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Tue, 28 July 2020

332 | ADHD and College Skills In Uncertain Times with Melissa Barlett

Did people notice that you had ADHD before you did? Eric and his guest, Dr. Melissa Barlett, better known by her students as Dr. B, is an Associate Professor in Life Sciences at Mohawk Valley Community College in Utica, NY. Listen as they discuss helping students come back to college and adjusting to change dealing with online learning, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Listen, as Dr. Barlett shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and what caused her to seek a diagnosis. She also discusses some challenges she sees with online learning because of COVID-19 and how she has adapted her teaching style to help her students.

Dr. Barlett speaks about what she believes fellow professors are struggling with when being thrown into this alternative method of teaching. She shares what she thinks will happen with fall classes and how she believes schools can keep students safe. Students with ADHD, in particular, have a different set of struggles with virtual learning, and Dr. Barlett shares some suggestions she has to help them cope.

Because the situation is fluid and information changes daily, Dr. Barlett speaks about how to prepare if you have to pivot mid-semester. She shares that community colleges are already set up for students with challenging schedules, so if you don't think you can go to school because you have to work, a community college might be the best bet for you.

Dr. Barlett shares some great tips and tricks for learning with ADHD, especially with the pandemic's distractions. She is willing to answer any questions you might have, so please find her information in the links at the bottom and be positive about the upcoming school year.

You'll learn:

[03:18] Welcome to the show, Melissa!
[04:16] Melissa shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and how her intelligence allowed her to fly under the radar.
[05:32] What caused you to seek a diagnosis for ADHD?
[07:30] Melissa speaks about knowing something was wrong once she changed direction in her career and got more administrative tasks.
[10:03] Listen, as Melissa shares some challenges she sees with online learning since COVID-19.
[12:10] Melissa speaks about how she adapted.
[13:05] What would you suggest to fellow professors struggling with learning a whole new way of teaching?
[15:24] Melissa believes that nailing learning objectives to the life skills that they need instead of detailed skills takes learning in the right direction.
[21:14] Listen as Melissa describes what she thinks school will look like in the fall.
[22:46] Melissa discusses how she believes we can keep students safe.
[25:36] Melissa suggests what students with ADHD especially can do to be prepared for online learning.
[28:40] When taking notes, make sure you write them in your words. Read a paragraph or two and write a summary in your words.
[29:50] Eric shares some strategies he used when he was in college.
[31:57] Your brain wants it to be easy. Practice the actual process of recall.
[35:04] It takes an intelligent person to understand this concept, but it takes a genius to explain it to a kindergartner.
[36:54] What are some other challenges a student with ADHD might face when taking virtual classes?
[37:44] They speak about going on rate my professor and check out their teaching style.
[44:14] Melissa talks about handling going back to class and then if COVID-19 spikes again having to go back to social distancing.
[46:51] Melissa discusses students not having regular hours because of jobs or children in her community college.
[48:22] Melissa says that community college is already set up for people with challenging schedules.
[49:53] What are some reasonable steps students might be able to take to prepare students if they have to go back to virtual classes.
[52:16] Melissa shares some final tips for students.
[54:42] Thank you for being on the show!
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Productivity Q&A

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Tue, 21 July 2020

331 | Leaning Into Your Weird with Andy J. Pizza

Have you tried to be normal and repress your ADHD instead of leaning into your weird? Listen as Eric and his guest, Andy J. Pizza, discuss leaning into neurodiversity, a creative approach to your career path, win because of your weird not in spite of it, and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Andy is an American illustrator, podcaster, and public speaker; his explosive color-drenched illustrations have brought hope and smiles to clients like The New York Times, YouTube, and Warby Parker. He is the founder of the Creative Pep Talk podcast, which does what it says on the tin and the author of the book Creative Pep Talk.

Andy shares his ADHD story, the start of his illustrating career, and the recession that almost took it all away. He talks about sending some work to Nickelodeon, the response he got, and the work it took to hone his craft and the jobs that built his freelance career. Andy also speaks about Color Me Blank; collaborative art shows that he took part in with giant markers that allowed everyone to color on blank paper.

If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain. Listen as Andy shares about knowing he could be a successful illustrator because he saw people just like himself doing it. Andy also speaks about how he finishes projects by making everything he has to do, something he wants to do. Andy is a very colorful character with an engaging tone that you won't want to miss.

You'll learn:

[02:04] Welcome to the show, Andy!
[04:57] Andy shares his ADHD story.
[06:13] Andy speaks about his mom and the fact that she was never around.
[09:48] He discovered illustration in high school and realized the path he wanted to take.
[12:22] Eric speaks about trying to refinance his house, and the challenge it is when you are self-employed.
[19:34] Andy shares his secret sauce and why he has a puppet sitting behind him.
[21:10] He speaks about going to college to find his style.
[22:30] Andy talks about his indie rock coloring book that kicked off his career.
[23:17] He shares the trials he had during the recession and getting a job.
[26:10] Andy discusses an opportunity to work with Nickelodeon.
[27:53] Andy says that his wife stood with him during the bad times and made it through.
[29:04] What ended up happening with the Nickelodeon gig?
[31:08] Andy speaks about a collaborative art show called Color Me Blank.
[34:32] Andy discusses doing more personal projects and being asked to take the Color Me Blank project on the road.
[35:15] He was asked to do more illustrations for Nickelodeon, which built his freelance career.
[36:53] If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain.
[39:08] Relationships, in general, are not about the other person; they are about how the other person reflects you.
[43:30] Andy speaks about aliens and what he thinks about neurodiverse people.
[46:08] The industrial revolution system was about maximizing the average so we can become interchangeable parts.
[49:32] Listen as Andy shares how he finishes his projects.
[51:10] Andy says that he went into his podcast, knowing that he needed to do it long enough to get good at it and long enough for people to hear it.
[53:08] Andy has encouragement for anyone starting a podcast.
[55:25] Andy shares his take-home message for the listeners.
[57:06] Thank you for being on the show!
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Tue, 14 July 2020

330 | June 2020 Q&A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb

Do you have trouble transitioning from work to home? Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan, and Will Curb answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.

Ella starts off this Q&A episode with a question about how to avoid doing things that pop up when things have to be done. Listen as Karen has a question that we are all dealing with now, working from home versus being in the office and the pluses and minuses of both. Matt has a question about relationships and his inability to be patient when trying to make friends.

Audrey has two questions for the panel: writing more concise email responses and tips on ways to stop losing things. Blake asks a question for his wife. When they have children, how hard will the load be on her? The panel says that you can only speculate on the challenges that they will face until you have kids.

Nathan was recently diagnosed with ADHD and wants to know the first five things he should learn about ADHD, and the last question is on Zoom fatigue and what causes it. If you had a question that wasn't answered, please ask it in our Facebook community, and someone will share their insights, and we will catch you next month on our next Q&A episode.

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You'll Learn:

[02:01] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
[03:28] Ella has a question about avoiding things that pop-up instead of what I should do?
[05:55] Will speaks about discipline and how that is hard with ADHD.
[07:11] Brendan gives his insights on this issue.
[09:31] Karen has a question about the pluses and minuses about working from home or the office.
[10:55] Eric says that everyone's experience will be different and for Karen to ask her team which they prefer.
[12:09] Will speaks about how different it is to work from home when you have kids and how going to the office gives him a stop time.
[14:22] Brendan discusses the transition from the office to home.
[16:27] Even if you have phenomenal communication skills, you might not notice how stressed your team members are if you don't see them.
[17:31] Eric shares his experience when working with an assistant.
[19:31] Matt has a question about relationships.
[20:38] Eric says that relationships are one of the hardest domains in life.
[21:22] Brendan gives his insights on relationships and how he made his friend group an adult.
[24:30] Eric comments on how Brendan shares intimacy with his friends.
[26:47] Eric believes that making friends as an adult is a topic more people need to talk about.
[32:44] Audrey asks how I can write emails to be more concise.
[33:50] Eric speaks about some tools that can help you respond to emails.
[35:21] Brendan shares his thoughts on this question.
[37:20] Will discusses what has helped him answer emails.
[38:31] Audrey wants tips on how she can keep from losing things.
[40:28] Brendan shares what he has done since high school to keep from losing things.
[41:46] Will says he loses things a lot because he sets things down in weird places.
[44:09] Do you look for something even though you are convinced you will not find where it is?
[47:40] Blake wants to know what kind of load his wife will bear if they have kids.
[48:35] Once you have kids it is much easier to navigate the challenges
[50:11] Nothing can prepare you for having children is an accurate statement.
[52:07] Will suggests balancing the load of work between both of you.
[53:28] Brendan shares his insights.
[54:46] Eric says that deciding to have children is the hardest decision anyone has to make.
[56:32] They give Nathan recommendations on the five things he should learn first after his recent ADHD diagnosis.
[58:38] Will says that getting sleep is the most important thing you can do.
[58:52] Brendan says that forgiveness is critical to self-care and ADHD management.
[59:22] How do we complete things? Is the next question they share.
[1:00:19] Brendan says to define done and set a boundary around what done means.
[1:01:11] The panel discusses Zoom fatigue and what the cause could be.
[1:03:49] If you want deeper dives into your questions, join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for the Patreon coaching call.
[1:04:29] If you are not a Patreon, share your questions in our Facebook community.
[1:04:37] We appreciate you for listening to the show!

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Productivity Q&A

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Tue, 7 July 2020

329 | ADHD, Narcissism, and Emotions in Relationships with Jared DeFife PhD

Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? Listen as Eric and his guest, Dr. Jared DeFife Ph.D., discuss one of the messier complexes, twist yourself in knots aspects of ADHD, which are emotions in relationships, narcissism, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Jared is a clinical psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. He has a private practice that specializes in men's mental health and therapy for adults with ADHD. Dr. Jared is a former clinical fellow of Harvard Medical School and has been a media expert for Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Networker, The Huffington Post, BBC News, and many more.

Dr. Jared speaks about his learning disabilities and the social relationship issues he had in school. He talks about how his emotional life transformed once he was medicated. Dr. Jared also shares how hard it can be to live with a person with ADHD and narcissism.

Dr. Jared discusses the common complaints he hears from partners in his practice, and the difference between ADHD self coping or management and narcissism. He speaks about what you can do to regulate emotions, and Eric talks about ways to run interference with them. Dr. Jared shares how cognitive elements can affect how you feel.

When your spouse talks to you, do you hear what they are saying? Dr. Jared talks about what a partner can say to be helpful, and maybe you can say, 'I heard you, and I am working to do better.' Dr. Jared shares some very enlightening information around dealing with relationships and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you and your partner, this episode could be a tool to keep you together.

You'll learn:

[02:08] Welcome to the show, Jared!
[03:18] Jared shares his ADHD story.
[05:04] When did you first realize you had ADHD?
[06:45] They discuss the apparent signs of ADHD that were missed through school.
[07:31] Eric and Jared speak about their learning disabilities.
[09:00] Jared speaks about his social relationships in school.
[11:44] Jared shares the journey into the psychology field.
[13:14] When Jared got medicated, his emotional life changed drastically.
[16:13] If you are worried that you are a narcissist, you are not a narcissist.
[21:06] Jared discusses how hard it is to live with a person with ADHD.
[23:40] Do you think we can develop conscientiousness through active practices?
[25:40] Jared shares the two most common complaints he hears in his practice.
[28:25] Jared speaks about the reasons partners talk about narcissism.
[31:34] What is ADHD coping and self-management, and what is pure narcissism?
[34:43] Do emotions sometimes take over, and you do not understand what to do with them?
[39:09] Jared discusses what we can do about regulating our emotions.
[41:02] Have you ever been in a self-imposed time out in your relationship?
[43:43] Eric shares what someone in his coaching group shared about putting a timer on their discussion.
[46:04] Eric talks about running mental interference with emotions.
[47:20] Jared speaks about how cognitive elements can affect how you feel.
[49:04] Jared talks about what a partner can say that can be helpful.
[52:46] Can you say, I hear you, and I am working to do better!
[54:13] Jared, thank you so much for being on the show!
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