking looks like—and feels like—especially when it's not a conscious choice

• Why self-diagnosis is valid and often necessary

• How intersecting identities impact recognition and diagnosis

• The grief and growth that come with seeing your past through a new lens

• Why autistic burnout hit both of them so hard (and what they’re doing now to recover)

• And how this shift is impacting their businesses, boundaries, and sense of self

You’ll also hear about how EMDR therapy played a pivotal role in both of their journeys, how the Johari Window concept reframed Eric’s understanding of his blind spots, and how reconnecting with their full, authentic selves has allowed for deeper joy—even in the weirdest places (like dancing at a Phish show with hand flaps in full glory).

This is the kind of conversation that gives others permission to explore, to question, and to be.

👉 Related links & resources:

• Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price

• Unmasking for Life by Dr. Devon Price

• Coaching Groups at ADHD reWired

• Virtual CoWorking with Adult Study Hall

• Portia Jackson Preston on Instagram: @portiasjourney

🎧 Takeaways:

• Unmasking isn’t a one-time event—it’s a process.

• Late diagnosis can be both a relief and a reckoning.

• Self-compassion isn’t optional; it’s a survival tool.

• You don’t have to prove your neurodivergence to anyone.

• It’s okay to change. It’s okay to grieve. And it’s okay to rest.

🎙 Guest Info: Today's guest, Elise Fillmore, is a queer and neurodivergent financial educator, bestselling author, and the founder of QueerdCo Elise focuses on identity-based finance, helping people navigate money through the lens of their lived experiences, challenges, and strengths. She’s also the author of Keeping Finance Personal and the host of the Dopamine Dollars podcast.

💡 Episode Highlights:

• How traditional financial advice often fails neurodivergent people
• Why financial planning should be tailored to your identity, lifestyle, and brain
• Strategies for making money management less overwhelming and more engaging
• The importance of automation and dopamine-driven finance systems
• Why shame and financial struggles are often systemic, not personal failings
• Common financial myths and why some mainstream advice (like Dave Ramsey’s) doesn’t work for ADHDers
• Practical ways to infuse joy into budgeting and create sustainable financial habits
• How to set up "fun money" accounts and make saving more rewarding
• Why financial tools and strategies “expire” for ADHDers – and what to do about it
• The role of external accountability in managing money

📌 Resources & Links:

• Elise Fillmore's Website: www.queerdco.com
• Instagram: @elisefillmore
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ellycefulmore 
• Book: Keeping Finance Personal – Available in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook https://amzn.to/3FxRpCf 
• Podcast: Dopamine Dollars – Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and more

🔗 Mentioned in This Episode:

• DOPA Menu: A list of dopamine-boosting activities to help manage impulsive spending

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In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers welcomes Chris Hooten, a LinkedIn Top Facilitation Voice and certified neuro-mindfulness coach. With over 15 years of experience, Chris specializes in helping neurodiverse organizations foster inclusive communication, leadership, and workplace strategies.

Eric begins the episode with a personal update, sharing his ongoing journey of overcoming burnout and a recent formal autism evaluation. He also highlights his interviews on Chasing Life with Dr. Sanjay Gupta and Entrepreneur on Fire, as well as the pressing need for advocacy in the face of recent policy changes that threaten diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives.

The core discussion revolves around communication challenges in neurodivergent teams and how traditional workplace structures often fail to accommodate neurodiverse employees. Chris introduces the 4D Model of Neuroinclusive Communication—a framework designed to improve communication by making it more descriptive, deliberate, direct, and diverse. They discuss common workplace miscommunication issues, the pitfalls of platforms like Slack for neurodivergent individuals, and how managers can foster psychological safety.

Chris also explores the systemic barriers that impact neurodivergent and marginalized individuals in professional spaces. They emphasize shifting away from medicalized, deficit-based narratives about neurodiversity and adopting an intersectional, affirming approach that values lived experiences.

Eric and Chris conclude by reflecting on the evolving nature of work, the need for workplace wellness, and how neurodivergent individuals are often the first to recognize unsustainable work environments. Chris shares insights on fostering genuine inclusion rather than performative DEI efforts and provides strategies for improving workplace culture.

🔗 Find Chris Hooten: ChrisHootenConsulting.com | LinkedIn | Instagram

💡 Resources & Announcements:

• Pre-registration is now open for the ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups. Secure your spot at coachingrewired.com.
• Spring Sessions April 24 - June 19th.
• Join Adult Study Hall for virtual co-working and upcoming Zentangle workshops at adultstudyhall.com.
• Support the show on Patreon at patreon.com/ADHDrewired.

🎧 Listen Now! Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast app!

Contact Chris at 

https://chrishootenconsulting.com/

ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups: www.coachingrewired.com

Adult Study Hall: www.adultstudyhall.com

Eric on the Chasing Life Podcast - https://www.cnn.com/audio/podcasts/chasing-life/episodes/af3c5cb0-37bb-11ef-8219-ab8d404559ae

Eric on Entrepuner on Fire https://www.eofire.com/podcast/erictivers2/

5 Calls https://5calls.org/

In this episode of ADHD reWired, I’m pulling back the curtain on two intertwined journeys: my own path toward sustainability and the incredible growth story of Jessica, an alumna of our ADHD Coaching and Accountability Groups. As I’ve navigated my own challenges with burnout and the pressures of juggling too much, I’ve made a commitment this year to focus on what matters most. My word for the year—sustainability—has reshaped how I approach my work, my energy, and even this podcast.

Jessica’s story adds another layer of depth to this episode. After feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected while pursuing her PhD, Jessica joined our fall coaching group. Through her deeply personal and reflective audio journal, she shares how the program helped her build sustainable systems, reconnect with her goals, and find the motivation to tackle her work and her life with renewed energy. From discovering the power of accountability teams to replacing old habits with more supportive ones, Jessica’s transformation offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to live more intentionally with ADHD.

This season, we’ve made changes to our coaching program to better support ADHDers like you. Now 8 weeks instead of 10, the program is more focused and accessible. We’ve also introduced on-demand access to our yearly planning sessions, allowing you to go at your own pace. These adjustments reflect the principle that less is truly more when it comes to creating meaningful and lasting growth.

The final registration events for our Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups are Wednesday and Thursday of this week, so now is the time to take the next step. If you’re ready to stop juggling fireballs and start building a more sustainable, ADHD-friendly life, visit coachingrewired.com to pre-register today.

Tune in to hear Jessica’s story, learn more about what makes our coaching groups so transformative, and find inspiration to start your own growth journey. Together, let’s challenge internalized ableism and reimagine what it means to thrive with ADHD.

Eric Tivers continues to reflect on his journey of overcoming burnout and seeking solutions for long-term sustainable energy management.

ADHD at 80 MPH is a nod to the last episode recorded in the car about 9 years ago. Episode 47 called ADHD at 55 MPH.

Recording from his car during a road trip, Eric shares his experiences of taking a solo retreat to recharge and refocus and to think about yearly planning. He discusses his efforts to rebalance his work and personal needs, and some insights he's recently gained.

The episode also touches on his continued discovery of being autistic alongside having ADHD and how it's shaping his approach to life and business. 

Eric also announces the opening of registration for winter coaching and accountability groups, reflecting on the value of community and structured support for ADHD individuals. The episode concludes with hearing from some recent coaching group alumi and with logistical details about upcoming coaching sessions and community events.

Registration for our winter groups starts Jan. 3, 2025. 
Winter sessions are January 30 - March 27.
Add your name to our interest list at www.coachingrewired.com

It's not to late to do your yearly planning with ADHD reWired in Adult Study Hall. Our 5-part yearly planning series is available on demand for Adult Study Hall Members. Join today. It's only $19.99 a month, or save with an annual membership for only $150 for the year. 

You can also support this work on Patreon. 

*Note - There will be no Monthly Patreon Coaching Call, or Pomodoro Dance Party for Adult Study Hall Members in December. But we'll be back in January. 

And We're Back!!!

In episode 543 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers returns to mark a new beginning for the podcast. Eric focuses this episode on recognizing and overcoming burnout. After 10 years of weekly episodes, plus other stressors in business and life,  the pace became unsustainable, leading him to experience significant burnout.

Eric elaborates on these elements of burnout, describing emotional exhaustion as a deep-seated fatigue that impacts life engagement, depersonalization as growing detachment and cynicism towards work, and diminished personal achievement as a sense of ineffectiveness despite efforts.

He recounts personal struggles, including a divorce and other stressors that exacerbated his burnout. Eric discusses the importance of meaningful alone time to recharge, using his motorcycle trips as an example of finding mental clarity and rebalancing life. He also outlines changes in his coaching seasons to ensure sustainability.

Additionally, Eric introduces a new offering for Adult Study Hall where he will be leading members through a 5-week guided workshop for planning your year beginning November 20th, 2024. 

Learn more at www.AdultStudyHall.com - Plus sign up with our new annual plan and get 37% off your membership.

Join us for our Live Monthly Q &A every 2nd Tuesday of the Month at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM PT. RSVP at www.adhdrewired.com/events

Support ADHD reWired by becoming a Patron at www.Patreon.com/adhdrewired

00:00 Welcome to ADHD reWired

01:19 Introduction to Season Two

02:40 Understanding Burnout

03:19 Emotional Exhaustion

04:48 Depersonalization and Cynicism

06:02 Reduced Personal Accomplishment

07:57 Diagnosing Burnout

09:47 Personal Journey and Realizations

13:03 Rebalancing Life and Work

14:25 Upcoming Coaching Groups and Community Events

18:50 Yearly Planning Sessions

21:27 Conclusion and Future Plans

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by Mattia Mauree, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AUDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, as they navigate trauma, self-expression, and what they describe as "attention tunnels."

Mattia opens up about their personal journey, discussing the impact of complex PTSD, disordered eating, and their late diagnoses of ADHD and autism. They explain how monotropism—having a narrower field of focus—shapes their experience as a neurodivergent person. Through the lens of monotropism, Mattia explores how being stuck in an attention tunnel can make transitioning to different tasks or social situations feel overwhelming and distressing.

Eric and Mattia dive deep into the intersections of trauma and neurodivergence, examining how neurodivergent brains may be more easily traumatized, especially in environments that fail to meet their unique needs. They discuss the profound impact of neurodivergent parents raising neurodivergent children and the challenges of navigating systems that don’t support their differences.

This conversation also highlights the importance of self-expression in healing and flourishing. Mattia explains how self-expression, rather than achievement, has become central to their definition of success, emphasizing the importance of creating work that resonates emotionally, even if it doesn't fit the traditional metrics of success.

Other topics discussed include:

• The connection between hyperfocus and monotropism in ADHD and autism
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• How Mattia balances creativity, self-care, and flourishing as a neurodivergent individual
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• The complexity of navigating trauma in neurodivergent families
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• The importance of community and support systems for neurodivergent creatives and entrepreneurs

This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the complex interplay of trauma, neurodivergence, and flourishing. Whether you identify as neurodivergent or are simply curious about these experiences, this conversation offers valuable insights into the importance of creating space for self-expression, healing, and growth.

Connect with Mattia Mauree:

• Website: AUDHDFlourishing.com
•  
• Podcast: AUDHD Flourishing

Support ADHD reWired on Patreon:

If you’ve enjoyed this episode and want to support the podcast, consider becoming a patron at ADHDrewired.com/Patreon. Your support helps keep the podcast going and brings more episodes to listeners like you!

Join ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups:

Our coaching groups return this fall! Learn how to manage your ADHD more effectively in a supportive, community-based program. Visit coachingrewired.com to get all the details.

In episode 541 host Eric Tivers speaks with licensed marriage and family therapist Alex Bache about digital addiction and its impact on ADHD, anxiety disorders, and OCD, particularly in adolescents and young adults. The discussion covers identifying behavioral addictions, the role of dopamine in addiction, and interventions like motivational interviewing and harm reduction. They also explore the balance between gaming for social connection and potential addiction, offering strategies for parents and individuals.

Additionally, Eric updates listeners on his coaching groups and upcoming plans for the podcast.

 Topics Include:

• Addressing Digital Addiction
• Meet Alex Bache: Expert on Digital Behavioral Addictions
• Understanding Behavioral Addiction
• Game Transfer Phenomena Explained
• Interventions for Digital Addiction
• The Role of Harm Reduction
• Digital Hygiene Practices
• The Power of Accountability and Connection
• ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups
• Reflecting on Changes in ADHD Coaching
• Listener Survey
• Gaming and Social Connection
• Managing Screen Time Collaboratively
• Balancing Screen Time and Family Activities
• Recognizing Digital Addiction
• Conclusion and Contact Information

Connect with Alex at www.resetfromtech.com

Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired. Our guest today is Dr. Gilly Khan, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist who specializes in working with children, teens, and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and ADHD. In this episode, Dr. Khan shares her personal journey with ADHD, discusses the impact of hormonal fluctuations on ADHD symptoms, and offers practical advice on improving emotional regulation and social skills.

Dr. Gilly Khan's Journey with ADHD

Dr. Gilly Khan was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 33, a revelation that came as no surprise to her. Like many women, she had suspected for years that she might have ADHD. Her journey towards diagnosis began when she noticed ADHD symptoms in her young daughter, leading her to seek a diagnosis for herself. Encouraged by a colleague who was open about her ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Khan decided to embrace her neurodiversity and advocate for herself and her clients.

The Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on ADHD

One of the most significant insights Dr. Khan offers is the connection between hormones, particularly estrogen, and ADHD symptoms. She explains that hormonal fluctuations can significantly impact mood, memory, and overall ADHD symptoms. This is crucial for women, especially during periods of hormonal change such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause.

Dr. Khan shares her personal experience with migraines, which she began having in college, and later discovered were linked to estrogen levels. Her experience highlights the importance of considering hormonal influences when diagnosing and treating ADHD in women.

Practical Advice for Emotional Regulation

Dr. Khan emphasizes that medication can significantly help reduce ADHD symptoms, including emotional dysregulation. However, she also discusses the importance of practical strategies to manage emotions. One key approach is to take a time-out when feeling overwhelmed and practice coping skills like deep breathing in a calm environment before re-engaging with the situation.

Dr. Khan's recommendation to include parents in the process is particularly insightful. Coaching parents to help their children recognize emotional dysregulation and use coping strategies can make a significant difference.

Social Skills in ADHD

Addressing social skills, Dr. Khan discusses the effectiveness of social skills groups, especially when tailored to the needs of neurodivergent individuals. She notes the importance of applied practice and the role of parents in coaching their children outside of therapy sessions.

For adults with ADHD, Dr. Khan suggests finding activities and clubs that align with their interests to facilitate meeting like-minded individuals. She also highlights the importance of planning social interactions, just like planning professional activities, to maintain relationships.

Overcoming Social Challenges

Both Eric and Dr. Khan share personal anecdotes about the challenges of remembering names and maintaining social connections. Practical tips such as using a planner to schedule social activities and taking photos to remember names illustrate how even small strategies can make a big difference.

Advocacy and Self-Education

Dr. Khan stresses the importance of self-advocacy and educating oneself about ADHD. She advises seeking out credible resources and being prepared to discuss specific symptoms and experiences with healthcare providers. Her message is clear: understanding and advocating for one’s own neurodiversity is crucial for effective treatment and self-acceptance.

Conclusion

Dr. Gilly Khan’s insights provide a deeper understanding of the complexities of ADHD, particularly in women. From the impact of hormonal fluctuations to practical strategies for emotional regulation and social skills, her expertise offers valuable guidance for both individuals with ADHD and those supporting them.

To learn more about Dr. Gilly Khan, her work, and her upcoming book on emotional dysregulation, visit her website at drgillykhan.com and follow her on Instagram at @drgillykhan.

Thank you for tuning into ADHD reWired. If you found this episode helpful, consider supporting the podcast on Patreon, and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode. Together, we can continue to learn, grow, and support one another in our ADHD journeys.

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In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes neurodivergent coach Vida Carey, who specializes in sex and relationships. Together, they dive into conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in these areas. Vida shares her experiences and provides insights on discussing sex openly, defining kink, exploring different relationship structures, and addressing sexual desires in a shameless and authentic manner. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding personal needs, and fostering intimacy while managing ADHD. Additionally, the podcast highlights resources and support available through ADHD reWired’s coaching programs and virtual community.

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Navigating ADHD and Intimacy:

Conversations with Neurodivergent Coach Vida Carey In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one's desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and support each other's needs.

00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired

01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey

02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships

05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication

07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom

10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy

18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus

22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups

28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains

30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex

31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction

32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures

36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication

38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching

41:41 Common Questions About Sex

47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex

56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources

Episode 538 of the ADHD reWired podcast, hosted by Eric Tivers, addresses the complexities and intersections of neurodivergence (ADHD and autism) and LGBTQ identities. The episode features a panel discussion from a NeuroDivergent Pride event, co-hosted by Chris Wang from Shimmer. The panel includes Eric, Nate, and Vida, who share their personal journeys of coming out as queer and neurodivergent. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, masking, and the importance of supportive communities. The episode also emphasizes the impact of visibility and advocacy in both the ADHD and LGBTQ communities, encouraging listeners to join supportive spaces and take steps to be proud of their identities.

03:24 NeuroDivergent Pride Panel Introduction

09:14 Panelists Share Their Stories

22:34 Exploring Neurodivergent and Queer Identities

31:55 Impact of Heteronormative and Neurotypical Expectations

38:04 High-Level Masking and Personal Experiences

38:50 Coming Out and Family Reactions 40:40 Navigating Identity and Cultural Expectations

 43:37 Unmasking and Embracing Neurodivergence

46:06 Challenges of Masking and Survival Strategies

53:30 The Continuous Process of Coming Out

01:04:12 Getting Involved in Neurodivergent and LGBTQ Communities

01:13:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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This week we focused on the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities, with what Eric likes to think of as "Big Heart Week." The coaches emphasized the need to direct energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment and shared their personal experiences with setting and achieving goals. The discussion also revolved around creating and reviewing bucket lists as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences.

Prioritizing Meaningful Activities
In the latest episode of the Adhd Rewired podcast, Eric, Coach Kristen, and Coach Brian discussed the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities. The theme of the week was "Big Heart Week," focusing on issues that might be difficult to confront. Brian emphasized the significance of directing energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment rather than just productivity. Eric concurred, stressing the need to recognize the unpredictability of life and carve out time for activities that matter. The coaches shared their experiences of helping clients approach these topics and encouraged listeners to reflect on their own priorities.

1. Introduction to the Episode: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners back and introduces the current season (36) of the coaching groups.

2. Main Topic: The discussion focuses on self-care and numbing behaviors. Eric emphasizes the importance of understanding the differences between intentional self-care and behaviors that serve as emotional numbing. The context is week 6 of the program where these topics are explored in detail.

3. Intentional Self-Care vs. Numbing: The dialogue underscores the need for mindfulness in distinguishing between self-care activities that genuinely contribute to well-being and behaviors that might temporarily mask emotional distress.

4. Impact of Self-Care: The conversation also touches on the positive impacts of being intentional about self-care practices, possibly suggesting strategies or insights into improving mental health and managing symptoms of ADHD through mindful self-care rather than numbing.

These insights reflect an ongoing commitment to addressing complex emotional behaviors in the context of managing ADHD, with a focus on improving overall mental health and awareness.

*This summary was generated using Ai

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Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired! This episode is part of a special series we're calling the Coaches Roundtable, where ADHD reWired Coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts join me to discuss what's happening in our coaching and accountability groups each week. This week we're diving into the content from the 4th week of our coaching and accountability groups. This week, we're discussing importance of building strong foundations around habits and routines as an essential precursor to more effective daily and weekly planning. 

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Key Topics Discussed:

• Introduction: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners and introduces the special series focusing on the content from the 4th week of the coaching and accountability groups.
• Foundational Strategies: Eric, Kristin, and Brian discuss the importance of establishing routines as a strong foundations for managing ADHD. They share personal experiences and professional insights on creating routines and habits that support productivity and well-being.
• Tracking Progress: The conversation shifts to the significance of tracking progress. Eric explains how tracking can provide valuable insights and help in adjusting strategies for better outcomes. Kristin and Brian share their favorite tools and techniques for effective tracking.
• Sleep Management: Brian discusses the critical role of sleep management and shares tips on establishing a nighttime routine. The importance of consistent sleep patterns and how they can impact ADHD symptoms is highlighted.
• Engaging in Routines: Kristin shares her group's experiences with engaging in morning routines and how small adjustments can lead to significant improvements in managing ADHD symptoms.
• Personal Stories: Eric, Kristin, and Brian share personal anecdotes about their own routines, sleep management, and tracking progress, providing relatable and practical advice for listeners.
• Closing Remarks: Eric wraps up the episode with key takeaways and encourages listeners to implement the discussed strategies in their daily lives.

Episode Overview:

Welcome back to Week 3 of the ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table! This episode dives into the intricacies of to-do lists and how to adapt them for ADHD brains. Eric, Kristen, and Brian explore how traditional productivity tools often fall short for neurodiverse individuals and share strategies to make them more effective.

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Key Topics Discussed:

• Emotional Connections to ADHD and Productivity:

  • Recap of last week's discussion on writing letters to ADHD.
  • Importance of addressing emotional issues to enhance planning and productivity.

• Reimagining To-Do Lists for ADHD:

  • Brian explains the common struggle with to-do lists designed for neurotypical people and the need to tailor these tools for ADHD brains.
  • Exploration of different approaches to using to-do lists effectively, including bringing real-life data into coaching sessions.

• Common Pitfalls and Solutions:

  • Challenges with traditional to-do list items like vague entries (e.g., "doctor") and how they create confusion and resistance.
  • Introduction of "vision verbs" to provide clear, actionable steps.
  • Importance of specificity and context in to-do list items to reduce the mental energy required to activate tasks.

• Personal Experiences and Group Insights:

  • Kristen shares her group's emotional and vulnerable discussions about old to-do list items and the associated shame.
  • The benefits of having accountability teams and how they integrate with to-do lists.

• Scaffolding and the 'Why':

  • Eric introduces the concept of including the "why" in to-do list items to connect emotional importance with tasks, boosting motivation and activation.
  • Examples of how understanding the "why" can make it easier to tackle tasks, such as scheduling a vet appointment for a beloved pet.

• Practical Tips and Next Steps:

  • Encouragement to experiment with new strategies and understand the trade-offs in time and executive function.
  • Teaser for next week's topic on daily and weekly planning, routines, and managing transition times between tasks.

Quotes:

• "Think about how long we sort of wrestle with things that are just sticking around on our to-do list, or even worse, start working on a task we've already done." - Eric Tivers
• "Tasks often create tasks. It's just called adulting." - Eric Tivers
• "You can spend time on the front end or the back end, but one of them makes you feel bad." - Kristin Marts

Final Thoughts:

The episode concludes with a reflection on the importance of re-engineering productivity tools to suit ADHD brains, addressing both the emotional and practical aspects of task management. Stay tuned for next week's discussion on establishing effective routines and planning strategies.

Hosts:

• Eric Tivers
• Kristin Marts
• Brian E

Join us next week as we delve into the foundations of daily and weekly planning to enhance productivity and reduce the stress of managing tasks.

*This summary was generated using Ai.*

Description: In this episode of the Coaches Roundtable, hosted by Eric Tivers, the team gathers to reflect on the progress and insights from Week 2 of their coaching group, where we explore the relationship that we have with our ADHD.  Listen in to the end to find out which coach says "F*uck You" to their ADHD and why. 

The team discussed the success of the new coaching program, focusing on the importance of adjusting to the economy and offering affordable opportunities. They also emphasized the need for self-care and work-life balance, with personal anecdotes and reflections shared. Lastly, they reflected on their recent emotional challenge and the progress made in improving boundaries and overcoming workaholic tendencies. And Finally, Eric shared his ADHD moment of the week with group. If you're interested in joining us this summer, add your name to our interest list at www.coachingrewired.com

Welcome, everyone, to a somewhat different episode of the ADHD reWired Podcast. If you’re new here, I'm your host, Eric Tivers, and today we're going to dive into a topic that's both personal and universal. And I’,m gonna get kinda vulnerable with you here. But before we get into that, I wanted to let you know, that our spring Coaching groups which start on thursday, is experiencing lower than typical enrollment this season, which is why with group starting this Thursday, April 11th, 2024, we’re giving you the the chance to join us for only $999. That’s 50% off my section, and $650 off Coach Brian and Coach Kristin’s section. Sign up by this Wednesay, by attending our last registration event wedneday at 12 pm pt / 3 eastern, or by going to coachingrewired.com and scheduling a 1:1 registration interview. Come join us for our lowest price since 2017, only 999. And with if you qualify for paypal credit, you can break it up over 6 months interest free. That’s only $166 a month. It’s the same great program, at a shockingly low price. Go to coachingrewired.com to get started with pre-registration. Add your name to the interest list. And we’ll be in touch. Our episode is titled "When What Was Working, Stops Working," and it's a reflection on the journey of ADHD reWired over the last decade, where we are now, and we’re going to end this short reflection with 10 tips that you can use when what was working, stops working. For those of you who have been with us from the beginning, you know that we've experienced an incredible journey together. We were the #1 ADHD podcast for 8 consecutive years, a title that we held with pride and gratitude. Our coaching groups grew consistently, and we were even featured as one of the innovative programs at the international conference on ADHD back in 2019 and we built a community that has been a source of support, inspiration, and transformation for so many. But as with all journeys, there have been twists and turns, unexpected challenges that have forced us to reevaluate and adapt. In the world of ADHD, this is a familiar theme. We find strategies that work for us, routines that bring stability and productivity, and then, for reasons often beyond our control, those strategies stop working. It can feel like hitting a wall, and it's a feeling that many of us in the ADHD community know all too well. In the past year, ADHD reWired has faced its own set of challenges. The landscape of ADHD support has changed dramatically, with a surge in new podcasts and coaching programs. When I started ADHD reWired in 2014, I beleive there were 7 or 8 other ADHD podcasts. I just counted on apple podcasts, 120 ADHD specefic podcasts! This influx, combined with the economic uncertainties that have affected so many, has made it more difficult for us to fill our coaching groups as we once did. And from talking to a number of other ADHD coaches out there, it looks like this is happening across the board. It's a situation that has prompted a lot of reflection and reevalution and has required me to make some really difficult decisions. For a decade, we've been on a trajectory of growth and success. We've built something truly special. During the peak of the pandemic we were doing 5 groups, and built a team to support this heightened demand. And over the last year or so, things have have changed. Over the last few seasons, due to decreased demand, we’ve went back to 3 groups, and even those have not been easy to completely fill. So we’ve lowered prices, which have helped, but I think between the economy and the current influx of other ADHD programs out there, what was working is no longer working. And, man, it’s hard when when what had been working for so many years, just stops working. But it's also an opportunity, a chance to revisit what we stand for and how we can continue to serve our community in meaningful ways. Our mission has always been to provide a space where individuals with ADHD can come together to learn, grow, and support each other. It's been about more than just strategies and tips; it's been about building a community that understands the complexities of ADHD and offers a sense of belonging. As we navigate this period of change, we're reminded of the importance of resilience and adaptability. We're exploring new ways to reach and connect with our audience, to provide value and support in a changing world. We're looking at how we can innovate both within our coaching groups, and in other ways to ensure that ww continue to meet the needs of our community. And most importantly, we're reaffirming our commitment to you, our listeners and community members. Your stories, your struggles, and your successes are what drive us to do what we do. We're here to navigate the ups and downs of ADHD together, to celebrate the wins and learn from the challenges. So, if you've been thinking about joining our coaching groups, or if you've been a part of our community in the past, know that we're here for you. We're evolving, we're adapting, and we're optimistic about the future. Is it uncomfortable? Sure is. But I still believe that we can do hard things. So "When What Was Working, Stops Working" is not just a reflection on our journey, and a check in about where we are at right now, it's a call to action for all of us to embrace change and continue to grow. And now, I'd like to share with you 10 strategies that can be helpful when what was working stops working: Pause and Reflect: Take a moment to assess what has changed and why the old strategies are no longer effective. Seek Feedback: Reach out to your community or a trusted advisor to get a fresh perspective on the situation. Embrace Flexibility: Be open to trying new approaches and adapting your strategies as needed. Break It Down: Simplify your goals into smaller, manageable tasks to regain a sense of control. Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure you're taking care of your physical and mental health to maintain resilience. Revisit Your Values: Align your actions with your core values to stay motivated and focused. Set Boundaries: Define clear limits to protect your time and energy as you navigate change. Practice Gratitude: Focus on what is working and express appreciation for the progress you've made. Stay Curious: Approach challenges with a mindset of curiosity and a willingness to learn. Celebrate Small Wins and practice gratidue: Acknowledge and celebrate each step forward, no matter how small. And here’s one more: And i’m serious about this one. Don’t struggle alone. Remember, change is an inevitable part of growth. When what was working stops working, it's an opportunity to explore new possibilities and deepen our understanding of ourselves and our journey with ADHD. Want to talk about this or any other ADHD related topics with me? Join us for Tusday’s live q & a. You can register at our newly designed website at www.adhdrewired.com

Mix together cello, ADHD, and an insatiable need for sushi, and you get Steven Sharp Nelson–one of the most watched musicians in the world!  A self-titled “dorky dad”, Steven attributes his hard-earned “unlikely” success story to his unending love for helping people feel the worth of their own soul through music.  Name a concert venue–he’s sold it out!  Name an iconic place in the world–he’s filmed a music video there with The Piano Guys!  His content is watched and streamed over 3 million times every day!  He’s performed and spoken to two million people around the world; as much as he loves all of this, his favorite thing in the world is one-on-one time with his wife and each of his four children who “tolerate” and sometimes even love his quirky creative persona!  He is passionate about music education and its critical role in our culture. 

Learn More about Steven Sharp Nelson:

• Find him on ThePianoGuys.com (The Piano Guys) (Steven Sharp Nelson)
• Find Steven Sharp Nelson on Instagram @stevensharpnelson (click here)
• Find The Piano Guys on Instagram @thepianoguys (click here)

In this episode, you’ll hear tips, stories, and discussions about:

• Steven’s fascination with music’s power and effect on the brain
• “Perpetual burnout can often be a result of unhealthy hyperfocus and overdriving your overdrive.” - Steven Sharp Nelson
• Burnout as an indicator of your strengths rather than your weaknesses
• Practicing the art of self-awareness and healthy hyperfocus vs. unhealthy hyperfocus
• “A perfect balance does not exist!”
• Self-suggestibility and attention abundance
• “Not being present is the easiest way to be depressed.” / “Face down, chin up!” 
• The parable of the spinning (too many) plates and chronic burnout 
• The space between the notes / The meaning of life is in between our expectations; the space between our expectations is where we find meaning
• Music, mutualism, edification, and the role of intention
• Toxic positivity vs. a genuine desire to appreciate and be grateful
• “You are like a cello” and navigating our unique gifts, variables, and expressions of ADHD
• When too many options become too much
• Cataloging what you’re working on and what you’re not working on
• The wax and wane of motivation / The muscles of discipline and consistency
• Book :: Atomic Habits by James Clear (link here) 
• Removing obstacles between us and the things we’re working towards
• Hyperfocus, pros and cons, expecting internal pushback, and creating a virtual cliffhanger for yourself 
• How do you interact with your hyperfocus? 
• Website :: Arthur Brooks https://arthurbrooks.com (click here!)
• The toxic belief that everything in our lives should “always be on an incline”
• Arc jumping and how to go from mid-life crisis to mid-life crescendo 
• Are you bored or are you unfulfilled? 
• A practice of fulfillment scores and finding out where your next sense of fulfillment will be
• YouTube Video :: Me and My Cello - Happy Together (Turtles) Cello Cover - The Piano Guys (click here!)
• The importance of becoming friends with your instrument
• A message to you, our wonderful listeners, from Steven 

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On today’s episode, Clutterbug’s creator Cas Aarssen joins Eric on the podcast!  Cas’s Clutterbug is a home-organizing business which provides education, inspiration, and support to over half a million families worldwide through her YouTube channel, podcast, and various other social media platforms! 

Cas is also the author of four best-selling books about organization (listed below)!  As a self-professed recovering “super-slob”, she discovered that through her own journey with clutter, that organization is not one-size-fits-all!  She’s identified four unique organizing styles and developed the Clutterbug method to help individuals discover their type and implement customized solutions that will finally get them organized long-term!  

Learn More about Clutterbug:

• Check out the website at Clutterbug.com where you can take the free quiz to identify your organizing style! (click here!)
• Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/clutterbug.me/ (click here!)
• Instagram @clutterbug https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ (click here!)
• YouTube Channel – search for Clutterbug (or click here!)
• Clutterbug’s Tough Love (YouTube) (Official Site)
• Find all of Cas’s books here https://clutterbug.me/books (click here!)

In this episode, you’ll hear tips, stories, and discussions about:

• What it was like being a hyperactive girl with ADHD
• From being 15 years old and homeless to becoming an adult and experiencing serious consequences  
• How Cas became interested in home organization and being an ADHD mom – “My house was a wreck!” 
• Big categories vs. small categories and having your house reflect the way YOU organize
• How an ADHD diagnosis helped change and shift a sense of self 
• “Maybe I’m doing all this cool stuff because I have ADHD!” 
• Having higher education does not necessarily mean you can’t be great or do great things, such as having a TV show or having 4 bestselling books 
• Cas’s four different types of organizing, how you store your things, and how you sort your things
• Just because you’re a visual person doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a “cluttery” person
• Turning subconscious tendencies into actionable and functional organization 
• Visual homes vs. piles and taking advantage of how you naturally sort things 
• How perfection can turn into procrastination and paralysis 
• Being detailed and detail-oriented vs. being a perfectionist
• Learned behaviors, environmental behaviors, and other things that make our organizing styles unique 
• Containers, bowls, boundaries, and self-awareness 
• “We are gathering more than our brains can manage.” / “Everything you own is something you have to remember…” 
• The actual differences between tidying, cleaning, decluttering, and organizing
• How to start decluttering, the anxiety around getting rid of things, and scarcity mindsets
• Having a tidy home that fits your organization style is a form of self-love and self-respect 
• Clutter-blindness / Safety, security, and mindset around money vs. accumulating things
• Selling on eBay or Facebook Marketplace isn’t always the answer
• Standing up to your clutter / You are not your stuff! 

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This week, Dr. Nate Page joins Eric on the podcast! Nate has many titles, including Ph.D, licensed psychologist, certified group psychotherapist; but his education on burnout has come through his own painful journey with burnout.  He began presenting on burnout seven years ago after witnessing the devastating impacts of burnout and compassion fatigue on his own life, the lives of his colleagues, and the lives of his therapy clients.   He soon was specializing in individual and group therapy services for healthcare professionals who are caught in the depths of burnout. 

Nate dedicates a significant portion of his career to providing education and training on these topics, which was how Eric was introduced to Dr. Nate Page - at the CHADD conference in 2023 when presenting on burnout!  

Get in touch with Nate:

• Check out his website at GroupTherapyCentral.com (click here)

In this episode, you’ll hear tips and/or discussions about:

• The stigma around burnout and reducing the stigma and shame
• Burnout: Not “if” but “when”
• The idea of burnout as an injury and re-scarring burnout wounds
• Compassion fatigue as bruises in the soul (paper linked here)
• The good, the bad, and the ugly of stress 
• Paying attention to burnout cues
• Context-driven depression, workplace, and situational depression
• Boredom and stress
• Addressing “a” problem vs. identifying the right problem to create appropriate solutions
• “Am I on the path to burnout or am I already burnt out but am ignoring/avoiding the signs?”
• The importance of taking restorative breaks 
• Preventing the cycle of burnout / Healing and recovering from stress fractures
• Relationship dynamics, fairness, finding pebbles in the shoes, and potential extra stressors
• Maximizing the restorative nature of taking time off 
• Creating structure during a break and getting the “recharge” effect
• Can you really “speed up” recovery?
• Compassion during healing and recovering from burnout
• The importance of engaging with what makes you feel alive

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Paper :: “Compassion Fatigue as Bruises in the Soul: A Qualitative Study on Nurses”
  DOI: 10.1177/09697330211003215  (click here)
• ADHD reWired episode :: 429 - Growth Cycles - with (ADHD reWired Coach!) Brian Entler (click here!)
• ADHD reWired episode :: 452 - Overcoming Burnout - with David Greenwood (click here!)
• ADHD reWired episode :: 507 - Neurodiverging, Masking, Burnout, and More - with Danielle Sullivan (click here!)
• ADHD reWired episode :: 512 - Creativity for Healing - with Melissa Seldon (click here!)
• ADHD reWired episode :: 514 - Introducing The ADHD Creatives Podcast - with (ADHD reWired Coach) Kristin Marts, LCSW (click here!)
• Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) (on Goodreads) (Official Website)

• 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 
• 🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 
• 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧
• 🌟 Find out what we’re talking about in our coaching groups by checking out our YouTube channel!  Just search for “ADHD reWired” when you go to YouTube!  (And check out the latest here!)

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You can also find bonus questions, get full answers from this recording, and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more!  Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! (click here!) 

In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• Personal positive experiences, nuances, and psychology of body doubling 
• The positive effects of being connected vs. being alone to get things done
• Morning routines and strategies for an ADHD household to guide a child without a lot of struggle or frustration
• Morning routines, time management, getting out of the house and transitioning 
• Incorporating and utilizing different human senses to help with time-awareness and transitions
• The differences in ADHD presentation between kids and adults and addressing outdated views of what ADHD looks like and how it can present
• Reasons why it may be difficult for friends and loved ones to shift their perceptions when discussing an ADHD diagnosis
• Self-love and self-acceptance with ADHD
• How sleep, exercise, nutrition, and overall well-being can affect our executive functions
• Finite and practical examples to help with time-blindness / Discovering pain-points and what creates avoidance of transitions 
• Reframing what a break can be if you’re resistant to taking breaks 
• Task-batching / The effects of technology on transition time / Mindfulness with transitions
• “How can I get over the mindset that somehow I can’t actually have money without spending it?”
• Emotional responses vs. value-based responses 
• “Burnout is the body taking the rest it needs by force.”
• Planning and structuring for self-care / Meditation to re-regulate our nervous systems 
• “Self-care time is productive time!”
• ADHD and emotional dysregulation, trauma, and bouncing back faster from dysregulation
• “There’s nothing wrong with expressing your emotions.” 
• “What would you tell a best friend if…” 

...and so much more! 

Resources & Honorable Mentions

• Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired’s Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler (click here!)
• Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 444: ADHD Tax Stories & Strategies with Rick Webster (click here!)
• Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 338: Money Management with Rick Webster from RenaFi (click here!)
• Article :: Adlerian Theory https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/Alderian-Psychotherapy-Intro-Sample.pdf (click here!)
• App :: Brili Routines - Apps for Families & Adults with ADHD https://brili.com (click here!)
• Website :: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff https://self-compassion.org (click here!)
• Website :: RenaFi with Rick Webster - for money management when you have ADHD https://www.renafi.com
• Book :: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff (on Goodreads) (official website)
• Book :: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport (on Goodreads) (official website) 
• Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) (on Goodreads) (Official Website)
• Tool :: Time Timer (official website)

• 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 
• 🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 
• 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧
• 📺 Check out ADHD reWired Coaches Eric, Kristin, and Brian on their latest livestream of ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table here → https://www.youtube.com/live/3Q3uxP552Gc?si=tICadz0oREb2_YJ5 

In this episode, Kristin Koliha joins Eric on the podcast!  Kristin, who was diagnosed with ADHD later in life, is a clinical social worker with a background in working with those who also have an ADHD diagnosis.  She’s a mom of two kids who also have ADHD and is also a business owner!  Kristin works as a coach and educator for those with ADHD who struggle to manage their ADHD homes, working with them to create individualized strategies to help with home keeping.  She focuses on mindset shifts, ADHD diagnosis education in the context of home environment, and also focuses on support for those who want to take their homes from chaos to calm! 

Find more from Kristin Koliha: 

• Website :: https://www.welcomehomeadhd.com (where you can also take a quiz to find out your organizational style!) 
• Instagram :: @welcomehomeADHD https://www.instagram.com/welcomehomeadhd/

In this episode, you’ll hear tips and/or discussions about:

• The reasons for Kristin’s interest in homekeeping for ADHD brains and struggles that a dependent encounters when beginning to “adult”
• Is Kristin an organized person?
• Discovering your “default” and how clutter can have a different effect on different people
• Decision making and decision fatigue
• How does Kristin help folks with the “decisions” of their stuff?
• Being intentional when bringing things in your new home and finding out where those things will live before you get them
• The frustration of organization and being experiential learners
• “Don’t go buy the thing to solve the problem; think about how you can solve it without buying the thing, and what else needs to happen?” 
• Scheduling regular maintenance sessions / How your environment can affect your mood
• Organized for display vs. organizing for function
• Defining and discussing the different strategies for the pile-r, the stuffer, and the magician
• The “touch it once” rule
• Perfection, energy management, expectations, all-or-nothing thinking, and “good enough”
• Flexibility with values and needs to help with mental health / Can you be “green” with ADHD? 
• Strategies for working through the I-Don’t-Wannas / Thinking about your future self 
• Finding your pain points in a home that have different levels of care in different areas of cleanliness 
• Honoring your tidying needs while honoring another person’s tidying needs 
• Being caring, kind, and alleviating shame / Why asking for what someone needs isn’t always helpful

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Tidy-up tip from the editor:  Do you have extra dryer sheets?  Put a dryer sheet in your sink of hot water when soaking caked-on dishes to help loosen up the grime!  

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

In this episode, Eric is joined by Justine Clay!  Justine, who is a neurotypical mom of a neurodivergent kid, is also a speaker, writer, business coach, and ADHD coach, for creative entrepreneurs and freelancers.  Using her actionable-profitable-by-design framework, Justine helps established creative professionals and business-owners identify and articulate their unique value, position themselves to high-quality while paying clients, and build a fulfilling, efficient, and profitable creative business!  

Find more from Justine!

• Website :: justineclay.com (click here!)
• Instagram ::  @justine_clay (click here!)
• LinkedIn :: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justineclay 

In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• Helping people articulate what they want among a sea of ideas and different ways of co-collaborating
• Getting down to what someone needs vs. what they think they need & finding the fundamentals
• What do you do when you’re procrastinating? / Monetizing your zone of genius and accepting your gifts
• What is unique about the ADHD entrepreneur vs. a neurotypical entrepreneur? 
• Starting three things as a way to get unstuck and finding the “goldilocks” amount of pressure
• Creating structure with flexibility and options / “Don’t check your email first thing in the morning.”  
• The importance of understanding your own tendencies / the power of the pause
•  “So many ‘fires’ are just bright shiny objects that don’t actually need our attention right now.” 
•  “If you don’t run your own attention, someone (or something) else will run it for you.”
•  Identifying an area of focus / Building on longer term goals and long-term coaching
•  Who am I, who am I for, and how do I serve them? /  “Be in community with other people who are doing what you’re doing.” 
• The benefits and immense value of having diversity of life, experience, and ideologies within a team
• Mindset hurdles that show up for ADHD entrepreneurs and addressing negative thoughts and noise in our brains
• “What are you actually afraid of? What’s the worst that could happen? What is within our power?” 
• Creating a, “You’re Awesome!” folder to mitigate negative messaging 
• Addressing the topic of money with compassion / “Numbers don’t define who you are as a human being.”
• “A moment spent worrying about money is a moment you’ve stolen from yourself where you could be working on your unique brilliance…”
• Finding a good financial advisor who will meet you where you’re at, who understands your needs, understands your ADHD, and understands your goals  
• The importance of taking away 3 actionable steps and a deliverable roadmap
• Systemizing to make things easier so we’re not constantly reinventing the wheel 
• Burnout and dealing with the stressors vs. processing physical stress
• Benefits of a morning journaling practice, using it as a brain dump, and addressing limiting beliefs
• How to start a morning journaling practice / Handwriting vs. typing 
• “The things that pay the most dividends can tend to have the hardest onramp.” 
• “Just try harder” doesn’t work / “Why might this help?” 

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Article :: How to Find your Zone of Genius (click here)
• Article :: How to Get Into the Zone of Genius and Unlock Your Highest Potential (on Forbes) (click here) 
• Article: Gay Hendricks and Andy Wang on the Inspired Money Podcast (click here)
• Website :: Hendricks Institute @ hendricks.com (click here) 
• Website :: Ten Percent Happier @ www.tenpercent.com (click here)
• Podcast :: Ten Percent Happier @ www.tenpercent.com/podcast (click here)
• App :: Loom - for video recording and collaboration - at loom.com (click here!)
• Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) (on Goodreads) (Official Website)
• Book :: The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity - Julia Cameron (official website) (on Goodreads)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast!   In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with! 

Find more from Dana:

• All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews (click here!)
• Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com (click here!)
• ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? (click here!)

In this episode, you’ll hear discussions and tips about:

• Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict 
• How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation? 
• Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of ‘problems’
• Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we’re not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past
• “We don’t have to agree with a person’s perspective.” / It’s not WHAT we’re disagreeing about – it’s about HOW we’re disagreeing.
• The importance of acknowledging the other person’s feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person? 
• Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present 
• Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?) 
• Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn’t necessarily healthy
• The power of the pause, non-judgmental awareness, and recognizing one’s own tendencies and patterns of behaviors 
• Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating 
• Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones
• Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions 
• Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one’s role in a conflict without blaming
• Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you’re telling yourself
• Identifying and tuning into emotions / “The story I’m telling myself is…” / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals
• Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org (click here) 
• Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away (click here) at gottman.com 
• Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary (click here)
• Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Goodreads)
• Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown (click here)
• Website :: The Center of Nonviolent Communication at www.cnvc.org (click here)
• Information :: Esther Perel: Understanding and Resolving Conflict (click here)
• How to Resolve Conflict (Esther Perel) Masterclass (click here)
• Information :: Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed (click here)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more!  Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! (click here!) 

In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• ADHD and long COVID mimicking ADHD symptoms
• Being a business owner with ADHD and hiring / training processes 
• How involved one should be in helping a partner with their medication regimen 
• Codependency vs. interdependency
• Observing, support, relationships, and not falling into codependency roles
• Being an accountability partner for a significant other 
• Chronic pain and negative feedback cycles
• Negative feedback spirals vs. negative feedback loops
• Mindfulness in the body and mind and mindfulness-based stress reduction
• The importance of being transparent about chronic pain with loved ones 
• Feeling safe, expressing needs, and accommodations around chronic pain 
• Can ADHD exacerbate pain? 
• Pain as part of our sensory system, ADHD, and different thresholds
• Different types of paper planners and accounting for transition time 
• SHART: Sh*t Happens; Adjustment Recovery Time
• Point of performances 
• Placeholders and flexibility when planning
• Tips for task-switching instead of avoiding moving from one task to another
• Practicing taking breaks at least once an hour
• Sleep, exercise, general self-care, and task-shifting abilities 
• Identifying obstacles then creating and/or accommodating around those obstacles
• “What are you fearing if you stop now and [transition] to the next thing?” and pattern interruptions
• The importance of having a growth mindset and seeing setbacks as opportunities\

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW!  At theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎉
• ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired’s Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler (click here!)
• Article: Potential New Treatment for “Brain Fog” in Long COVID Patients (click here)
• Article: Successful Treatment of Post-COVID-19 ADHD-like Syndrome: A Case Report (PMC) (click here)
• Webinar: The Science of Power and Hope from ADDitude (click here)
• Website: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com https://jkzmeditations.com 
• App: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com/the-app/
• TV Show:  Community (IMDB)
• Tool: Erasable Frixion Pens

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

In this episode, Emerson Jordan-Wood joins Eric–in person at ADHD reWired HQ–on the podcast!  Emerson is a 27-year-old queer, non-binary, trans human. They are originally from Illinois, but have lived brief stints in Iowa, Texas, and most recently Minnesota! They studied civil engineering at The University of Iowa currently work in non-profit construction. Emerson was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and self-diagnosed with autism in 2022! They're also an active Alumni member of ADHD reWired’s coaching and accountability groups!

In this episode, you’ll hear experiences, struggles, and discussions about:

• “Transitions are hard” and transitioning gender identities 
• The overlap of ADHD, different means of transitionings, and barriers to access
• Hoops, hurdles, and executive function nightmares
• Experiencing gender dysphoria and body disconnect
• Navigating the medical system and knowing your options
• “This feels like me.” 
• “Your transition is your transition and it doesn’t have to be based on anybody else’s.”
• Masking gender, masking as a neurotypical person, then unmaking gender identity
• Acceptance, freedom, and fully being your authentic self in the world 
• “I was doing what I thought I ‘should’ be doing.” 
• Different perceptions of gender, how people respond and interact with those perceptions, and fitting in
• Experiencing gender privilege and gender discrimination in the workplace
• Understanding pros, cons, patterns, and social cues between the gender roles 
• Being misgendered, coming to terms with your identity and doing the work towards acceptance
• Navigating and learning how to process irritability, anger, frustration, and general emotional dysregulation
• Struggling with task initiation, living in a constant state of flight, and not “panicking” through life
• From TikTok to the doctor 
• Feelings of being unprepared, social expectations, and navigating new environments
• Social cues, dynamics in conversations, and autism
• The helpfulness of labels and language to describe different struggles to take action and better communicate

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

This week, Jeremy Nagel joins Eric on the show!  Jeremy is a neuro-spicy software developer turned startup founder who is slightly obsessed with habits!  He likes to start each day with a 2-hour morning routine and sometimes surprises colleagues by busting out a set of pushups during meetings to keep the energy high!  When he’s not working on startups, he enjoys cross-country skiing, trail-running, and cycling with his wife.  Jeremy also hosts the podcast, “Focus and Chill”, a show about productivity for neurodivergent people! 

Find more from Jeremy:

• Check out his website and app at FocusBear.io (click here!)
• Find the podcast at podcast.focusbear.io – “Focus and Chill” (click here!)
• Get in touch with Jeremy on LinkedIn (click here!)

In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• Micro-workouts to boost focus, mechanical multi-tasking through energy slumps & maintaining energy
• “Busy hands, quiet mind.” / Hyperfocus vs. the counterintuitive ideas of taking a break
• The benefits of actually stepping away and taking breaks 
• Ways that your room or environments affect bigger- or smaller-picture thinking
• How do you stop when the focus feels good? / “Feeling are convincing liars.” 
• Accountability, and body-doubling 
• Consistency, resiliency, the law of averages, & the importance of learning your own patterns
• Addressing and dealing with stress, stressors, and burnout through physical activity 
• Micro-workouts as a tool to manage emotional storms and dysregulation
• Exercise “snacks” and bite-sized workouts: Defining allotted times and types of workouts/movement
• Self-talk strategies when “I don’t want to!”
• How do we modify or set up our environments to be more conducive for what we want and/or need to do?
• Consistency, variations, flexibility in routines, and small actions adding up over time 
• “The more we are able to get ourselves into various routines, the less we are having to tax our executive functions to do the work we’re trying to do within those routines.” 
• “Stopping requires executive function.” 
• Helpful in-the-moment vs. helpful in the long-term, not struggling alone, and self-compassion
• When we’re doing everything right but our brain has other plans 
• Externalizing executive functioning for days when the EF-tank is low
• Having limits in place and the power of the Pause 
• Mindfulness, meditation, and dishes as a mindfulness practice 

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Adult Study Hall by ADHD reWired at adultstudyhall.com 
• Book: Burnout - The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA (Official Website) (Goodreads)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Skye returns to the show! 

Skye is an ADHD coach and founder of Unconventional Organization, an international ADHD support service that provides research-backed support to adults with ADHD.  She also has years of experience working in adult education and has studied psychology, sociology, and public health.  Skye was diagnosed with ADHD as a doctoral candidate before making the decision to leave her candidature to work full time on Unconventional Organization.  

Find more from Skye:

• Check out Unconventional Organization at unconventionalorganization.com (click here)
• The ADHD Skills Lab Podcast at unconventionalorganisation.com/theadhdskillslab (official site) (Apple) (Spotify) 

In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• Life updates from Skye with a new addition to the family
• Accepting when routines need to be altered when life circumstances change
• Dividing different todos, transitions, and location-basing your tasks 
• Adjustments, reinforcements, and externalizing routines 
• Interruptions, picking a task back up post-interruption, and external support
• Routines to preserve executive functions, transitioning, mental shifting, and adjusting
• Movement and dopamine to support working memory
• Dialing down stimulation rather than shutting it off
• Troubleshooting and problem solving in the moment when an unexpected interruption pops up 
• Resetting, freezing, and externalized dysregulation vs. internalized emotional dysregulation
• “I have NO routines at all–where do I start?” 
• How important is knowing how long each part of a routine takes? 
• The difficulty of remembering routines and excited vs. working memory
• Remembering organically vs. being reminded and creating cues
• Googly eyes? Why not! 
• AI and smart tools for helping with routines
• “ADHD is not a skill deficit.”
• …and more! 

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• ADHD reWired Episode 449 :: Getting Tasks Done with Skye (click here) 
• Tool: reMarkable at reMarkable.com (click here)
• Check out The ADHD Creatives Podcast with ADHD reWired Coach Kristin Marts! theadhdcreativespodcast.com 

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

In this episode, Eric is joined by Jonathan Kidder!  Jonathan is a “kidder”, through and through - bringing comedy through character, as a puppeteer, content creator, and comedian.  His big claim to fame is as a puppet character, Busy the Bee, on Waffles + Mochi on Netflix!  The L.A. Gay Scene knows Jonathan as Miss Phoenix, The Ultimate Party Foul: Poolside Tarot Card reader by Merman Kidder, and through his party portraits he calls “Kidder-atures”, Kidder makes things fun using the power of personification and character to help him keep track of time!  

Get the full conversation and an uninterrupted listening experience when you become a Patron at $5 a more at https://www.adhdrewired.com/pateron! 

Find even more from Jonathan Kidder:

• Website :: kidderco.com (click here!)
• Instagram :: @JWKidder (click here!)
• Linkt.ee / jonathankidder :: https://linktr.ee/jonathankidder  

In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• ADHD, sobriety, and humor for functionality 
• Puppets, time-blindness, and underwear for each day of the week
• Using your fun, embracing colloquialisms, and addressing your inner critic 
• Experimentation to find what works for your ADHD management 
• Not taking oneself too seriously and perfectionism as the enemy of humor
• “I’m not always able to make-the-funny” and self-acceptance 
• Ways to make time physical
• Ways to keep time visual and other tools for managing time blindness
• Managing our ADHD vs. ADHD managing us 
• The importance of doing and planning what works for you 
• Closing loops, resetting, Chakras, and theme-ing your days 
• Using absurdity and connected ideas to remember things
• Themes and structuring to help with decision fatigue 

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Book :: Driven to Distraction by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., and John J. Ratey, M.D. (on Goodreads)
• Book :: Addiction to Perfection: The Still Unravished Bride: A Psychological Study - by Marian Woodman (on Goodreads)
• Video :: How to Stimulate Your Brain (DOPA Menu) - Jessica McCabe (HowToADHD) (click here)
• Video :: Trailer to Waffles + Mochi (on YouTube) (click here!)
• Video :: Pink Sweat Video Shoot (on YouTube) (click here!)
• Movie :: Death to Smoochy (trailer on YouTube)
• Movie :: The Happy Time Murders (trailer on YouTube)
• Movie :: Spaceballs (IMDB page)
• Website :: Internal Family Systems (IFS Institute) at ifs-institute.com (click here!)
• Website :: Folkmanis Puppets at folkmanis.com (click here!)
• Tool :: Time Timer Original 12” at timetimer.com (click here!)

Pithy Nibbles 

• “Humor, for me, is a version of pizzazz!”
• “Humor is about imperfection and change and being present; perfection and perfectionism is, ‘you can’t have perfection and change.’” 
• “Nobody doesn’t have an ass.” 

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more!  Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! (click here!) 

In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• Navigating around responses and emotions, family dynamics during the holidays, and discussions around ADHD and neurodivergence
• Overestimating our capacity to get things done and avoiding / overcoming burnout
• Time management, energy management, and reframing expectations 
• A strategy for remembering to actually stop your timer when time-tracking
• Tools/strategies to help with overwhelm, and the role of acceptance and community
• Using a camera and grid system to organize and declutter a room
• Emotional regulation practices / A.I. tools and services
• Intervening to taking breaks even when you “don’t feel tired” and making decisions on a drained brain
• Cramming for deadlines and zeroing in on sources of procrastination 
• Hybrid planning and the importance of experimentation 
• Scope creep, saying no, learning our tendencies, and having a “parking lot” for our ideas

Resources & Honorable Mentions

• Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawwab (on Goodreads) (Official website)
• Book: 168 Hours by Laura Vanderkam (on Goodreads) (Official website)
• Book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee G. Adams (on Goodreads)
• Book: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron (on Goodreaads) (Official website)
• Website: GoodInside - Dr. Becky (at https://www.goodinside.com)
• Instagram: Nedra Tawwab @nedratawwab (click here!) (Author of “Set Boundaries, Find Peace”) 
• YouTube Video: How to Give Your Brain the Stimulation it Needs (a.k.a. a DOPA Menu!) with Jessica from HowToADHD (click here!)
• Adult Study Hall by ADHD reWired at adultstudyhall.com
• App: Otter.ai https://otter.ai 

Quotable Remembrances

• “You’re not the jack-ass whisperer” - Brene Brown 
• “You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.” - The Minimalists (Joshua Fields Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus) 
• “Novelty is great, but be wise about how you use it.” 
• “If we don’t have an accurate picture of what’s going on in our macro life, how can we even begin to know what needs to change?”
• “If you can’t change it, you can change the way you think about it.” 
• “Am I overcomplicating this?” 
• “If you don’t know where your boundary is first, you are likely to scope-creep.” 

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

Our 35th season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups are coming up fast!  This winter season begins next week on Thursday, January 11th, 2024! 

Don't miss your chance to join - go now to coachingrewired.com to find this season's schedule and all the details, and to get your name on our interest list, so you can join one of our upcoming final registration events:

• Tuesday, January 9th (immediately following the Live Q&A); or 
• Wednesday, January 10th at 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern

If those times don't work for you, you can even schedule a 1-on-1 with Eric, coach Kristin or coach Brian, or another member of the ADHD reWired team, who will help you get all the information you'll need to get registered! 

Growth happens here.  Start the new year by starting with you - go now to coachingrewired.com! 

This week, ADHD reWired Coaches Eric Tivers, Kristin Marts, and Brian Entler get together for the first ever round-table discussion!  You’ll hear stories about troubles and tips for how coaches manage their own transitions, how each person leverages the tools in their ADHD toolbelts, the role of novelty, thriving in a crisis, how different times of day affect each coach, and more!  

Send your suggestions and ideas of what you’d like to hear from the coaches in future Coaches Round Table episodes to support@adhdrewired.com with the subject line, “Round Table” 

You can hear more from Brian, Kristin, and other past guests in all of our recordings of our monthly Live Q&As!  Find show notes to this episode and all past episodes adhdrewired.com/podcast!  

More notes on this amazing episode coming soon!  In the meantime, checkout these resources mentioned on today’s show! 

• Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #342 - Transitions, Balancing Work, and Relations - with Adison Smith (click here!)
• Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #429 - Growth Cycles with Brian Entler (click here!)
• Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #514 - Introducing: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts (click here!)
• Book :: The One Thing by Gary W. Kellar and Jay Papasan (Official Website) (Goodreads)
• ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Coach Kristin Marts at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-kristin-marts (click here!) 
• ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Brian Entler at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-brian-entler (click here!)
• Join our award-winning Coaching & Accountability Groups at coachingrewired.com 
• If you love the show and want to support our work, consider becoming a Patron at adhdrewired.com/Patreon 

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

⚠️ Coming soon to your favorite podcast player:

The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Coach Kristin Marts, LCSW! 

Check out more at https://theADHDCreativesPodcast.com 🎉 

Who is Kristin Marts?

The host of The ADHD Creatives Podcast, Kristin Marts, is a multi-talented individual who works as a licensed social work therapist and ADHD coach. She discusses how ADHD affects creativity, drawing from her experience in the arts world. Kristin also shares her journey from being a dancer to becoming a therapist and her passion for working with children and adults with ADHD. She introduces her podcast, which will feature conversations, guests, and entertainment such as parody songs. Kristin invites listeners to join her on Fridays for new episodes.

Want more from Kristin?  Check out these links:

• ADHD reWired Episode 514 | Introducing: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts! (click here)
• ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Groups: About Kristin (click here!)

This week, Eric is joined by Donavan Robinson! 🍁 Donavan is a father, a husband, and is a proud member of the Red River Métis.  He has embarked on a diverse entrepreneurial journey, founded a marketing agency called “Vantage”, ventured into hospitality with A Little Pizza Heaven and The Good Will Social Club, and supported local artisans through Made Here. 

Diagnosed with ADHD later in life, Donavan now focuses on providing tailored resources for entrepreneurs, advocating for personalized approaches to business success.  His career reflects his passion and involvement in the community, emphasizing that success varies for each person.  Donavan champions neurodiverse entrepreneurs, encouraging them to find their unique path in business and in life. 

Get in touch with Donavan!

• Learn more at joinkonekt.com (click here!)
• Podcast: Shingles at 40 Podcast https://www.sa40podcast.com 
• Instagram: @donavanrobinson (click here!)

More notes on this amazing episode coming soon!  In the meantime, checkout these resources mentioned on today’s show! 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Book: A Little Spot of Anger: A Story About Managing BIG Emotions by Diane Alber (on Goodreads) (official website)
• Website: Vantage at vantagemarketingcanada.com (click here!)
• Website: Made Here (in Manitoba) (click here!)
• Visit: A Little Pizza Heaven (website) (Facebook)
• Visit: The Good Will Social Club (website) (Instagram) 
• App: Motion AI  https://www.motion.ai 

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

This week, get to know Coach Kristin Marts a little more as Eric and Kristin share a one-on-one conversation about the role and importance of creativity in her life, her history in dance and musical theater, her journey through ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups, what sparked her to become an LCSW, and how she became a coach!  You’ll also hear about her joy of performing, life as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent mom with neurodivergent kids, and so much more! 

And, coming soon: Look out for the FULL trailer of The ADHD Creatives Podcast in your favorite podcast player on or before December 29th!  

Find Kristin:

• On her website at TheADHDCreativesPodcast.com (click here!)
• As an ADHD reWired Coach at adhdrewired.com (click here!)
  • And get in touch with Kristin at kmarts@possibilitiestherapycenter.com

Questions/Topics:

• [00:01:22] Introducing Kristin and sharing her story
• [00:03:52] Finding coaching and getting involved 
• [00:07:24] Learning about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS)
• [00:09:20] Thriving in a crisis, improvisation, and perfectionism 
• [00:11:53] Creativity is “impulsivity gone right” - Dr. Ned Hallowell 
• [00:12:19] Kristin reflects on her first year of coaching: perfectionism and being yourself
• [00:16:18] “We are our harshest critics.” 
• [00:21.44] How the idea of The ADHD Creatives Podcast was born
• [00:23:23] Introducing a teaser of The ADHD Creatives Podcast trailer
• [00:24:28] Eric asks about Kristin’s process and experience to create her podcast
• [00:30:15] Songs, shows, commercials, and a sense of timing 
• [00:31:56] The experiences Kristin integrates into coaching 
• [00:36:28] Masking, persona, creativity, forgiveness, and patience 
• [00:40:53] Thoughts on gifts and superpowers
• [00:43:34] What inspired Kristin to become an LCSW 
• [00:50:54] Favorite things about coaching, more about the upcoming new podcast, and closing thoughts  

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Book:  The One Thing (Official Website) (on Goodreads)
• Join ADHD reWired’s ADHD-friendly online coworking community at adultstudyhall.com! (click here!)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  

You’ll also find the bonus questions & answers from this recording and can listen in ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! (click here!) 

Resources / Topics / Honorable Mentions

• Article: “Sailboat Metaphor” on scottbarrykaufman.com (click here)

• Article: “Why we Need to Evolve Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs from a Pyramid to a Sailboat Metaphor” by Kyle Kowalski (click here)

• Book: “No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model” (on IFS) (on Goodreads)

• Topic: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (on SimplyPsychology) (on Wikipedia) 

• Topic: Sailboat of Needs (on Psychology Today)

• Topic: Motivational Interviewing (on VeryWellMind) (on Psychology Today) (on Positive Psychology)

• Website: Chat GPT at chat.openai.com (click here)

• Website: IFS Institute (Internal Family Systems) at ifs-institute.com (click here)

• Website/App: Goblin Tools at goblin.tools (click here!)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information so you can join us for our upcoming winter season of Coaching & Accountability groups in January 2024!

This week, Eric is joined by Melissa Seldon! Melissa is an artist, librarian-for-hire, and nature lover.  Creating is a predominant part of her mental health and healing process that she is currently working through.  Her art pieces can represent emotions and ideas that the deep and dusty corners of her brain offer up, as well as traits and behaviors that she is attempting to embody. The majority of Melissa’s art has an illustration bent to it and is inspired by nature.  The execution can range from the representational to the fantastical, as well as more stylized designs.  Watercolor is Melissa’s medium of choice, but lately, she has been revisiting metal jewelry, handbuilding with clay, and collage.  

• Find Melissa on Instagram @apoideastudio (click here!)
• Check out Melissa’s website at apoideastudio.wordpress.com (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:06] Introducing Melissa
• [00:02:50] Melissa recaps a tough year at work, advocating, and dealing with anxiety
• [00:05:29] Asking for accommodations and flexible deadlines 
• [00:08:07] “Middle school is hard for everyone.” 
• [00:08:37] ADHD in the workplace and coming out of the pandemic 
• [00:12:39] Opening up about crippling generalized anxiety
• [00:18:43] Recovering from burnout and aching for creativity 
• [00:21:03] “I bought an anvil” 
• [00:22:50] Art and connecting with a creative longing 
• [00:24:36] Creativity to cope with and manage anxiety 
• [00:25:56] Executive functions and barriers to get started on creative work
• [00:28:25] Connecting creating with feelings 
• [00:29:55] The role of subject matter in personal creativity
• [00:32:17] A discussion on music and albums 
• [00:39:34] Selling a painting, a gathering gallery space, and The Veiled Crow
• [00:42:06] The importance of community and choosing ‘now’ to speak up about burnout 
• [00:45:12] Life in the middle of burnout and recovery
• [00:47:53] “I’ll do that later” 
• [00:49:14] Melissa shares her thoughts on success
• [00:51:57] “If you could change one thing…”
• [00:55:25] “We have to listen to our bodies.” 
• [00:58:58] Closing thoughts & getting in touch with Melissa

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Shop: The Veiled Crow (click here!)
• Music: Nightfall in Middle Earth (click here!)

🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

This week, Trina Haynes from MyLadyADHD joins the show! Trina is the founder of My Lady ADHD, which empowers and supports individuals facing ADHD challenges!  She created a safe space and vibrant community for women, drawing from her own personal ADHD journey.  Trina is also the host of the My Lady ADHD Podcast, and is the cofounder of Get Lost Retreats, featuring regular ADHD women’s retreats around the globe!

• Learn more about Trina at MyLadyADHD.com! (click here!)

• Check out Get Lost Retreats at getlostretreats.com (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:00:42] Introducing Trina 
• [00:01:55] Eric and Trina talk about the struggle of making friends and maintaining friendships 
• [00:06:45] Executive functions, planning & scheduling, maintenance, and avoidance
• [00:07:47] Perceived rejections, shame, and assuming the best of intentions 
• [00:10:18] Connecting with ADHDers vs. connecting with neurotypicals 
• [00:11:25] An ADHD moment… then, a discussion on fizzled-out friendships 
• [00:14:18] The difficulty of making friends after lockdown and isolation 
• [00:15:15] Introversion, extroversion, and recovery time 
• [00:16:44] FOMO (fear of missing out) and the challenge of transitions to stop when being with friends 
• [00:23:44] Another ADHD moment…
• [00:24:30] Trina shares lessons learned from friendships that didn’t last, why friendships might not always last, and the importance of communicating clear intentions 
• [00:26:48] Friendships, feedback, investing, and balance 
• [00:31:13] Eric and Trina take an intentional moment to reach out to a friend
• [00:32:26] Managing emotions when worrying if friends will be upset with you, the importance of repair, and being a people-pleaser
• [00:36:36] Personal dumpster fires, healing, and exploring
• [00:39:37] The importance of going back to basics and max-capacities
• [00:47:16] Phone tools and apps to help with communication
• [00:50:23] Frontloading conversations with honesty and vulnerability
• [00:51:44] How to get in touch with Trina and closing thoughts 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Hear Eric on Trina’s podcast on the My Lady ADHD Podcast (click here!)
• Hear Trina and other panelists on ADHD reWired’s Live Q&A from August 8th - Episode 500 (click here!)

🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

This week, Eric is joined by Emily Karp! Emily is a 33-year-old entrepreneur, asexuality activist, and fan-work creator!  She embraced her ADHD around age 30 and quit her tedious job to become self-employed as a funeral celebrant and memorial slideshow editor who crafts personalized funerals and celebration-of-life events for non-religious individuals.  Emily went through the ADHD reWired coaching program in spring of 2021 and became a peer mentor in 2022.  

Emily is also one of the authors of the book Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing your Asexual or Aromantic Identity, and is a lead organizer of the Washington DC Metro Area Ace and Aro meetup group! 

• Learn more about Emily at griefpictured.com! (click here!)

Questions/Topics:

• [00:01:39] Introducing Emily
• [00:02:41] Diving into the start of Emily’s ADHD journey
• [00:03:37] The stakes of getting an ADHD diagnosis
• [00:04:47] Life as an administrative professional before treatments 
• [00:08:47] Burnout, becoming an entrepreneur, sleep struggles, and coaching 
• [00:10:30] The “why” behind becoming a non-religious Funeral Celebrant 
• [00:13:24] Helping others grieve and heal, family estrangements, memorial gatherings, and closure 
• [00:17:17] Grief to acceptance with ADHD 
• [00:24:07] The basics of asexuality and aromantics
• [00:26:04] Nuances of ace relationships, significant others, attraction, and more  
• [00:28:25] Physical desire, libido, and other statistics in the asexual community 
• [00:30:44] A discussion on dysfunction, orientation, sexual trauma, and gatekeeping 
• [00:33:20] ADHD and neurodivergence in the Ace community 
• [00:42:07] The positive impact of community and relationships 
• [00:45:01] Emily’s facilitated sessions in the ADHD reWired community spaces 
• [00:46:54] Sharing more wins 
• [00:48:43] Emily’s work, website, and closing thoughts

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Podcast: Aceterpretations (click here!)
• Website: TAAAP - The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project @ taaap.org (click here!)
• Book: Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic Identity (on Goodreads)
• Want to go to CHADD this year?  Go to chadd.org to learn more! (click here!)

🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  

You’ll also find the bonus Q&As from this recording and can listen in ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! (click here!) 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:49] “For those who have done some individual coaching work on ADHD, how can groups offer to help with further progress if we’ve already learned some (ADHD management) strategies?” 
• [00:03.06] An ADHD moment: introducing the panelists + sharing group-coaching experiences 
• [00:08:21] Saying vs. Knowing 
• [00:09:22] A listener asks about creating processes: “How do you draw the line between a useful process, but when it’s so complex, it becomes dreadful, then ends up getting in the way?”
• [00:13.49] Dare to start small
• [00:14:55] Decluttering your processes 
• [00:18:22] “As parents with ADHD, what are the dos and don’ts with a potentially neurodiverse child in school?” 
• [00:20.39] A discussion on advocating for your child 
• [00:23:07] The importance of managing emotions while advocating 
• [00:30:21] “Because ADHD sometimes comes with emotional dysregulation, which sometimes happens to me at not-so-opportune times, do you have any tips or strategies for coaching oneself beforehand or ways to get oneself out of dysregulation when it’s happening?” 
• [00:30:55] DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), interrupting dysregulation in the body, and emotion in the body
• [00:32:38] The importance of knowing your tendencies 
• [00:33:54] A discussion and sharing experiences with EMDR 
• [00:35:21] The before, during, and after-care of emotions in certain situations; noticing physical responses
• [00:37:30] A listener asks about the Alumni Community versus Adult Study Hall and ADHD reWired’s free Facebook community
• [00:37:50] Kristin shares her experiences of the Alumni community after coaching
• [00:38:58] Laura talks about the relationships and connections made 
• [00:40:05] Brian’s successes utilizing accountability and cultivating continuing growth
• [00:44:35] Closing thoughts & announcements 

Resources & Honorable Mentions

• Learn more about Wrightslaw (click here!)
• What is EMDR? (click here!)
• Join ADHD reWired’s online body-doubling community at AdultStudyHall.com! (click here!)
• Interested in going to the CHADD conference? Check it out at CHADD.org/conference! (click here!)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Edward Savio!  Edward is a dad, has ADHD, wrote a musical, and grew up in Connecticut; after Howard University, Edward moved to Los Angeles to pursue screenwriting, where he became a 10-year overnight success!  Savio’s first novel, Idiots in the Machine, was picked up by Sony Pictures from the academy award-winning producers of Forest Gump.

After more deals with Sony, Disney, and others, Edward shifted his focus  writing novels so he could spend more time with his family.  He wrote his first three novels in the home overlooking San Francisco Bay, where Danielle Steel wrote her first two breakout novels.  He also once nearly drove Val Kilmer off a cliff!  

• Learn more about Edward at his website: EdwardSavio.com (click here!)

🌟 Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show!  You’ll also catch the full content of today’s episode and Eric and Edward’s extended discussion when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more!  You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:32] Introducing Edward
  • Mentioned here: Book - Idiots in the Machine (click here!) 
• [00:02:50] How Edward became successful and a writer and managing ADHD 
• [00:04:45] Routine, resistance, novelty, and plateauing
• [00:06:03] How to revisit a project that’s been put away for a while 
• [00:09:10] Misunderstandings in writing and why inflection matters
• [00:10:50] Struggles with transitions 
• [00:14:09] Getting help and taking action 
• [00:15:04] Edward shares some of his writing process and mitigating distractions 
• [00:21:23] Systems, built-in overhead, and a question about calendars 
• [00:25:37] Planning for and putting fun stuff on your calendar, and guilt when not engaging with goal-directed behavior 
• [00:29:04] “Do you know how many people said they wished they worked more?” and a creative person’s struggle 
• [00:31:04] “I want to make sure [...] my writing does not overtake my ability to interact with people.” - Edward 
• [00:33:00] Goals, good ideas, and basketball in the office 
• [00:37:43] Tips for when your brain is faster than you can write and organizing thoughts 
• [00:41:51] When you don’t want to write, do this. 
• [00:42:52] What else has Edward been up to? 
  • Mentioned here: Book - The Velvet Sledgehammer (click here!)
• [00:47:11] Closing thoughts & where to find more from Edward 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• ADHD reWired: Episode 497: Succeed in College with Hannah Choi (click here!)

• Book: The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware (click here!)

🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Danielle Sullivan joins the podcast! Danielle is the founder of Neurodiverging Coaching, which offers sliding scale neurodiversity-affirming coaching options for the community.  Danielle is also a certified Positive Psychology coach, a certified Parent Coach, and a certified trauma-informed specialist!  They had intended to remain in academia to work on gendered disability and religion, but then pivoted after she was diagnosed as autistic around age 30 after her eldest child was also diagnosed.  In looking for resources for herself, she found very little, and began producing the Neurodiverging Podcast to try and develop and offer resources for others like her.

In this episode, you’ll hear about communication nuances and unpacking the challenges and adaptability for people with both ADHD and autism across different social contexts, managing the home, exploring home dynamics and practices for managing a neurodiverse household, and the importance of non-judgemental regulation.

Then, you’ll hear discussions about advocacy, ableism, confronting ableism, burnout and understanding burnout with sensory overload, burnout strategies and prevention, and explorations with technology and ADHD. 

• Learn more about Danielle and find their podcast at Neurodiverging.com (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:36] Episode Summary
• [00:03:21] Introducing Danielle
• [00:06:29] Sensory differences, being the “difficult child”, stereotypical presentations, and exploring autism as an adult
• [00:09:53] A discussion on politeness norms and how environment can affect presentation 
• [00:13:28] Coping with variables and novel situations 
• [00:15:08] Managing a neurodivergent household, sensory mismatches, overwhelm, and regulation strategies 
• [00:19:34] “What if I just do one more thing?” 
• [00:23:53] Raising awareness around autism in adults: What is Neurodiverging all about? 
• [00:27:53] Industries attempting to accommodate
• [00:29:13] A discussion on internalized ableism 
• [00:33:04] Overly formal speech, chronic ear infections, and asynchronous development 
• [00:37:37] A discussion on burnout: neurotypical vs. neurodivergent burnout 
• [00:41:33] Recognizing burnout, autistic behaviors, and the effects of a dysregulated nervous system
• [00:45:19] “If you can name it, you can tame it.” 
• [00:46:30] Danielle’s go-to strategies for managing burnout and burnout prevention 
• [00:47:03] Learning about your own sensory systems and triggers 
• [00:48:49] An ADHD moment…  
• [00:49:42] Addressing physical stress, emotions in the body, and closing the stress-cycle 
• [00:53:29] Words of wisdom and closing thoughts 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Book: Burnout - The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA (official website) 

🌟 Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! 

🌟 Looking for real-time accountability? Want weekly check-ins to keep your momentum going on your most dreaded tasks or projects? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Ali Arena!  Dr. Ali is passionate about social cognition, language processing, executive functioning, and creating meaningful friendships and relationships.  She is both a speech and language pathologist and a board-certified behavior analyst, has a doctorate degree in educational leadership, is becoming a licensed educational psychologist, and uses a neurodiversity- and trauma-informed lens when working with all clients.  

Dr. Ali’s doctorate focus was unique, to say the least, as it addresses the dating intricacies of autistics, which led her to develop her private practice for anyone who wants help socially navigating in their workplace or relationships.  Lastly, Dr. Ali feels social support is a biological necessity and wants to help all neurodivergent individuals to reach wholistic communication. 

• Find out more and get connected with Dr. Ali at Connection-Squared.com (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:36] Introducing Dr. Ali 
• [00:03:26] Eric asks Dr. Ali how she got into focusing on relationships and the dating intricacies of neurodivergent people 
• [00:05:04] Emptying the dishwasher and other themes in neurodivergent relationships
• [00:06:40] A discussion on parentification
• [00:07:53] Ways to bring up difficult conversations with a partner 
• [00:11:31] Cleaning up 99 percent, not assuming negative meanings, and shame responses
• [00:18:27] Listening, eye-contact, and different ways of processing while listening
• [00:22:35] “How do you cope with going out to eat in a noisy restaurant?” and other sensory challenges when communicating
• [00:24:41] Setting yourself up for talking with your partner 
• [00:26:02] Communicating via text
• [00:32:47] A discussion on neurodivergent relationships and sex 
• [00:36:57] Neurodiversity and the LGBTQ+ community 
• [00:39:00] Explaining neurodiversity as part of one’s identity in a relationship
• [00:42:54] The impact of being in a relationship with someone who understands your neurodiversity
• [00:45:31] Finding support for neurodivergent relationships and how to get in touch with Dr. Ali 
• [00:46:20] One more question for Dr. Ali & closing thoughts 

🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month! 

🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Brooke Schnittman joins Eric on the podcast!  Brooke is a professional coach who understands, first-hand, the challenges of living with ADHD.  As an adult with a late ADHD diagnosis, she knows what it feels like to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and ashamed.  But, instead of giving up, Brooke decided to use her personal experiences to help others with ADHD.  She left a school system in 2018 to create a specially-tailored program for individuals for ADHD, called 3C Activation, which focuses on the importance of boundaries and small actions to activate potential and achieve continued success through maintaining momentum! 

• Listen to Brooke’s Podcast: SuccessFULL with ADHD (click here!)
• Check out Brooke’s website and find her book: CoachingWithBrooke.com (click here!)
• Find Brooke on Instagram: @coachingwithbrooke (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:25] Introducing Brooke, a little ADHD tangent, and a relatable discussion about paperwork
• [00:04:12] What is 3C Activation? 
• [00:06:10] The importance of intentionality behind small changes and habits vs. making many changes all at the same time
• [00:08:09] 3 steps for tasks and setting up the readiness for behavioral change 
• [00:10:07] A moment of reading chicken scratch and controlling the chaos of your own ADHD brain 
• [00:17:07] Consistency, resiliency, self-compassion, and persistence 
• [00:19:41] The importance of sharing and acknowledging your wins  
• [00:21:40] Overcoming negativity bias 
• [00:22:26] A framework of boundaries, questions to check in with yourself, and saying “no” 
• [00:25:21] The nervous system and its effect on decision-making 
• [00:28:43] Discussing the resistance to delegation
• [00:32:43] “People actually want to help.” 
• [00:35:09] Delegating creative tasks 
• [00:36:46] ChatGPT, anyone? 
• [00:41:14] Brooke talks about her book 
• [00:45:01] Closing thoughts & announcements 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Website: Dan Sullivan (click here)

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Questions/Topics:

• [00:02:39] A listener asks the panelists for advice on how to help others take steps to get an ADHD diagnosis
• [00:05:02] Discussing online assessments 
• [00:07:51] Red flags when seeking help for ADHD 
• [00:10:07] “How do you all overcome the difficulty of transitions? I know what needs to be done, but why does transitioning from one thing to another feel like such a chore?” 
• [00:12:17] Habit stacking and buffer space 
• [00:17:14] A listener chimes in with suggestions for overcoming the difficulty of transitions 
• [00:20:57] Resources, tips and tricks for a listener who was diagnosed with ADHD at 61
• [00:24:52] A discussion about medication and side-effects
• [00:26:54] More resources and how coaching can help 
• [00:29:54] The multi-pronged approach to ADHD management 
• [00:35:53] “I am pretty burnt out at work, and I was given/voluntold to take 2 weeks of rest; I was wondering what can I do in these next two weeks to improve my burnout and ensure I continue to improve when I return so I don’t get burnt out again?” 
• [00:38:14] A helpful resource on burnout and processes of introspection 
• [00:44:51] Discussing health definitions and healthcare 
• [00:47:24] Tips and strategies to engage with self-care and being “ready” for self-care
• [00:49:58] “ADHD is a performance disorder.  We know what to do - that’s not the issue.  The issue is doing it.” 
• [00:52:03] Self-awareness, dealing with compounded shame, and trauma
• [00:57:45] “Do you have any suggestions on how to communicate with someone who doesn’t understand that the reason why I do something that doesn’t make sense to them, and defending my stance, how can I still show accountability and not be so defensive?  
• [01:00:43] Closing thoughts & announcements 

Resources & Honorable Mentions

• ADHD reWired episode 342: Transitions and Balancing Work & Relationships with Adison Smith (click here)
• Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear (on Goodreads) (official website)
• Book: Still Distracted After All These Years by Kathleen G. Nadeau 
• Book: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA (official website)
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov (on Goodreads)
• Website: The Gottman Institute at gottman.com (click here!)
• The 6 Ways of Closing the Stress Cycle Loop (from Burnout by Emily & Amelia Nagoski): Physical Activity, Creativity, Laughing. Crying, Physical Affection, and Deep Breathing 
• “Burnout is… the nervous system and body taking the rest it needs by force.” - Brian Entler 
• “ADHD reWired Coaching is about iteration, reflection, feedback, and keep doing that over and over again.” - Eric Tivers
• “An ADHD diagnosis doesn’t change the past, but it does change our understanding of the past.” 
• “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” - Brene Brown

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In today’s show, Eric is joined by Jessica Ovadia! Jessica, who has a Bachelor of Science in communication from New York University and a Master of Public Health from Emory University, is a healthcare communicator and a problem solver with a decade of experience helping clients articulate their message through engaged interactions, artful language choice, and thoughtful strategy. Her love of healthcare and deep passion for effective clear communication naturally led to the foundation of her consulting firm - Jessica Ovadia: Healthcare Messaging!

Having grown up with parents as physicians and being a parent herself, you’ll hear about Jessica’s struggles with the growing demands of life.  Then, you’ll also hear about simplifying complexities, motivation and burnout, creating your own structure, and overcoming tendencies to overcomplicate the way we communicate.  Finally, you’ll hear discussions on the importance of clarifications and knowing the audience, self-esteem when owning your own business, what communicating the ADHD experience can look like, and more! 

• Learn more about Jessica at her website jessicaovadia.com! (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:25] Introducing Jessica
• [00:03:03] Jessica talks about ADHD and how becoming a parent brought her challenges to the surface
• [00:04:46] Getting reacquainted with ADHD and unlearning developed patterns 
• [00:06:01] Eric asks Jessica about being a business owner with ADHD and what led her to her passion of clear communication around healthcare 
• [00:09:49] A discussion on motivation and burnout 
• [00:14:08] Managing scheduling, structure, and accountability when being your own boss 
• [00:23:23] When it comes to communication, how do we recognize when we’re overcomplicating things, then how do we simplify what and how we’re communicating? 
• [00:28:19] Read-receipts and challenges around writing and responding 
• [00:29:26] What to think about when you have a message and keeping it simple
• [00:31:53] What can we do to make sure we are coming across clearly and are being understood? 
• [00:34:15] “I would have written less if I had more time.” 
• [00:35:00] Eric asks Jessica for a helpful reframe or a framework to think about effectively communicating different parts of  ADHD in shorter-form content.
• [00:41:24] What has Jessica learned about her own brain through having her own business? 
• [00:44:38] How can we communicate and get better public understanding and messaging about what ADHD really is? What would that messaging campaign look like? 
• [00:47:31] A discussion & sharing thoughts about ADHD as a superpower 
• [00:51:05] Closing thoughts 

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In this episode, Eric is celebrating ADHD reWired's 500-episode milestone. Joining him are members of ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Group Alumni Community, where they will be sharing their Dear ADHD Letters. A huge thanks to the members who shared their letters and their stories.

Whether you're new to the show or you've been listening since episode 1, thank you for being here for 500 episodes. We hope you'll keep joining us for the next 500 episodes to come.

Special thanks to all of our coaching group members, Alumni members, coaches, volunteers, Patrons, Facebook community members, listeners of the show old and new, the ADHD reWired team, all the wonderful guests that have been on the show, and everyone everywhere around and in between. Thank you so much for your support. We wouldn't be here without you.

We CAN do hard things, and you are not alone. ❤️

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📣 Hey there ADHD reWired listeners! Quick annoucment about our fall season of coaching and accountability groups:

If you missed last week's announcements or recent emails, then BIG news! We rolled back the pricing of our coaching groups to pre-2020 levels. You can join our fall season of coaching groups for as low as $1650 when you join sections with coaches Brian or Kristin, or you can join Eric's section for only $1999. Payment plans are also available! 

Then, after you complete our 10-week coaching program, we will also be giving registrants 6 months of membership in our alumni coaching community for free! 🌟

Join us for our upcoming registration events by going to coachingrewired.com to start your preregistration process. The dates for our upcoming registration events are: 

• Monday, September 18th at 8:00 Pacific / 11:00am eastern
• Wednesday, September 20th at 12:00pm Pacific / 3:00pm Eastern

For the most up to date information and to start your pre-registration process, get your name on our interest list at coachingrewired.com!  

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In this episode, Trina from My Lady ADHD joins the panel!  You’ll get answers to your ADHD-related questions about relationships, motivation, satisfaction, and burnout. You’ll also hear about taking care of aging parents, the importance of community, disclosing in the workplace, engaging in self-care, and more!  

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Learn more about Trina at her website MyLadyADHD.com! (click here!)

Resources & Honorable Mentions

• Book: Still Distracted After All These Years by Kathleen G. Nadeau (click here)

• Book: The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov (click here)

• Book: Burnout by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA (click here)

• Website: Inclusively.com (click here)

• Website: The Gottman Institute - A Research-Based Approach to Relationships (click here)

• Mentioned - HALT: Am I Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired?  

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In today’s show, Eric is joined by Bowie Winnike, a.k.a. Rainbow!  Rainbow is a gender doula and neurodivergent support coach with a background in art, education, activism, and mental health.  They are deeply rooted in the trans community and have a passion for co-imagining deeper levels of communal accessible care.

• Learn more about Rainbow at RainbowChrysalisCoaching.com (click here!)

In this episode, you’ll hear Eric and Rainbow explore gender, the different intersections of oneself, and coming out!  You’ll also hear them talk about what a gender doula is, unmasking and transitions.  Finally, you’ll also hear about the importance of community, the possibilities through the process, the difference between being accepted vs. being valued for who you are, and more! 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:11] Introducing Rainbow
• [00:02:58] Rainbow talks about the challenges of feeling like they didn’t fit in 
• [00:08:44] Addressing discomfort, and being “othered” 
• [00:10:51] “What if we could just release these expectations?” and a discussion on masking 
• [00:14:32] Rainbow opens up about living their truth in the midst of fear 
• [00:22:42] What is a gender doula, and how can they help?  
• [00:24:46] ADHD, transitions, and identity 
• [00:29:43] Eric asks Rainbow about living their truth and how it’s affected their neurodivergence 
• [00:33:56] A transformational artform, being celebrated, and stirring the pot 
• [00:41:13] Neurodivergence in LGBTQ+ communities and pushing the boundaries of “normal” 
• [00:48:24] Closing thoughts 

Resources & Honorable Mentions

• Book - Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Trisha Hersey (click here!)
• Book - Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon (click here!)
• Essay - Audre Lorde: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action (click here!)

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In this episode, Hannah Choi joins Eric on the podcast!  Hannah is an Executive Function Coach for Beyond Book Smart and is the host of the podcast, Focus Forward: An Executive Function Podcast.  Hannah works with both college-aged clients and adult clients, and lives in Connecticut with her husband and two kids.  Her executive function strengths are time management and cognitive flexibility, and her challenges are working memory and attention.  Hannah also loves to read, watch Korean dramas, exercise, travel, and spend time outdoors! 

You’ll hear about the importance of developing a relationship with your professors, strategies and skills for self-advocacy, the benefits of breaking down big projects, and emotional regulation to access executive function skills.  Then, you’ll also hear about the importance of maintaining sleep, nutrition, and exercise, managing medication, a warning about due dates, course load, schedule design, and more! 

• Learn more about Hannah at beyondbooksmart.com (click here!)
• Listen to Focus Forward at beyondbooksmart.com/podcast (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:02] Introducing Hannah 
• [00:02:14] How did Hannah begin working with college students? 
• [00:04:56] Hannah shares her experiences in college while questioning her abilities 
• [00:05:44] “If I knew then what I know now….” 
• [00:07:18] A discussion on self-advocacy while in college and getting over the fear of getting to know your professors
• [00:11:45] Hannah shares a tool she uses with clients 
• [00:13:56] Breaking down Steps/Time/Mapping
• [00:18:076] Finding balance between college work and socializing
• [00:22:44] A discussion on emotional regulation and accessing executive function skills 
• [00:30:21] Managing ADHD medication and other mental health treatments 
• [00:32:53] What are some other important accommodations that students can ask for? 
• [00:41:56] Eric shares an experience and a warning about (a lack of) due dates
• [00:44:47] How important is course load and schedule design? 
• [00:49:14] Navigating interests in college 
• [00:51:41] Closing Thoughts

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In this episode, Eric is joined by Vernon T. Foster II!  Vernon is an author, podcaster, and self-proclaimed Sommelier of video marketing.  Diagnosed with ADHD just over 2 years ago, Vernon is passionate about sharing his experience as a black man living with ADHD and creating community.

You’ll hear Vernon share his story from life as a kid to today, what prompted him to write his book, what it’s like to have to walk out the door as a black man in America while navigating ADHD, and dealing with challenges because of the layers society has placed on black American men.  

• Learn more about Vernon T. Foster II on Linkedin (click here!) or at his video marketing website at vernontfoster.com (click here!)
• Get Vernon’s book at adhdblack.com - The Black Man’s Handbook to Living with ADHD: 5 Ways to Create a Better Tomorrow No Matter How You’re Feeling Today (click here!)
• Check out his Instagram @vernononvideo [Instagram] 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:06] Introducing Vernon and his continuing process of figuring himself out and his ADHD journey
• [00:02:56] Vernon shares his experiences with various jobs and getting fired 
• [00:04:47] A conversation about what led Vernon to ADHD, connecting the dots, and life as the “token black kid” in school
• [00:08:09] Experiencing covert racism 
• [00:10:02] Vernon shares about his time at Florida State University and a discussion on testing 
• [00:10:50] Eric and Vernon on Scantrons 
• [00:14:44] The Stroop Test 
• [00:16:34] ADHD medication, college, and an important message 
• [00:20:45] Eric shares a test-taking strategy 
• [00:21:38] Life after an ADHD diagnosis / A shocking statistic / What prompted Vernon to write his book
• [00:23:35] Vernon shares his reaction about the ADHD diagnosis statistics on African American and Latino children
• [00:23:58] “Why didn’t anyone tell me this sh*t?” 
• [00:25:19] Eric asks Vernon, “As a black man, diagnosed later with ADHD, [...] what do you think is maybe not understood by most people?” 
• [00:25:57] “The world is already against you, the odds are already stacked against you” / Other challenges navigating the world as a black man  
• [00:27:52] Understanding ADHD and how it affects every aspect of Vernon’s life
• [00:29:34] The challenges of navigating the world with something very visible alongside something that is invisible and how one affects the other
• [00:32:02] “A lot of people who look like me…” / Level the playing field / Hoarding information and wealth and perpetuating the cycle
• [00:33:36] “It’s my duty to be a steward of those things to help support other people that look like me, people that also don’t look like me.”
• [00:39:34] Vernon shares his wisdom, tips, and being a work in progress 
• [00:42:14] Tapping into the tools after an ADHD diagnosis 
• [00:44:20] Managing emotions, emotional intelligence, and taking your power back / Mindfulness 
• [00:48:17] Support, family, and community / “It’s really hard to do this alone.” 
• [00:52:55] Communicating what you need when you have ADHD 
• [00:57:33] Closing thoughts  

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• ADHD reWired Episode 333: Race-Based Trauma, RSD & ADHD with Romanza McAllister LCSW (listen here!)
• Website: blackgirllostkeys.com - René Brooks: Living as a Black Woman with ADHD  (click here!) 
• “How do we become better stewards of the gifts and the opportunities that we have to show other people that it’s possible? To invest in other people?” - Vernon 

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In today’s show, Caroleen Verly joins Eric on the podcast!  Caroleen is a former data analyst turned business owner and financial coach who loves spreadsheets, numbers, problem solving, and data!  She also loves working with clients to find order in the chaos of their financial lives.  Caroleen has a degree in economics from Yale and spent the first 12 years of her career doing data analysis and data visualization.  In addition to her business, Caroleen is also a mom to three young children! 

• Check out Caroleen’s website UntangleYourMoney.com (click here!)
• Learn more about Caroleen at her website (here)
• Find UntangleYourMoney on Instagram at @adhdmoney (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:10] Introducing Caroleen! 
• [00:02:26] What does it mean to create good systems that work by default? 
• [00:03:55] A discussion on automation, bills, payments, resistance, and safety nets
• [00:07:32] Dedicating accounts, savings, and putting money in the right spots for different purposes
• [00:16:57] Banking and ADHD-friendly interfaces 
• [00:18:37] Caroleen tries the Qube Money app (click here!)
• [00:21:30] A discussion about credit cards and managing them successfully 
• [00:25:02] Impulsive spending and the impact of credit scores 
• [00:27:57] “The cheaper option is not always cheaper!”
• [00:38:27] Ways to start saving in the midst of debt and living paycheck to paycheck 
• [00:41:30] Cutting costs vs. making more money: Which one is better?  
• [00:45:56] Resources & closing thoughts

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Book (and Editor’s choice!):  I Will Teach You to be Rich by Ramit Sethi (on Goodreads)
• Website:  I Will Teach You to be Rich at IWillTeachYouToBeRich.com (click here!)

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In today’s show, Eric is joined by Rachel Moore, a licensed psychotherapist and marriage and family therapist, based in San Diego, California!  Rachel is also certified in EMDR and Brainspotting (BSP)!  She works primarily with creative clients, such as artists, writers, and musicians.  Before becoming a therapist, Rachel earned her bachelor's degree in creative writing and was a newspaper copy editor for 14 years.  She is also a musician, a singer, and a proud member of the ADHD community!  

You’ll hear about relational-based therapy, trauma and overwhelm, discussions on EMDR and brainspotting, and the importance of finding a therapist who understands your creative needs.  You will also be along for the ride as Rachel guides Eric through the Flash technique!  

• Find Rachel on Instagram @rachelmoorecounseling (click here!)
• Learn more about Rachel at RachelMooreCounseling.com https://www.rachelmoorecounseling.com 
• Check out The Artist’s Way Workshop here on her website
• Listen to Rachel’s podcast: Beyond Artist’s Block (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:10] Introducing Rachel
• [00:01:58] What is EMDR? What is Brainspotting? Are the two types of therapy connected? 
• [00:05:30] Discussing relational-based therapy  
• [00:07:18] How do you distinguish the difference between a general state of overwhelm and a trauma response? 
• [00:16:58] What is the Flash technique? 
• [00:19:14] A demonstration of the Flash technique 
• [00:27:25] Eric shares his experiences with the Flash technique 
• [00:31:40] “The brain and the eyes are made of the same stuff” and the theories of Brainspotting
• [00:37:35] A demonstration of grounding techniques 
• [00:41:18] EMDR and BSP: How are these modalities helpful for ADHD brains and creatives? 
• [00:45:30] Finding someone who understands the experience and depth of what creativity means for you
• [00:49:14] Closing Thoughts

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Book: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron (on Goodreads)
• Article:  on Brainspotting.com - What is Brainspotting? https://brainspotting.com/about-bsp/what-is-brainspotting/ 
• Article: on EMDRIA - About EMDR Therapy https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/

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In this episode, Kody Lukens joins the podcast!  Kody was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and very quickly became frustrated with the lack of resources made for adults with ADHD.  He then set out to do something about it!  Kody started creating education and relatable ADHD content on social media to help people learn about their brains and feel a sense of community.  He also created and designed a magnetic stim fidget toy called Stimagz! 

• Get your Stimagz at stimagz.com! (click here!)

• Find Kody on Instagram @kodylukens @kodylukens

• Find Stimagz on Instagram @stimagz @stimagz

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:06] Introducing Kody, and all about Stimagz 
• [00:02:35] A brief discussion on calming nerves 
• [00:04:17] Kody’s ADHD story & entrepreneurship 
• [00:06:37] Kickstarting Stimagz and all about fidgeting 
• [00:12:04] What’s been the hardest part about launching Stimagz? 
• [00:16:38] What are other challenges being a content creator and entrepreneur with ADHD? 
• [00:18:08] Creating structure and long-term goals  
• [00:24:44] Theming your week 
• [00:26:10] How to get stuff done when you’re not “feeling it” 
• [00:30:24] The ‘sprint’ of a new business 
• [00:37:52] How to deal with failure 
• [00:43:06] Kody’s favorite productivity tools 
• [00:46:37] Calendars and the benefits of Calendly 
• [00:48:40] Closing thoughts and where you can find Kody and get Stimagz!

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Jeremy Andrew Davis - Tiktok, on Stimagz (click here!)
• ADHD reWired Episode 476: When Potential and Opportunity Misalign with Nate (click here!)
• Song: “Life Itself” by Glass Animals (listen on YouTube!)
• Tool: Calendly at Calendly.com  (click here!)
• Article: Fail Hard, Fail Fast, Fail Often on Medium.com (click here to read!)
• “Never put yourself in a position to where, if you fail, you’re toast. Always have a back-up plan, and a back-up plan, and a back-up plan.” - Kody 

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Questions/Topics:  

• [00:01:23] Welcome & introducing the panel

• [0003:12] A listener who was recently diagnosed with ADHD shortly after their son was diagnosed, doesn’t feel good about their prescriber’s knowledge of ADHD treatments.  What can be done to find the right people to prescribe or to help educate the prescribers beyond the usual, “How are you feeling?”  

• [00:11:44] Managing expectations and perspectives about communicating without needing to go into a lecture about having ADHD. 

• [00:13:14] How do you advocate for yourself when you don’t yet know what works best for you?

• [00:18:24] A discussion about boundary-setting and boundary violations. 

• [00:20:40] A listener asks about their 11-year-old son and screen time. 

• [00:30:18] “Do any of you have sensory issues?  When it comes to clothing and scents, is this an ADHD-specific thing, or could there be something else going on?” 

• [00:36:53] A masters student asks for tools and suggestions for keeping on top of writing, getting started on assignments, and working consistently.  

• [00:42:50] “Regarding the emotional regulation piece, how do you conceptualize where ADHD ends and the other struggles (such as bipolar or borderline or other mood disorders) begin?”

• [00:52:22] A listener asks about the secret-sauce to Eric nearing the 500-podcast-episode milestone, and also seeks advice on starting a podcast and being terrified of not being able to do it consistently.  

• [00:56:17] A listener talks about RSD and anxiety, and asks the panelists for advice when having a difficult time articulating their needs, especially at work.  

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Website: CHADD at chadd.org (click here!)

• Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glower Tawwab (on Goodreads)

• Book: How to Write a Lot - A Practical Guide to Productive Academic Writing by Paul J. Silvia, PhD (on Goodreads)

• Book: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield 

• ADHD reWired Episode 118: Could it be Bipolar Disorder? With Dr. Robert Olivardia (listen here!)

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In this episode, Eric is joined by Renee Rosales!  Renee is a mother, educator, advocate, and transformational leader who has always possessed a deep passion for education.  As an innovator, Renee established two of the first virtual schools in Arizona.  She collaborated with educational partners, co-founding Marana Distance Learning K12 in 2004.  Then, less than two years later, she founded Northern Arizona Distance Learning. Also known as NADL, it is the first online public school in the northern half of the state!  As a visionary, Renee believes that with  the right amount of education and determination, anything is possible! 

Renee has made it her mission to create a better way for the neurodiverse community! In addition to being a co-founder of the two virtual schools, she is also the founder of Theara - a business in supporting the neurodiverse community from birth to adulthood.  As a visionary, Renee consistently strives to make the intangible tangible by building bridges, connections, and relationships that positively transform all aspects of life! 

• Find out more about Renee at Theara.com (click here!)

Some of Renee’s acronyms shared in today’s episode:

• JOY: Journey forward, Organize & Optimism, Yield to wellness

• DREAM: Diet, Rest, Exercise, Activity outdoors, Mindfulness 

• ABC: Aware, Brave, Curious

• LIGHT: Listen, Integrate, Guide, Honor, Transform 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:06] Introducing Renee

• [00:02:34] What brought Renee into the world of ADHD and neurodiversity? 

• [00:03:58] Problem solving, big solutions, follow through, and coping strategies 

• [00:06:26] Joy and finding focus 

• [00:07:27] Dealing with trauma

• [00:12:03] The spark of Lighting the Way 

• [00:13:31] Living the D.R.E.A.M. and moving forward

• [00:16:51] Observing trauma in schools and feeling defeated

• [00:21:42] Organizing for optimism 

• [00:22:20] What’s a capsule wardrobe? 

• [00:25:47] Holding onto wellness 

• [00:29:50] Helping folks in the workplace and safely unmasking 

• [00:37:54] Environment Social Governance guidelines (ESG) 

• [00:39:33] Where to learn more about ESG 

• [00:40:58] Advice for employees bringing information & accommodations  to the workplace 

• [00:44:40] Closing thoughts and where to find Renee

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Learn more about ESG by searching:

• Ernst & Young (US) (Canada)

• Deloitte (US) (Canada) 

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In this episode, the owner of Organize365 - Lisa Woodruff -  joins Eric on the podcast!  Organize365 has conducted academic research, establishing the definitions of house work, home organization, and the weight of paper in the American home.  This ongoing research is making the invisible work at home visible to all, so we can eliminate it, free people from the monotonous tasks of daily living, and unlock our time for what we are uniquely created to do!  Lisa is also a natural tinkerer and a lover of puzzles, a kindergarten teacher, used to organize people’s homes when she used to babysit, and even used to organize teachers’ classrooms.  

If you’re wondering how you can get your home organized, then this is the episode to listen to, because today, Eric and Lisa will discuss the idea that organization is a learnable skill! 

You’ll hear some of Lisa’s rules for taking on new projects and her 24-hour rule, visual clutter, what to do with incomplete projects, where piles come from, and breaking down the Sunday Basket.  

• Find Lisa’s book, her research and her podcast at organize365.com! (click here!)
• Find Organize365 on YouTube @organize365 (click here!)

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:51] Introducing Lisa 

• [00:03:11] What was the “why” for Lisa to get into becoming organized? 

• [00:07:11] What are the helpful questions that Lisa asks her clients? 

• [00:10:09] A brief discussion on (perceptions of) minimalism  

• [00:10:38] How do we live more through having less? (And is “less” the “right” answer?) 

• [00:12:26] “So what?” and a discussion about visual clutter and accumulating projects and hobbies 

• [00:16:20] Clutter, piles, and what to do with purchases and returns 

• [00:19:43] ADHD and home ownership 

• [00:23:27] What is the Sunday Basket? And Lisa’s thoughts about “being behind” when organizing 

• [00:27:03] What are the Four Binders?

• [00:31:51] Questions to ask yourself when utilizing your calendar and staying organized 

• [00:34:53] Taking care of financial documents 

• [00:41:57] Lisa shares her ADHD story and a discussion on executive function and working memory 

• [00:47:22] Diving into Lisa’s academic studies about organization as a skill 

• [00:51:18] How many people care about being organized?  

• [00:55:12] Lisa on investing in our household and what’s in our control 

• [00:56:58] Closing thoughts 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• “If you have something that’s working for YOU, absolutely do not change it!” - Lisa 

• “Stop trying to get an “A” in your housework.” - Lisa 

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On today’s show, Eric is joined by Marcy Caldwell, Psy.D!  Marcy is a psychologist, writer, and proud mom of 2, who has been helping adults with ADHD thrive in their work, relationships, and parenting for over 20 years.  She is a passionate advocate for adults with ADHD and is dedicated to helping them create environments that unlock the unique genius of their brains!  

Marcy is also the founder of ADDept.org, a blog and resource for adults with ADHD, and is also the owner of Rittenhouse Psychological Services, a practice specializing in adult ADHD in the Philadelphia area. In addition, Marcy is also the creator of Meltdown to Mastery! 

• Learn more about Marcy and find her masterclass, Meltdown to Mastery, at ADDept.org! (click here!)
• Are you in the Philadelphia area?  Check out Rittenhouse Psychological Services!  https://rittenhousepsychologicalassessments.com 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:00:57] Introducing Marcy and how she got into the world of ADHD 

• [00:03:31] A family with ADHD and being in the messy middle 

• [00:05:50] Regulatory differences between neurotypical and ADHD brains 

• [00:07:21] Activation, stopping, and on/off switches 

• [00:08:43] Three components of an ADHD experience 

• [00:15:32] “How do we know the difference between the emotional storms and emotional regulation challenges that are so often seen with ADHD… and the emotional storms / regulation challenges that come with other disorders, such as autism, borderline personality disorder, bi-polar, etc.?” 

• [00:20:11] Why does it matter to understand that an antecedent comes externally for emotional storms with ADHD compared to other differential diagnoses? 

• [00:22:08] How much of the emotional storms that are triggered by external events are more a trauma response vs. being organically related to ADHD? 

• [00:27:32] What is Meltdown to Mastery all about? 

• [00:30:21] Can the intentional use of distraction be a tool? 

• [00:32:02] A discussion on distraction vs. avoidance

• [00:36:31] Developing an understanding of identifying the “in-between” emotions and building conscientiousness 

• [00:40:35] Closing thoughts and more about Marcy 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• “I believe in the power of understanding.” – Marcy 

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Questions/Topics:

• [00:01:06] Welcome & introductions 

• [00:02:03] A listener, who was diagnosed with ADHD within the week of the recording of this episode, asks the panelists about taking stimulant medication.  

• [00:08:51] “When you are trying to be open with your job or others about your ADHD, how would you handle your response?” 

• [00:19:29] Another listener who was also recently diagnosed with ADHD asks, “What is your advice?  How do you work with a leader at work who is very linear and very neurotypical when your best comes out when you’re not?”

• [00:28:00] “I have autism.  Is it true that ADHD drugs tend to not work for autistic patients?  Do we have any possible reasons why, if it’s true?” 

• [00:34:05] A listener, who has treatment-resistant depression, is unable to take ADHD medication, and has been experiencing fatigue, asks the panelist if fatigue is an ADHD symptom.  

• [00:41:29] A listener asks the panelists to recap the good sides of ADHD.  

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In this episode, Eric is joined by Vanessa Gorelkin! Vanessa is an east-coast transplant to Arizona where she lives with her son and husband (who both have ADHD)!  She graduated with a B.A. from Brandeis University and has a masters degree in Occupational Therapy from New York University. 

Vanessa is also a Licensed Occupational Therapist in Arizona, and her career spans nearly 30 years!  She has served in both clinical and executive leadership roles, works with people all over the world, and is passionate about bringing out the best in all the people she works with!

• Learn more about Vanessa by visiting her website at vanessagorelkin.com & find her on Instagram at @humanist_therapist 

In today’s show, you’ll hear about mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), and acceptance and commitment based therapy (ACT).  Then, you’ll hear about deep breathing, using spicy food or sour candies to help regulate, setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion and resilience.  Finally, you’ll listen to ways to work on activation, sensory processing issues and the nervous system, sensory accommodations, and the importance of breaking down activities into smaller steps.  

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:02:18] Introducing Vanessa

• [00:04:00] The importance of emotional self-regulation 

• [00:04:51] What is an Occupational Therapist (OT)? 

• [00:06:19] How does an OT help people with ADHD around emotional regulation skills? 

• [00:07:30] What is acceptance and commitment based therapy (ACT)? What about radical acceptance? 

• [00:08:23] What is dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT)? 

• [00:09:50] Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

• [00:10:52] A discussion on rejection sensitivity, BPD, ADHD, and trauma 

• [00:17:28] Eric asks Vanessa about the common “chief complaints” she experiences in her practice 

• [00:18:48] What are some examples of the skills Vanessa helps clients work with, and how does she help them do that? 

• [00:20:34] What do I do when my brain gets “hijacked?” and TIPP skills

• [00:24:59] Vanessa talks about sour and spicy for regulation 

• [00:27:14] Proactive skills vs. responding in-the-moment 

• [00:31:18] The intersectionality between anger, boundaries, and boundary violations

• [00:32:26] ** You need to hear this. 

• [00:33:03] External pressures, checking your calendar, and your right to say “no” 

• [00:35:15] Saying “no” when it feels bad, and therapy vs. coaching 

• [00:37:26] What is the OT approach for activation?

• [00:43:18] Sensory processing issues being missed with ADHD 

• [00:45:24] Does sensory processing get worse with age? 

• [00:49:34] Closing Thoughts 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• “People sometimes get really hung up on a diagnosis… What my attitude about a diagnosis is:  It helps us understand what tools we can use, but it does not define you as a human being.” - Vanessa 

• “Masquerading as 'normal' is exhausting.” - Eric 

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In today’s show, Eric is joined by Liz Angoff!  Liz is a licensed educational psychologist with a diplomate in school neuropsychology, providing assessment and consultation services to children and their families in the Bay area.  She is the author of the Brain Building Books and is constantly creating new tools to help parents and providers empower children to help them understand their unique brains. 

Learn more about Liz and her books at brainbuidingbook.com!
brainbuildingbook.com

In this episode, you’ll hear about Liz’s mission to help neurodiverse kids understand and create their personal narratives, how parents can understand their kids better, how Liz has found purpose through her own anxiety, and using affirming language to communicate.  

Then, you’ll hear about the importance of articulating and communicating intentions, engaging in self-awareness conversations with kids, acknowledging parent-guilt, when hyper-verbalism and auditory processing collide, transitions, screen time, and more! 

Find more from Liz at http://www.explainingbrains.com/Parents 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:02.08] Introducing Liz
• [00:04:10] Having conversations with kids about their diagnoses & 
• [00:06:38] Liz shares her diagnosis story and her experiences with sensory overwhelm
• [00:10:11] Eric asks Liz about self-disclosure when talking to parents and kids 
• [00:19:24] Exploring the neurodivergent home of Eric Tivers and problem-solving at home
• [00:22:31] Identifying the problem and how to better understand a child’s experiences
• [00:29:02] Iterating: Experimentation, evaluation, and assessment 
• [00:31:42] Addressing concerns as a parent and needs as an adult 
• [00:33:51] Worrying about our kids growing up into adults; What-ifs, jumping to conclusions, and catastrophizing 
• [00:37:22] Eric opens up about what happens at home 
• [00:39:26] The importance of relearning and reintegrating skills when reaching milestones 
• [00:41:58] Transitions, outings, and screen time 
• [00:48:26] Closing thoughts from Liz 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Eric’s episode with his son - 483: Neurodivergence Runs in the Family (listen here!)
• Book: The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D https://drrossgreene.com/the-explosive-child.htm
• Website: Collaborative & Proactive Solutions - Ross Greene, Ph.D at www.cpsconnection.com https://www.cpsconnection.com

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In this episode, Jessica Hicksted joins Eric on the podcast!  Jessica was late-diagnosed with autism and ADHD and brings together her life experiences and education to advocate for invisible disabilities.  Growing up the “awkward kid,” she faced life’s rough spots head-on, creating resilience and determination.  These skills proved valuable in completing her PhD and dedicating her research into invisible disabilities to help promote positive social change. 

You’ll hear Eric and Jessica talk about workplace success for people with invisible disabilities, masking and executive-function drains, and ableism.  Then, you’ll also hear about how Jessica got diagnosed, self-advocacy, disclosure or nondisclosure in the workplace, what Jessica uncovered in her research, and the benefits and values to businesses for being more accommodating.  

Find some of her writing on ADDitude Magazine! https://www.additudemag.com/author/jessica-hicksted-ph-d/ 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:06] Introducing Jessica & meeting at CHADD 

• [00:02:13] Diving into Jessica’s research, and, “How do we–from a systems perspective–help individuals be successful in the workplace?” 

• [00:05:23] Are the tides really starting to turn in the workplace about invisible disabilities? 

• [00:06:27] Masking in the workplace 

• [00:09:25] Jessica’s experience of being diagnosed as an adult after becoming a parent

• [00:16:14] What is an invisible disability?

• [00:18:56] Disclosure vs. intended disclosure

• [00:19:42] What does the data say about disclosure? 

• [00:21:10] What kinds of questions did Jessica ask while doing her research? 

• [00:24:24] A conversation on the prevalence of ableism in the workplace 

• [00:27:58] Transparency and opening the door of communication 

• [00:33:28] Money talk: What is the benefit and value for businesses to be more inclusive and accommodating for people with invisible disabilities?  What does the data show? 

• [00:38:30] In Jessica’s data, were there any industries that were ‘better’ with acceptance in the workplace than others? 

• [00:42:18] What are some questions a prospective employee could ask to try and gauge if they will be entering a friendly workplace for neurodivergent brains? 

• [00:44:52] If there could be one big change in the workplace to help individuals with invisible disabilities, what would that change look like?  

• [00:45:53] Closing thoughts 

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This week, Eric is joined by Abby Wilson!  Abby runs a global facilitation, mediation, and coaching practice from her beloved home in Pittsburg, Pennsylvania.  She uses methods from the design field–A.K.A. design-thinking–to help individuals navigate career change, and helps organizations to lead with empathy, reframe challenges, and generate ideas.  

Her ADHD diagnosis, 8 years ago at the age of 35, is one of those before-and-after life moments that so many of us can probably relate to, and is thrilled to be connecting the dots between design-thinking, her life’s work for the last 12 years, and her naturally “curly” mind!  Abby’s “curly” mind has lived in 6 countries, she has birthed a child she adores, has worked in many governments, and has enough letters after her name for a competitive Scrabble game! 

In this conversation, you’ll hear Eric and Abby talk about design thinking, how it’s beneficial for ADHD folks, the messiness of the creative process, and solving for the right problem.  You’ll also hear about how having a lot of great ideas also means having a lot of not-so-great ideas, prioritizing, risk-taking, the importance of specificity, and why design-thinking is helpful for relationships, tapping into your creativity, and more.  

Get in touch and learn more about design thinking and Abby at her website: abbywilson.com https://www.abbywilson.com 

Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:10] Introducing Abby

• [00:02:41] What is design thinking?  

• [00:04:11] Abby on teaching iterative process, roadblocks faced during design thinking, and the messiness of the creative process 

• [00:05:13] Eric shares a real-life example and asks Abby about applying design thinking to this situation

• [00:07:09] The most basic framework for a design process is… 

• [00:08:04] The “Rose, Thorn, Bud” method for being endlessly curious and to start to add an additional layer of meaning 

• [00:11:35] Abby on finding a specific problem-definition and methods to help reframing 

• [00:13:55] What do we do when one idea spawns 20 other ideas?  How do we go back to the original idea when we get sidetracked with other ideas?

• [00:21:27] A discussion on prioritization: What do we do first? How do we say no? 

• [00:22:56] The sweet spot of ideas and Abby’s favorite method for prioritization: The Importance/Difficulty Matrix

• [00:25:42] Eric asks Abby, “What kinds of questions do you ask yourself when you’re trying to identify a ranked order of importance?” and defining “importance” 

• [00:27:21] Executive function use, observing energy and emotional investments, and emotional temperatures

• [00:32:17] Why do design thinking skills matter? 

• [00:37:12] Whether it’s a boss, a partner, a friend, or a group: How do we help them understand the value of design thinking? 

• [00:39:50] What do we do and how do we communicate when ideas happen “too fast?”

• [00:42:33] Abby shares a book recommendation

• [00:43:27] Connect with Abby and closing thoughts

Resources:

• Article: The Double Diamond: A Universally Accepted Depiction of the Design Process  (read here)

• Article: Framework for Innovation: Design Council’s Evolved Double Diamond at designcouncil.org.uk  (read here)

• Article: Rose, Thorn, Bud at luma-institute.com (read here)

• Article: The Importance/Difficulty Matrix at luma-institute.com (read here)

• Book: The One Thing by Gary Keller (Goodreads)

• Book: What Do You Do With an Idea? By Kobi Yamada (Goodreads)

• Website: Stanford d.school at dschool.stanford.edu  https://dschool.stanford.edu/resources 

Honorable Mentions:

• “...the things that we have captured become a participant in the conversation.” 

• “We can only define our challenges effectively if we’ve got good data and observations.” 

• “We don’t have to kill our darlings.” 

• “Design thinking helps us harness our natural curiosity and creativity to bring new things into the world.” 

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In this episode, Eric is joined by Jesse J. Anderson, a.k.a @ADHDJesse.  Jesse is a writer, speaker, developer, and content creator who was diagnosed with ADHD at 36.  He is the co-founder of Polar Habits, a guilt-free habit app, and he writes a weekly newsletter called Extra Focus.  He is the author (rather, soon-to-be-author!) of Refocus: Thriving with Adult ADHD.  He also has two podcasts and more! 

You’ll hear about leaning into mistakes, what Polar Habits is all about, how breaking a ‘streak’ of habits doesn’t undo your progress, and how changing our environments can impact our habits.   Then, you’ll hear more about habits, perfectionism, prioritization, and the importance of being vulnerable while having a curious and non-judgemental mindset.  Finally, you’ll hear Jesse fill us in about his creative writing process and what prompted him to start writing his book. 

Timestamps coming soon! 

Resources:

• Find Jesse on Twitter and Instagram as @ADHDJesse 

• Jesse’s Website: Adhdjesse.com https://adhdjesse.com  

• Get Jesse’s newsletter & the waiting list for his book at ExtraFocus.com https://www.extrafocus.com 

• Polar Habits at polarhabits.com https://polarhabits.com 

• Podcast: ADHD Nerds https://adhdnerds.com 

Honorable Mentions:

• Tool: Llama Life https://llamalife.co 

• ADHD reWired episode #47 - ADHD at 55 MPH https://www.adhdrewired.com/adhd-at-55-mph/ 

• ADHD reWired episode #453 with Marie Ng https://www.adhdrewired.com/453-2/ 

• Book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee G. Adams https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/6665149 

• “So much of managing ADHD is just like learning my patterns, and then trying to build systems around catching those patterns.” - Jesse 

• “...one of the most important ingredients of a good coachee [is] curiosity [...] That’s gold.  If you have a non-judgemental curiosity towards how things are going, you’re going to figure it all out.  It just takes time.”  - Eric

🌟 Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens

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Questions/Topics: 

• [00:01:07] Welcome & introductions.

• [00:02:48] Hello to our special guest panelist.

• [00:03:25] A listener asks about laziness and ADHD: “Does laziness exist?”

• [00:13:22] The Sleep With Me Podcast has over 1000 episodes. Eric asks Scoots if he ever gets bored from doing the same thing over and over again.

• [00:16:19] “What are some ways that you trick yourselves into getting up in the morning when the prospect of life is overwhelming?” 

• [00:28:00] “After finally finding the right medication (for ADHD), what is the next step? Self-help books, podcasts, and routines are great but don’t stick long enough. Coaching options?” 

• [00:29:31] A listener shares feeling shame around their ADHD diagnosis, then asks the panelists for tips on accepting and loving oneself with it.  

• [00:32:03] Scoots has a mix of working in coworking spaces and from home but has been experiencing back pain from working on the couch.  Then, he asks about options for changing scenery.  

• [00:40:34] “Just lost three months to a game. Deleted the game - how do I start to get back on track?” 

• [00:47:54] A listener asks Scoots, “How did you come up with the ‘Sleep With Me Podcast’ style you use? Was it a default process or were you intentionally embracing and capitalizing on the pointless meandering train-of-thought? 

• [00:52:59] “One of my main problems is paralysis when I start to feel overwhelmed.  I have so much to do that I can’t decide what to work on so I do nothing.  How can I calm that feeling without ignoring all the things I’m behind on?” 

• [00:58:57] A question related to the national medication shortage.  

• [01:01:17] Scoots does an on-the-fly Sleep-With-Me-style summary of today’s episode

• [01:04:47] A moment of dad… 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Sleep With Me Podcast https://www.sleepwithmepodcast.com/ 

• App: Wake N Shake Alarm Clock 4+ (on iOS only) 

• Alarm on Wheels https://clocky.com 

• Book: The One Thing https://the1thing.com/book/ 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan

• hackingyouradhd.com Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb

• adhddiversified.ca ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens

Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this episode, Eric is joined by T. Perran Mitchell, the crafter of stories and maker of things! Comics are his favorite medium and have been for as long as he can remember.  Growing up with ADHD, dyslexia, and anxiety, comics not only fostered a love of reading, they were the key to learning to read.  He has also been with the same company for nearly 20 years running their quality control department. 

T took a circuitous path to writing comics by first graduating from Drexel University with a degree in Information Science and Technology.  Every term, he took at least one class for himself that had nothing to do with his major, which led him to accidentally minoring in Philosophy and nearly attaining a minor in literature.  He uses these various interests to inform his writing. 

Find out more about T. Perran Mitchell on his website at TPerranMitchell.com!

https://www.tperranmitchell.com 

You can also find T. Perran Mitchell on LinkedIn, and on Twitter and Instagram as @TPerranMitchell 

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

• [00:02:07] Eric asks T about his ADHD story and life growing up 

• [00:04:03] T shares his experiences in college and the classes he was interested in vs. the classes he attended 

• [00:07:54] How has T been able to stay with the same company for nearly 20 years? 

• [00:09:30] Eric and T talk about distractions at work, music, and noise-canceling headphones 

• [00:12:28] A discussion on finding time to write, creative blocks, distractions, and being your own boss

• [00:18:12] Eric asks T about his comic writing and recreating manifestations of his life 

• [00:20:17] Are T’s comics specifically about ADHD or anxiety? 

• [00:21:31] As a creative, what does T’s workflow and writing process look like? 

• [00:25:52] Eric and T have a discussion about collaboration and leaning on the the skills of others 

• [00:32:40] ChatGPT, AI art generators, and how they affect creatives

• [00:40:16] An exchange on handwriting, voice-to-text, and spell-check 

• [00:43:05] Eric asks T about managing hyperfocus 

• [00:46:05] Where to find T. Perran and closing thoughts

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Editor’s Choice: Studio / Monitor Headphones - Beyerdynamic DT 770 Pro https://global.beyerdynamic.com/dt-770-pro.html 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan

• hackingyouradhd.com Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb

• adhddiversified.ca ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens

Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Today, Eric is joined by Nate!  Nate is a program manager for the Department of Defense and a graduate student at Columbia University.  He received an ADHD diagnosis in 2016 at age 24 and a bi-polar diagnosis in 2022.  After better understanding his mental abilities and inabilities, he realized how incompatible he was with the person the world expected him to be.  This experience has led Nate down a path to highlight the tremendous potential and value that neurodivergent individuals can bring to an organization despite the story someone’s resume may or may not tell.  

You’ll hear about how Nate found success despite being ‘punted’ from 5 schools, how education and opportunities are geared towards the ‘majority’, having a responsibility to our community to enable the changes we’d like to see, and how Nate received his ADHD diagnosis during active duty.  Then, you’ll also hear how being neurodivergent can bring different perspectives to the table, why age or rank doesn’t increase or decrease the worth of someone’s perspective, being curious and resilient, and that you don’t have to have a degree to offer a valuable insight. 

Get in touch with Nate at nsr2143@columbia.edu 

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

• [00:02:16] How did Nate, a late-diagnosed ADHDer, become a program manager for the Department of Defense? 

• [00:03:09]  “Quantification does not equal the qualification” 

• [00:5:55] Why was Leadership as Nate’s undergrad important? What about college? 

• [00:18:34] What does it take for someone who’s been fired multiple times, tried higher-education multiple times, to have that resilient spirit to keep on going?

• [00:26:52] “I never looked at your rank or your position and thought that made you smarter or have a better opinion than me.” 

• [00:27:12] Speaking up and presenting a different view of the world in a diplomatic way

• [00:29:14] Experiencing pushback, managing those encounters, and reflecting on those who are pushing back

• [00:31:09] How does one navigate a scenario where they’ve pushed too hard or misread a situation?

• [00:35:53] Nate shares his experiences with bi-polar and how it shows up for him 

• [00:42:28] How does Nate manage the cyclical nature of bi-polar? 

• [00:48:14] Closing thoughts, the importance of curiosity and resilience, and how you can reach Nate 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• “Your Potential can only rise to the occasions its presented” - Nate

• “Sometimes it is the people no one can imagine anything of who do the things no one can imagine.” - Alan Turing 

• Book - - An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness by Kay Redfield Jamison (on Goodreads)

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens

Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community?

• Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!
• Interested in group coaching? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this bonus non-stop episode, Eric is joined by fellow ADHD reWired Coaches: Kat Hoyer and Kristin Marts!  

You may have heard Kat Hoyer on the podcast before and her journey, first as a coaching group member in season 9 of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups, to becoming a peer mentor, now an ADHD reWired coach!  Want to know more about Kat?  We have ADHD reWired podcast episodes with Kat listed below! 

Then, we have Kristin Marts, who you may have met or heard from in our Live Q&A episodes!  But, if you haven’t heard much about Kristin, then this is the episode you need to hear!  Kristin is involved in musical theater, is a dancer by trade, is a licensed clinical social worker, and a loving mom to special-needs kids.  

You’ll also hear about her growth journey as a member of the coaching groups, how she started listening to ADHD reWired, and how being a dancer masked her ADHD.  Finally, you’ll hear about her experiences as a peer mentor of the coaching groups, the power of flexibility, then diving into the role of a coach.  

Learn More about ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups at coachingrewired.com! Our 2023 spring season of coaching & accountability groups starts on Thursday, March 30th! https://coachingrewired.com

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That’s coachingrewired.com to get your name added to our interest list so you can join us for our final registration event on Monday, March 27th at 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern!  Can’t make it?  Then keep an eye out for another announcement for an open-house event on Tuesday, March 27th! 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Episodes with Kat Hoyer: 

• Episode 175: We’re Like-Brained, Not Just Like-Minded (listen here)

• Episode 191: What You Might Not KNow about ADHD reWired Coaching Groups (listen here)

• Episode 399: Workplace Accommodations: Do I Need to Disclose? (listen here)

• Episode 413: From HR to ArC (listen here)

• Episode 469: Masterminding Finishing and Creating Processes with Janelle in the Hot Seat (Part 1) - also featuring Kristin! (listen here)

• Episode 470: Masterminding Finishing and Creating Processes with Janelle in the Hot Seat (Part 2) - also featuring Kristin! (listen here)

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan

• hackingyouradhd.com Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb

• adhddiversified.ca ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens

Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community?

• Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 

Emily Sussman joins Eric on the podcast today to talk about mindfulness and reducing stress!  Emily, who is a mom and also has ADHD, has over 20 years of experience empowering others, uses mindfulness daily, and is a certified instructor in mindfulness-based stress reduction.  When asked why she practices daily, Emily says, “It’s like breathing!  You must breathe to survive, hence: mindfulness.” 

In this episode, you’ll hear about what a “resource” room was, how Emily became an advocate, her experiences going through special education - both as a kid and as a parent, and why saw less success for neurodiverse brains in public schools.  Then, you’ll hear Emily’s definition of mindfulness, how she got started, the struggles she faced through schooling and learning, and then walks us through a meditation! 

Get in touch with Emily:

• LinkedIn Emily Sussman 

• Email: emilysussmancounseling@gmail.com  

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

• [00:01:11] Introducing Emily & an ADHD moment 

• [00:02:48] How did Emily get into mindfulness-based stress reduction? 

• [00:05:19] As a kid who went through special education, how is it for Emily now, navigating as a parent?

• [00:07:16] Emily’s observations from public school to alternative schooling 

• [00:11:51] Emily shares how ADHD was the final piece of the puzzle 

• [00:21:32] What is Emily’s definition of mindfulness?  What is mindfulness-based stress reduction? 

• [00:26:55] Happiness and how mindfulness gave Emily a sense of purpose 

• [00:27:16] Emily shares a relatable ADHD struggle about explaining, expressing, and perspective 

• [00:28:17] What is a body scan meditation?  Why is it helpful? 

• [00:31:39] “There’s no such thing as clearing your mind!” 

• [00:32:56] Eric shares the importance of self-care, experiencing the benefits, and the impact of repetition

• [00:41:31] Prefacing a mindfulness meditation and suggestions before beginning 

• [00:45:27] Emily leads us through a meditation

• [01:00:17] Wrapping up and closing thoughts 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• “Once you begin to come out of your shell, that’s when you’re going to start feeling good about yourself, that’s where you’re gonna learn how to learn, and then you find your passion.” - Emily 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan

• hackingyouradhd.com Hacking your ADHD with Will Curb

• adhddiversified.ca ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens

⭐️ Registration for our spring season is happening now! Learn more about our award-winning intensive online coaching and accountability groups at coachingrewired.com! 

If you’re ready to get your ADHD reWired, that’s coachingrewired.com to start your pre-registration process so you can join us for our last spring 2023 registration event on Thursday, March 23rd at 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern! ⭐️

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  Listen to this episode uninterrupted by ads when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! 

Questions & Topics in this Episode:

• [00:03:16] A listener asks about helping college students with rigid thinking and flexibility

• [00:10:40] “Time management, project management, time-blindness and distractions are weak spots in my daily work.  Where would you feel is the best place to try and put my efforts in preparation for a return to the office?” 

• [00:16:59] A listener who is starting their ADHD journey asks about being self-employed and getting themselves to work.  

• [00:29:48] “I would like to hear from the panel about how adults with ADHD can manage/heal the grief and trauma associated with the lifelong losses incurred by the previously unmanaged condition.” 

• [00:38:42] What are some ideas to make kitchen cleaning more fun and exciting?

• [00:49:52] Differential diagnosis for adults: Are there mental health or neurological conditions/combinations of conditions that causes an adult to display the entire range of EF (executive function) challenges in adults?  How can impaired adults advocate for a diagnosis and get support in the case nobody in their life noticed symptoms in their childhood? 

• [00:55:17] “What are the helpful visual cues to help keep track of time?”

• [01:01:24] A moment of dad & plenty of laughs

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Time Timer https://www.timetimer.com 

• Time Tracker® Mini https://www.learningresources.com/item-time-trackerr-mini 

• App (iOS): It’s Almost Time for iOS https://apps.apple.com/us/app/its-almost-time/id437756921  

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan

• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb

• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

Today, Eric is joined by Ian Siegel, who has been doing test prep and college consulting for a decade.  In that time, he has delivered some of the highest improvements on SATs and ACTs in the country, and has helped over 90% of the students he worked with get into their top-choice colleges.  Ian is also the author of “School Sucks, Your Child Doesn’t: The Secret to Unlocking Your Child’s Untapped Potential” where he details his philosophy and illustrates the overlooked reality that every leader, thinker, and doer has had an expert tutor or mentor. 

In this episode, you’ll hear Eric and Ian talk about adult learners, why having a high IQ doesn’t necessarily make it easier for someone to learn, emotional intelligence, how stress impedes our learning states, why self-judgment prevents learning and the importance of self-acceptance. 

Learn More about Ian:

• Get in touch at ian-siegel.com https://ian-siegel.com 

• Check out his book: School Sucks, Your Child Doesn’t: The Secret to Unlocking Your Child’s Untapped Potential by Ian Siegel on Goodreads 

• Website: streamlinelearning.com https://streamlinelearning.com 

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

• [00:02:07] “Brilliance comes with baggage.”

• [00:04:17] Ian shares his learning journey and an early experience as a new tutor with an ESL student

• [00:13:41] “The people who have the most EQ are the ones who have the best capacity to think from other people’s perspectives.”

• [00:22:20] Giftedness and reverse stigma 

• [00:23:25] How do we help people who have different learning styles actually learn, especially dealing with the years of school trauma? 

• [00:30:09] Two archetypes that come out of ADHD and anxiety 

• [00:31:05] Schismogenesis, how we fail to learn from each other, and lack of self-acceptance

• [00:32:10] What do we do about defensiveness? 

• [00:34:46] “Learning with neurodivergent brains depends on our ability to hold space for uncertainty, ambiguity, and being able to stay curious.” 

• [00:43:34] What is the impact of a stressed brain on learning? 

• [00:46:50] Feelings are not facts, and intuiting vs. projecting 

• [00:48:21] When working with students, how much time does Ian spend working on emotional self regulation? 

• [00:51:50] Closing thoughts & learning more about Ian

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Book: The Dawn of Everything: A New History of Humanity The Dawn of Everything: A New History of Humanity by David Graeber

• “Learning comes not when you’re stressed or under the gun, but when you unconditionally accept yourself.” - Ian Siegel 

• “Feelings are not facts.” - Eric Tivers

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan

• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb

• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

⭐️ Registration for our spring season is happening now! Learn more about our award-winning intensive online coaching and accountability groups at coachingrewired.com!  If you’re ready to get your ADHD reWired, that’s coachingrewired.com to start your pre-registration process so you can join us for our next spring 2023 registration event on Thursday, March 9th at 12pm Pacific / 3pm Eastern.

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register so you can jump in live on zoom to ask your ADHD-related questions and interact with other listeners!  

Hear all the questions in the full ad-free version of this episode when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon  

Questions & Topics in this Episode:

• [00:01:11] An ADHD moment and introductions

• [00:03:54] A listener who was recently diagnosed asks about medication. 

• [00:12:14] “When a life catastrophe occurs, sometimes there is a ‘fixer’ mode - other times, there is an ‘overwhelm’ mode resulting in complete shut-down of all life-events and routines.  How does one get past the hyper-emotional devastation and back into regularity without too much loss or damage, too?” 

• [00:20:25] “How to deal with gloomy days in winter? My motivation is non-existent!”

• [00:27:40] A listener asks the panelists about their morning routines 

• [00:28:06] Will’s morning routine

• [00:29:38] Kat’s morning party

• [00:31:05] Eric’s a.m. variations 

• [00:32:26] Kristin’s “love” for mornings

• [00:38:28] Eric shares a funny morning story with his son

• [00:45:13] A listener, who has an executive function group for students, asks about accountability. 

• [00:53:34] “Please explain [...] how to get rid of ‘doom’ piles and/or boxes.”

• [01:03:49] A moment of dad… 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan

• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb

• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

Marina Piscolish joins Eric on the podcast this week to talk about leveraging strengths and owning the challenges.  Marina is the president and founder of Mapping Change LLC, a small consulting business born of her passion for harnessing the transformative power of conflict to create positive changes for individuals, teams, and organizations.

Being born in rural Pennsylvania as a coal-miner’s daughter and a grandchild of immigrants  provided helpful preparation for her work, especially in Hawaii and the broader pacific.  As she continues developing ways of working with culture, identities, sense-of-place, history, and trauma, her early struggle with her own undiagnosed ADHD was a defining influence on her career and life.

Now, Marina focuses on making creative accommodations for her ‘limitations’ and leverages  her neurodivergence as an asset for her business, her clients, and the people close to her.  

Learn more about Marina: 

• Website: Mappingchange.com
• Email: marina@mappingchange.com 

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

• [00:03:16] Marina shares her story about how she found ADHD reWired, her experience in the coaching groups, and her life growing up in a small town with a large family, all with similar challenges. 
• [00:05:36] “Emotional pain is the distance between [...] your expectations [and] reality.” 
• [00:07:59] Marina talks about the build up of shame and being unwilling to share or get help. 
• [00:09:22] A relatable moment of overwhelm and avoiding the ‘pain of success.’ 
• [00:11:29] What’s the difference between acceptance and embracing ADHD?
• [00:14:39] “That may be true, and I’m afraid that may be true, but what do I do about where I am?” 
• [00:22:15] Eric and Marina have a discussion about “administrivia.” 
• [00:23:19] Marina shares how she became curious about her ADHD and exploring how neurodivergence is the cause of her success. 
• [00:26:01] Joy through acceptance and seeking support and assistance. 
• [00:26:26] Eric asks Marina about what she communicated when going through the process of hiring an assistant. 
• [00:30:59] Maria gives an insight that was shared with her.
• [00:41:15] A discussion about hiring and trading services in the midst of the pandemic. 
• [00:48:04] What are a couple of ideas/tips/strategies Marina has for folks with ADHD who have a tendency to be conflict-avoidant? 
• [00:52:46] Marina leaves us with her final thoughts…

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more about ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups! 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

This week, Eric is joined by Brittany Berger, the founder of WorkBrighter.co, a digital media company and community that helps disabled, chronically-ill, mentally-ill, and neurodivergent creatives better balance between work, play, and rest, so they can burnout less.

She started Work Brighter after 5 years working at a high-stress startup that prioritized hustle, growth, and scaling over health.  As a “multiply-disabled” human, her body eventually had enough of the constant burnout cycle.  Now that Brittany has escaped hustle culture, she spends her time helping others like her to find balance for themselves, advocating for disability justice, and dancing - always dancing! 

Find out more at https://workbrighter.co or at Brittany’s Instagram @workbrighter

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

• [00:02:18] Eric and Brittany talk about workaholism, overachieving, and burning out. 
• [00:05:11] Brittany shares her inner dialogue after making the decision to create the life she wanted to transition towards. 
• [00:06:29] Accepting being not a part of hustle culture. 
• [00:07:56] Brittany talks about the “why” behind starting WorkBrighter. 
• [00:10:30] Eric and Brittany talk about exploring autism. 
• [00:21:38] What is Spoon Theory? 
• [00:23:54] A discussion on time and energy management. 
• [00:24:51] “Eat that frog!” 
• [00:28:27] A conversation about deep work
• [00:31:10] The importance of thinking of our time as being flexible.  
• [00:37:47] How did Brittany start to change her life to better suit her needs? 
• [00:40:59] Brittany shares more strategies she’s put into place to let her Work Brighter.
• [00:42:14] A discussion on managing email and batching tasks. 
• [00:49:39] Brittany gives a closing thought.

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Article: What is ARFID? 
• Article: The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino 
• Book: Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time by Brian Tracy 
• Book: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World - Cal Newport 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

Registration for our 31st season of ADHD reWired's award winning online video-based coaching and accountability groups is happening now!

2023 is just around the corner, so if you’re done with feeling overwhelmed and want to launch into the new year with new and shiny tools made for your ADHD brain so you can live with intention and create actionable steps to finally get started on the things that matter to you, then this is the group you’ve been looking for.

Go to coachingrewired.com to add your name to our interest list and find the dates for our upcoming registration events!  Registration is by invitation only, and spots are filling up fast!

coachingreWired.com

This week, Eric is joined by Chris Wang, the cofounder and CEO of Shimmer, an ADHD startup offering bite-sized coaching to individuals with ADHD!  Chris is an entrepreneur, social-impact advocate, angel investor, growth consultant, and forever tinkerer.  She believes strongly that business should be used as a force for good, and that positive impact not only isn’t the enemy of profit, but is a catalyst. 

This thesis underpins every decision she makes, especially when it comes to the communities she is a part of and cares the most about, the communities including LGBTQ+, AAPI (Asian-American Pacific Islander), women, non-binary, and neurodiversity - especially with ADHD. 

Find out more about Shimmer at https://www.shimmer.care 

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

• [00:02:26] Chris talks about getting prepared for the show
• [00:03:20] Eric asks Chris about her story launching Shimmer 
• [00:04:12] Chris shares her experience as a kid and where the messages of “being a kid” came from
• [00:07:19] Eric asks Chris about a “failure” from a previous business venture 
• [00:08:18] “I have the learning, it’s on a sticky note!” -Chris 
• [00:10:14] Where did Chris learn all of the skills she has now that’s led to personal growth and building a business? 
• [00:11:33] Eric pokes Chris’s brain: “How did you figure out what you needed to figure out?” 
• [00:15:09] Chris shares her journey with feedback and how it’s been used to improve Shimmer
• [00:23:14] Chris walks us through different types of feedback sessions, inspired by https://thefoundercoach.com 
• [00:26:53] What kind of person does it take to engage in vulnerable and courageous conversation? 
• [00:28:36] Chris shares an example of the language used when engaging in a feedback session 
• [00:33:28] “Sometimes feedback stings.” Chris talks about dealing with the sting of feedback. 
• [00:37:50] How do you get back up from negative or critical feedback? 
• [00:42:51] Chris shares more about what Shimmer is all about 
• [00:50:23] What is Chris most excited about with Shimmer? 
• [00:54:49] “What are you nerding-out about lately” and the importance of having something fun to do outside of business 
• [00:59:58] Chris gives listeners her final thoughts

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Tool: Notion (also an editor’s favorite!)

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  

In this episode, you’ll hear how the members on the ADHD reWired team manage and engage with social media.  You’ll also hear about some tools and systems to create a library of responses, and help a listener hone in on what they are passionate about. 

Then, the ADHD reWired team shares tips on pausing before reacting, what the empathy gap is, what happens between pausing and stimulus, and the value of mindfulness meditation. 

Some of the Questions & Topics in this Episode:

• How do you manage social media and stay engaged? 
• I’m trying to develop a library of scripts for responding to common things because I struggle with articulating myself, leading to procrastination.  What tools can I use to create scripts?
• What advice would you give somebody who’s trying to figure out what to do with their life? 
• “Between stimulus and response, there is a space.”  Is that really true for persons with ADHD? The emotional reaction happens so fast and full, and then it seems there is no recovery. How do we create a space that might not be there? 
• How do you get over the Wall of Awful about the Wall of Awful? 
• I have spent so much time on productivity apps.  I heard one of you uses Notion, do you have any suggestions on how you use it? 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Tool: TextExpander: Shortcut to Efficient, Consistent Communication
• Tool: Notion
• Article:  Black Girl Lost Keys - How to Guard Your Yes
• Article: Use These Email Templates to Say No in Any Situation
• Article: Why Do We Mispredict How Much our Emotions Influence Our Behavior? - The Empathy Gap Explained
• Article: The Empathy Gap: Why People Fail to Understand Different Perspectives
• Book:  How To Say It by Rosalie Maggio 
• Ebook: Guard Your Yes: The Guidebook by Rene Brookes
• Video: Why is it so Hard to do Something that Should be Easy? - HowToADHD and Brendan Mahan (Wall of Awful)
• Video: How to do Something that Should be Easy (But… is… not) - HowToADHD and Brendan Mahan (Wall of Awful)

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Laura Roehrick.  Currently at age 69, Laura was diagnosed with ADHD at 40, has been a registered nurse for 48 years, and has found her brain wiring to be both a blessing and a curse.  

Laura is also a pioneer of preventative diabetic foot care nursing, having created a method of nail sculpture that can be both limb-saving and life-saving. She has been married for 37 years, has two daughters, is a grandma of 5, and is also a crafter, designer, artist, former actress, herbal medicine maker, avid knitter, loves sewing, has traveled the world, and has colorful stories of being raised on a houseboat! 

You’ll also hear about Laura’s lessons in business, the consequences of lacking clear and effective communication, what she has experienced as being a nurse herself, and the importance of diabetic foot care. 

Then, you’ll also hear how she landed a role in a movie from 1980 that is banned in the UK, what Laura would change if she could go back in time, and  ways she is optimizing her health.   

Get in touch with Laura: 

• roehrickrn@gmail.com 
• Laura’s YouTube Channel

Also Answered in this episode:

• What was Laura’s impetus for getting laser-focused on something like diabetic foot care? 
• How did she pioneer in her field? 
• How did Laura’s upbringing influence her out-of-the-box thinking?
• If Laura could go back in time from when she began her work with diabetic foot care, what advice would she give herself so she wouldn’t get so derailed? 
• How much has acceptance been a part of her journey?
• What are Laura’s plans at age 69 and beyond? 

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

• Book: Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell
• Book: Letting Go: The Pathway To Surrender by David R. Hawkins 
• Mentioned:  https://www.wimhofmethod.com 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

In this episode, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired Coaching Group Alumni, Gail Polivy. She was a coaching group member in spring of 2020 and became a peer mentor for the groups for the 2022 spring season.  Gail self-identifies as an “old-gay-guard” and was thrilled to join Eric on the podcast during Pride month.  

Gail shares her experiences when she came out in 1977, her difficulties in college and learning about lesbianism, and finding a community where she felt at home.  You’ll also here Eric and Gail discuss how she’s seen the evolution of the LGBTQ+ community throughout the years, how her ADHD affected past relationships, mirroring, the power of self-acceptance, and the positive changes she’s made in her life since joining ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups. 

Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:

• adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan
• hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb
• adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

134 | Discovering You Are Enough

This Week’s Guest:

Jo Meleca-Voigt is an accomplished school teacher, wife, runner, social activist, and travel consultant.  Jo was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 45.  I invited Jo to come on the podcast since she is just now starting her ADHD journey. 

In this conversation, you will hear some of Jo’s thoughts as she starts her ADHD journey.  She shares how she is documenting everything.  Jo was named “Teacher of the Year” in a district with over 1,000 teachers and she shares some of her thoughts on teaching and learning strategies.  For years, Jo has been an advocate for same-sex marriage.  She shares her opinions on the similarities between being gay and having ADHD. 

On days when Jo feels like she’s having more difficulty with ADHD, she is more self-conscience in one-on-one conversations.  These situations bring her a lot of stress and anxiety. In the hot-seat portion of this discussion, we dig deeper and come up with some strategies that Jo could implement to help herself in these situations.

Connect with Jo Meleca-Voigt!

• Follow Jo Meleca-Voigt on Twitter - @JoMelecaVoigt

You’ll Learn:

• [3:55] - Jo talks about how she is documenting her ADHD journey. 
• [4:37] - She shares some insights she’s learned about herself since starting this journal.
• [6:16] - Jo believes the name “attention deficit” is misleading.
• [8:00] - Jo shares one of her first experiences after medication, which leads to some entertaining stories.
• [11:28] - Jo was named Teacher of the Year in a district of over 1,000 teachers. She talks about this recognition and what she did in her years of teaching to earn it.
• [16:33] - Jo explains the correct way to study. 
• [19:42] - Teaching students how to learn, not just what to learn.
• [21:42] - If government was run like a start-up. 
• [22:39] - Education is becoming more data-driven, but when the data is not specific enough, it can impact some students with ADHD.
• [29:55] - Coming out as being gay and coming out as having ADHD.
• [37:18] - Jo Meleca-Voigt sits in the hot-seat and we talk about issues regarding social conversations in a one-on-one setting and some solutions that Jo can implement.
• [1:03:10] - Self-acceptance has been the toughest part of this journey for Jo.
• [1:04:49] - Jo calls in to follow-up on our original discussion.  She talks about going through the “anger” stage.
• [1:09:03] - Jo talks about implementing one of the strategies we discussed when she was in the hot-seat.
• [1:11:36] - This is our third conversation, and Jo reflects back on our 2nd conversation and talks about getting to an area of acceptance.

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You can join me and more than 30 other ADHD experts at the 2016 ADHD Awareness Expo.  You can attend this free virtual event October 2nd-8th.  Claim your spot at http://www.erictivers.com/expo2016.

Every Tuesday in the month of October, you can join Nisha Subramanian and me for a live, interactive webinar. We will be answering your productivity and ADHD questions!  The webinars are held at 12:30-1:30pm (Central Time). These webinars are free and you can sign up at http://erictivers.com/events.

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