Welcome back to another mastermind episode. Today’s hot seat member is Derek and we work through the issues he has been facing with communication and relationships. We discuss a variety of topics ranging from moving your internal conversation to an external one, and establishing strong and appropriate communication boundaries. 

This mastermind starts off with a discussion on appropriate conversation lengths and topics. Derek shares an issue he has with his unwillingness to limit his conversations to an appropriate amount of time. A lot of times he relies on his wife to pull him out of conversations that have gone over the acceptable social timeframe. Learn the groups’ tips and tricks on how to limit your conversation.

This led into a conversation about boundaries and appropriate tactics for addressing conflict in relationships. Learn how to keep hard conversations from becoming catastrophic events by regularly expressing grievances in a controlled manner. Keeping things in only leads to having harder conversations later.

Derek is given some amazing advice in this mastermind! You wont want to miss the references to Brene Brown’s book as the tips are very actionable. Listen in and learn some fantastic tips to manage your boundaries and communication in a variety of relationships.

Your Resources

• Rising Strong by Brene Brown
• Melissa Orlov
• ADHD reWired Episode 59: ADHD and Marriage

You’ll Learn:

• [01:16] Welcome back! Derek is in the hot seat on this episode.
• [02:18] Derek shares the topics he needs to mastermind.
• [03:06] What does Derek mean by wanting his “true” feelings to be known?
• [08:19] Does Derek have relationships where he can interact unfiltered? 
• [10:54] What is guiding his interactions? What is his internal monologue? 
• [14:37] Learn tips on how to exit a conversation.
• [22:48] We are back from the break and dive into boundaries, bad conversations, and medication.
• [27:02] When do the hard conversations happen and how often does Derek let things roll off of him? 
• [33:23] How about creating weekly check-ins to establish a space to discuss conflict? And other great tips.
• [42:57] Learn how to get more time together with your spouse by using your resources when you have kids on the spectrum.
• [49:21] Use your body as a cue to protect your boundaries. 
• [55:20] How Brene Brown approaches trust both for ourselves and others.
• [1:01:40] Always be aware of how you’re coming off to other people.
• [1:05:10] Roxie and Derek discuss work boundaries and their perceptions of a specific situation and how avoiding conflict creates a bigger story.
• [1:09:49] Derek speaks out his commitments for this mastermind and how he’ll stick to them.
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This episode is another Mastermind episode designed to help a member work through something that has been holding them back from success. Our Mastermind hotseat participant is Roxie and she’s looking for help creating systems for remembering her priorities. We discuss various reward systems, memory enhancement tactics, and dig into the root of the problem.

To frame the issue, Roxie uses her need for coffee as the catalyst for her memory concerns. She and her husband sit down every month and create a budget for their spending. Within a few minutes, hours, or days, she’ll forget everything they are working toward and make bad spending decisions. Today we dig into how to reset her memory and break the habit of rewarding herself with coffee breaks.

From doing chores for coffee, to using the Starbucks rewards system, the Mastermind group gives Roxie tons of great advice. Her biggest issue we find is triggering her memory on the plans and future wants that she and her husband are saving up for. Learn how to create effective memory triggers that work in this episode. You wont want to miss the creative journaling ideas, QR code triggers, and tattoos!

Your Resources

• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• Bullet Journal

You’ll Learn:

• [01:21] Welcome back to the show and another Mastermind Session!
• [02:49] Roxie wants to mastermind maintaining systems on this episode of the show.
• [06:11] Learn how coffee represents a reward system and also a budget buster.
• [08:55] Additional questions about how purchasing coffee is affecting Roxie’s life and ways to approach the issue.
• [16:19] One strategy for curbing spending is to create barriers to spending.
• [23:24] How to disrupt our routine when we’re on auto-pilot.
• [25:10] It’s more helpful to remind yourself what you do want to do versus what you don’t want to do.
• [28:59] Would a point system help in the reward system?
• [32:28] When the issue isn’t what you do or don’t want to do but instead it’s a cycle of behavior.
• [34:45] Learn how order is the number one thing Roxie wants her day to revolve around, and that can be used to curb the forgetfulness.
• [38:09] Could journaling help? Learn more after the break.
• [44:46] Do you beat yourself up when you fall off whatever horse you’ve created?
• [47:16] How can you reinforce your priorities when you make decisions in the moment?
• [49:55] What two phrases can help keep you on track when you have competing wants?
• [53:15] Can living with an enabler be overcome? What about having an external accountability partner?
• [56:57] Mastermind members share their tips and tricks for creating memorable reminders and Roxie responds.
• [1:01:51] Creating QR codes that link to videos could help with reminders!
• [1:04:40] The members help with additional reward tips for Roxie’s coffee habits.
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On this episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Miriam Reiss, a career and life strategist who is living with ADHD and working to help those with ADHD crush finding the right job for them. She shares information about her programs and the 5 stage process she puts all of her clients through for building their best career. You wont want to miss a minute of this great conversation.

Learn all about the 5 stages of Miriam’s job searching process. Each stage is designed to help you identify your core goals, the way your brain works, and how the two come together to influence your perfect job. She focuses heavily on figuring out the right environment for your brain and how there is no one job that is “best” for someone with ADHD.

Eric and Miriam also dig deep into the importance of preparing for your interviews. Just because you think you know exactly what to say in an interview and how you come off, does not mean that your interviewer’s perspective is the same. Learn some tips and tricks on how to crush the interview not only by impressing your potential company but by interviewing them as well.

Miriam leaves you with so many great tips and tricks for managing the job search. Listen in and listen close to glean all of the amazing nuggets she gives. What was your favorite takeaway? Let us know on your favorite podcast app by leaving a review and rating.

Your Resources

• Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life by Sari Solden
• Dr. Miriam Reiss Coaching Program

You’ll Learn:

• [01:44] - Welcome back to the show! Today’s guest is Dr. Miriam Reiss.
• [02:38] - Learn how Dr. Reiss got into the business of focusing on career coaching.
• [06:23] - Where does Dr. Reiss start when she begins working with her clients? 
• [10:02] - What are the 5 stages of Dr. Reiss’s program?
• [21:22] - Miriam continues to discuss the 5 stages and the job search strategy.
• [25:34] - How does Miriam help her clients overcome the barrier of the fear of networking?
• [28:51] - What is her response to the person who asks her what the best job is for someone with ADHD?
• [34:33] - What does it mean to create an ADHD friendly environment? 
• [38:50] - How entering an interview from a place of self-respect alters the energy of the interaction.
• [46:43] - Learn how Dr. Reiss helps her clients evaluate their work environment.
• [49:05] - What is the process for taking stock of the things they hate in their jobs? 
• [55:09] - Asking the right questions in the interview is key to loving your job!
• [57:02] - How should a person with a spotty work history address that in their interview?
• [1:02:10] - How to reach Miriam!
• [1:03:37] - Hear Miriam’s final thoughts for you!
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It’s June’s Q&A epiosode on the podcast and I’m joined by Brendan to answer your questions. We chat about topics ranging from the effects and need for medication to how to manage and cope with various aspects of having ADHD. There were a ton of great questions this month and you won’t want to miss the responses.

What do sticky notes, note pads, and index cards have in common? Several of our questions had to do with accountability. Write things down! Put away the computer and put pen to paper, not only does this help keep you focused, you are also more likely to absorb the information. Learn more throughout the show. 

Need to dive deep into how manage family responsibilities and schedules when members are on different systems? Change your verbiage and you may be able to alter their response. We spend a good bit of time on this topic because keeping an ADHD family on track is very important.

There were so many fantastic questions this month that we didn’t get to them all. If you’re not already, consider becoming a Patron to access the full episode. Also, let us know what your questions are for next month’s episode.

Your Resources

Brene Brown: the Call to Courage
ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups
www.ADHDreWired.com/events

You’ll Learn:

• [01:40] Welcome back to the podcast for June’s Q&A episode with Eric and Brendan.
• [02:45] Our first question is from Shawn, asking about life hacks for feeling more functional.
• [07:05] How to stay focused in meetings and not get flustered by questions.
• [12:17] Learn how permission relates to accountability? 
• [16:57] Eric asks Brendan what he tells clients who have issues taking responsibility for issues in their lives.
• [24:15] Eric and Brendan take the first live question on how to engage family members in an ADHD household in awareness and proactivity.
• [44:37] Learn about medications, long-term use of medications, and side effects.
• [50:34] How to get written meeting notes into Evernote!
• [52:30] Tips, tools, and insights for managing distractions to move forward in life.
• [57:47] Why breaking chores down and writing them on index cards reduces overwhelm.
• [1:00:39] How to cope with being gifted and ADHD.
• [1:04:21] Any tips on becoming less sensitive about family member’s remarks on ADHD?
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Today on the podcast I’m joined by Sharon Weinberg to discuss how ADHD affects the leadership role. We chat about how ADHD changes the dynamic between leaders and their team members and how best to approach different kinds of conversations to create strong bonds and positive environments.

As a leader with ADHD, it is important to understand and acknowledge how the condition affects your interactions with your team. It is also important for employees with ADHD to be open in conversation to elicit the most pertinent and usable feedback. Altering and realigning messaging helps create a positive environment for all. Sharon also shares in-depth about how evaluating processes and altering them to better match the capabilities of those with ADHD leads to more efficient and effective teams.

One of my goals for this year is to re-evaluate my leadership style and the ways that I lead. This conversation with Sharon was unbelievably enlightening and provided me with amazing insights into how I can change my own processes. If you are a leader with ADHD or you have ADHD and want to develop a better relationship with your leaders, this episode is for you.

Your Resources

Dare to Lead - Brene Brown
Leading with Emotional Courage - Peter Bregman
Ram Charan
ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups
www.ADHDreWired.com/events

You’ll Learn:

• [01:14] - Welcome back to the show! Today I chat with Sharon Weinberg about ADHD and how it affects leadership roles.
• [04:08] - Sharon has been developing leaders in the corporate world for many years and across two different careers.
• [08:00] - Leadership is about communication, strategy, and implementation and Sharon reveals what that means and understanding leadership legacy.
• [14:50] - Context is key when providing feedback to your colleagues and co-workers.
• [16:13] - Proficiency and consistency are required for building behaviors both with ADHD and in leadership.
• [18:05] - Sharon and I discuss the connection between ADHD and rejection-sensitive dysphoria and ways to address them in a team setting.
• [34:25] - We return from the break and dig into collaborative decision making and how it helps people with ADHD to finalize decisions.
• [41:54] - Before a final decision can be made, you have to move from divergence, through convergence, to a decision.
• [44:01] - Being clear about expectations and how the final decision will be made.
• [46:45] - Sharon gives pro-tips on how to create an agenda for a meeting.
• [53:52] - Sharon provides some insights leaders listening to their intuition and developing their blind spots.
• [1:06:41] - We discuss the difference between getting by and excelling or thriving.
• [1:08:33] - There is an art and a science to leadership and you need to put both intention and attention together to be a successful leader.
• [1:10:34] - Connect with Sharon: 
  • www.sharonweinberg.com
  • sharon@sharonweinberg.com
  • Call her: (510) 858-9196

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