"Feedback is the oxygen of growth." Listen, as Eric and his guest Peter Montoya discuss what he means by this and why feedback should always be done confidentially. Peter talks about leadership development, conquering challenges, and the real-life experiences that drive his insights and ideas.

 Peter Montoya is the best-selling author of “The Brand Called You” and his latest books, “Meetings Without Walls” & “Leadership Power”. He’s also a sought-after and highly motivational keynote speaker and leadership development strategist, specializing in developing high-performance teams. To find Peter, visit www.PeterMontoya.com or call (949) 334-7070.

Peter discusses what led to his ADHD diagnosis, how he tames his beast of a mind, and the barriers people have with self-reflection. Peter shares his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings and the three key steps to take to make them successful. Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today.

Do you have trouble staying on task? Listen as Peter shares how he keeps focused on what he needs to do. He speaks about how leaders need to steer meetings and pull them back when they go off task, how to ask people for feedback, and accepting feedback without feeling defensive. Defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us.

Peter is a triple threat, a gifted speaker, best-selling author, and successful entrepreneur. He has done so much in his life, and you won't want to miss him telling us some key things he has picked up along the way.

You'll learn:

• [02:06] Welcome to the show, Peter!
• [02:26] Peter shares what he means by feedback is the oxygen of growth.
• [03:53] Peter says you should make sure your feedback is kind, honest, and specific.
• [05:12] Eric shares that sometimes feedback is delivered in two ways.
• [07:22] Peter speaks about how he was shamed in eighth grade.
• [09:58] When did you find out you had ADHD?
• [11:08] Peter discusses what it's like being an attendee at workshops.
• [14:30] Does it make you mad to not be understood?
• [15:52] Peter shares what he had to do to tame his beast of a mind.
• [17:04] Peter speaks about the barriers people have with self-reflection.
• [23:38] Peter shared his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings.
• [25:26] What are the critical steps to having a successful meeting?
• [27:23] Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today.
• [29:16] Peter speaks about how he stays on task and follows through with what needs to be done.
• [33:18] Peter shares suggestions on grabbing the key takeaway of a meeting in a more efficient way.
• [34:37] What do you do to bring a meeting back on task?
• [35:24] Peter speaks about how long and what he does to prepare for a meeting.
• [36:53] How long do you think a meeting should last? Should meetings be fun?
• [42:09] Peter shares how to ask people for feedback.
• [43:57] Peter speaks about what you should do if you get defensive while getting feedback.
• [46:17] Eric says that defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us.
• [48:48] What is the most influential piece of feedback you have ever received?
• [51:11] Peter speaks about how he keeps himself mindful when he tends to do something that isn't helpful in meetings.
• [53:54] Peter shares how people can learn more about him and his company.
• [54:36] Peter, thank you so much for sharing this time with us.
• [55:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Boredom is the mother of creativity. Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Dr.Kirsten Milliken discuss the ways you can keep yourself and your kids busy during social distancing, having fun at the grocery store, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Dr. Milliken is a licensed clinical psychologist, an ADHD Coach, and the author of PLAYDHD: Permission to Play...A Prescription for Adults With ADHD. She works and plays in Portland, Maine, with her two kids and partner Perry. She has ADHD and often says three quarters kidding and half-serious if it's not fun, I'm probably not doing it. As a psychologist and Coach, Kirsten has focused on educating her clients on the value of play in all of its forums.

Listen as Eric and Kirsten discuss the new project she is doing called the World Without ADHD, why this project interested her, and the book she is writing with the same name. Kirsten speaks about feeling guilty about working and making money during this crisis when others are struggling and that she and her partner are rehabbing a classic RV to stay busy during the pandemic.

Eric and Kirsten share their favorite board game and arcade games, and Kristen speaks about wearing an inflatable pink unicorn costume when she goes to the grocery store as PPE and the response she gets. If you want to participate in the World Without ADHD project, please submit artwork, written word, or stories to www.worldwithoutadhd.com, and if they like it, we will showcase it in the book and online. Kirsten says to use your boredom to get creative and submit your entries before the July 1, 2020 deadline.

You'll learn:

• [01:37] Welcome back to the show, Kirsten
• [04:10] Kirsten shares a new project she launched called World Without ADHD.
• [05:49] Would you like to imagine a world without ADHD?
• [08:23] Do you think ADHD holds you back?
• [11:33] Eric speaks about the virtual open mics on Zoom that he has been doing.
• [13:42] Kirsten shares the reason they started this project.
• [16:24] Kirsten chats about needing people to submit a piece of art or written words to compete to publish their work in the book they are writing.
• [26:15] Kirsten shares that if you want to participate in the project, go to the website www.worldwithoutADHD.com
• [29:21] What kind of writing do you do besides writing books?
• [30:14] Kirsten speaks about rehabbing a classic RV.
• [31:59] Kirsten shares how she has fun at the grocery store in her pink rainbow unicorn costume.
• [34:51] She talks about her baby head garden that comes out in the spring.
• [40:50] Kirsten chats about being in the pink uniform costume and the response she gets at the grocery store.
• [42:31] The due date for submission for World Without ADHD book is July 1, 2020, but get it in as soon as possible.
• [44:06] Kirsten, do you have a story you can share that you wrote?
• [47:05] Kirsten says that she believes play is one of the real natural anecdotes to ADHD challenges.
• [49:03] Eric discusses the board game Catch Phrase.
• [ 49:55] Kirsten speaks about her favorite arcade game when she was young.
• [51:00] Use your boredom to be creative!
• [51:25] Thank you so much for being on the show!
• [52:21] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Are you almost always uncertain of the expectations and on shifting sand? This is just one topic we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Andrea starts off the questions, wanting to know what the guys do to get started when there are things to get done. Kelvin has some questions about hair loss while taking Ritalin, and a listener wants to know if they should make a doctor's appointment for their child if they think they have symptoms of ADHD.

Listen, as Eric speaks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo, Sara wants to know how to take a break when she is hyper-focused, and a listener wants to know how to take a course while struggling with structure. There is also a question about the perfect app for ADHD life management, and MJ wants to know how the guys are handling food and nutrition for their children since they don't have to pack lunches.

A listener asks about how to build consistency, how to address the stress of not having enough work to do, and Cheryl has a question about people talking so fast that she is having issues understanding them. Remember, during this time, your children are not expected to progress in school, they are expected to maintain what they have already learned so make learning fun.

As usual, the answers are varied and entertaining, but with what is going in our world, being entertained is what we need. So listen to this episode of ADHD, it will put a smile on your face.

Your Resources:

• ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan
• Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb

You'll Learn:

• [01:42] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
• [03:22] Brendan shares his positive perspective on Covid-19 and ADHD.
• [05:48] What is it you can do to thrive during this pandemic?
• [07:31] Will shares that he has less time now with the pandemic.
• [10:04] Andrea wants to know if any of the guys have a mantra or saying that kicks them into action.
• [11:03] Will shares what he says to find his first steps.
• [12:08] Brendan gives us what makes him start in the morning.
• [14:26] We can do hard things, but we don't have to do them in the hardest way possible.
• [16:50] Kelvin wants to know if Ritalin has hair loss side effects and can a cardiologist tell if my heart is fit for Ritalin?
• [17:48] They will do an EKG, and the cardiologist can discuss it with you from there.
• [18:54] Should I make a Dr appointment for my child because I think he has ADHD?
• [20:36] What are your thoughts on Sluggish Cognitive Tempo?
• [21:55] Eric addresses this disorder and shares what they looked at during a study.
• [24:14] Sara asks, how do you stop and take a break when hyper-focus takes hold?
• [29:36] Will speaks about taking planned breaks, drinking lots of water so that it forces you to take breaks.
• [30:15] Brendan says there is no rule that says you have to take a break.
• [33:35] Eric says with all strategies experiment with what works for you.
• [36:34] I want to use this time to take a course but I am struggling with structure, any thoughts?
• [36:54] Brendan says to ask and see if anyone wants to take it with you, which will add structure.
• [38:09] Do you have a favorite recommended fully integrated ADHD life management app?
• [38:23] There is no perfect app, look for function over form.
• [39:29] How do you determine what is the most important thing you need to do that day instead of bouncing around from task to task?
• [39:39] Eric says he rolls a die sometimes, something is better than nothing.
• [40:34] Think about what one thing you can do that will have the domino effect to make all the other tasks more manageable.
• [42:04] MJ's question is, how is everyone navigating nutrition at home, with not needing to pack lunches.
• [42:51] Eric talks about ordering food online and how frustrating that you can't always have what you want.
• [43:42] Will talks about what his children asked him to give them for breakfast.
• [45:00] Brendan goes to the store and is making more of an effort to make healthy lunches.
• [54:24] How do I build consistency? 
• [54:48] Erics speaks about consistency is a byproduct, not a goal!
• [55:45] If you write things down, you won't have a blank page every day.
• [56:28] Have a schedule posted to remain consistent.
• [57:57] Please address the stress of not having enough work to do.
• [58:26] Check in's work, and it's okay not to work 8 hours a day.
• [59:03] Do what you can do if your boss is not being transparent about what they want you to do.
• [1:00:31] Cheryl's issue is when people speak too fast and get upset with me when I ask them to repeat it.
• [1:01:05] Eric addresses this and shares how difficult it can be.
• [1:02:32] MJ, what are your thoughts on this?
• [1:03:39] Do you have any advice for parents who are trying to come to terms with teaching children from home during this uncertainty?
• [1:04:14] Your kids are not expected to progress during this time, maintain what they have already learned. Have fun!
• [1:06:34] Brendan and Will do you have a goal about how you want to feel this time next month?
• [1:08:25] Brendan's goal is to lead and to help as many people as he can while prioritizing his family over everyone else.
• [1:09:18] Eric wants to be doing just a little much better than he is right now.
• [1:09:42] Thank you, Brendan, Will, and MJ for being on this show!
• [1:10:03] Always do your best and know that your best will be different every day.
• [1:10:54] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Have you ever done anything consistently for six years? Listen, as your host, Eric, and all 20+ guests share stories about their connection to ADHD reWired and how the show has helped them on their ADHD journey. Join us as we celebrate six years of podcasting on this special episode of ADHD reWired,  

Jessica shares what she has learned from Eric and how the show and being part of the ADHD community has helped her understand how her brain works. Adeola speaks about how he gained insight into his ADHD through the show and what he has accomplished in his life since he started listening to the podcast. Natalie talks about signing up for coaching with Eric after she heard her first episode, and Dr. Millican discusses what she is doing now.

Listen, as Sharon speaks about how she found Eric and the podcast, another Jessica tells her story, and Eric shares what ADHD reWired is all about. Jessica Stilwell speaks about the scholarship she helped create for coaching groups, and Andrea talks about being diagnosed when she was nine but not understanding it until she started listening to the podcast. Jessica McCabe plays a song on her Ukulele and sings the beautiful words that mean so much to her.

Gail discusses her diagnosis at age 58, and how she didn't have any information on it until she started listening to the show. MJ speaks about how she ended up in the community, and Daniel says he has no idea how he found Eric, but he is glad he did. These are just some of the stories from listeners who have been impacted by the ADHD reWired podcast, and they are all very grateful to Eric for shedding light on ADHD.

You'll learn:

• [03:00] Hello, everyone!
• [03:51] Jessica McCabe shares where she heard of the show and how much she has learned from Eric.
• [06:19] Jessica thanks Eric for him helping her understand her brain.
• [08:11] How has being a part of an ADHD community helped you on your journey?
• [10:52] Adeola says he gained more insight into his ADHD and what he has accomplished since listening to the show.
• [12:35] Did many people reach out to you after you were on the show?
• [14:31] Natalie speaks about when she first started listening to the podcast and how she signed up for coaching right after she listened to the first episode.
• [17:01] She shares when she heard Eric say thank you to her on episode 300.
• [18:55] Adre chats about listening to the podcast for many years and how she met a bunch of people in Eric'sEric's mastermind.
• [21:34] The mastermind group let her know that she was good enough.
• [23:38] Hello Dr. Millican, how are you?
• [24:30] Eric shares who Dr. Millican is and what she is excited about doing now.
• [25:22] She is writing a book and is gathering words and artwork from people with ADHD. The website is www.worldwithoutadhd.com
• [28:31] Sharon shares her story and how she found Eric and the podcast.
• [30:14] Sharon is now advising a group of coaches to notice the difference between ADHD and willpower.
• [39:00] Jessica says congratulations for six years and shares her story and diagnosis.
• [40:37] She speaks about starting at episode 1 and working her way through to the most current one.
• [42:46] Jessica joined a coaching group to be able to show up in her life.
• [44:31] Getting together, having a growth mindset, and working on stuff together is what ADHD reWired is all about.
• [46:04] Jessica Stilwell helped create a scholarship for the coaching group and has been listening to the podcast since the beginning and joined the accountability group.
• [49:22] How is your inbox? Is it still a struggle?
• [51:04] Andrea shares that she is very new to the group and was diagnosed with ADHD when she was nine.
• [53:09] She feels like in the last couple of weeks listening to the podcast she has learned more about herself than ever before.
• [54:52] Pat speaks about being in the most recent batch of the accountability group.
• [56:56] Thank you, Eric, for all the work you have done.
• [59:11] Jessica McCabe plays a song for us on her Ukelele that has a lot of meaning for her.
• [1:07:26] Gail discusses being diagnosed at age 58, but she still felt like there was no information for her, it wasn't until she met an adult ADHD coach.
• [1:10:31] She speaks about the fantastic support she has found in the community during this pandemic.
• [1:13:10] MJ shares how she ended up in the community and how she stumbled upon the podcast.
• [1:15:32] She loves being a part of such a like-minded group and she is a top-level Patreon.
• [1:16:17] Daniel says he has no idea how he found the podcast. 
• [1:17:30] He signed up for the coaching groups and noted that it helped so much and knowing that he wasn't alone.
• [1:19:56] Emily wants to express her gratitude and share her story.
• [1:20:39] She always considered herself chronically disorganized because she couldn't handle her email.
• [1:21:49] ADHD reWired is the first podcast she ever listened to and then signed up for an accountability group.
• [1:24:14] Mimota shares her story and what it felt like to connect with people.
• [1:27:00] Barbara shares what it has been like for her to get to know this community.
• [1:28:36] Thank you all for being here.
• [1:29:22] ADHD is the best community to connect to online.
• [1:30:00] We will do this again around year ten.
• [1:31:41] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com