ADHD reWired

Breaking down the increments of time to organize behavior for people with ADHD is like driving in fog at slow speed. Listen to Eric and his guest Dr. Russell Ramsay as they discuss this, and many other topics on this episode of ADHD reWired. Dr. Ramsay is the co-founder and co-director of the University of Pennsylvania Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program and an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry in the Penn State Medical School. He is also the author of five books, including the recently released Rethinking Adult ADHD, along with many articles with issues relating to ADHD. 

How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable? Listen as Eric, and Dr. Ramsay discuss cognitive brain therapy, the difference between agency and efficacy, automatic negative thoughts, and core beliefs. Dr. Ramsay also shares that there are no trade secrets with coping strategies; the issue is with implementation and follow-through. Eric wonders if clients can be taught to change the questions they ask themselves and instead of being discouraged because all of something does not work, look and see if a part of it will work, look at the smaller picture. 

Listen in as Dr. Ramsay shares the difference between procrastination and front end perfectionism, along with general cognitive disorders in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD. Dr. Ramsay says that it is ok to start toward something with the end in mind, but remember to implement the next incremental step to reach the goal. 

Eric and Dr. Ramsay both share some extraordinary information about ADHD. Even though cognitive brain therapy sounds hard, these two break it down into layman terms so that we can all understand it. Small steps with realistic expectations can help you reach whatever goal you want to achieve.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:47] Dr. Russell Ramsay, welcome back to the show!
  • [03:09] Dr. Ramsay why are we rethinking adult ADHD?
  • [05:40] He speaks about the main cognitive theme in CBT [cognitive brain therapy].
  • [08:04] Dr. Ramsay discusses a scale that measures distorted positive thoughts.
  • [09:57] Do you know the difference between agency and efficacy?
  • [12:30] Dr. Ramsay speaks about automatic negative thoughts and core beliefs.
  • [15:45] There are no trade secrets for coping strategies we know they work, the problem is implementation.
  • [18:06] How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable?
  • [28:56] Dr. Ramsay addresses the overgeneralization of distortions in positive and negative ways.
  • [31:46] Eric wonders if maybe clients should be taught to change the questions they ask themselves.
  • [33:17] Dr. Ramsay says that writing is hard for everyone, so if you can sequence your thoughts conversationally, it can help you express things in a more precise way.
  • [34:20] Are there differences in general cognitive distortions in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD?
  • [37:02] Dr. Ramsay speaks about procrastination and front end perfectionism.
  • [38:03] Dr. Ramsay shares some areas of perfectionism that many people do not recognize and productive procrastination.
  • [41:04] What something you can do behaviourally even though it is not actionable?
  • [47:44] Dr. Ramsay discusses the unrealistic expectations of reality, lowering the bar of sufficiency.
  • [50:30] Organizing behavior across time towards an outcome that we want to achieve.
  • [51:33] Dr. Ramsay says to start with the end in mind but implement the next incremental step toward your goal.
  • [53:51] How long does it take for replacement thoughts to become automatic?
  • [56:39] Dr. Ramsay gives examples from a study of framing bias and remarks that framing a task so that it is actionable makes it seem more natural to accomplish.
  • [57:43] Dr. Ramsay, do you have any final thoughts for our listeners?
  • [59:28] Thank you so much for being on the show today.
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Direct download: 309_rethinking_Adult_ADHD_Dr._Russell_Ramsay.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Have you ever heard anyone say, "lazy is learned helplessness brought about by a lack of skills"? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

We start with a question about doing tasks when you don't feel well and how to hit a pause button around these tasks instead of a stop button. Getting accountability groups set up when you want to make sure you are accomplishing what you set out to do, how to ask a friend to be your accountability partner, and how to set up ground rules about what accountability is and isn't. It is always easier to have an accountability partner that is doing something similar or at least in the same ballpark as what you are doing.

A mom of a 7th grader asked the team how she should respond to his failing grades and his resistance to taking the prescribed medicines. Laura asks for tips on how to not beat yourself up over a failure to complete calendar tasks, and Jennifer from the U.K. wants to know if they have ever had someone on the podcast from an area where the resources are limited. Jennifer is also curious about the team's response to podcasts that are selling products to manage ADHD like essential oils as an alternative to medicines.

Listen in as we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:19] Welcome our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brenden Mahan.
  • [03:00] Madeline starts off with a question about getting tasks done when she is not feeling well.
  • [04:40] Will and Brenden give their feedback on what is a priority when they are not feeling well.
  • [07:01] Eric speaks about having the flu and the response he got when he couldn't get an episode out.
  • [08:50] Beware of the guilt, shame and anxiety feelings that can surface.
  • [12:08] Blake has an issue with his accountability and is asking for help.
  • [14:35] Eric asks if there are certain things he has found helpful in the past.
  • [15:45] What is the purpose of your need for accountability?
  • [18:05] They discuss setting up a daily task list and sharing it with someone.
  • [20:21] The follow up is a crucial thing with accountability. You need to report back to someone.
  • [23:21] Alexis is asking how do you choose a non-therapist to be your accountability partner?
  • [23:41] Eric speaks about needing to know what accountability is and what it isn't.
  • [24:29] Will says that setting up ground rules, in the beginning, is very helpful.
  • [26:20] Do you need an accountability partner to be doing something similar to what you are doing?
  • [32:02] Andrew feels either everything is great or everything is terrible and wants to know if they have any tips to help to level this out.
  • [33:57] Eric wants to know what time he is going to bed versus what time he is falling asleep and when he is waking up.
  • [36:34] Do you regularly? Do you eat correctly?
  • [39:08] When you have ADHD you have to think about your brain, do things that self-monitoring.
  • [40:20] A mom shares that her son is struggling with school and resistant to meds, she is asking for ideas.
  • [41:35] Brenden says that she needs to find out where the breakdown is at school and activate his school team to help figure this out.
  • [44:09] Do you know where the skill deficit is? What is going on right now?
  • [46:51] Brenden gives an example of how it feels to kids when they are trying hard, but the outcome doesn't show it.
  • [48:46] Laura wants to know how to manage the tendency to ignore your calendar to-do list?
  • [50:03] When you realize you haven't looked at your calendar, look at it, don't beat yourself up. Be more resilient, get up when you fall down.
  • [52:03] If you can only get one thing done today, what would that be?
  • [52:44] Will shares his tricks for getting back on track when he falls down.
  • [54:18] Don't beat yourself up because you missed a few days on your calendar starting with today.
  • [58:48] Jennifer wonders if they have ever had anyone on their podcasts from different areas like the U.K. about the limited resource.
  • [1:03:08] Do you have any tips for people looking for evidence-based resources on ADHD?
  • [1:05:05] Drug-free advertising for all-natural approaches for ADHD keeps people from trying the medication that could get their lives together.
  • [1:07:11] Brenden gives his insight into alternative ways to manage ADHD.
  • [1:10:30] Will believes that the more things claim to cure, the less it probably cures.
  • [1:11:26] Eric says that they support science and are curious about magic is what he believes is the consensus.
  • [1:12:03] Jennifer, thank you for your questions!
  • [1:13:16] Will and Brenden thank you as always.
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Direct download: 308_Jan_2020_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Were you aware that suicidal tendencies are more common in people with untreated ADHD? Listen to Eric's guest, Roberto Olivardia, as he explains his findings and gives his insight into the research that supports these statistics. Roberto is a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the Department of Psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School. He also has a private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, where he specializes in the treatment of ADHD and many other disorders. 

Roberto shares how he got involved with the study of ADHD and suicidality, and the research showing that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide. explains the Roberto believes that people with ADHD sometimes feel like they don't fit in, which is why finding their tribe is so important. 

Feeling like you don't belong, and are a burden to the people you love, can be a catalyst to suicide. If this resonates with you, please don't hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 for help.

Do you have any thoughts of hurting or harming yourself? If you are worried about someone, don't be scared to ask them this question. Roberto informs us that asking the question can erase the stigma and let them know that others are having these kinds of thoughts, and it's ok to talk about it. Listening without overreacting is the first thing you should do and never simplify what they are feeling. But if you believe that they are in imminent danger, it's time to get help by whatever means necessary.

Listen to this in-depth conversation on the statistics of suicide and ADHD. Eric and Roberto give a roadmap on what to do and say if you know someone who might be following a path of darkness without any hope of finding the light. Suicide is a subject that should be talked about, so spread the word you never know who you might be able to help.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:57] Roberto, welcome back to the show!
  • [03:07] Roberto please fill us in on how you got involved with ADHD and suicidality.
  • [04:12] He gives us statistics on the number of people who die by suicide every year.
  • [05:52] Roberto shares how ADHD can impact the treatment when dealing with both issues.
  • [07:04] There is research that shows that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide.
  • [07:24] Does that include people with ADHD but have never had depression?
  • [09:31] Roberto shares a study following kids with ADHD ages 4 to 6 for fourteen years showing how many of them had a plan for suicide during that time.
  • [10:32] Roberto describes the difference between self-harm versus suicide.
  • [13:02] He speaks about author Dr.Thomas Joiner a leading suicide specialist and his book 'Why People Die by Suicide.'
  • [15:57] Because people with ADHD are prone to impulsiveness, could there be a non-attempt attempt at suicide?
  • [18:34] Roberto tells us that many people who attempt suicide feel like they are burdens to their families and leaving will make it easier on them.
  • [21:06] If you feel like you are a burden or that you don't want to be here, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 to talk to someone about what you are feeling.
  • [27:01] Roberto shares a story where a client had rehearsed his suicide so often in his mind that he used it to self-soothing.
  • [29:40] Coping mechanisms can take many different forms, but you shouldn't be ashamed to tell someone about them.
  • [31:00] Roberto speaks about how he struggled in high school to find out where he fit in the world.
  • [34:41] How should someone respond if a loved one comes to them with thoughts of suicide? He says the first thing is to listen without overreacting.
  • [36:06] Praise them for being open and trusting you with these thoughts.
  • [37:31] Give them the National Suicide Prevention Hotline number 800-273-8255 and don't simplify it.
  • [39:57] If there is an imminent risk that they will follow through, it's time for them to get help as quickly as possible.
  • [41:39] Roberto shares that 50% of suicides are by firearms, 66% of gun deaths are suicides. 
  • [43:28] What are some lessons you have learned from people who have attempted suicide?
  • [45:00] If you have ADHD and major executive dysfunction it can be very difficult but there are ways and strategies to get through the challenges.
  • [47:56] Roberto chats about how important finding your tribe or community is because you are not alone.
  • [50:41] Roberto shares that non-suicide contracts do not work and are not effective.
  • [52:32] He speaks about occasions when churches wouldn't do funerals of people who died from suicide because of the stigma that lingers even today.
  • [54:22] Roberto wants listeners to know that there is help out there for anyone that has feelings of suicide.
  • [55:01] Thank you, Roberto, for being on the show, please come back again.
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Direct download: 307_Suicide_and_ADHD_-_Roberto_Olivardia.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am CST

There is healing power in being creative as Eric's guest, Roxanne Jarrett, can testify. Roxanne is a singer and coach who performs in five languages and provides one on one intensive services to help creatives with ADHD finish their dream projects. As an arts educator, she facilitates workshops on various subjects, including acting, videography, writing, Shakespearean language, and authentic relating. Roxanne is living proof of the healing power of creativity. She practiced multiple art disciplines to heal from PTSD and no longer meets the criteria for that diagnosis.

 

Roxanne shares her journey of being a gifted child and the loneliness of being different. Being in high school at age twelve, college at sixteen and feeling overwhelmed and unequipped to handle the day to day struggles. Getting creative with how she studied got her through the next three years, and she graduated in four years on the Dean's list. Listen as she speaks about grad school, her stress level and finally breaking down and being hospitalized.

 

Roxanne speaks about being homeless because she fell into severe depression, how blessed she feels to have been exposed to art therapies and creativity, and why she decided to make creativity her primary recovery practice. She believes that creativity doesn't just build your self-esteem; it helps you maintain it. Roxanne shares that taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your hand is tangible proof of your value.

Even though Roxanne has faced many challenges, she has learned to see the beauty of those experiences. Can getting creative help you on your journey with ADHD? This conversation will show you the possibilities so relax and listen and hear.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:41] Roxanne, welcome to the show!
  • [03:32] Roxanne shares her journey from being a gifted child feeling lost to the success she has now.
  • [07:10] She chats about getting noticed by a teacher for her singing voice and how life-changing that was.
  • [09:43] Roxanne started high school at age 12 and by 16 she was leaving home to go away to college.
  • [11:55] She speaks about almost failing out of college her first year but the desire to stay caused her to get resourceful and creative to bring her grades up and graduate. 
  • [12:53] Did you go to any parties or where you totally focused on academics?
  • [13:34] Roxanne shares how she organized her second year of college so that she didn't have the same challenges as the first year.
  • [16:15] Roxanne and Eric discuss the similarities in their college experiences.
  • [23:58] Roxanne continued to improve in college and graduated in 4 years on the Dean's list and went to grad school.
  • [25:57] She got a master's in educational theater at NYU, directed a children's theater, worked as a researcher for the university, and started making.
  • [27:10] How was your stress level during this time? Did you have a breakdown?
  • [28:35] Roxanne shares falling into a deep depression after grad school and her self esteem bottoming out.
  • [30:41] She chats about the fear she buried after being kidnapped by a teacher when she was in high school.
  • [35:35] Roxanne speaks about being hospitalized at 25 and how that finally helped her start the healing process. She finally felt like she had hope.
  • [40:30] She talks about being in and out of recovery therapy for many years, once she found drama therapy she learned how to speak up for herself.
  • [43:27] Do you have a small voice telling you that you are not good enough?
  • [45:11] Roxanne wants anyone who is feeling unfulfilled or depressed to get creative by any means necessary, find what brings you joy.
  • [46:15] Taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your own hand is tangible proof of your value.
  • [48:44] What do you say to someone who says I am not a creative person?
  • [53:04] You can write and create from happiness, it might look different but it can be done.
  • [54:55] How do you help people with ADHD finish projects? 
  • [57:10] Roxanne says that a lot of people with ADHD need ongoing support and accountability.
  • [1:02:06] Roxanne sings a part of "Simple Gifts" for us.
  • [1:02:46] Thank you so much, Roxanne, for being on the show! 
  • [1:06:49] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 306_Creativity_Heals_with_Roxanne_Jarrett.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

Welcome to episode 305 of ADHD reWired a mastermind session with your host Eric and a panel featuring Roxy, Tina, and Will. Aggie is in the hot seat, talking about expectations around communication and establishing boundaries around her need for it. She also wants to set boundaries when it comes to her phone and other areas daily so that she feels more productive and less stressed.

 

The group discuss Aggies issues with replying to texts with an affirmative to meet up with friends later but then not making it or being late. She chats about how people's expectations of her make her feel like a failure because she can't live up to them even though she tries.

 

Have you ever wanted to turn your phone off and be unreachable? Listen in as they talk about the habits they all have around their phones and how in the moment you can be when your phone is off. Aggie speaks about not paying attention when texting someone back and giving them the wrong information, not remembering events that are texted to her, and maybe trying to add the events to her calendar consistently. 

 

Do you have trouble with communication? Are you on time for commitments? Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. These mastermind sessions are a great way to get thoughts and insights from your peers on issues that you might think only affect you. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.

 

 

You'll Learn:

  • [02:08] The mastermind today will be with Aggie.
  • [03:03] Aggie tells us what she wants help with.
  • [04:25] What other should be we know about?
  • [06:04] Do you feel like there have been changes with communication since your mastermind a year ago?
  • [08:13] They discuss her scheduled social interaction and what happens with it.
  • [09:10] What questions do you all have, Roxy, Tina or Will?
  • [09:50] Aggie says when the request is immediately she is more successful with going.
  • [11:13] Roxy wants Aggie to expand on the expectations of others and the challenges.
  • [13:40] Do you feel shame when you don't return calls or texts?
  • [15:00] Aggie discusses being late and her friends being upset because it always happens.
  • [16:48] Can you have people in your life that you feel comfortable having a conversation about your struggles?
  • [18:11] Will speaks about the issues that Aggie has been having.
  • [20:38] Do you like the feeling of being off the and no one can get a hold of you?
  • [21:57] They discuss having automatic messages saying when you will return calls.
  • [26:41] The group chats about their phone habits and when they turn them off.
  • [29:17] Do you sleep at night? Do you get texts when you are asleep? Yes, you can make it so that people can't contact you at certain times.
  • [31:23] Aggie discusses what time would be a great time to not have her phone on.
  • [32:44] Where do you find your cellphone helpful as a tool?
  • [34:04] Roxy talks about the wallpaper on her phone that says, "Why are you here?"
  • [36:10] Will speaks about how he uses his phone and the roadblocks he uses.
  • [37:43] Aggie in what way are you being distracted by your phone?
  • [40:01] Have you ever messed up a reply when texting someone because you weren't paying attention?
  • [44:20] You can add events on your text directly to your calendar, do you do that consistently?
  • [48:04] Roxy adds her insight to texting and it not being casual anymore. She also speaks to a failproof way of communication for Aggie.
  • [50:58] Aggie chats about taking a pause before replying to text messages.
  • [52:44] Roxy tells Aggie what she used to do to cover the face of her phone so she couldn't see messages.
  • [53:28] Will talks about his Apple watch and how that has helped him when viewing and replying to text messages.
  • [55:05] How often do you get long texts from people? Do you send long texts?
  • [59:01] Finding Aggie a spot to text from, so she has to go there to text.
  • [1:00:51] Maybe only using your computer when replying so that you can schedule for more than just a day.
  • [1:01:46] Any other commitments you want to share right now?
  • [1:02:08] I hope this was helpful to you, Aggie, and I hope it was helpful to you, the listeners.
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Direct download: 305_Aggie_Mastermind_-_Phone_and_text_communications_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

This is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our first question is from a listener who has been struggling to get a professional diagnose of what she believes is ADHD. She keeps getting the runaround and is asking for advice on where to go from here. Vanessa wants tips for dealing with avoidance issues when it comes to her work and financial habits, and another listener is asking what they should be looking for in an ADHD coach and what they should expect once they find one. 

Daniel wants to find out what he can do when he lacks the motivation to get things done, why sleep is so important, and getting tested for sleep apnea. Emily's question is what can she do with her history of unfinished projects, and Ben has a question about how marijuana and alcohol affect people with ADHD. Another listener asks the panel how to stay focused on a project once the new wears off.

We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:04] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A.
  • [02:33] Listener talks about trying to get diagnosed and having issues with professionals that don't have any knowledge of ADHD.
  • [03:45] They suggest she get a second opinion and still do the management techniques.
  • [06:03] What is causing you to down an ADHD diagnosis? What are your challenges?
  • [07:01] How long have you suspected you have ADHD?
  • [07:17] The challenges of just starting college is something they give some feedback on.
  • [09:42] Vanessa's question is around tips for dealing with avoidance issues with her work habits, she explains.
  • [12:21] Eric is asking the panel, who of you have ever felt this way?
  • [13:33] They talking about and discussing some core issues.
  • [14:15] In regards to your finances, what have you put into place to help you?
  • [15:49] The next question is what should I look for in an ADHD coach and what should I expect once I have one?
  • [16:13] Will says it depends on how old you are and where you are in your life because that makes a difference. They talk about the credentials you should look for.
  • [18:06] They talk about the ways to find a coach that works for you and the personality that you might work best with.
  • [24:24] We are back with Vanessa once she finished what Eric asked her to do.
  • [27:24] Daniel wants help with a lack of motivation to do things he needs to do and wants to do.
  • [27:45] Eric gives a rundown on ADHD and motivation.
  • [29:50] What is your need for stimulation? Are you low energy or high energy?
  • [31:28] They discuss his lack of sleep and how important it is for people with ADHD to get rest.
  • [37:32] How would you feel if you looked back on your life 30 years from now and know that you wanted to make changes but didn't.
  • [39:46] Emily says that her life is a series of unfinished projects, what can she do?
  • [41:01] Eric addresses this with her.
  • [45:46] How long have you had boxes in your home? How long has it been since you moved?
  • [51:40] Ben has a question about how alcohol and pot affect ADHD.
  • [52:13] Eric says that the current research doesn't now encourage the use of marijuana to manage ADHD symptoms; he gives details.
  • [55:48] A listener has a question around the hyperfocus of starting something new and then getting tired of it as the new wears off.
  • [58:19] Can you set yourself up so that you are doing more than one thing at a time?
  • [1:01:47] They discuss planning breaks, do a project, and then give yourself a time frame for time off.
  • [1:05:08] We do this every 2nd week of the month with Will and Brendan.
  • [1:06:38] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Kyle. Kyle is a nineteen, born and raised near Vancouver British Columbia and was diagnosed with ADHD, an attentive type in June of 2019. Since his diagnosis, he has learned a lot about himself, how ADHD affects him and many great and not so great things that life has to offer. He is on the show for some coaching and assistance from Eric about the choices he needs to make and how ADHD can affect his future.

Kyle discusses his childhood, pivotal moments growing up, and how school was always easy for him. He speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD as a senior, then realizing he could see himself in the way his dad did things and how he talked to him about getting tested for ADHD. He also tells us about partying in 10th grade, how it affected his classes, and how marijuana helped and hindered his ADHD. He also talks about his friend dying right in front of him and how it was his wake up call that something needed to change.

What is your action plan to make college happen? This is a question Eric asks because Kyle wants to go to college, but right now, he is not financially able. They discuss asking his parents for money, getting student loans, and the pros and cons of both. Kyle doesn't like to ask for help, but to make this dream come true, he is going to have to do something. Eric talks to him about making the plan and following through, whatever that might look like.

Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. Once you have an action plan and the process, it doesn't seem so overwhelming. If you are not happy with your job prospects straight out of high school, ask for help, and take the next step in your education like Eric is encouraging Kyle to do. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.

You'll Learn:

  • [01:39] Kyle, welcome to the show!
  • [02:40] He is looking for some coaching and advice about what he wants to do with his life.
  • [04:31] Kyle talks about his childhood and some of the pivotal things that have occurred in his life.
  • [07:05] How was a school for you growing up?
  • [08:26] Kyle speaks about what he did when school got too hard and how he handled it.
  • [09:43] He tells us that in grade 10 he started partying and when he stopped doing homework.
  • [11:16] Did your parents provide structure for you growing up?
  • [12:42] Kyle discusses telling his parents and siblings they need to get tested for ADHD.
  • [15:39] In 10th grade did your grades decline?
  • [16:43] He chats about how marijuana affected his ADHD both the good and the bad.
  • [18:37] Kyle talks about a traumatic event that happened to him this last year.
  • [19:48] Did the realization of your mortality wake you up?
  • [25:56] Kyle says that he wants to go back to school, but the cost of living is so high that he can't work part-time and survive financially.
  • [27:06] Have you started saving money while you are working?
  • [27:35] Are your parents not able to help you with college? Have you thought about student loans?
  • [28:50] Kyle speaks about not wanting to ask his parents for money to help him.
  • [30:01] How are you with asking for help in general?
  • [31:15] Did your parents go to college? Would you be the first one in your family to get a degree?
  • [32:21] He chats about his extended family.
  • [34:30] He talks to Eric about the homework Eric assigned him to do before the podcast.
  • [36:38] What are your earning prospects at your current job? What is the highest earning potential?
  • [39:34] Kyle tells what his go-to response is too tricky situations?
  • [42:34] He wants to work with people and help them through situations he has been through. They discuss his whycue.
  • [47:00] Eric talks to Kyle about college and how to save money, time, and career choices.
  • [48:45] Kyle tells us he is always trying to find ways to save money.
  • [51:34] What actions do you need to do to make visiting colleges possible?
  • [52:17] They discuss his action plan to make college possible in his future.
  • [57:05] You have been talking about one school, what are the other options?
  • [58:22] What about online courses? Have you ever taken one?
  • [59:35] What are all the helping professions in the area you live in?
  • [1:01:00] Kyle says he has a cousin that has a degree in social work, so Eric says to message her.
  • [1:02:27] Now that you messaged her, how does it feel? Do you feel empowered?
  • [1:04:34] They review the action steps and go through each one to see the objective.
  • [1:07:01] Eric encourages Kyle to take the next step and move forward.
  • [1:09:23] Can you make school your full-time job?
  • [1:10:44] When will you take the following action step and call to set up an appointment with the college?
  • [01:11:34] Eric asks Kyle to contact him later today and let him know what he found out.
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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_303_Kyle_Taking_the_next_step.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CST

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