ADHD reWired

In this Mastermind Session, we have Emily in the hot seat on the subject of emotional regulation. She tells us that she is not capable of regulating anything when her switch gets flipped. When that happens, she does and says things that could get her injured or put in jail, and that while she is in the moment, she feels very positive she is in the right. 

Are conflict and the feelings it causes a way to self-medicate? They discuss why she levels up to crazy mad so fast and the euphoria she feels afterward. She tells us that she does not repress her emotions. If someone makes her angry, she will let them know in no uncertain terms. Emily gives examples of what she means when she says she is ready to change her perceptions up to a point.

Eric talks to Emily about coming to conflict from a place of love instead of anger. Finding out why the person acted that way instead of assuming they have character has flaws. Try doing something to reset the mind instead of giving in to the anger.

Did you know that the natural fluctuations of hormones both monthly and through different phases of life can increase ADHD? If this gives you pause, and you think, could it be that easy? Please talk to your doctor.

If any of this resonates with you, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. Listen to this mastermind and see if they can help you come up with the answers you are seeking. If not, answers maybe ideas of where to search next. Sit back, relax, and push play.

You'll Learn:

  • 01:33] Welcome to the show Emily, Roxy, Aggie, and Will.
  • [02:03] Emily tells us a little about why she is here.
  • [07:14] She tells us that she is ready to change her perceptions of situations up to a point.
  • [08:09] They discuss whether a conflict is a way for her to self-medicate.
  • [11:51] Have you had any negative fallout from your actions?
  • [12:52] She is being controlled by the anger that consumes her.
  • [14:07] Emily tells us she does not repress her emotions. If she gets mad at something someone does, she lets them know.
  • [16:35] She tells us what she means by changing her perceptions up to a point.
  • [18:01] They talk about her being impulsive and that it is a part of ADHD.
  • [19:41] When your switch gets flipped, where do you feel it? Temples? Chest?
  • [21:49] Eric encourages her to reenact and do role play so she can learn to handle her feelings.
  • [26:10] They discuss her personality and how great it would be if she could react in a loving matter instead of anger.
  • [33:27] She is encouraged to leave when she feels like she is going to explode, go to an empty room or her car.
  • [36:04] Eric talks about her brain being hijacked.
  • [38:58] Are you open to discussing new medications? Please speak to your prescribing physician.
  • [44:11] Have you ever taken an anger management class? Would you?
  • [44:59] Anger can be a secondary emotion, and fear could be the primary emotion.
  • [45:23] Progesterone levels can affect your ADHD medication.
  • [48:10] Hormone levels change monthly and can affect the effectiveness of your meds.
  • [50:29] Eric talks about the vagus nerve that can be used to reset your reactions.
  • [52:39] Emily speaks about the commitments she wants to make from what's been discussed today.
  • [54:33] Thank you, Emily, for sharing today and keep working on it.
  • [56:32] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
  • [57:34] If you would like a pack of podcast postcards to hand out, please request them at www.ADHDreWired.com.
  • [58:04] If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review and to the podcast.
  • [58:45] Not sure where to start Eric, give us some titles of books that can help.

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 294_Mastermind_Session_-_Emily.mp3
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Welcome back to ADHD reWired. In this episode, we welcome Tanya Brakeman. Tanya is an Interior Designer, writer, teacher, and relationship mentor. She has spent over ten years engaged in the field of transformation leadership. She has developed a curriculum in the study of the erotic discipline called 'Revel, the Audacity of Ecstacy.' Revel is a daringly vulnerable investigation into how we relate to ourselves, influence our relationships, and express our uniqueness in our community and world.

Do you treat others better than you treat yourself? Are you wrestling with your self worth? Tanya believes that the acronym for self is a single evident life force, that we are individually unique in this universe. She also discusses restoring our connection to the intelligent erotic life force in such a way that dignity naturally arises, self respect returns, and how empowering it is to trust your own sense of wisdom.

Tanya describes the four spheres of influence, why she uses the word erotic, and what she means by it. She asks us if we use our bodies as a source of intuition and listen to it when it is telling us something. They speak about how emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD and how, when we express ourselves to the world, we are experiencing ourselves.

Listen in as Tanya tells us how she dealt with her abusive childhood, how she overcame it and decided not to be a victim. She chats about sexual expression and not being afraid to discuss what you want or what you need even when that includes BDSM. 

This is a conversation about finding one’s self in, eroticism, intimacy, and relationships and how ADHD can affect it. If any of this resonates with you, grab a snack, plugin and learn how to express yourself.

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You'll Learn:

  • [03:20] Welcome to the show, Tanya!
  • [03:51] Tanya discusses why she got into the study of sex, love, and intimacy and how it changed her life.
  • [05:49] Have you heard of the sex-positive community?
  • [07:30] They speak about 50 Shades of Grey and how that opens up conversations that might have thought were tabu until then.
  • [10:09] Tanya discusses how and why people misuse sex, love, and intimacy and how that affected her as a young child.
  • [13:28] Just because your body can be aroused doesn't mean that you like what is happening.
  • [23:22] Tanya talks about the four spheres of influence and what they mean.
  • [26:10] She explains erotic the way she uses it, not the plasticized way the world uses it.
  • [28:51] Do you listen to your body as your sense of intuition? Do you trust your gut?
  • [31:30] She discusses restoring the connection to the intelligent erotic life force.
  • [34:25] Emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD; it's essential to recognize it.
  • [36:15] As we express ourselves in the world, we experience ourselves.
  • [37:15] Tanya chats about her wedding in 30 days, and she hasn't started planning it yet.
  • [39:42] They speak of her love story and how her finance pointed out that she had ADHD.
  • [42:03] There is a difference between bodily urges and knowing.
  • [45:15] The body and the mind coming together is the core point, no matter how you get there.
  • [46:08] Tanya tells us what nurture is all about.
  • [51:00] Do you have real self-respect? Do you have a deeply embodied sense of dignity?
  • [54:54] Do you ever have conversations with your children about sex, love, intimacy, and power?
  • [57:40] Tanya talks to us about the subject of sexual intelligence, sexual expression.
  • [59:10] "Everything in the world is about sex, except sex and sex is about power."
  • [1:00:33] How do we find you, Tanya?
  • [1:02:00] Tanya tells us her adult children are her wedding planners.
  • [1:04:52] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 293_Revel_in_Better_sex_intamacy_and_relationships_with_Tanya_Brakeman.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

ADHD reWired welcomes Brian Behm to the show. Brian is a freelance creative director and motion artist based in Austin, Texas. His Augmented Reality Streetwear Project, NO_SYS, works to empower and amuse people through secret messages. He is excited about how Augmented Reality plays into the future of Art.

 

Brian was diagnosed with ADHD last year at age 41. He started researching ADHD, and what he found was eyeopening. He could now explain some of the quirks he had instead of wondering why he had them. Why, when he got in an emotional situation, he would shut down and not be able to talk, and why his brain didn't kick in on command so that he could finish tasks that needed to be done. 

 

He left a lucrative job to open his own business doing freelance work. He has done work on many things like the Grammy's and a backdrop for a Diana Ross concert. His lack of time management sometimes causes him to say yes to projects when he shouldn't, but he is still a work in progress and doing very well.

 

Listen in to this conversation about discovery, trials, and reinventing oneself. Brian tells us about being in an Ironman Triathalon, working on Indie films and a new project called Augmented Reality Streetwear that he is excited about. He isn't letting ADHD stop him; he is learning how to stop ADHD and living his life around it. This is an episode you won't want to miss.

 

 Your Resources:

 

You'll Learn:

  • [02:47] Welcome to the show, Brian!
  • [03:00] Eric and Brian chat about giant cold beverages to combat the heat in Austin, TX
  • [03:34] Brian speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD at age 41.
  • [04:51] He talks to us about his last job with Rooster Teeth and what led to him leaving that job.
  • [07:42] Brian didn't know that there was an emotional to ADHD until he started learning about it.
  • [09:26] They talk about doing everything except what they need to do and the reasons for that.
  • [10:50] Brian says when he gets into an emotional situation, he can't talk and shuts down.
  • [15:58] Brian tells a story about a co-worker that was a brilliant animator.
  • [21:14] His schedule is horrible, and his time management is atrocious.
  • [21:53] What did it feel like when you took your medicine for ADHD for the first time?
  • [24:52] He talks about an assault in his 20's and how the fear changed how he handled his life.
  • [27:08] Brian speaks about the trauma he was going through when he left his job. The shame of not being able to deliver the project.
  • [28:28] He had a friend send him a clip of Robin Williams telling Matt Damon in Goodwill Hunting, 'It's not your fault' it helped him so much.
  • [30:11] Have you ever felt the need to do a type of 12 step program with your ADHD diagnosis?
  • [39:45] He has done work for the Grammy's, and he has done drape background for Diana Ross.
  • [41:45] Have you ever turned a project down that you didn't have time for, but you were scared that they wouldn't ask you to work with them again?
  • [46:39] Brian discusses feeling so good for a few weeks that you almost forget you have ADHD and then bam it rears its head again.
  • [47:56] He talks about doing a mastermind with Seth Godin.
  • [50.34] Brian speaks about an Ironman Triathalon that he competed in and how stressed his system was.
  • [57:23] Brian says how helpful this podcast has been for him while trying to figure out ADHD.
  • [58:01] He talks about books that have helped him and chasing down what other people are reading.
  • [1:00:45] Brian tells us how to find him on social media.
  • [1:02:01] Would you wear a shirt that says I hate my boss if he couldn't see that it said that?
  • [01:03:44] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show.
  • [01:03:53] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: 292_Diagnosis_Recontextualized_Everything_-_Brian_Behm.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Jessica McCabe and Brendan Mahan. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our questions today are about being overly sensitive to rejection, how to know the difference between essential tasks versus important ones, and everything in between. We also talked about the different types of medicine and how your dose might need to be tweaked to find what works best for you.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:

You'll Learn:

  • [02:13] Welcome to the show Jessica and Brendan for our monthly Q & A.
  • [03:13] Listen to find out if people with ADHD are more sensitive to rejection.
  • [08:20] They chat about why you feel like having ADHD is the reason for everything. 
  • [12:31] Is age 12 too late to ADHD medicine?
  • [13:19] They discuss why looking for a and not having a schedule can really mess with how you deal with your ADHD.
  • [23:18] Learning about and acceptance of ADHD are two of the best strategies you can have.
  • [32:11] Is being on time hard for you? Do you like having to beat the clock?
  • [40:05] How do you identify the things that are a priority to complete?
  • [49:24] They talk about how ADHD can sometimes make you feel like a failure as a parent.
  • [55:01] When your child is unloading and frustrated might not be the time to discuss them embracing their ADHD.
  • [57:08] What is the best way to limit adults with ADHD usage on devices?
  • [01:02:30] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show.
  • [01:03:43] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 291_Sept_Q__A_w_Jessica_McCabe_and_Brendan.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

This is the premiere episode of Hacking Your ADHD, a brand new ADHD reWired Network Podcast. 

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ADHD can make it hard for us to work on our intentions. This is even harder when we forget the things that we want to do. When you are learning about new ADHD strategies while reading books or listening to podcasts (like this one!) it is really easy to forget your intention of implementing those strategies. In these instances when we learn about a new tool, what we can do is write down our intended strategy and put it into our ADHD Toolbox. Our toolbox is simply a way for us to record the strategies and ideas we have for working with our ADHD - a place we can go and look at our intentions when we are off track.

While new strategies are fun to add to our toolbox, we should also focus on adding things that are already working in our life to our toolbox. If you've found a great bedtime routine? Stick it in your toolbox. Figured out a great way to plan your upcoming week? Stick it in your toolbox. Found a great tool for keeping you focused? Stick it in your toolbox.

Just creating a toolbox for yourself isn't enough. We all know that we forget things. That we get off track. And sometimes when we are off track it takes us a while to realize what we are doing wrong. Use your toolbox to speed up the process of getting back in the groove of things. To do this you've got to set up regular times to check your toolbox.

But we also know that sometimes even when we set aside time to check something we aren't always going to get to it, which means we've got to set up redundant reminders for ourselves to make sure we don't miss out on our most important intentions.

If this sounds like something that you need to do check out the full episode.

Direct download: Building_Your_ADHD_Toolbox.mp3
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Sarah grew up in urban poverty with domestic violence, alcohol, drugs, and all before she turned 14. She had a hard time in school and with making friends, but her tenacity got her through, she ended up graduating from college with an MBA in finance. For the last 11 years, she has had a career in higher education. 

She discusses her childhood, the abuse, and being diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and depression. She tells us why her son hasn’t seen his grandparents in 4 years, and why she hasn’t told her family about the way her father treated her.

Stories like Sarah’s need to be told so that maybe her words can help someone heal. She is a strong, resilient woman because of and in spite of her upbringing. Listen in as she explains how she feels and why she feels like it was her fault. I am sure there are people we know who this will resonate with maybe suggest that they listen to this episode with you.

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You’ll Learn:

  • 02:49] Welcome to the show, Sarah!
  • [03:25] Eric and Sarah discuss her childhood and growing up a victim of domestic violence by her father.
  • [05:41] Mental Health in her family is never discussed.
  • [06:32] How is your relationship with your dad now? Do you have one?
  • [07:43] She tells us about an incident when she was caught holding hands with a boy walking down the street, and her father reacted violently against her.
  • [09:55] Her dad's brother was the only one that knew what happened and he was an alcoholic.
  • [10:40] She thinks that people would think it's strange that she has a good relationship with her dad.
  • [11:27] Sarah speaks to us about her father threatening her son; he no longers sees his grandparents.
  • [13:23] Have you ever felt that if you tell someone about the abuse, it will blow up everything you have tried to build? 
  • [17:20] You can't numb the hard stuff if you want to feel the good stuff.
  • [18:39] Have you ever sat in the muck? How long did it take you to get out?
  • [19:20] Sarah speaks about her and trying to deal with her suicidal feelings.
  • [21:20] If you could go back and talk to your 10-year-old self, what would you say?
  • [25:41] No one will ever know how awful and painful this was for Sarah, but it is ok to have strong feelings and to see that it wasn't her fault.
  • [27:33] Once she was diagnosed, everything started making more sense. Why wasn't this diagnosed years sooner?
  • [29:48] Sarah reminisces about staying up all night with her mom watching tv and cooking 3-course meals at midnight.
  • [33:30] Shame grows with silence, secrecy, and judgment.
  • [38:10] It took Sarah 10 years to get her undergrad degree, and she got her MBA after she had her son.
  • [40:40] She tells us about a guy she dated in high school that was controlling that she stayed with for four years. She failed classes because he followed her to college and stalked her.
  • [45:46] Even the most resilient people need to stop and take a minute to say, this is hard!
  • [47:00] How has the adversity you have faced shaped your ability to show up for life's challenges now?
  • [49:52] Sarah says sometimes you have to be ok with not always being ok.
  • [50:40] Eric's hope for Sarah is that she will continue working with her therapist and continue to tell her story and keep healing.
  • [51:58] Eric will put some more resources on his website. 
  • [53:03] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups

The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_290_Surviving_Childhood_with_Sarah_Edgewood.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

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