In this episode, Eric is joined by Justine Clay!  Justine, who is a neurotypical mom of a neurodivergent kid, is also a speaker, writer, business coach, and ADHD coach, for creative entrepreneurs and freelancers.  Using her actionable-profitable-by-design framework, Justine helps established creative professionals and business-owners identify and articulate their unique value, position themselves to high-quality while paying clients, and build a fulfilling, efficient, and profitable creative business!  

Find more from Justine!

• Website :: justineclay.com (click here!)
• Instagram ::  @justine_clay (click here!)
• LinkedIn :: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justineclay 

In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• Helping people articulate what they want among a sea of ideas and different ways of co-collaborating
• Getting down to what someone needs vs. what they think they need & finding the fundamentals
• What do you do when you’re procrastinating? / Monetizing your zone of genius and accepting your gifts
• What is unique about the ADHD entrepreneur vs. a neurotypical entrepreneur? 
• Starting three things as a way to get unstuck and finding the “goldilocks” amount of pressure
• Creating structure with flexibility and options / “Don’t check your email first thing in the morning.”  
• The importance of understanding your own tendencies / the power of the pause
•  “So many ‘fires’ are just bright shiny objects that don’t actually need our attention right now.” 
•  “If you don’t run your own attention, someone (or something) else will run it for you.”
•  Identifying an area of focus / Building on longer term goals and long-term coaching
•  Who am I, who am I for, and how do I serve them? /  “Be in community with other people who are doing what you’re doing.” 
• The benefits and immense value of having diversity of life, experience, and ideologies within a team
• Mindset hurdles that show up for ADHD entrepreneurs and addressing negative thoughts and noise in our brains
• “What are you actually afraid of? What’s the worst that could happen? What is within our power?” 
• Creating a, “You’re Awesome!” folder to mitigate negative messaging 
• Addressing the topic of money with compassion / “Numbers don’t define who you are as a human being.”
• “A moment spent worrying about money is a moment you’ve stolen from yourself where you could be working on your unique brilliance…”
• Finding a good financial advisor who will meet you where you’re at, who understands your needs, understands your ADHD, and understands your goals  
• The importance of taking away 3 actionable steps and a deliverable roadmap
• Systemizing to make things easier so we’re not constantly reinventing the wheel 
• Burnout and dealing with the stressors vs. processing physical stress
• Benefits of a morning journaling practice, using it as a brain dump, and addressing limiting beliefs
• How to start a morning journaling practice / Handwriting vs. typing 
• “The things that pay the most dividends can tend to have the hardest onramp.” 
• “Just try harder” doesn’t work / “Why might this help?” 

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Article :: How to Find your Zone of Genius (click here)
• Article :: How to Get Into the Zone of Genius and Unlock Your Highest Potential (on Forbes) (click here) 
• Article: Gay Hendricks and Andy Wang on the Inspired Money Podcast (click here)
• Website :: Hendricks Institute @ hendricks.com (click here) 
• Website :: Ten Percent Happier @ www.tenpercent.com (click here)
• Podcast :: Ten Percent Happier @ www.tenpercent.com/podcast (click here)
• App :: Loom - for video recording and collaboration - at loom.com (click here!)
• Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) (on Goodreads) (Official Website)
• Book :: The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity - Julia Cameron (official website) (on Goodreads)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast!   In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with! 

Find more from Dana:

• All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews (click here!)
• Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com (click here!)
• ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? (click here!)

In this episode, you’ll hear discussions and tips about:

• Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict 
• How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation? 
• Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of ‘problems’
• Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we’re not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past
• “We don’t have to agree with a person’s perspective.” / It’s not WHAT we’re disagreeing about – it’s about HOW we’re disagreeing.
• The importance of acknowledging the other person’s feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person? 
• Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present 
• Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?) 
• Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn’t necessarily healthy
• The power of the pause, non-judgmental awareness, and recognizing one’s own tendencies and patterns of behaviors 
• Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating 
• Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones
• Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions 
• Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one’s role in a conflict without blaming
• Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you’re telling yourself
• Identifying and tuning into emotions / “The story I’m telling myself is…” / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals
• Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org (click here) 
• Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away (click here) at gottman.com 
• Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary (click here)
• Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Goodreads)
• Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown (click here)
• Website :: The Center of Nonviolent Communication at www.cnvc.org (click here)
• Information :: Esther Perel: Understanding and Resolving Conflict (click here)
• How to Resolve Conflict (Esther Perel) Masterclass (click here)
• Information :: Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed (click here)

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more!  Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! (click here!) 

In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about:

• ADHD and long COVID mimicking ADHD symptoms
• Being a business owner with ADHD and hiring / training processes 
• How involved one should be in helping a partner with their medication regimen 
• Codependency vs. interdependency
• Observing, support, relationships, and not falling into codependency roles
• Being an accountability partner for a significant other 
• Chronic pain and negative feedback cycles
• Negative feedback spirals vs. negative feedback loops
• Mindfulness in the body and mind and mindfulness-based stress reduction
• The importance of being transparent about chronic pain with loved ones 
• Feeling safe, expressing needs, and accommodations around chronic pain 
• Can ADHD exacerbate pain? 
• Pain as part of our sensory system, ADHD, and different thresholds
• Different types of paper planners and accounting for transition time 
• SHART: Sh*t Happens; Adjustment Recovery Time
• Point of performances 
• Placeholders and flexibility when planning
• Tips for task-switching instead of avoiding moving from one task to another
• Practicing taking breaks at least once an hour
• Sleep, exercise, general self-care, and task-shifting abilities 
• Identifying obstacles then creating and/or accommodating around those obstacles
• “What are you fearing if you stop now and [transition] to the next thing?” and pattern interruptions
• The importance of having a growth mindset and seeing setbacks as opportunities\

Resources & Honorable Mentions 

• Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW!  At theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎉
• ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired’s Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler (click here!)
• Article: Potential New Treatment for “Brain Fog” in Long COVID Patients (click here)
• Article: Successful Treatment of Post-COVID-19 ADHD-like Syndrome: A Case Report (PMC) (click here)
• Webinar: The Science of Power and Hope from ADDitude (click here)
• Website: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com https://jkzmeditations.com 
• App: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com/the-app/
• TV Show:  Community (IMDB)
• Tool: Erasable Frixion Pens

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

In this episode, Emerson Jordan-Wood joins Eric–in person at ADHD reWired HQ–on the podcast!  Emerson is a 27-year-old queer, non-binary, trans human. They are originally from Illinois, but have lived brief stints in Iowa, Texas, and most recently Minnesota! They studied civil engineering at The University of Iowa currently work in non-profit construction. Emerson was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and self-diagnosed with autism in 2022! They're also an active Alumni member of ADHD reWired’s coaching and accountability groups!

In this episode, you’ll hear experiences, struggles, and discussions about:

• “Transitions are hard” and transitioning gender identities 
• The overlap of ADHD, different means of transitionings, and barriers to access
• Hoops, hurdles, and executive function nightmares
• Experiencing gender dysphoria and body disconnect
• Navigating the medical system and knowing your options
• “This feels like me.” 
• “Your transition is your transition and it doesn’t have to be based on anybody else’s.”
• Masking gender, masking as a neurotypical person, then unmaking gender identity
• Acceptance, freedom, and fully being your authentic self in the world 
• “I was doing what I thought I ‘should’ be doing.” 
• Different perceptions of gender, how people respond and interact with those perceptions, and fitting in
• Experiencing gender privilege and gender discrimination in the workplace
• Understanding pros, cons, patterns, and social cues between the gender roles 
• Being misgendered, coming to terms with your identity and doing the work towards acceptance
• Navigating and learning how to process irritability, anger, frustration, and general emotional dysregulation
• Struggling with task initiation, living in a constant state of flight, and not “panicking” through life
• From TikTok to the doctor 
• Feelings of being unprepared, social expectations, and navigating new environments
• Social cues, dynamics in conversations, and autism
• The helpfulness of labels and language to describe different struggles to take action and better communicate

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 

🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 

🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧