ADHD reWired

Ari Tuckman is back on the show to discuss his new book and new findings regarding how ADHD affects sex and intimacy. Ari is a psychologist in Pennsylvania working to help others live their best lives. Many times, living your best life requires understanding your sexual needs and wants and how they affect your partner or spouse.

Ari has spent a great deal of time researching how people with and without ADHD relate to and process sexual activities and intimacy. In his new book ADHD After Dark, he shares the results of a survey taken of those with and without ADHD to reveal their levels of sexual eagerness. He then dispenses this down to share how varying levels of sexual eagerness affect intimate relationships and how to find ways to connect in the gaps.

This conversation is full of great information about the true core issue of any sexually deficient relationship… communication. Ari shares some amazing statistics, I share some really terrible dad jokes, and together we hope to inspire you to use better communication skills to create a more unified sex life.

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:59] Welcome back to the show Ari Tuckman!
  • [02:51] Ari is back to discuss sex and intimacy for those with ADHD.
  • [03:24] Ari shares some of the recent shows he’s gone to.
  • [03:56] Why does Ari study ADHD and sex? 
  • [05:58] Romantic and sexual satisfaction overlap and affect one another.
  • [07:24] Ari has been studying the difference between willingness and eagerness.
  • [09:03] How do you address the core issue of communication to improve sexual interaction? 
  • [10:22] What is emotion regulation and how can you employ it? 
  • [13:03] Ari reveals several of the differences between the sexual interactions of those with ADHD and those without.
  • [17:25] Which categories did people with ADHD rate themselves higher in on a survey of sexual eagerness.
  • [20:36] What considerations should a person who is beginning a relationship think about? 
  • [23:35] Learn about the differences between ADHD and non-ADHD regarding masturbation, kinkiness, and monogamy.
  • [27:25] How does masturbation affect your life and sex life? 
  • [28:50] Where does kink fit into this spectrum? 
  • [31:31] What is consensual non-monogamy?
  • [40:46] Does Ari’s research touch on cheating and sex addiction? What does it reveal?
  • [46:33] Is porn use for those with ADHD really about porn?
  • [47:50] The problem with labeling things an addiction…
  • [50:06] Did Ari open up the survey to same-sex couples? 
  • [51:10] Ari shares 5 tips that men and women with and without ADHD could use to better their sex lives.
  • [56:37] Learn more about the CHADD conference for this year.
  • [57:47] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups

The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 289_Sex_Intamacy_and_ADHD_with_Ari_Tuckman.mp3
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What do you do when your entire experience with money has been negative? Mastermind ways to overcome the negativity and get in tune with your finances! Agnes has had a tough time getting the people in her life to realize that she is ready to take control of her finances and learn what it means to be financially savvy.

When she should have been learning the ins and outs of money management, Agnes was instead dealing with the death of her father. Since then she and her mother have had conflicting ideas on how to approach money management. Listen in as Agnes shares how she has dealt with money in the past and how she’s looking to manage it in the future. Overcoming the emotional aspect is a big one for her.

The mastermind group gives amazing advice for ways to approach money and insights on why she’s been clashing with family members over the management of their trusts. The group also provides an amazing number of resources when getting started with money management. If money management is an issue for you as well, take heart, the reason money is a problem for most people is that we don’t talk about it often enough! Stay! Listen! Learn! This group gives some amazing advice. 

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:34] Agnes shares a bit about where her issues with money started. 
  • [04:20] What needs to happen for Agnes to start working on her finances?
  • [08:39] Will steps in with some great information about how to get started and who to look for.
  • [10:56] Agnes works through the mental block she has surrounding the various aspects of her inheritance and the familial burdens that come along with it.
  • [14:06] Emily steps up to ask clarifying questions about Agnes’s issues with paying people and continuing to feel like a burden.
  • [15:28] What is the thing that she’s gone through with her mother over and over again?
  • [16:39] Perhaps the issue is that the people around Agnes also don’t know anything about money…
  • [19:51] Who has Agnes given permission to know about her finances? Why?
  • [24:23] We are back from the break and diving into educating yourself on finances.
  • [31:06] Agnes commits to reaching out to a financial planner/fiduciary to help her.
  • [38:03] Emily recommends checking with the bank for financial classes and encourages Agnes to only share her financial woes with people directly related to her money.
  • [41:05] Maybe having someone address finances in a positive light is all that Agnes needs.
  • [44:42] You won’t take care of it later. Start putting money away now.
  • [50:43] What is Patreon?
  • [53:17] Finances are like dieting… learn why!
  • [54:31] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles:

http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired

ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups

The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 288_Mastermind_Agnes_Gaining_Financial_Literacy.mp3
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August’s Q&A was a great one for everyone needing tips and tricks for helping their children and themselves get and stay “organized.” Brendan and I help talk through various strategies we’ve used to help our kids with schoolwork and assignments as well as ways we stay on top of our homes, cars, and calendars.

We start the session off with a question about the progress that’s being made with making ADHD a nationally recognized health issue and our recommendations for bringing awareness to your state politicians. The only way to really raise this issue up is being persistent and helping others to recognize the effects ADHD has on so many other health issues.

Have you ever wondered if stimulants have an impact on your creativity? We had an awesome question from a creator in the group asking about the long-term effects of taking stimulants and staying creative. This question led to our discussion of the distinction between being a creative person and being a creator. 

Do you have questions that you need to be answered or a solution to a problem you experience every day? Sign up for next month’s Q&A at www.adhdrewired.com/events

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:38] Welcome to the August Q&A session with Eric and Brendan.
  • [03:50] Any progress or thoughts on the goal of raising ADHD to the federal level?
  • [04:50] Learn what you can do to help the push for awareness!
  • [09:38] How to stop keeping so many tabs open on our internet browsers.
  • [15:16] Tips for sticking with calendar reminders for notifications.
  • [22:18] Do stimulants affect creativity over the longterm?
  • [30:47] Could stimulants increase study speed? Other exercises or practices? 
  • [33:36] How to help children with ADHD remember school work and assignments to curb procrastinating.
  • [39:47] Learn helpful strategies for keeping your home, car, etc clean when you are ADHD inattentive? 
  • [51:02] Does Eric feel like he’s changed since he started his podcast? 
  • [54:44] Has Brendan changed since starting his podcast? 
  • [1:00:25] If you want to join in next month’s Q&A, check out www.adhdrewired.com/events
  • [1:01:11] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles:

http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired

ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups

The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 287_Aug_Q__A.mp3
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Ann Marie Silverberg is a wife, mother, dog trainer and was recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen in as we chat about her road to diagnosis, how ADHD affects her life and business, and why, in many ways, she views the condition as a strength. 

Ann Marie’s road to diagnosis was a fairly long one. Like many others trying to find a reason for their behavior, she had an Aha! moment, but an actual diagnosis was long in coming. It was almost as if no one WANTED to diagnose her. She shares the struggle that she went through and what led to her finally receiving the help she needed.

Do you have sensory processing issues? So does Ann Marie! She uses that sensory overload to her advantage in her work. Listen as she shares why she’s very similar to the animals she trains and how that similarity makes her an expert at her craft.

This was an awesome conversation full of positivity and advice for keeping on track with your goals. We dig into how Ann Marie cues herself for behavioral change and the importance of positivity in everyday life.

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:35] Welcome to the show Ann Marie Silverberg, a certified dog trainer and behavioral consultant!
  • [03:44] Learn why Ann Marie decided to work with aggressive dogs.
  • [05:24] What has Ann Marie learned from working with anxious and aggressive dogs about her own behavior? 
  • [06:06] Why trying to parent keyed her into a possible underlying issue in her own behavior.
  • [09:58] How long did it take for Ann Marie to be diagnosed with ADHD after she had her “Aha!” moment.
  • [18:02] Why setting realistic expectations is very important to maintaining your sanity.
  • [21:54] How does ADHD show up in Ann Marie’s business? 
  • [24:39] Do cues work to remind Ann Marie to use the spreadsheets she creates? 
  • [31:24] Ann Marie shares some of her sensory processing issues and how they affect her business for the good and bad.
  • [37:08] What cues does Ann Marie use to reinforce behavioral changes? 
  • [39:13] How does she leverage her strengths in her business? 
  • [47:50] Does Ann Marie struggle with low frustration tolerance? 
  • [53:02] Connect with Ann Marie!
  • [53:32] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at
  • www.ADHDreWired.com

Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles:

http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired

ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups

The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.


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