ADHD reWired (general)

"Do you have a problem prioritizing" Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan, and Will Curb answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Daniel starts the questions with one around lack of motivation and follow through and how to tell if it's from ADHD or depression. Christina wants to know how to set a routine and follow through for over two weeks because that's when she stops, and Tony is struggling with behavior around emotional flooding.

Sheila asks for suggestions on how to turn the TV and computer off at night, and the consensus is to set the time on both to shut off at a given time, therefore taking the decision out of your hands. Victor wants to know what the chances are of being misdiagnosed with ADHD when it is actually complex PTSD. Eric shares that they are both disorders, and their symptoms are similar.

Pat wants to discuss being a new dad with ADHD and his need to stay busy. Stephanie is writing a book and is asking for ways to hold herself accountable so she can get more done each day, and Kendra is always distracted and overbooked and is looking for help to keep from saying yes to everyone who wants her help. Will shares that every time you say yes, you are saying no to something else, and Brendon tells her to have a not-to-do list.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:41] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:04] Daniel has a question about motivation and follow through and when to know if it's from depression or ADHD.
  • [05:03] Will gives his insight into this question.
  • [07:19] Christina asks a question about making new routines and being consistent with them.
  • [09:51] Eric speaks about ways to self regulate.
  • [13:18] Why do you recommend an external timer instead of an app timer?
  • [13:32] Will explains why this is recommended.
  • [15:21] Tony wants to know about tools to handle certain behaviors he has been struggling with.
  • [21:14] Brendon addresses this question with examples of how he handles it.
  • [22:53] Eric speaks about his issues with having hard conversations.
  • [25:20] If it's easier to write things down than talk to someone, write things down in advance.
  • [28:30] Eric speaks about talking to his therapist and sharing what's in his head.
  • [30:40] Sheila asks for suggestions on how to turn off the tv and computer at night.
  • [31:09] Eric discusses what has worked for him.
  • [34:40] Victor wants to know the chances of a person being misdiagnosed with ADHD when they have complex PTSD.
  • [36:17] Eric believes there is a very high correlation between the two.
  • [37:43] Brendan gives his insights into this issue.
  • [39:46] Pat has a question about tactics, inspirations, or war stories related to being a new dad that doesn't sit very well.
  • [44:55] Will explains what he thinks is going on with Pat.
  • [46:56] Brendan believes that it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks; you are doing it right.
  • [49:30] Eric believes that as parents, we judge ourselves too harshly.
  • [52:07] Stephanie asks how she can hold herself accountable when writing a book.
  • [52:44] Eric shares that when you have ADHD, you must ask someone else to hold you accountable.
  • [54:08] Will suggests that she set herself goals.
  • [57:30] Brendan says that accountability buddies do not work for him.
  • [59:25] Kendra's question is about being distracted all the time, and how to combat her lack of focus.
  • [1:01:06] Eric discusses Kendra's self-regulation and having too much on her plate.
  • [1:03:11] Brendan speaks about a not-to-do list.
  • [1:05:42] Will adds a few suggestions to the conversation.
  • [1:07:31] Every time you say yes, you are saying no to everything else.
  • [1:10:05] Thank you for all of your questions.
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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

"You develop a codependent relationship with work or with the world as a person of color because you end up playing to how people see you." Welcome to this episode of ADHD reWired with your host Eric Tivers and his guest, Romanza McAllister, LCSW. Romanza is a psychotherapist, and in 2008 she graduated from Hunter College School of Social Work, where she majored in case management and group work. Over the last ten years, Romanza has provided focused solution group and family counseling with inpatient and outpatient settings.

Romanza shares her experience of being black and diagnosed with ADHD at ten years old, and she speaks about how it affected her school years and career. Romanza discusses working for herself and the relief she feels, knowing she doesn't have to wonder why she was hired.

Eric asks some questions he is uncomfortable with, trying to learn how to approach certain subjects. Romanza states that there is no such thing as color blindness and how it's our responsibility to create a safe space through empathic and reflective listening.

Romanza shares how validated she feels when people ask her questions about being a woman of color. She says that it makes her feel like people are listening and trying to understand how her life is different. Eric and Romanza also speak about RSD and what can trigger the reaction.

Is sensitivity training enough? No, and Romanza feels like everyone, regardless of color, can benefit from anti-racism training. She also speaks about what they can do from a policy standpoint around ADHD, children of color, and schools so that people of color don't have to be either black or ADHD; they can be who they are. This is a compelling conversation that everyone should hear.

You'll learn:

  • [03:18] Welcome to the show, Romanza!
  • [03:42] Romanza shares her experience of being diagnosed at 10 with ADHD and as a child of color.
  • [06:38] How did the family deal with your ADHD diagnosis?
  • [07:57] Romanza speaks about dealing with ADHD throughout her school years.
  • [11:37] Romanza discusses being a woman of color with ADHD and how that has affected her work history.
  • [14:17] Have you ever sat at your desk and wondered why you were hired?
  • [16:12] Romanza speaks about working for herself and how it makes her feel.
  • [19:38] Listen as Eric shares that Issues around social justice fire people up with ADHD.
  • [25:03] Eric talks about asking Romanza some hard questions. 
  • [26:16] Romanza shares that talking to progressive people can be difficult because they are sometimes fragile.
  • [26:52] There is no such thing as color blindness.
  • [28:00] Creating a safe space through empathic and reflective listening.
  • [29:51] Romanza shares a story about micro-invalidation.
  • [33:28] When you get asked a question like what does it feel like to be a black person, is there validation in that someone is asking the question?
  • [35:56] Romanza says to ask but ask permission to the client first.
  • [40:16] Eric defines RSD because it is becoming more talked about in the community.
  • [41:46] Romanza discusses RSD and how it can be triggered when trying to have white/black conversations.
  • [44:01] Romanza speaks about the things she has to consider before she reacts to a situation.
  • [47:21] Romanza says she likes the idea of this racial RSD feedback loop.
  • [48:02] Romanza speaks about the story of a young girl that didn't turn in her homework.
  • [48:50] Romanza believes that everyone can benefit from anti-racist training no matter what the color.
  • [50:34] Is sensitivity training enough?
  • [52:40] Romanza speaks about what needs to be done from a policy standpoint in the ADHD space to create more equity.
  • [54:10] Say the words, address the thing!
  • [55:10] Romanza believes that everyone should check their bias with the Project Implicit bias meter.
  • [56:38] Thank you for being on the show!
  • [57:24] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 333_Race-Based_Trauma_RSD_and_ADHDwith_Romanza_McAllister_V2.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Did people notice that you had ADHD before you did? Eric and his guest, Dr. Melissa Barlett, better known by her students as Dr. B, is an Associate Professor in Life Sciences at Mohawk Valley Community College in Utica, NY. Listen as they discuss helping students come back to college and adjusting to change dealing with online learning, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Listen, as Dr. Barlett shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and what caused her to seek a diagnosis. She also discusses some challenges she sees with online learning because of COVID-19 and how she has adapted her teaching style to help her students. 

Dr. Barlett speaks about what she believes fellow professors are struggling with when being thrown into this alternative method of teaching. She shares what she thinks will happen with fall classes and how she believes schools can keep students safe. Students with ADHD, in particular, have a different set of struggles with virtual learning, and Dr. Barlett shares some suggestions she has to help them cope.

Because the situation is fluid and information changes daily, Dr. Barlett speaks about how to prepare if you have to pivot mid-semester. She shares that community colleges are already set up for students with challenging schedules, so if you don't think you can go to school because you have to work, a community college might be the best bet for you.

Dr. Barlett shares some great tips and tricks for learning with ADHD, especially with the pandemic's distractions. She is willing to answer any questions you might have, so please find her information in the links at the bottom and be positive about the upcoming school year. 

You'll learn:

  • [03:18] Welcome to the show, Melissa!
  • [04:16] Melissa shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and how her intelligence allowed her to fly under the radar.
  • [05:32] What caused you to seek a diagnosis for ADHD?
  • [07:30] Melissa speaks about knowing something was wrong once she changed direction in her career and got more administrative tasks.
  • [10:03] Listen, as Melissa shares some challenges she sees with online learning since COVID-19.
  • [12:10] Melissa speaks about how she adapted.
  • [13:05] What would you suggest to fellow professors struggling with learning a whole new way of teaching?
  • [15:24] Melissa believes that nailing learning objectives to the life skills that they need instead of detailed skills takes learning in the right direction.
  • [21:14] Listen as Melissa describes what she thinks school will look like in the fall.
  • [22:46] Melissa discusses how she believes we can keep students safe.
  • [25:36] Melissa suggests what students with ADHD especially can do to be prepared for online learning.
  • [28:40] When taking notes, make sure you write them in your words. Read a paragraph or two and write a summary in your words.
  • [29:50] Eric shares some strategies he used when he was in college.
  • [31:57] Your brain wants it to be easy. Practice the actual process of recall.
  • [35:04] It takes an intelligent person to understand this concept, but it takes a genius to explain it to a kindergartner.
  • [36:54] What are some other challenges a student with ADHD might face when taking virtual classes?
  • [37:44] They speak about going on rate my professor and check out their teaching style.
  • [44:14] Melissa talks about handling going back to class and then if COVID-19 spikes again having to go back to social distancing.
  • [46:51] Melissa discusses students not having regular hours because of jobs or children in her community college.
  • [48:22] Melissa says that community college is already set up for people with challenging schedules.
  • [49:53] What are some reasonable steps students might be able to take to prepare students if they have to go back to virtual classes.
  • [52:16] Melissa shares some final tips for students.
  • [54:42] Thank you for being on the show!
  • [55:35] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 332_ADHD_and_College_Skills_in_Uncertain_Times_with_Melissa_Barlett.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Have you tried to be normal and repress your ADHD instead of leaning into your weird? Listen as Eric and his guest, Andy J. Pizza, discuss leaning into neurodiversity, a creative approach to your career path, win because of your weird not in spite of it, and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Andy is an American illustrator, podcaster, and public speaker; his explosive color-drenched illustrations have brought hope and smiles to clients like The New York Times, YouTube, and Warby Parker. He is the founder of the Creative Pep Talk podcast, which does what it says on the tin and the author of the book Creative Pep Talk.

Andy shares his ADHD story, the start of his illustrating career, and the recession that almost took it all away. He talks about sending some work to Nickelodeon, the response he got, and the work it took to hone his craft and the jobs that built his freelance career. Andy also speaks about Color Me Blank; collaborative art shows that he took part in with giant markers that allowed everyone to color on blank paper.

If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain. Listen as Andy shares about knowing he could be a successful illustrator because he saw people just like himself doing it. Andy also speaks about how he finishes projects by making everything he has to do, something he wants to do. Andy is a very colorful character with an engaging tone that you won't want to miss.

You'll learn:

  • [02:04] Welcome to the show, Andy!
  • [04:57] Andy shares his ADHD story.
  • [06:13] Andy speaks about his mom and the fact that she was never around.
  • [09:48] He discovered illustration in high school and realized the path he wanted to take.
  • [12:22] Eric speaks about trying to refinance his house, and the challenge it is when you are self-employed.
  • [19:34] Andy shares his secret sauce and why he has a puppet sitting behind him.
  • [21:10] He speaks about going to college to find his style.
  • [22:30] Andy talks about his indie rock coloring book that kicked off his career.
  • [23:17] He shares the trials he had during the recession and getting a job.
  • [26:10] Andy discusses an opportunity to work with Nickelodeon.
  • [27:53] Andy says that his wife stood with him during the bad times and made it through.
  • [29:04] What ended up happening with the Nickelodeon gig?
  • [31:08] Andy speaks about a collaborative art show called Color Me Blank.
  • [34:32] Andy discusses doing more personal projects and being asked to take the Color Me Blank project on the road.
  • [35:15] He was asked to do more illustrations for Nickelodeon, which built his freelance career.
  • [36:53] If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain.
  • [39:08] Relationships, in general, are not about the other person; they are about how the other person reflects you.
  • [43:30] Andy speaks about aliens and what he thinks about neurodiverse people.
  • [46:08] The industrial revolution system was about maximizing the average so we can become interchangeable parts.
  • [49:32] Listen as Andy shares how he finishes his projects.
  • [51:10] Andy says that he went into his podcast, knowing that he needed to do it long enough to get good at it and long enough for people to hear it.
  • [53:08] Andy has encouragement for anyone starting a podcast.
  • [55:25] Andy shares his take-home message for the listeners.
  • [57:06] Thank you for being on the show!
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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: ADHD_331_Leaning_into_your_weird_Andy_J_Pizza.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Do you have trouble transitioning from work to home? Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan, and Will Curb answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Ella starts off this Q&A episode with a question about how to avoid doing things that pop up when things have to be done. Listen as Karen has a question that we are all dealing with now, working from home versus being in the office and the pluses and minuses of both. Matt has a question about relationships and his inability to be patient when trying to make friends.

Audrey has two questions for the panel: writing more concise email responses and tips on ways to stop losing things. Blake asks a question for his wife. When they have children, how hard will the load be on her? The panel says that you can only speculate on the challenges that they will face until you have kids.

Nathan was recently diagnosed with ADHD and wants to know the first five things he should learn about ADHD, and the last question is on Zoom fatigue and what causes it. If you had a question that wasn't answered, please ask it in our Facebook community, and someone will share their insights, and we will catch you next month on our next Q&A episode.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:01] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:28] Ella has a question about avoiding things that pop-up instead of what I should do?
  • [05:55] Will speaks about discipline and how that is hard with ADHD.
  • [07:11] Brendan gives his insights on this issue.
  • [09:31] Karen has a question about the pluses and minuses about working from home or the office.
  • [10:55] Eric says that everyone's experience will be different and for Karen to ask her team which they prefer.
  • [12:09] Will speaks about how different it is to work from home when you have kids and how going to the office gives him a stop time.
  • [14:22] Brendan discusses the transition from the office to home.
  • [16:27] Even if you have phenomenal communication skills, you might not notice how stressed your team members are if you don't see them.
  • [17:31] Eric shares his experience when working with an assistant.
  • [19:31] Matt has a question about relationships.
  • [20:38] Eric says that relationships are one of the hardest domains in life.
  • [21:22] Brendan gives his insights on relationships and how he made his friend group an adult.
  • [24:30] Eric comments on how Brendan shares intimacy with his friends.
  • [26:47] Eric believes that making friends as an adult is a topic more people need to talk about.
  • [32:44] Audrey asks how I can write emails to be more concise.
  • [33:50] Eric speaks about some tools that can help you respond to emails.
  • [35:21] Brendan shares his thoughts on this question.
  • [37:20] Will discusses what has helped him answer emails.
  • [38:31] Audrey wants tips on how she can keep from losing things.
  • [40:28] Brendan shares what he has done since high school to keep from losing things.
  • [41:46] Will says he loses things a lot because he sets things down in weird places.
  • [44:09] Do you look for something even though you are convinced you will not find where it is?
  • [47:40] Blake wants to know what kind of load his wife will bear if they have kids.
  • [48:35] Once you have kids it is much easier to navigate the challenges
  • [50:11] Nothing can prepare you for having children is an accurate statement.
  • [52:07] Will suggests balancing the load of work between both of you.
  • [53:28] Brendan shares his insights.
  • [54:46] Eric says that deciding to have children is the hardest decision anyone has to make.
  • [56:32] They give Nathan recommendations on the five things he should learn first after his recent ADHD diagnosis.
  • [58:38] Will says that getting sleep is the most important thing you can do.
  • [58:52] Brendan says that forgiveness is critical to self-care and ADHD management.
  • [59:22] How do we complete things? Is the next question they share.
  • [1:00:19] Brendan says to define done and set a boundary around what done means.
  • [1:01:11] The panel discusses Zoom fatigue and what the cause could be.
  • [1:03:49] If you want deeper dives into your questions, join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for the Patreon coaching call.
  • [1:04:29] If you are not a Patreon, share your questions in our Facebook community.
  • [1:04:37] We appreciate you for listening to the show!
  • [1:05:32] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_330_June_2020_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? Listen as Eric and his guest, Dr. Jared DeFife Ph.D., discuss one of the messier complexes, twist yourself in knots aspects of ADHD, which are emotions in relationships, narcissism, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Jared is a clinical psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. He has a private practice that specializes in men's mental health and therapy for adults with ADHD. Dr. Jared is a former clinical fellow of Harvard Medical School and has been a media expert for Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Networker, The Huffington Post, BBC News, and many more.

Dr. Jared speaks about his learning disabilities and the social relationship issues he had in school. He talks about how his emotional life transformed once he was medicated. Dr. Jared also shares how hard it can be to live with a person with ADHD and narcissism. 

Dr. Jared discusses the common complaints he hears from partners in his practice, and the difference between ADHD self coping or management and narcissism. He speaks about what you can do to regulate emotions, and Eric talks about ways to run interference with them. Dr. Jared shares how cognitive elements can affect how you feel.

When your spouse talks to you, do you hear what they are saying? Dr. Jared talks about what a partner can say to be helpful, and maybe you can say, 'I heard you, and I am working to do better.' Dr. Jared shares some very enlightening information around dealing with relationships and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you and your partner, this episode could be a tool to keep you together.

You'll learn:

  • [02:08] Welcome to the show, Jared!
  • [03:18] Jared shares his ADHD story.
  • [05:04] When did you first realize you had ADHD?
  • [06:45] They discuss the apparent signs of ADHD that were missed through school.
  • [07:31] Eric and Jared speak about their learning disabilities.
  • [09:00] Jared speaks about his social relationships in school.
  • [11:44] Jared shares the journey into the psychology field.
  • [13:14] When Jared got medicated, his emotional life changed drastically.
  • [16:13] If you are worried that you are a narcissist, you are not a narcissist.
  • [21:06] Jared discusses how hard it is to live with a person with ADHD.
  • [23:40] Do you think we can develop conscientiousness through active practices?
  • [25:40] Jared shares the two most common complaints he hears in his practice.
  • [28:25] Jared speaks about the reasons partners talk about narcissism.
  • [31:34] What is ADHD coping and self-management, and what is pure narcissism?
  • [34:43] Do emotions sometimes take over, and you do not understand what to do with them?
  • [39:09] Jared discusses what we can do about regulating our emotions.
  • [41:02] Have you ever been in a self-imposed time out in your relationship?
  • [43:43] Eric shares what someone in his coaching group shared about putting a timer on their discussion.
  • [46:04] Eric talks about running mental interference with emotions.
  • [47:20] Jared speaks about how cognitive elements can affect how you feel.
  • [49:04] Jared talks about what a partner can say that can be helpful.
  • [52:46] Can you say, I hear you, and I am working to do better!
  • [54:13] Jared, thank you so much for being on the show!
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Eric's guest Jeremy is a forty-six-year-old freshman at Marshall University. His path back to school and most of his life has been anything but typical. He got into a lot of trouble but was lucky enough to have people in his life that helped him from one extreme to another along the way. Listen, as Jeremy tells his story on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Jeremy shares the behavioral issues he had as a child but was still the kid that everyone liked in high school. He discusses getting married right out of high school to his pregnant girlfriend and quitting college to do the right thing. The relationship didn't last, and after trying to go back to school, he quit, and the challenges kept coming.

Listen, as Jeremy shares the poor choices he made along the way with relationships. He speaks about choosing homelessness, about losing his dad, and going to jail. Jeremy met a woman that wanted to help and got the process started in jail, and once he was released. He speaks about getting diagnosed with ADHD and medicated finally a few months ago, and he finally feels like he is on his intended journey.

Jeremy is on the path of improvement and is getting an engineering degree. His journey back to school was a long one, but now he has the tools to help him succeed. Do you resonate with Jeremy's story? If you do, this is an episode that you need to hear and share.

You'll learn:

  • [02:37] Welcome to the show, Jeremy!
  • [03:36] Jeremy shares what life was like when he was a kid.
  • [05:08] He speaks about his mom and the medication she was on while pregnant with him.
  • [05:56] What were you like in high school?
  • [08:26] Jeremy shares his life after high school and what happened in his life.
  • [11:18] He speaks about not going to school because he wanted to do the right thing for his child.
  • [15:33] Do you feel you tried to do the right thing, but when you tried to do that, everything got blown up?
  • [16:31] Jeremy discusses the incidents in his life once he dropped out of college.
  • [19:11] In 1996, he started drinking and getting into trouble while grieving for his mother.
  • [21:08] Jeremy speaks about his extended family's strength and knowing he was loved and felt safe.
  • [30:14] Jeremy discusses his hitchhiking days and the poor choices he made during that time.
  • [33:46] He shares about his spirituality and what led to where he is now.
  • [37:21] Jeremy speaks about a town that wanted him to get out.
  • [41:22] What led you to get diagnosed?
  • [44:05] Jeremy discusses his issues with the legal system, and people were telling him he was too smart to be where he was.
  • [47:00] He shares about being homeless as a choice and finding a person who took an interest in him.
  • [49:51] Jeremy speaks about having warrants but knowing his dad was dying and in hospice care.
  • [51:34] He did two years in jail, but he found help to get him on the right track.
  • [54:00] Jeremy shares about finally getting on medication for his ADHD, even though he had never been officially diagnosed.
  • [58:22] Jeremy talks about what gave him the initiative to go back to school at 48 years old.
  • [01:00:42] He speaks about asking for help and getting what he needed.
  • [01:02:08] Jeremy says that you have to face the man in the mirror at some point in time.
  • [01:04:14] Jeremy expresses how logical and practical he feels ADHD reWired is and how much he likes the show.
  • [01:05:11] Eric says that Jeremy shows that it's never too late to get on the path to improvement.
  • [01:06:46] Thank you for being on the show!
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Do you celebrate all of life's moments, good or bad, with food? Eric and his guest, Luz Jaramillo, discuss why this can lead to eating disorders, how you can break this habit, and achieve a healthy lifestyle and wellbeing plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired. 

Luz is the owner of Brain Body Coach, has a Master's in Social Work, is a certified life coach, Masters in Neuro-Linguistic programming, a certified brain health coach, and many more. Luz is also a best-selling author, motivational speaker, and has ADHD, dyslexia, and learning difficulties. She has suffered from an eating disorder most of her life, but after studies and research, she could heal and lose over 50lbs, improving her focus and health.

Listen, as Luz and Eric discuss how to switch your emotional thoughts, change thought patterns, and the importance of eating healthy food. Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not process carbs well, so most times, it is better to limit them and substitute protein for more energy.

Consistency is the Key! Luz speaks about food, not being your friend; it is fuel and needs to be treated that way. Eat to live; don't live to eat! Luz and Eric share some ways that you can get healthy snacks prepared and portioned out so you can grab a bag and go quickly and conveniently. Know that if you slip, it's ok to get back up and try to be better tomorrow.

Luz has been there, done that, she knows about eating disorders and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you, this is an episode that you can't miss. Listen to what she has to say. It may be the difference between life and death.

You'll learn:

  • [01:56] Welcome to the show, Luz!
  • [03:24] Luz shares when she learned she had ADHD.
  • [03:58] How did your eating disorder lead you to learn you had ADHD?
  • [05:12] Luz speaks about what form her eating disorder took.
  • [07:28] When did you decide you needed help with this disorder?
  • [10:10] Luz used neuro linguistic programming to switch her emotional thoughts from food to thoughts of pleasure.
  • [12: 23] When you change your thought patterns, your internal critic screams louder and calls you a fraud. This is normal, and it takes time.
  • [14:35] Luz was ready to have weight loss surgery before her sister got her to change her mind.
  • [16:29] Looking back, how do you feel about how desperate you were?
  • [21:11] Eric speaks about some regular issues around food and how he deals with the cravings.
  • [23:06] Set up your environment to be conducive to what you need.
  • [23:57] Luz shares how important it is to have nutritious food for at least three meals a day.
  • [26:01] Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not do a good job of breaking down carbs.
  • [28:08] Consistency is the key!
  • [31:04] Luz suggests to people that food is not your friend, food is fuel.
  • [32:03] How do you suggest that people stop when they know they are in the middle of a binge?
  • [34:04] Replace the food with something else.
  • [35:20] Eric shares that many people he knows are doing a sugar detox.
  • [37:00] How sensitive to sugar are you? Have you been tested?
  • [38:03] Luz says you should tell yourself it's just for today, focus on one day at a time.
  • [41:10] Meditation and mindfulness are the keys to success.
  • [46:42] Luz shares some tips on how to have healthy food ready to eat for snacks.
  • [49:55] Have you found any services or different resources to help people systemize eating nutritious foods?
  • [52:01] You have to have the correct mindset, it might be harder if you have ADHD, but it is still doable.
  • [52:46] Know that you will slip, and that's ok get yourself right back up.
  • [55:00] Willpower starts strong in the morning, and it's a slippery slope later in the day if you don't recharge your system with the right food.
  • [57:17] Thank you so much for being on the show!
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Brain Body Coach
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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Has taking medication for your ADHD changed your life? Eric and his guest, Marissa Marangoni, discuss what led her to look for a diagnosis for ADHD, her difficulties in college and grad school, and the challenges of working for herself on this episode of ADHD reWired. 

Marissa is a mom, a writer, and a former teacher. She runs Marangoni Write and Design, where she works as an instructional designer and technical writer. Marissa writes creatively and podcasts when she's not working or spending time with her son. She loves lists, popcorn, and baking, animals, sweating, and deep human connection.

Listen as Marissa shares her struggles through high school, college, and grad school without knowing she had ADHD. Her challenges with sensory processing, she shares that she cannot sleep with any noises that aren't even and steady. Marissa also has a powerful sense of smell, and her sense of touch keeps her from liking the feel of fleece on her skin.

Marissa discusses some things that have been very helpful in dealing with her ADHD, like medication and Eric's coaching groups. She shares that the medication she is on has a lot, and if they had diagnosed her earlier, she wouldn't have had to work so hard in school. Marissa talks about the podcast she started with a friend with ADHD called 'The Holey Happy Podcast.

Eric and Marissa have a great conversation about some of their struggles with ADHD. Listen to see if you can pick up any tips or tricks that will help you as you travel the same journey they have.

You'll learn:

  • [02:27] Welcome to the show, Marissa!
  • [02:45] Marissa shares what brought her to get her diagnosis with ADHD.
  • [04:06] When you watched videos on ADHD, were there things that you recognized in yourself?
  • [09:55] Marissa speaks about not being able to absorb what she was reading, which is crazy since she is a writer.
  • [10:25] Marissa shares how she got through literature classes.
  • [11:00] Do you love cliff notes? Did they help you understand what you were reading?
  • [14:02] She discusses how she memorized everything to get through high school, but it didn't work so well in college.
  • [16:41] Once she got her second master's degree, she became a literature teacher.
  • [24:48] Marissa discusses the challenges she has around sensory processing.
  • [25:15] She speaks about her issues with sleeping and why she needs a white noise machine. 
  • [28:33] Marissa says that distinct smells will wake her up.
  • [30:30] She describes the feel of fleece on her skin, but she loves a weighted blanket.
  • [33:19] Do you have any senses that aren't as intense?
  • [34:20] Eric and Marissa discuss their difficulties with their vision and wonder if their other senses are so keen to make up for their vision issues.
  • [37:20] Marissa chats about having eye surgeries when she was a kid.
  • [41:05] Marissa discusses her podcast called 'Holey Happy.'
  • [43:08] What are some things that have been the most helpful in managing your ADHD?
  • [45:11] Eric and Marissa talk about the medication she is on.
  • [46:56] Do generic drugs affect you differently than brand names?
  • [49:07] Marissa shares how joining one of Eric's coaching groups has helped.
  • [50:11] Marissa speaks about some things she took away from the coaching groups.
  • [53:08] The group helped Marissa with anxiousness.
  • [55:40] Thank you so much for coming on the show!
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The Holey Happy Podcast

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Have a question for the brain trust?  Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests Brendan Mahan, Will Curb and MJ answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

We start the episode out with Erica asking what self-care means and when it is numbing instead of self-care. Eric shares that anything that restores health and wellbeing is self-care. Another listener asks about when something takes you off a task, what mental strategies he can use to resume the not so fun duties. Susan wants to know how to quell the agitation of waiting. Eric says to focus on the things you can control and influence, and boredom is the birthplace of creativity.

Tyler discusses a late in life ADHD diagnosis, and Cheryl wants to know some alternatives to medication for focus, attention, and alertness. Melissa would like to know how to make herself get out of her chair in the evening to take her pills and brush her teeth. Ella wants to know how to stop losing things like her keys and glasses all the time.

Steve makes the best chocolate, per Eric, and was in the middle of a significant expansion of his company Freespir when the coronavirus hit. He is having trouble dealing with the chaos of not knowing when he can resume, and it's hard on his mental health. The guys suggested that he make chocolate gift bags and take them to first responders and other people in his community to keep him busy and brighten their days.

Brendan shares that we are in the middle of a pandemic. It is ok to feel frustrated, lost, and tired. Everyone is feeling the same way and waiting to get back to our daily lives is increasing frustration. Practice your self-care, exercise, get plenty of rest, and try to stop stressing. We all need to remember that this too shall pass and try to learn something from it.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:00] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb, Brendan Mahan, and MJ.
  • [03:43] Erica asks, what does self-care mean?
  • [04:38] Eric says that things that restore health and wellbeing are self-care.
  • [05:33] Brendan shares his thoughts on self-care and what SHRED means.
  • [07:28] Are massages a luxury or self-care?
  • [09:17] Will speaks about self-care and the difference between numbing and self-care.
  • [12:03] Trang has a question about when something takes us off task what mental strategies can we use to disengage to resume not such fun duties.
  • [13:15] Eric says the first thing is to realize that you are off track and pause.
  • [14:25] Will shares some helpful tips to use to get back on track.
  • [15:55] Brendan speaks about what he does to stay on task.
  • [18:58] Susan asks how do you quell the agitation of waiting.
  • [19:47] Will says the anticipation of being bored is worse than waiting.
  • [20:59] Brendan speaks about how he plans for waiting.
  • [23:11] Focus on the things you can control and influence.
  • [24:16] Boredom is the birthplace of creativity.
  • [25:23] Tyler wants to know how people who received a diagnosis late in life pivot and move forward.
  • [32:08] Tyler speaks about the pain points he is having.
  • [34:45] What are the things that are getting in your way right now?
  • [36:38] Brendan shares what he did to figure out if he wanted to do ADHD Essentials.
  • [39:01] Eric discusses therapy and coaching for Tyler.
  • [40:44] Brendan shares a new, better sleep assessment tool.
  • [43:21] Cheryl asks what other treatments besides medication are suitable for focus, attention, alertness, and energy.
  • [43:58] Why are you looking for alternatives? 
  • [44:28] Eric says he is 100% pro trying medication.
  • [46:38] Exercise is one of the top things that you can do with ADHD.
  • [47:43] Brendan's SHRED model encompasses everything that you need.
  • [48:43] Melissa wants advice on self-activating in the evening instead of lounging.
  • [50:47] Eric says to have realistic expectations of what you can accomplish in the evenings.
  • [52:13] What can you prep, so it's easy for you to get things done?
  • [54:14] As an alternative, Brendan suggests having something far away from you go off, so you have to get up to stop it from happening.
  • [1:00:35] Steve shares that he is having trouble getting a new routine in this chaos and feeling tired all the time.
  • [1:02:50] Steve speaks about trying to manage during the pandemic and waiting for funds from the government.
  • [1:04:17] Are you able to produce your product?
  • [1:05:06] Eric is trying to come up with ideas on how Steve can move forward with everything in New Jersey being shut down from COVID-19.
  • [1:07:11] Brendan shares the trauma of this pandemic is bringing people down and making them tired and restless.
  • [1:09:30] Do you have something that you can do to help people?
  • [1:10:21] Steve is feeling recharged, thinking of how he can help first responders with his chocolate.
  • [1:12:42] Ella wants suggestions on how to stop misplacing objects like glasses.
  • [1:12:58] Brendan says he loses items because he doesn't realize he has put them down. Be mindful of where you put things.
  • [1:13:48] Eric says that Tile is the best invention for when you misplace something.
  • [1:17:15] Thank you, everyone, for listening!
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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Do you have a problem with structure and clarity in your life? Listen, as Eric coaches his guest, Ruthie Lipschultz, on some of these same challenges. Ruthie is a musical performer and has studied voice her entire life, and now she is just trying to figure out life. She got her dream job straight out of college playing Pocahontas on a cruise ship, but her difficulty learning the material caused her not to get asked back.

Listen as Ruthie needing accountability with structure when she is practicing. She shares her love of performing her goal of being a lead on Broadway and her challenges with the expectations that being in a lead role will have. Ruthie speaks about having to move back in with her parents when she lost her job and the issues that have caused.

Ruthie discusses the fact that her parents' house has a lot of distractions; she describes what happens around her when she is trying to practice. Eric asks if there is another place that she could use outside of their home and if she is consistently practicing the same time each day. Ruthie discusses her mom's Codependency and what she can do to break that pull.

The heart of being a successful adult with ADHD is accepting that you can't wait until you feel like doing something as your cue to do it. Eric shares the definition of distraction and tells Ruthie to start small, see if what you are doing is working, if not reassess and pivot. The questions that Ruthie has in this coaching call will resonate with many of you. 

You'll learn:

  • [01:52] Welcome to the show, Ruth!
  • [02:39] Ruthie shares a little about her performing background and the challenges it brought her.
  • [04:54] What problems are you facing?
  • [07:01] Ruthie speaks about how she went about setting up routines to help her with structure and accountability.
  • [09:22] Has there been a time when practicing was more accessible for you? 
  • [10:00] Ruthie shares how much time she spends practicing and how she feels like her gut is resistant.
  • [12:53] She shares why she performs and what her goal in the industry is to have a leading role.
  • [14:39] Why is getting a prominent position on broadway so important?
  • [16:32] Ruthie discusses the expectation of a performer in a lead role.
  • [20:15] Eric says that looking at your environment in a context that you can be successful in is essential.
  • [21:00] Ruthie shares that in her home, she has a lot of distractions.
  • [22:40] Ruthie speaks about what is around her in her parents' house when she is trying to practice.
  • [27:49] Are there any places you have been able to practice outside of your parents' home?
  • [30:39] Eric suggests letting her guitar playing be good enough but let her voice carry her because she has been practicing voice her entire life.
  • [32:10] Codependency can hold people back; talking with a therapist can help with the situation.
  • [34:00] Ruthie asks what she needs to ask a therapist about this codependency issue.
  • [36:06] What options do you have for other places to practice?
  • [43:46] Is it possible for you to have a consistent time to practice every day?
  • [45:05] Ruthie speaks about how important exercise is for her, but she feels pulled in different directions.
  • [47:19] Eric shares the definition of a distraction.
  • [49:01] Having acceptance of the fact that you can't wait until you feel like doing something as your cue to do it is the heart of being a successful adult with ADHD.
  • [53:19] Start small and see what is working for you if it's not reevaluating and shifting focus could help.
  • [55:59] Have you ever focused on something that felt big like moving a grand piano when all you needed to do was go downstairs.
  • [58:55] What is one thing you want to commit to doing based on this conversation?
  • [1:01:12] Eric tells Ruthie to ask herself what could get in the way when she is planning her day.
  • [1:01:53] Ruth, thank you so much for being on the show today!
  • [1:03:35] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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Direct download: ADHD_324_Identifying_Barriers_-_Coaching_Ruthie_Lipschultz.mp3
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"Feedback is the oxygen of growth." Listen, as Eric and his guest Peter Montoya discuss what he means by this and why feedback should always be done confidentially. Peter talks about leadership development, conquering challenges, and the real-life experiences that drive his insights and ideas.

 Peter Montoya is the best-selling author of “The Brand Called You” and his latest books, “Meetings Without Walls” & “Leadership Power”. He’s also a sought-after and highly motivational keynote speaker and leadership development strategist, specializing in developing high-performance teams. To find Peter, visit www.PeterMontoya.com or call (949) 334-7070.

Peter discusses what led to his ADHD diagnosis, how he tames his beast of a mind, and the barriers people have with self-reflection. Peter shares his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings and the three key steps to take to make them successful. Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today.

Do you have trouble staying on task? Listen as Peter shares how he keeps focused on what he needs to do. He speaks about how leaders need to steer meetings and pull them back when they go off task, how to ask people for feedback, and accepting feedback without feeling defensive. Defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us.

Peter is a triple threat, a gifted speaker, best-selling author, and successful entrepreneur. He has done so much in his life, and you won't want to miss him telling us some key things he has picked up along the way.

You'll learn:

  • [02:06] Welcome to the show, Peter!
  • [02:26] Peter shares what he means by feedback is the oxygen of growth.
  • [03:53] Peter says you should make sure your feedback is kind, honest, and specific.
  • [05:12] Eric shares that sometimes feedback is delivered in two ways.
  • [07:22] Peter speaks about how he was shamed in eighth grade.
  • [09:58] When did you find out you had ADHD?
  • [11:08] Peter discusses what it's like being an attendee at workshops.
  • [14:30] Does it make you mad to not be understood?
  • [15:52] Peter shares what he had to do to tame his beast of a mind.
  • [17:04] Peter speaks about the barriers people have with self-reflection.
  • [23:38] Peter shared his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings.
  • [25:26] What are the critical steps to having a successful meeting?
  • [27:23] Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today.
  • [29:16] Peter speaks about how he stays on task and follows through with what needs to be done.
  • [33:18] Peter shares suggestions on grabbing the key takeaway of a meeting in a more efficient way.
  • [34:37] What do you do to bring a meeting back on task?
  • [35:24] Peter speaks about how long and what he does to prepare for a meeting.
  • [36:53] How long do you think a meeting should last? Should meetings be fun?
  • [42:09] Peter shares how to ask people for feedback.
  • [43:57] Peter speaks about what you should do if you get defensive while getting feedback.
  • [46:17] Eric says that defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us.
  • [48:48] What is the most influential piece of feedback you have ever received?
  • [51:11] Peter speaks about how he keeps himself mindful when he tends to do something that isn't helpful in meetings.
  • [53:54] Peter shares how people can learn more about him and his company.
  • [54:36] Peter, thank you so much for sharing this time with us.
  • [55:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Boredom is the mother of creativity. Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Dr.Kirsten Milliken discuss the ways you can keep yourself and your kids busy during social distancing, having fun at the grocery store, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Dr. Milliken is a licensed clinical psychologist, an ADHD Coach, and the author of PLAYDHD: Permission to Play...A Prescription for Adults With ADHD. She works and plays in Portland, Maine, with her two kids and partner Perry. She has ADHD and often says three quarters kidding and half-serious if it's not fun, I'm probably not doing it. As a psychologist and Coach, Kirsten has focused on educating her clients on the value of play in all of its forums.

Listen as Eric and Kirsten discuss the new project she is doing called the World Without ADHD, why this project interested her, and the book she is writing with the same name. Kirsten speaks about feeling guilty about working and making money during this crisis when others are struggling and that she and her partner are rehabbing a classic RV to stay busy during the pandemic.

Eric and Kirsten share their favorite board game and arcade games, and Kristen speaks about wearing an inflatable pink unicorn costume when she goes to the grocery store as PPE and the response she gets. If you want to participate in the World Without ADHD project, please submit artwork, written word, or stories to www.worldwithoutadhd.com, and if they like it, we will showcase it in the book and online. Kirsten says to use your boredom to get creative and submit your entries before the July 1, 2020 deadline.

You'll learn:

  • [01:37] Welcome back to the show, Kirsten
  • [04:10] Kirsten shares a new project she launched called World Without ADHD.
  • [05:49] Would you like to imagine a world without ADHD?
  • [08:23] Do you think ADHD holds you back?
  • [11:33] Eric speaks about the virtual open mics on Zoom that he has been doing.
  • [13:42] Kirsten shares the reason they started this project.
  • [16:24] Kirsten chats about needing people to submit a piece of art or written words to compete to publish their work in the book they are writing.
  • [26:15] Kirsten shares that if you want to participate in the project, go to the website www.worldwithoutADHD.com
  • [29:21] What kind of writing do you do besides writing books?
  • [30:14] Kirsten speaks about rehabbing a classic RV.
  • [31:59] Kirsten shares how she has fun at the grocery store in her pink rainbow unicorn costume.
  • [34:51] She talks about her baby head garden that comes out in the spring.
  • [40:50] Kirsten chats about being in the pink uniform costume and the response she gets at the grocery store.
  • [42:31] The due date for submission for World Without ADHD book is July 1, 2020, but get it in as soon as possible.
  • [44:06] Kirsten, do you have a story you can share that you wrote?
  • [47:05] Kirsten says that she believes play is one of the real natural anecdotes to ADHD challenges.
  • [49:03] Eric discusses the board game Catch Phrase.
  • [ 49:55] Kirsten speaks about her favorite arcade game when she was young.
  • [51:00] Use your boredom to be creative!
  • [51:25] Thank you so much for being on the show!
  • [52:21] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Are you almost always uncertain of the expectations and on shifting sand? This is just one topic we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Andrea starts off the questions, wanting to know what the guys do to get started when there are things to get done. Kelvin has some questions about hair loss while taking Ritalin, and a listener wants to know if they should make a doctor's appointment for their child if they think they have symptoms of ADHD.

Listen, as Eric speaks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo, Sara wants to know how to take a break when she is hyper-focused, and a listener wants to know how to take a course while struggling with structure. There is also a question about the perfect app for ADHD life management, and MJ wants to know how the guys are handling food and nutrition for their children since they don't have to pack lunches.

A listener asks about how to build consistency, how to address the stress of not having enough work to do, and Cheryl has a question about people talking so fast that she is having issues understanding them. Remember, during this time, your children are not expected to progress in school, they are expected to maintain what they have already learned so make learning fun.

As usual, the answers are varied and entertaining, but with what is going in our world, being entertained is what we need. So listen to this episode of ADHD, it will put a smile on your face.

Your Resources:

You'll Learn:

  • [01:42] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:22] Brendan shares his positive perspective on Covid-19 and ADHD.
  • [05:48] What is it you can do to thrive during this pandemic?
  • [07:31] Will shares that he has less time now with the pandemic.
  • [10:04] Andrea wants to know if any of the guys have a mantra or saying that kicks them into action.
  • [11:03] Will shares what he says to find his first steps.
  • [12:08] Brendan gives us what makes him start in the morning.
  • [14:26] We can do hard things, but we don't have to do them in the hardest way possible.
  • [16:50] Kelvin wants to know if Ritalin has hair loss side effects and can a cardiologist tell if my heart is fit for Ritalin?
  • [17:48] They will do an EKG, and the cardiologist can discuss it with you from there.
  • [18:54] Should I make a Dr appointment for my child because I think he has ADHD?
  • [20:36] What are your thoughts on Sluggish Cognitive Tempo?
  • [21:55] Eric addresses this disorder and shares what they looked at during a study.
  • [24:14] Sara asks, how do you stop and take a break when hyper-focus takes hold?
  • [29:36] Will speaks about taking planned breaks, drinking lots of water so that it forces you to take breaks.
  • [30:15] Brendan says there is no rule that says you have to take a break.
  • [33:35] Eric says with all strategies experiment with what works for you.
  • [36:34] I want to use this time to take a course but I am struggling with structure, any thoughts?
  • [36:54] Brendan says to ask and see if anyone wants to take it with you, which will add structure.
  • [38:09] Do you have a favorite recommended fully integrated ADHD life management app?
  • [38:23] There is no perfect app, look for function over form.
  • [39:29] How do you determine what is the most important thing you need to do that day instead of bouncing around from task to task?
  • [39:39] Eric says he rolls a die sometimes, something is better than nothing.
  • [40:34] Think about what one thing you can do that will have the domino effect to make all the other tasks more manageable.
  • [42:04] MJ's question is, how is everyone navigating nutrition at home, with not needing to pack lunches.
  • [42:51] Eric talks about ordering food online and how frustrating that you can't always have what you want.
  • [43:42] Will talks about what his children asked him to give them for breakfast.
  • [45:00] Brendan goes to the store and is making more of an effort to make healthy lunches.
  • [54:24] How do I build consistency? 
  • [54:48] Erics speaks about consistency is a byproduct, not a goal!
  • [55:45] If you write things down, you won't have a blank page every day.
  • [56:28] Have a schedule posted to remain consistent.
  • [57:57] Please address the stress of not having enough work to do.
  • [58:26] Check in's work, and it's okay not to work 8 hours a day.
  • [59:03] Do what you can do if your boss is not being transparent about what they want you to do.
  • [1:00:31] Cheryl's issue is when people speak too fast and get upset with me when I ask them to repeat it.
  • [1:01:05] Eric addresses this and shares how difficult it can be.
  • [1:02:32] MJ, what are your thoughts on this?
  • [1:03:39] Do you have any advice for parents who are trying to come to terms with teaching children from home during this uncertainty?
  • [1:04:14] Your kids are not expected to progress during this time, maintain what they have already learned. Have fun!
  • [1:06:34] Brendan and Will do you have a goal about how you want to feel this time next month?
  • [1:08:25] Brendan's goal is to lead and to help as many people as he can while prioritizing his family over everyone else.
  • [1:09:18] Eric wants to be doing just a little much better than he is right now.
  • [1:09:42] Thank you, Brendan, Will, and MJ for being on this show!
  • [1:10:03] Always do your best and know that your best will be different every day.
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Support the Podcast on Patreon

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Have you ever done anything consistently for six years? Listen, as your host, Eric, and all 20+ guests share stories about their connection to ADHD reWired and how the show has helped them on their ADHD journey. Join us as we celebrate six years of podcasting on this special episode of ADHD reWired,  

Jessica shares what she has learned from Eric and how the show and being part of the ADHD community has helped her understand how her brain works. Adeola speaks about how he gained insight into his ADHD through the show and what he has accomplished in his life since he started listening to the podcast. Natalie talks about signing up for coaching with Eric after she heard her first episode, and Dr. Millican discusses what she is doing now.

Listen, as Sharon speaks about how she found Eric and the podcast, another Jessica tells her story, and Eric shares what ADHD reWired is all about. Jessica Stilwell speaks about the scholarship she helped create for coaching groups, and Andrea talks about being diagnosed when she was nine but not understanding it until she started listening to the podcast. Jessica McCabe plays a song on her Ukulele and sings the beautiful words that mean so much to her.

Gail discusses her diagnosis at age 58, and how she didn't have any information on it until she started listening to the show. MJ speaks about how she ended up in the community, and Daniel says he has no idea how he found Eric, but he is glad he did. These are just some of the stories from listeners who have been impacted by the ADHD reWired podcast, and they are all very grateful to Eric for shedding light on ADHD.

You'll learn:

  • [03:00] Hello, everyone!
  • [03:51] Jessica McCabe shares where she heard of the show and how much she has learned from Eric.
  • [06:19] Jessica thanks Eric for him helping her understand her brain.
  • [08:11] How has being a part of an ADHD community helped you on your journey?
  • [10:52] Adeola says he gained more insight into his ADHD and what he has accomplished since listening to the show.
  • [12:35] Did many people reach out to you after you were on the show?
  • [14:31] Natalie speaks about when she first started listening to the podcast and how she signed up for coaching right after she listened to the first episode.
  • [17:01] She shares when she heard Eric say thank you to her on episode 300.
  • [18:55] Adre chats about listening to the podcast for many years and how she met a bunch of people in Eric'sEric's mastermind.
  • [21:34] The mastermind group let her know that she was good enough.
  • [23:38] Hello Dr. Millican, how are you?
  • [24:30] Eric shares who Dr. Millican is and what she is excited about doing now.
  • [25:22] She is writing a book and is gathering words and artwork from people with ADHD. The website is www.worldwithoutadhd.com
  • [28:31] Sharon shares her story and how she found Eric and the podcast.
  • [30:14] Sharon is now advising a group of coaches to notice the difference between ADHD and willpower.
  • [39:00] Jessica says congratulations for six years and shares her story and diagnosis.
  • [40:37] She speaks about starting at episode 1 and working her way through to the most current one.
  • [42:46] Jessica joined a coaching group to be able to show up in her life.
  • [44:31] Getting together, having a growth mindset, and working on stuff together is what ADHD reWired is all about.
  • [46:04] Jessica Stilwell helped create a scholarship for the coaching group and has been listening to the podcast since the beginning and joined the accountability group.
  • [49:22] How is your inbox? Is it still a struggle?
  • [51:04] Andrea shares that she is very new to the group and was diagnosed with ADHD when she was nine.
  • [53:09] She feels like in the last couple of weeks listening to the podcast she has learned more about herself than ever before.
  • [54:52] Pat speaks about being in the most recent batch of the accountability group.
  • [56:56] Thank you, Eric, for all the work you have done.
  • [59:11] Jessica McCabe plays a song for us on her Ukelele that has a lot of meaning for her.
  • [1:07:26] Gail discusses being diagnosed at age 58, but she still felt like there was no information for her, it wasn't until she met an adult ADHD coach.
  • [1:10:31] She speaks about the fantastic support she has found in the community during this pandemic.
  • [1:13:10] MJ shares how she ended up in the community and how she stumbled upon the podcast.
  • [1:15:32] She loves being a part of such a like-minded group and she is a top-level Patreon.
  • [1:16:17] Daniel says he has no idea how he found the podcast. 
  • [1:17:30] He signed up for the coaching groups and noted that it helped so much and knowing that he wasn't alone.
  • [1:19:56] Emily wants to express her gratitude and share her story.
  • [1:20:39] She always considered herself chronically disorganized because she couldn't handle her email.
  • [1:21:49] ADHD reWired is the first podcast she ever listened to and then signed up for an accountability group.
  • [1:24:14] Mimota shares her story and what it felt like to connect with people.
  • [1:27:00] Barbara shares what it has been like for her to get to know this community.
  • [1:28:36] Thank you all for being here.
  • [1:29:22] ADHD is the best community to connect to online.
  • [1:30:00] We will do this again around year ten.
  • [1:31:41] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
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Have you ever asked yourself, 'what's wrong with me?' Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Stacey Machelle discuss the challenges she faced in her career and personal life. Stacey talks about her diagnosis with ADD many years ago, and how her prayers and Ted Bundy led her to help.

Stacey is a journalist by training and profession turned actor and stand up comedian. She works as a warm-up comic on A Little Late With Lilly Singh, the late-night talk show on NBC, and she has about a dozen other side hustles. Stacey wanted to come on the show to talk about educating black women who are undiagnosed and untreated.

Listen as Stacey shares her story and how she was diagnosed with ADD over twenty years ago and prescribed Ritalin. Still, since she saw no difference, and decided she didn't have it and forgot about it. Years later, when she was watching a Ted Bundy documentary, she heard what people said about him and thought hmmm. 

Stacey discusses what happened when she disclosed her ADHD to her family and how it has gone a long way to healing the relationship she has with her mother. With her diagnosis, her mother and brother are looking at the possibility of also having ADHD, being very supportive, and learning all they can learn about ADHD.

Listen as Stacy shares, wanting to get the message of ADHD out to the African American community because they will usually suffer in silence, put their head down and not tell anyone. Her message is you don't have to be silent any longer, talk about your mental health, and get help. She is using her platform as a comedian to raise awareness and put a face to ADHD.

You'll learn:

  • [03:02] Stacey, glad you are here!
  • [03:12] Stacey shares her background and when she found that she was having challenges that others were not.
  • [05:59] Stacey speaks about a therapist asking her if she thought she may have ADD.
  • [08:55] Stacey shares that when she was working at the news stations she was fired and almost fired from many jobs.
  • [10:48] What did you tell yourself when you had so many challenges in your careers?
  • [12:58] Stacey talks about her therapist not knowing anything about ADHD.
  • [16:43] Stacey shares a story of how she prayed for tools and the way her prayer was answered.
  • [19:27] Stacey discusses Ted Bundy and how she googled her symptoms because she thought she might be a psychopath.
  • [26:30] What was the response when you shared your ADHD with your family?
  • [27:51] Stacey shares what happened when she disclosed her condition to a friend of many years.
  • [30:47] Eric shares one of his favorite quotes from Brené Brown.
  • [32:33] Stacey shares that her grandparents raised her.
  • [33:49] Stacey discusses what happened when she told her mother.
  • [37:23] Has your family been supportive of you and your diagnosis?
  • [41:30] Stacey speaks about getting information to African American women and showing them the face of ADHD.
  • [43:42] Stacey feels like nobody in the African American community will discuss mental health issues.
  • [46:02] Stacey shares that her grandparents' generation didn't talk about their problems, but she is sure her grandfather had ADHD.
  • [47:58] Stacey discusses going through a divorce and how her mother reacted when she set up a go fund me page.
  • [51:30] She chats about being unmedicated for the last few days because she ran out of her medication.
  • [53:04] Would you consider reaching out to your church to see if you could talk to the congregation about ADHD?
  • [53:18] Stacey speaks about starting a YouTube channel and using sketch comedy to address symptoms.
  • [54:55] What advice do you want to leave the listeners? 
  • [57:42] When you are doing something that is purpose-driven and for others and changing people's lives, you get taken care of. 
  • [59:10] Stacey, thank you so much for coming on and sharing your story!
  • [1:00:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

Are you finding it hard to be productive while working from home? Listen, as Eric and his guest Thanh discuss easy ideas and tips for working more productively from home. Thanh is the founder of Asian Efficiency, where he helps people become more productive at work and in life. He's also the co-host of the top productivity podcast The Productivity Show, on which Eric enjoyed being a guest not too long ago.

Listen as Thanh shares why he decided to, and his struggle to be productive in a different atmosphere. Having a home office is the number one thing he believes you need. It can be anywhere, but it needs to be a dedicated place for you to work. Thanh also tells us what three things he feels are most important to have for that office.

Do you set yourself a schedule while working from home? Listen, as Thanh discusses how important having a schedule is for productivity. He says to make your schedule is based on the time of day that you are most focused, whether that be the morning or afternoon. Eric and Thanh discuss the different calendar and to-do apps they like and what they recommend.

Listen as Thanh speaks about finding the triggers you used at the office to make you productive and implement them at home. Block websites that distract you and put your phone in a different room or drawer so you can stay focused on the job at hand. Thanh says to set one goal a day and follow through on that but also get yourself into a routine.

With so many people working from home, these tips and tricks that Thanh is sharing will keep us all productive even when we don't have the office structure to fall back on. If you are struggling with your work from home routine, this is an episode that you need to hear.

You'll learn:

  • [02:00] Thanh, welcome to the podcast!
  • [03:25] Thanh shares a little about his background and how hard his commute to work was.
  • [06:00] Thanh talks about why he needed to work from home and how his boss responded to his request.
  • [08:45] Thanh discusses the three things people need to work productively from home.
  • [11:09] How do you guide people to get their homes set up?
  • [12:26] Thanh says you need a lovely backdrop behind you when working from home.
  • [14:26] Don't use a wrinkled bed sheet; it looks very unprofessional.
  • [15:19] A desk lamp is another thing that Thanh thinks is very essential.
  • [17:26] Thanh says that a standing desk is also a great addition to your home office.
  • [22:02] Eric believes that having the things you want and need easily accessible is beneficial.
  • [28:05] Thanh discusses how important it is to have a schedule when working from home.
  • [29:59] Create your plan for when you are the most focused.
  • [31:51] Using a calendar when you have ADHD it is almost like learning a foreign language. Experiment and find what works for you.
  • [33:54] Do you have trouble sticking to what you put on your calendar?
  • [35:47] Thanh believes that having a schedule allows you to coordinate some time with other people.
  • [37:07] Thanh shares what he believes are the best calendar apps.
  • [40:01] Eric speaks about the apps he likes and uses.
  • [44:01] Eric shares what he teaches in his coaching groups around to-do lists.
  • [49:04] Thanh discusses how to be productive and execute now that you have your office and schedule set up.
  • [50:12] You need to be aware of the differences between working from home and going to the office like the dress code and the extra time you have because you don't have to drive.
  • [51:51] He says to think about the triggers you have at the office that make you productive and recreate that at home.
  • [53:01] Eric says to experiment with what works for you. He feels that he is more productive when he dresses casually.
  • [55:12] Thanh believes that blocking websites that distract you is essential.
  • [56:16] The number one distraction is your phone, so try putting it away in another room or a drawer.
  • [58:24] Thanh speaks about setting one goal for yourself a day so you can get work done.
  • [59:34] Eric says to make your one goal ridiculously simple if you have ADHD.
  • [1:00:12] The last thing that Thanh suggests is to get yourself into a routine.
  • [1:02:27] Thanh, do you have any final thoughts for the listeners?
  • [1:04:51] Thank you so much for being on the show!
  • [1:06:02] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: ADHD_318_Working_From_Home_with_Thanh_Pham.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Do you have an issue getting out of the house early that you are not late? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Mary has the first question today about how to get out of the house early enough to be on time because she is always late, Karen needs some advice on how to get her fourteen-year-old daughter to speed things up, and Gail wants to know if she has ADHD or if her challenges could stem from being OCD. Listen as Eric, Brenan, and Will give their insight and advice to each of these listeners.

Ella would like to know how to close loops and finish projects, Alison is always late and is looking for ways to leave the house without having to finish something and Blake asks about how he can figure out if he is getting close to burnout at his job. Listen to what the panel tells these listeners and see if there is something that you can learn from the answers they give.

The monthly Q&A is for you the listeners; it's an easy way to get answers to questions you don't want to ask anyone else. Eric, Brendan, and Will usually have had experience or have heard any question you can ask, so you can be sure that they will always give you their perspective and insight. 

Your Resources:

You'll Learn:

  • [01:20] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [02:07] Mary is asking what she can do to keep from being late to everything.
  • [03:58] Will shares how he was able to get into the habit of being on time.
  • [04:52] Eric speaks about the impulse to do just one more thing.
  • [07:24] Do you pay attention to how long you take to get out of the house?
  • [10:16] Eric believes you should make predictions and then track time.
  • [11:09] Karen's question is about her daughter with ADHD, who is slow in all aspects of life and is asking for advice.
  • [12:52] Brendan says to make things easier as much as possible, using music to set the pace.
  • [14:29] They all believe that it's ok not to give your all in all things, sometimes it's ok to be good enough.
  • [17:18] Redefine your best because it can change daily.
  • [19:01] Gail asks how do I know if my challenges are ADHD or could I be OCD?
  • [20:56] Executive functioning is any goal-oriented behavior that is sent out to the world with a feedback loop that comes back to ourselves.
  • [23:09] Eric speaks about rewiring the brain by increasing anxiety and then alleviating it, and your mind will be happy that it has helped you out.
  • [24:46] Brendan chats about one area that ADHD and OCD can hang out together.
  • [27:11] How much is your OCD affecting other people?
  • [27:50] Gail shares some specific things she wants advice about.
  • [30:33] Eric believes that Gail should practice leaving her house the way she should so that her brain knows what that means.
  • [33:27] Is it possible to layout your day and put the value you place on each item?
  • [39:11] Ella has a question about closing loops and unfinished projects.
  • [41:07] Eric shares his ideas to help Ella get things done.
  • [43:47] Shrink the scope; you can organize a shelf by taking out just one object; you don't need to clear the whole rack.
  • [45:44] They share the difference between a maximizer versus a satisfier.
  • [48:03] Brendan says that you are allowed to have things in more than one place.
  • [49:33] Alison shares that she is always late and would like to know what she should do.
  • [53:35] Blake wants to know what he can do during his workday to find out the pace he is working at.
  • [53:51] Will gives his insight into this question with examples.
  • [55:18] What have you done to prevent burnout before it's too late?
  • [58:12] Eric says to take your vacations, and figure out if there is a time of year you feel burned out.
  • [59:16] Brendan speaks about planning a break when you want to take one, so he doesn't just go on Facebook.
  • [1:03:02] Check out Brendan and Will's podcasts and coaching groups.
  • [1:04:04] Thank you, everyone, for listening.
  • [1:04:52] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: 317_March_2020_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Hey there, ADHD reWired listeners, this is not a typical episode. This is a bonus episode that I am dropping in your feed. It is audio from a webinar with Dr. Diana Hager that we recorded on April 1, 2020. Diana is a medical doctor and a member of the ADHD reWired community, and I am just really grateful that she could spend an hour with us answering questions from a lot of you.

Diana answered questions from the ADHD community on a variety of things like, how to keep yourself safe if you have asthma if you have kept yourself at home for two weeks can you be reasonably sure you don't have the virus and her thoughts on working from home. She also addressed how to keep people six feet away from you when they don't understand the meaning of social distancing and where to find your states updated information on the number of infected people and deaths from the coronavirus.

They discuss throwing away the bags you bring your groceries home in, taking off your shoes when you walk in the door, and washing down your fruits and vegetables. Diana believes that you can use soap instead of disinfectants and that if you rinse with hot salty water, you can reduce your risk by forty to fifty percent. 

Diana also debunks some myths around the virus and believes that it will not go away; we are all going to become immune to it. The virus doesn't seem to mutate as fast as the flu virus, so she believes that it will take about two years for a new strain to hit, and by then we should have a decent vaccination. 

Diana shares that dealing with this virus while also having ADHD has enhanced all of her symptoms and made everything more intense. Have you noticed the same thing? Do you have any questions? This is the episode you need to listen to, so sit back and hit play.

You'll learn:

  • [03:14] Enjoy this special bonus episode with Dr. Diana Hager.
  • [03:20] Diana starts out by giving us a little of her background and qualifications.
  • [03:55] How has COVID19 impacted your work?
  • [04:40] Diana answers Tara's question about how to keep safe when you have asthma.
  • [07:11] Can we be reasonably confident that we don't have the virus if we have been quarantined for over two weeks?
  • [09:22] Diana believes that if you work from home, you don't have to worry about touching your face at your desk.
  • [10:58] How do you suggest we keep people six feet away from us when they don't seem to understand why.
  • [13:31] Diana shares the world map that is updated with total infected and total deaths.
  • [16:00] Check your state's health department for the most accurate totals.
  • [18:00] Eric speaks about how he handled the sack he got his prescriptions in.
  • [19:07] How can my partner, who is installing air conditioning units, protect himself when he goes to people's homes?
  • [21:40] Diana doesn't think regular cloth masks are effective when working in the medical field.
  • [24:35] Diana believes that sleep is very important, sleep when you can get your full amount of sleep will help your immune system the most.
  • [26:01] Covering your hair and rinsing off your groceries are things that you should do when bringing your groceries home.
  • [28:03] How can we keep ourselves from being bored to death?
  • [30:05] Diana says that when our percent per day comes down below ten percent, the curve is flattening.
  • [33:59] Can I use soap instead of disinfectants?
  • [34:49] Diana shares that gargling with hot salty water can help forty to fifty percent.
  • [36:51] How can you tell looking at a death rate of say 10% whether that is due to insufficient testing or the overwhelmed medical system?
  • [38:18] Diana speaks that it could be another month before they do widespread testing.
  • [41:06] What should someone do if they have an urgent medical need and they live in a hot spot?
  • [44:16] Diana addresses a question about being exposed from walking on our dog's paws or the road.
  • [45:37] Diana says that the virus is nothing more than a strand of genes inside of a protein capsule.
  • [47:18] How do we handle mail and Amazon deliveries?
  • [48:10] As a doctor with ADHD, how is ADHD showing up for you with all of this? Has it become more intense?
  • [49:49] Diana debunks some myths around the virus.
  • [51:12] Are we going to have to deal with this in the fall?
  • [52:56] Are babies safe? Are children? Expectant mothers?
  • [55:05] Is there anything else you want to share with the listeners?
  • [55:29] Thank you so much for coming on the show and answering questions.
Direct download: ADHD_BONUS_COVID19_Questions_answered_by_Diana_Hagar.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Do you know anyone who has been diagnosed with both Autism and ADHD? Listen, as Eric and his guest Becca discuss her diagnosis, how ADHD shows up differently in women, why she is interested in studying conscientiousness in this realm and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired.

Becca is earning her master's degree in Industrial-Organizational Psychology and hopes to use her knowledge in individual differences, such as ADHD in personality and training in Industrial-Organizational Psychology, to help organizations create inclusive work environments for employees. 

Becca challenges the statement that people with Autism and ADHD are not high in conscientiousness. She shares her understanding of Autism and how it shows up for her, and how she has been told that she can't be on the spectrum because she is so smart. Eric discusses the difference between Autism and Aspergers and the arguments around both.

Listen, as Becca speaks about how gender and conscientiousness change the manifestation of ADHD, withdrawing from people because of her daily struggles and what led her to seek a diagnosis for ADHD. She shares her sensory challenges, and the never-ending battle to be on time.

Did you know that social communication is an executive social function? Eric and Becca discuss the fact that women are socially wired to mirror their environment and how she works through social interaction. Eric asks a hypothetical question about a red pill and a blue pill if one of them would cure ADHD. Would you take it?

Becca shares her struggles with Autism and ADHD; some of them are embarrassing, while others are frustrating. Her goal is to help others by telling her story and let people who have the same issues know they are not alone. This is one of those conversations that will make you look at yourself and say, hmmm.

You'll learn:

  • [02:32] Becca, welcome to the podcast!
  • [03:01] Becca shares her diagnoses of Autism and ADHD.
  • [06:46] She challenges the statement that people with Autism are not high in conscientiousness.
  • [09:03] Eric shares the definition of conscientiousness.
  • [10:03] Becca questions whether people with ADHD are low in conscientiousness.
  • [12:00] Have you been told you can't be on the spectrum because you are so smart?
  • [13:14] Eric says that it is essential to understand that we are all different in the way we show up.
  • [13:37] What got you interested in studying consciousness in this realm?
  • [15:34] Becca shares her understanding of Autism and how it shows up for her.
  • [18:02] Becca speaks about having a case manager come to talk to her and her mom and ask if she could use a spoon and fork.
  • [19:45] Eric chats about the difference between Autism and Aspergers and the argument around both.
  • [26:02] Becca speaks about how gender and conscientiousness change the manifestation of ADHD.
  • [28:44] Have you felt shame or guilt because you forgot to go to the store or didn't have dinner?
  • [30:18] Becca speaks about withdrawing from others because she struggles to manage her everyday life.
  • [32:00] Becca shares a story about what led to her diagnosis of ADHD.
  • [33:03] Becca chats about the struggle to be on time when she goes somewhere.
  • [34:37] What is the hardest part for you of having ADHD?
  • [36:34] Becca speaks about having sensory challenges and what it is like for her.
  • [38:38] Did you know that social communication is an executive social function?
  • [40:20] Eric speaks about some studies that show women are more socially wired to mirror their environment.
  • [47:32] Becca shares how she works through social interaction in her brain.
  • [49:30] Do you show empathy differently from people around you?
  • [51:18] Becca speaks about smiling and laughing at funerals when everyone else is crying. Not because she is happy, but because she can't control it.
  • [53:32] Eric chats about teaching micro-expressions and training.
  • [56:02] Are you different but not less? Do you know your strengths and challenges?
  • [58:16] Eric speaks about the hypothetical question about if you could take a pill to make your ADHD go away would you take it?
  • [1:00:52] Is there anything you want to say to the listeners?
  • [1:01:03] Becca, thank you so much for sharing your story!
  • [1:01:18] If you are wondering if you have Autism or ADHD, find a specialist.
  • [1:02:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: 316_Autism_ADHD_Gender__Conscientiosness_Becca_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

What is it about the word suicide that makes you want to whisper? Is it a feeling of shame, guilt, or isolation? Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Dr. Lindsay Weisner discuss the stigma around the word suicide and how important it is for people to have the conversation. They also share that talking to someone about your feelings lets you know that you are not alone, and it might help you find happiness in your life, and much more on this episode of ADHD reWired

 Lindsay is a clinical psychologist in Long Island, NY, and graduated from Georgetown University. She was awarded fellowships in child development at the National Institute of Health and the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. Lindsay also received her doctorate at CW Post LIU and pursued postdoctoral training at the American Institute of Psychoanalysis. Dr. Weisner is the current host of the Neurotic Nourishment Podcast and the Co-Author of the book Ten Steps to Finding Happy.

Listen, as Lindsay describes being diagnosed with ADHD at forty-two, her son being diagnosed, and the impact that the prescribed medicines have had on them both. Lindsay also speaks about the book she co-authored and her mom's substance abuse and mental health issues. She shares about her mom's multiple suicide attempts, what that did to her family, and why she believes that helping individuals who are thinking about suicide is her calling.

Talking about mental health issues and suicide isn't easy, but if you push the trepidation aside and open up the conversation, you might be surprised at what you can accomplish. Dr. Lindsay Weisner's passion is to help bring light to people who only see darkness. If you resonate with any of this, please listen to this episode and start the conversation.

You'll learn:

  • [02:38] Lindsay, welcome to the show!
  • [05:10] Lindsay shares about being diagnosed with ADHD eight months ago after she was told she wasn't living up to her full potential as a child.
  • [07:16] She speaks about her son being diagnosed with ADHD and depression. 
  • [10:11] Lindsay shares how getting him on meds changed him completely.
  • [11:11] She chats about being diagnosed with ADHD and what that meant for her.
  • [14:00] They discuss her being a psychologist, not a psychiatrist.
  • [18:44] Lindsay discusses her book and why she wrote it.
  • [19:49] Eric warns that they will be talking about suicide.
  • [21:16] Lindsay talks about winning the first-ever Cosmopolitan Fiction in 2014 and meeting the author she wrote the book with.
  • [25:24] Lindsay speaks about a slew of teenagers in her small town killing themselves. 
  • [28:04] She talks about growing up knowing her mom had some substance abuse issues and finding out her mom had attempted suicide.
  • [30:03] Lindsay chats about being in graduate school and her mom's other suicide attempts.
  • [36:50] Lindsay shares what made her want to work with the suicidal population.
  • [38:48] She discusses the Marchman Act, which allows someone to be put on a 72 hours hold against their will.
  • [43:15] Lindsay chats about setting up an event to raise awareness of suicide.
  • [45:33] Lindsay speaks about all the celebrities she got to back the event.
  • [47:54] How are you coping with this and taking care of yourself?
  • [50:26] Lindsay gives her insight into why people are afraid to bring up suicide.
  • [54:25] Lindsay shares her favorite one of the ten steps, which is 'find your passion, find your purpose.'
  • [57:41] Thank you so much for sharing with us on the podcast today.
  • [59:17] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 315_Finding_Happy_with_Lindsay_Weisner.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Does humor help you get through insane moments in your life? Eric and Jessica wanted to do this special episode to give you the listeners some ideas on what you can do to stay sane during this uncertain time in the world, and humor is at the top of the list along with exercise and staying in touch with the ADHD community.

They share the alternatives they found for exercise when the gym is too risky, why going to the store can bring on anxiety, and what they plan to do if they run out of toilet paper. Jessica speaks about what the media is reporting and how, at times like this, reporters need to be very careful about what they share.

Eric and Jessica chat about the paper product shortage, the hope that mindsets will change once this is over, and the good that can come from all of this uncertainty. They discuss why social distancing is so essential and how this would be a good time for a futuristic technology like doors that don't have a doorknob.

Since laughter is always the best medicine, they share jokes, Facebook posts, comments, and other nonsensical things to lighten the mood because you can only take so much of this new reality. Eric and Jessica also chat about being kind to your significant other if you are both stuck working from home. Try not to fight.

Have you heard that meditation exercises are a great way to cope with stress and anxiety? Listen as Eric and Jessica give some tips and ideas on ways to use this technique. They also share how grateful they are for their ADHD communities and the hope that this episode will ease some issues that can come from the craziness in this beautiful world we live in.

You'll learn:

  • [02:38] We wanted to do this episode to share ideas on how to stay sane during this crazy time.
  • [03:16] Jessica is here to discuss the importance of humor in this unique situation.
  • [05:22] They speak about how things are weird now, especially for those with ADHD.
  • [07:12] Have you found an alternative to exercise? What is it?
  • [09:50] Eric shares how exercise helps him cope with life, but it isn't worth the risk of going to the gym.
  • [12:01] Eric chats about what he found to replace going to the gym.
  • [14:34] Jessica speaks about how overwhelming things are right now and how it is affecting her mental health.
  • [16:40] Does going to Costco or Sam's right now cause you to have a panic attack?
  • [18:51] When watching the news, think about what information you need in your life.
  • [21:01] They discuss the shortage of toilet paper and paper towels and alternatives if they run out.
  • [22:43] Jessica believes that some good stuff will come from all of this uncertainty.
  • [23:42] Eric hopes the mindset changes around the culture of selfishness.
  • [25:04] Jessica says that is very important for the media to be careful with what they share.
  • [27:37] Eric shares why social distancing is so essential to keep the virus at manageable levels.
  • [29:25] They discuss some funny things they have read on Facebook.
  • [32:30] Are you working from home with your significant other? Are you fighting?
  • [34:15] Eric speaks about posting on his Facebook page asking everyone how they were doing.
  • [36:21] Jessica chats about posting on Twitter and the responses she is getting.
  • [38:35] Eric and Jessica share jokes that were published in their groups.
  • [42:01] Eric shares the audio of a government official forgetting to take their mic off when they went to the bathroom.
  • [45:01] Do you think there will be futuristic technology put in place because of the coronavirus?
  • [47:16] Jessica shares that Forbes agrees with her that laughing is the best medicine to deal with COVID-19.
  • [49:00] Without a routine, do you feel like you don't know what you are doing or get anything done?
  • [51:07] If you are new to ADHD and don't have any coping strategies and are quicker to frustration, try meditation practices.
  • [53:49] Eric describes how you can use food as a form of meditation.
  • [56:10] What do you have to have to keep you sane for the next few weeks? Food? Exercise?
  • [59:00] Eric shares how his seasonal affective disorder makes him feel.
  • [1:01:23] They feel like this situation is stripping everyone back to the basics.
  • [1:03:58] Do gratitude practices make you feel worse? 
  • [1:05:21] You can't chase happiness because a lot of things we do to pursue happiness make us unhappy.
  • [1:07:26] Eric speaks about being grateful for the community that they have.
  • [1:09:36] Jessica, what are you doing this weekend for self-care?
  • [1:13:10] Drink water, hold on to an ice cube, or dunking your head in water are ways to ground you during an anxiety attack.
  • [1:15:21] Eric discusses family planning during this time of self-quarantine.
  • [1:16:45] While we may be dealing with some severe stuff, let's try not to take ourselves so seriously.
  • [1:18:42] Stay connected to the community if you need to talk.
  • [1:19:54] If you can support Jessica on Patreon at www.patreon.com/howtoadhd, it would be much appreciated.
  • [1:25:30] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 314_Toiletpaperpocalypse_with_Jessica_McCabe.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Has your ADHD meds made a difference in your life? Listen as Eric and his guest, Jordan Marsh, discuss this and much more in this episode of ADHD reWired. Jordan is a semi self-employed professional tattoo artist and single parent. He was diagnosed with ADHD about two years ago and is just now learning how profoundly his ADHD has affected his life and relationships and is possibly the reason he started doing tattoos as opposed to a more conventional career.

Jordan shares the reason he started doing tattoos, why he enjoys giving and getting them, and the connection for him between pain and expression. He gives his opinion on what people don't understand about tattoos and the challenges he faces with being a single dad and his work schedule. Jordan chats about raising a child who has ADHD, how he reels himself in when his son is disrespectful, and how his meds have helped him in both work and his life at home with his son.

Have you ever wanted to get a tattoo? Jordan talks about some tattoos he wishes he didn't have and why he got them. Take notes as he explains some ways to remove them and why colors sometimes don't look the same when you use them to cover up specific colors of tattoos.

Listen as Jordan discusses how ADHD affected his past relationships, what he has learned about himself and relationships, and what he will look for in his next relationship. Jordan also describes his seasonal depression and the final thoughts he wants to share with the listeners. You won't want to miss Eric's conversation with this fascinating man with a highly misunderstood career.

You'll learn:

  • [02:31] Jordan, welcome to the show!
  • [03:41] Jordan shares why he started in the tattoo field.
  • [05:20] Why do you think tattoos are your passion?
  • [07:32] Jordan explains the connection for him between pain and expression.
  • [08:56] What do you think people don't understand about tattoos?
  • [10:45] Jordan speaks about the tattoo on his face, why he got it there.
  • [13:36] Jordan discusses being a single father and the challenges with his schedule.
  • [15:08] Jordan shares what it's like being ADHD and raising an ADHD child.
  • [16:24] What do you think helps you reel yourself back in when he's disrespectful?
  • [23:32] Jordan explains why he said that his job is the most terrible, perfect job.
  • [26:44] Jordan shares how being diagnosed with ADHD and taking the meds have affected his work.
  • [28:50] Have you ever made a mistake when doing a tattoo? Can you tell us about it?
  • [32:45] Jordan chats about constantly diagnosing his clients mentally with ADHD.
  • [33:41] Do you have any tattoos you regret getting? Can you tell us why?
  • [38:59] Jordan discusses how in hindsight he can see how ADHD affected his past relationships.
  • [41:56] They talk about his son's mother and the relationship he had with her before being diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [43:17] Jordan shares what pushed him to seek a diagnosis.
  • [44:02] Jordan speaks about his last relationship and how it was affected by his ADHD.
  • [45:42] What have you learned about yourself as a result of going through relationships now that you have ADHD?
  • [47:55] Jordan chats about not wanting to disappoint people and feeling like he was never enough.
  • [49:36] Jordan shares what he will watch for and look for in his next relationship and the whiteboard on which he writes everything he needs to remember.
  • [51:52] Do you have any final thoughts for your listeners?
  • [52:54] Jordan, thank you so much for sharing your story!
  • [53:47] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 313_ADHD_Inks_in_Creative_Work__Relationships.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Forgiveness and acceptance are critical when learning to manage your ADHD while remembering it is a rollercoaster, and the goal is to make the ups and downs a little less extreme. This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our first question today is how to revive yourself after a hard task when your tank is empty, and Lauren asks for tips when prioritizing projects. Debra has two topics she wants to discuss: one is about comorbidities like attentive type anxiety and depression, and the second is advice on coping strategies for a nineteen-year-old.

Another listener is requesting tips for scheduling life stuff rather than work stuff, Emma wants some ways to manage her hyperfocus at work, and Princess wants to know what the first thing she should tackle when trying to control her ADHD. A listener asks if it's okay to take her medication only during the week and take the weekends off, and Eric shares that it is recommended to maintain your dosage each day seven days a week.

Listen in as we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss not only your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your and your experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:21] Welcome our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan.
  • [03:23] Erica asks the first question about how to revive after a hard task when your tank is empty.
  • [06:01] Erica and Eric speak about coping mechanisms.
  • [08:20] Brendan shares his thoughts on Erica's question.
  • [09:47] Will suggests scheduling a five to ten-minute walk to give the brain a break.
  • [12:01] Lauren wants to know their best tips for prioritizing.
  • [14:18] Eric shares a book that he requires his members to read called "The ONE Thing." 
  • [16:00] They speak about prioritizing self-care and planning goals in advance.
  • [19:26] "You can do anything, but you can't do everything."
  • [25:45] Debra has a question about comorbidities like attentive type anxiety and depression.
  • [27:10] Eric shares his thoughts on how common anxiety and depression are with late-diagnosed ADHD.
  • [28:43] What are some coping strategies for a nineteen-year-old in college?
  • [30:11] Eric shares his college experience at nineteen and how hard it was for him to go to morning classes.
  • [32:31] Make it Stick the Science of Learning is a book that Eric recommends to any college student.
  • [34:02] A listener wants some tips for scheduling life stuff rather than work stuff.
  • [36:18] Brendan shares his ideas on this subject and how he handled it.
  • [39:51] Will gives his insight on working so much you don't have time for life stuff.
  • [43:30] Emma has a question about managing her hyperfocus at work.
  • [46:09] Eric speaks about going into hyperfocus in a planned way.
  • [49:12] Brendan, do you have anything you want to add?
  • [51:22] Will shares his thoughts on hyperfocus and what she could try.
  • [52:37] Princess wants to know the first thing they suggest to tackle when trying to manage her ADHD.
  • [55:01] They all speak about knowing when ADHD wins and don't beat yourself up; forgiveness and acceptance are so important.
  • [57:19] Do you recommend continuing your medication on weekends?
  • [58:35] Eric chats about what can happen when you don't take your medicine as prescribed.
  • [1:00:52] Will shares his experience with taking his meds.
  • [1:03:14] As always, talk to your doctor and make sure they know ADHD.
  • [1:04:10] Thank you, Brendan, and Will for being on the show.
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Direct download: 312_Q__A_Feb_2020.mp3
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Do suspect you have ADHD, but you don't know for sure because you have to wait months for your diagnosis? That is precisely what Eric's guest Angela is waiting on. Listen as Eric and Angela discuss the challenges she is facing trying to cope with this while balancing school, work, and family life while also dealing with Migraines and Fibromyalgia.

Angela shares how watching the way her son acted gave her flashbacks to herself at that age and was the catalyst that made her look into ADHD as a cause. She also speaks about having migraines most of her life and how her parents' mistrust of doctors made it challenging to find a medicine that would help. Angela describes what she goes through when she wakes up with a migraine and what steps she has to take to make sure she can function with her busy schedule.

When you went to college, did you know what you wanted to do, or did you change majors multiple times? Listen as Angela shares her journey through college to finally determining that psychology is where her heart is. She also discusses her Fibromyalgia diagnosis, her pregnancies, going back to school to get her graduate degree, and why she won't stop until she achieves it. Angela speaks about how important it is to her to learn all she can about ADHD, so if the diagnosis is definite, she will know what to do and how to help her son.

Angela is a very strong, determined woman and even though she has faced adversity her whole academic career she has never let go of the to finish what she started. Her strength and determination are to be celebrated, and maybe listening to her will push you forward to finishing something you didn't think you could do. 

You'll Learn:

  • [02:44] Angela, welcome to the show!
  • [03:40] Angela shares that she has been waiting since October for the evaluation to diagnose ADHD.
  • [04:27] What triggered the thought that you might have ADHD?
  • [07:02] Angels speak about her family not really believing in doctors and dealing with migraines without proper treatment.
  • [09:04] Angela chats about her sensor sensitivity and how it can sometimes be overwhelming.
  • [11:20] Angela describes how it feels when she wakes up with a migraine.
  • [13:09] How do you get up every day knowing that one of these episodes can knock your whole day off-kilter?
  • [15:58] Angela shares why she has her drive and grit to succeed and doesn't let anything stop her.
  • [18:00] Angela chats about being able to sing opera and what caused her to lose the joy of singing.
  • [20:30] She speaks about how hard the decision was to quit singing.
  • [22:50] Angela says that singing didn't fulfill her, and she felt like she was preparing to make other people happy when she didn't care about it at all.
  • [26:43] Angela describes all the different majors she chose at the University of Oregon.
  • [29:15] Angela shares what made her get into psychology.
  • [32:44] How long has it taken you to get through the undergrad years in college?
  • [35:00] Angela speaks about her grades and having incompletes which kept her from graduating in 2010.
  • [36:54] She started taking pre-reqs for nursing in 2014 while pregnant.
  • [37:41] How was your pregnancy with all of your sensory sensitivities?
  • [40:34] Angela shares that two years after her son was born she went back to the University of Oregon for psychology and has almost finished her degree.
  • [43:01] Being a stay at home mom left her feeling unfulfilled because she had things she wanted to do.
  • [44:43] Angela shares when she was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.
  • [46:31] Angela describes what having Fibromyalgia feels like.
  • [53:00] What was the tipping point that made you want to seek out an ADHD diagnosis?
  • [55:14] Angela says that her life has a bunch of pieces like a messy puzzle.
  • [57:55] Angela shares her job as a project coordinator for a neuroscience experience, and how much time it takes.
  • [59:13] Angela started reading about ADHD and it resonated with her.
  • [1:00:19] How has the experience been for you as you learn more about ADHD?
  • [1:03:03] Angela speaks about the struggle she faces going back to school for her graduate degree.
  • [1:04:52] Angela shares that she let her professor know the issues she was having and her waiting on the ADHD diagnosis and his lack of response.
  • [1:07:10] They discuss how nervous she was to come on the podcast and talk about her possible ADHD diagnosis.
  • [1:10:10] Eric acknowledges Angela's grit and tenacity to keep going to school even though it has taken many years.
  • [1:12:36] Are you someone who appreciates harmony and beauty? Someone who resolves issues?
  • [1:13:09] Angela, thank you for sharing so much with us!
  • [1:15:20] Eric believes that everyone should make their mess their message.
  • [1:16:46] Angela, do you have anything else you want to share with the listeners?
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Direct download: 311_Migraines_Fibromyalgia_Grit_Is_it_ADHD.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Have you ever just wanted to sit in a closet for some quiet time to study and eliminate distractions? Listen in as Eric and his guest Merage Ghane discuss why she did this, and many other topics on this episode of ADHD reWired. Merage is a Clinical Psychology Ph.D. student in the eighth year of her PH.D. She shares her journey through being turned down many times to Ph.D. programs to finally being accepted and then getting her ADHD diagnosis.

Merage shares the struggles she had in college with concentration, how her parents reacted to her ADHD diagnosis, and why she chose to research the topic of uncertainty for her dissertation. Merage also discusses her research, what she is looking for within the study, the details of the scenarios she puts her test subjects through and how this research plays out in real-world situations with the variables that can affect the analysis.

Listen as Merage shares why she initially started her research on individuals with autism and attention networks, what she is looking for with her research, and the hardest thing about managing her ADHD while going through the P.h.D program. Merage used her real name in this episode because even though there could be repercussions, the fact is that she has ADHD, and she doesn't want to hide it.

Merage and Eric discuss how magical the ADHD community is, and what takeaways from the alumni coaching group she finds helpful. Merage is showing everyone that people with ADHD can accomplish anything they set their minds too. She isn't letting her diagnosis slow her down, and neither should you. If any of this resonates with you, plug in and listen to this amazing woman.

You'll Learn:

  • [01:46] Merage, welcome to the show!
  • [02:37] Merage shares where she went to school and where she is now.
  • [03:27] She shares her story from almost being diagnosed with ADHD in high school to her college career.
  • [05:04] Merage speaks about grad school and taking time off to get married.
  • [07:33] Have you always had a resilient spirit?
  • [08:10] Merage shares when she was actually diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [10:00] Merage speaks about studying in a closet with a silence please on the door.
  • [13:08] When you were diagnosed were you struggling with classes?
  • [14:20] Merage chats about being a girl with ADHD and how many women are diagnosed.
  • [16:09] She shares how telling her parents about the diagnosis and their acceptance.
  • [17:56] Merage tells us her parents were immigrants and how that affected who she trusted as she grew up.
  • [20:47] Merage shares what her research is about and how she decided to research this topic.
  • [26:00] She speaks about the issues she is studying for her dissertation.
  • [26:58] What are you looking for with this research?
  • [28:33] Merage describes the scenarios she puts before her subjects.
  • [31:41] How does your research play out in real-world situations?
  • [33:03] Merage shares the variables she is looking at that can affect the outcome of her research.
  • [34:27] Merage says she takes a very dimensional approach to psychopathology.
  • [37:34] Are you looking at the day to day decision making?
  • [40:32] Merage shares why she started looking at individuals with autism and attention networks.
  • [42:45] They speak about social executive function and how emotions change often and move quickly.
  • [44:23] Merage chats about a 3-minute talk competition she took part in and why.
  • [45:28] What's the hardest thing for you while managing your ADHD through a P.h.D program?
  • [46:13] Merage shares why she decided to use her real name even though there could be repercussions.
  • [54:23] Merage speaks about being in some coaching groups and the relatable experiences people shared.
  • [56:18] Why did you want to join the coaching groups?
  • [58:21] She discusses the challenges she had finding room in her schedule for the groups and how flexible the supervisors were.
  • [1:00:56] What did you take away from the coaching groups?
  • [1:02:51] Merage shares how she has been sleeping and the fact that she isn't getting any natural light.
  • [1:05:02] What are some things from the alumni sessions that have been helpful?
  • [1:08:02] Eric speaks about the ADHD conference and how magical the ADHD community is.
  • [1:09:10] Do you have anything else you want to share with the listeners?
  • [1:11:24] Merage thank you so much for being on the show today!
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Direct download: 310_Decision_Making_and_uncertainity-Merage_Ghane.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Breaking down the increments of time to organize behavior for people with ADHD is like driving in fog at slow speed. Listen to Eric and his guest Dr. Russell Ramsay as they discuss this, and many other topics on this episode of ADHD reWired. Dr. Ramsay is the co-founder and co-director of the University of Pennsylvania Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program and an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry in the Penn State Medical School. He is also the author of five books, including the recently released Rethinking Adult ADHD, along with many articles with issues relating to ADHD. 

How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable? Listen as Eric, and Dr. Ramsay discuss Cognitive Behavior Therapy, the difference between agency and efficacy, automatic negative thoughts, and core beliefs. Dr. Ramsay also shares that there are no trade secrets with coping strategies; the issue is with implementation and follow-through. Eric wonders if clients can be taught to change the questions they ask themselves and instead of being discouraged because all of something does not work, look and see if a part of it will work, look at the smaller picture. 

Listen in as Dr. Ramsay shares the difference between procrastination and front end perfectionism, along with general cognitive disorders in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD. Dr. Ramsay says that it is ok to start toward something with the end in mind, but remember to implement the next incremental step to reach the goal. 

Eric and Dr. Ramsay both share some extraordinary information about ADHD. Even though Cognitive Behavior Therapy sounds hard, these two break it down into layman terms so that we can all understand it. Small steps with realistic expectations can help you reach whatever goal you want to achieve.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:47] Dr. Russell Ramsay, welcome back to the show!
  • [03:09] Dr. Ramsay why are we rethinking adult ADHD?
  • [05:40] He speaks about the main cognitive theme in CBT [Cognitive Behavior Therapy].
  • [08:04] Dr. Ramsay discusses a scale that measures distorted positive thoughts.
  • [09:57] Do you know the difference between agency and efficacy?
  • [12:30] Dr. Ramsay speaks about automatic negative thoughts and core beliefs.
  • [15:45] There are no trade secrets for coping strategies we know they work, the problem is implementation.
  • [18:06] How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable?
  • [28:56] Dr. Ramsay addresses the overgeneralization of distortions in positive and negative ways.
  • [31:46] Eric wonders if maybe clients should be taught to change the questions they ask themselves.
  • [33:17] Dr. Ramsay says that writing is hard for everyone, so if you can sequence your thoughts conversationally, it can help you express things in a more precise way.
  • [34:20] Are there differences in general cognitive distortions in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD?
  • [37:02] Dr. Ramsay speaks about procrastination and front end perfectionism.
  • [38:03] Dr. Ramsay shares some areas of perfectionism that many people do not recognize and productive procrastination.
  • [41:04] What something you can do behaviourally even though it is not actionable?
  • [47:44] Dr. Ramsay discusses the unrealistic expectations of reality, lowering the bar of sufficiency.
  • [50:30] Organizing behavior across time towards an outcome that we want to achieve.
  • [51:33] Dr. Ramsay says to start with the end in mind but implement the next incremental step toward your goal.
  • [53:51] How long does it take for replacement thoughts to become automatic?
  • [56:39] Dr. Ramsay gives examples from a study of framing bias and remarks that framing a task so that it is actionable makes it seem more natural to accomplish.
  • [57:43] Dr. Ramsay, do you have any final thoughts for our listeners?
  • [59:28] Thank you so much for being on the show today.
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Direct download: 309_rethinking_Adult_ADHD_Dr._Russell_Ramsay.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Have you ever heard anyone say, "lazy is learned helplessness brought about by a lack of skills"? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

We start with a question about doing tasks when you don't feel well and how to hit a pause button around these tasks instead of a stop button. Getting accountability groups set up when you want to make sure you are accomplishing what you set out to do, how to ask a friend to be your accountability partner, and how to set up ground rules about what accountability is and isn't. It is always easier to have an accountability partner that is doing something similar or at least in the same ballpark as what you are doing.

A mom of a 7th grader asked the team how she should respond to his failing grades and his resistance to taking the prescribed medicines. Laura asks for tips on how to not beat yourself up over a failure to complete calendar tasks, and Jennifer from the U.K. wants to know if they have ever had someone on the podcast from an area where the resources are limited. Jennifer is also curious about the team's response to podcasts that are selling products to manage ADHD like essential oils as an alternative to medicines.

Listen in as we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:19] Welcome our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brenden Mahan.
  • [03:00] Madeline starts off with a question about getting tasks done when she is not feeling well.
  • [04:40] Will and Brenden give their feedback on what is a priority when they are not feeling well.
  • [07:01] Eric speaks about having the flu and the response he got when he couldn't get an episode out.
  • [08:50] Beware of the guilt, shame and anxiety feelings that can surface.
  • [12:08] Blake has an issue with his accountability and is asking for help.
  • [14:35] Eric asks if there are certain things he has found helpful in the past.
  • [15:45] What is the purpose of your need for accountability?
  • [18:05] They discuss setting up a daily task list and sharing it with someone.
  • [20:21] The follow up is a crucial thing with accountability. You need to report back to someone.
  • [23:21] Alexis is asking how do you choose a non-therapist to be your accountability partner?
  • [23:41] Eric speaks about needing to know what accountability is and what it isn't.
  • [24:29] Will says that setting up ground rules, in the beginning, is very helpful.
  • [26:20] Do you need an accountability partner to be doing something similar to what you are doing?
  • [32:02] Andrew feels either everything is great or everything is terrible and wants to know if they have any tips to help to level this out.
  • [33:57] Eric wants to know what time he is going to bed versus what time he is falling asleep and when he is waking up.
  • [36:34] Do you regularly? Do you eat correctly?
  • [39:08] When you have ADHD you have to think about your brain, do things that self-monitoring.
  • [40:20] A mom shares that her son is struggling with school and resistant to meds, she is asking for ideas.
  • [41:35] Brenden says that she needs to find out where the breakdown is at school and activate his school team to help figure this out.
  • [44:09] Do you know where the skill deficit is? What is going on right now?
  • [46:51] Brenden gives an example of how it feels to kids when they are trying hard, but the outcome doesn't show it.
  • [48:46] Laura wants to know how to manage the tendency to ignore your calendar to-do list?
  • [50:03] When you realize you haven't looked at your calendar, look at it, don't beat yourself up. Be more resilient, get up when you fall down.
  • [52:03] If you can only get one thing done today, what would that be?
  • [52:44] Will shares his tricks for getting back on track when he falls down.
  • [54:18] Don't beat yourself up because you missed a few days on your calendar starting with today.
  • [58:48] Jennifer wonders if they have ever had anyone on their podcasts from different areas like the U.K. about the limited resource.
  • [1:03:08] Do you have any tips for people looking for evidence-based resources on ADHD?
  • [1:05:05] Drug-free advertising for all-natural approaches for ADHD keeps people from trying the medication that could get their lives together.
  • [1:07:11] Brenden gives his insight into alternative ways to manage ADHD.
  • [1:10:30] Will believes that the more things claim to cure, the less it probably cures.
  • [1:11:26] Eric says that they support science and are curious about magic is what he believes is the consensus.
  • [1:12:03] Jennifer, thank you for your questions!
  • [1:13:16] Will and Brenden thank you as always.
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Direct download: 308_Jan_2020_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Were you aware that suicidal tendencies are more common in people with untreated ADHD? Listen to Eric's guest, Roberto Olivardia, as he explains his findings and gives his insight into the research that supports these statistics. Roberto is a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the Department of Psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School. He also has a private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, where he specializes in the treatment of ADHD and many other disorders. 

Roberto shares how he got involved with the study of ADHD and suicidality, and the research showing that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide. explains the Roberto believes that people with ADHD sometimes feel like they don't fit in, which is why finding their tribe is so important. 

Feeling like you don't belong, and are a burden to the people you love, can be a catalyst to suicide. If this resonates with you, please don't hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 for help.

Do you have any thoughts of hurting or harming yourself? If you are worried about someone, don't be scared to ask them this question. Roberto informs us that asking the question can erase the stigma and let them know that others are having these kinds of thoughts, and it's ok to talk about it. Listening without overreacting is the first thing you should do and never simplify what they are feeling. But if you believe that they are in imminent danger, it's time to get help by whatever means necessary.

Listen to this in-depth conversation on the statistics of suicide and ADHD. Eric and Roberto give a roadmap on what to do and say if you know someone who might be following a path of darkness without any hope of finding the light. Suicide is a subject that should be talked about, so spread the word you never know who you might be able to help.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:57] Roberto, welcome back to the show!
  • [03:07] Roberto please fill us in on how you got involved with ADHD and suicidality.
  • [04:12] He gives us statistics on the number of people who die by suicide every year.
  • [05:52] Roberto shares how ADHD can impact the treatment when dealing with both issues.
  • [07:04] There is research that shows that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide.
  • [07:24] Does that include people with ADHD but have never had depression?
  • [09:31] Roberto shares a study following kids with ADHD ages 4 to 6 for fourteen years showing how many of them had a plan for suicide during that time.
  • [10:32] Roberto describes the difference between self-harm versus suicide.
  • [13:02] He speaks about author Dr.Thomas Joiner a leading suicide specialist and his book 'Why People Die by Suicide.'
  • [15:57] Because people with ADHD are prone to impulsiveness, could there be a non-attempt attempt at suicide?
  • [18:34] Roberto tells us that many people who attempt suicide feel like they are burdens to their families and leaving will make it easier on them.
  • [21:06] If you feel like you are a burden or that you don't want to be here, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 to talk to someone about what you are feeling.
  • [27:01] Roberto shares a story where a client had rehearsed his suicide so often in his mind that he used it to self-soothing.
  • [29:40] Coping mechanisms can take many different forms, but you shouldn't be ashamed to tell someone about them.
  • [31:00] Roberto speaks about how he struggled in high school to find out where he fit in the world.
  • [34:41] How should someone respond if a loved one comes to them with thoughts of suicide? He says the first thing is to listen without overreacting.
  • [36:06] Praise them for being open and trusting you with these thoughts.
  • [37:31] Give them the National Suicide Prevention Hotline number 800-273-8255 and don't simplify it.
  • [39:57] If there is an imminent risk that they will follow through, it's time for them to get help as quickly as possible.
  • [41:39] Roberto shares that 50% of suicides are by firearms, 66% of gun deaths are suicides. 
  • [43:28] What are some lessons you have learned from people who have attempted suicide?
  • [45:00] If you have ADHD and major executive dysfunction it can be very difficult but there are ways and strategies to get through the challenges.
  • [47:56] Roberto chats about how important finding your tribe or community is because you are not alone.
  • [50:41] Roberto shares that non-suicide contracts do not work and are not effective.
  • [52:32] He speaks about occasions when churches wouldn't do funerals of people who died from suicide because of the stigma that lingers even today.
  • [54:22] Roberto wants listeners to know that there is help out there for anyone that has feelings of suicide.
  • [55:01] Thank you, Roberto, for being on the show, please come back again.
  • [55:47] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 307_Suicide_and_ADHD_-_Roberto_Olivardia.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am CDT

There is healing power in being creative as Eric's guest, Roxanne Jarrett, can testify. Roxanne is a singer and coach who performs in five languages and provides one on one intensive services to help creatives with ADHD finish their dream projects. As an arts educator, she facilitates workshops on various subjects, including acting, videography, writing, Shakespearean language, and authentic relating. Roxanne is living proof of the healing power of creativity. She practiced multiple art disciplines to heal from PTSD and no longer meets the criteria for that diagnosis.

 

Roxanne shares her journey of being a gifted child and the loneliness of being different. Being in high school at age twelve, college at sixteen and feeling overwhelmed and unequipped to handle the day to day struggles. Getting creative with how she studied got her through the next three years, and she graduated in four years on the Dean's list. Listen as she speaks about grad school, her stress level and finally breaking down and being hospitalized.

 

Roxanne speaks about being homeless because she fell into severe depression, how blessed she feels to have been exposed to art therapies and creativity, and why she decided to make creativity her primary recovery practice. She believes that creativity doesn't just build your self-esteem; it helps you maintain it. Roxanne shares that taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your hand is tangible proof of your value.

Even though Roxanne has faced many challenges, she has learned to see the beauty of those experiences. Can getting creative help you on your journey with ADHD? This conversation will show you the possibilities so relax and listen and hear.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:41] Roxanne, welcome to the show!
  • [03:32] Roxanne shares her journey from being a gifted child feeling lost to the success she has now.
  • [07:10] She chats about getting noticed by a teacher for her singing voice and how life-changing that was.
  • [09:43] Roxanne started high school at age 12 and by 16 she was leaving home to go away to college.
  • [11:55] She speaks about almost failing out of college her first year but the desire to stay caused her to get resourceful and creative to bring her grades up and graduate. 
  • [12:53] Did you go to any parties or where you totally focused on academics?
  • [13:34] Roxanne shares how she organized her second year of college so that she didn't have the same challenges as the first year.
  • [16:15] Roxanne and Eric discuss the similarities in their college experiences.
  • [23:58] Roxanne continued to improve in college and graduated in 4 years on the Dean's list and went to grad school.
  • [25:57] She got a master's in educational theater at NYU, directed a children's theater, worked as a researcher for the university, and started making.
  • [27:10] How was your stress level during this time? Did you have a breakdown?
  • [28:35] Roxanne shares falling into a deep depression after grad school and her self esteem bottoming out.
  • [30:41] She chats about the fear she buried after being kidnapped by a teacher when she was in high school.
  • [35:35] Roxanne speaks about being hospitalized at 25 and how that finally helped her start the healing process. She finally felt like she had hope.
  • [40:30] She talks about being in and out of recovery therapy for many years, once she found drama therapy she learned how to speak up for herself.
  • [43:27] Do you have a small voice telling you that you are not good enough?
  • [45:11] Roxanne wants anyone who is feeling unfulfilled or depressed to get creative by any means necessary, find what brings you joy.
  • [46:15] Taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your own hand is tangible proof of your value.
  • [48:44] What do you say to someone who says I am not a creative person?
  • [53:04] You can write and create from happiness, it might look different but it can be done.
  • [54:55] How do you help people with ADHD finish projects? 
  • [57:10] Roxanne says that a lot of people with ADHD need ongoing support and accountability.
  • [1:02:06] Roxanne sings a part of "Simple Gifts" for us.
  • [1:02:46] Thank you so much, Roxanne, for being on the show! 
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Direct download: 306_Creativity_Heals_with_Roxanne_Jarrett.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Welcome to episode 305 of ADHD reWired a mastermind session with your host Eric and a panel featuring Roxy, Tina, and Will. Aggie is in the hot seat, talking about expectations around communication and establishing boundaries around her need for it. She also wants to set boundaries when it comes to her phone and other areas daily so that she feels more productive and less stressed.

 

The group discuss Aggies issues with replying to texts with an affirmative to meet up with friends later but then not making it or being late. She chats about how people's expectations of her make her feel like a failure because she can't live up to them even though she tries.

 

Have you ever wanted to turn your phone off and be unreachable? Listen in as they talk about the habits they all have around their phones and how in the moment you can be when your phone is off. Aggie speaks about not paying attention when texting someone back and giving them the wrong information, not remembering events that are texted to her, and maybe trying to add the events to her calendar consistently. 

 

Do you have trouble with communication? Are you on time for commitments? Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. These mastermind sessions are a great way to get thoughts and insights from your peers on issues that you might think only affect you. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.

 

 

You'll Learn:

  • [02:08] The mastermind today will be with Aggie.
  • [03:03] Aggie tells us what she wants help with.
  • [04:25] What other should be we know about?
  • [06:04] Do you feel like there have been changes with communication since your mastermind a year ago?
  • [08:13] They discuss her scheduled social interaction and what happens with it.
  • [09:10] What questions do you all have, Roxy, Tina or Will?
  • [09:50] Aggie says when the request is immediately she is more successful with going.
  • [11:13] Roxy wants Aggie to expand on the expectations of others and the challenges.
  • [13:40] Do you feel shame when you don't return calls or texts?
  • [15:00] Aggie discusses being late and her friends being upset because it always happens.
  • [16:48] Can you have people in your life that you feel comfortable having a conversation about your struggles?
  • [18:11] Will speaks about the issues that Aggie has been having.
  • [20:38] Do you like the feeling of being off the and no one can get a hold of you?
  • [21:57] They discuss having automatic messages saying when you will return calls.
  • [26:41] The group chats about their phone habits and when they turn them off.
  • [29:17] Do you sleep at night? Do you get texts when you are asleep? Yes, you can make it so that people can't contact you at certain times.
  • [31:23] Aggie discusses what time would be a great time to not have her phone on.
  • [32:44] Where do you find your cellphone helpful as a tool?
  • [34:04] Roxy talks about the wallpaper on her phone that says, "Why are you here?"
  • [36:10] Will speaks about how he uses his phone and the roadblocks he uses.
  • [37:43] Aggie in what way are you being distracted by your phone?
  • [40:01] Have you ever messed up a reply when texting someone because you weren't paying attention?
  • [44:20] You can add events on your text directly to your calendar, do you do that consistently?
  • [48:04] Roxy adds her insight to texting and it not being casual anymore. She also speaks to a failproof way of communication for Aggie.
  • [50:58] Aggie chats about taking a pause before replying to text messages.
  • [52:44] Roxy tells Aggie what she used to do to cover the face of her phone so she couldn't see messages.
  • [53:28] Will talks about his Apple watch and how that has helped him when viewing and replying to text messages.
  • [55:05] How often do you get long texts from people? Do you send long texts?
  • [59:01] Finding Aggie a spot to text from, so she has to go there to text.
  • [1:00:51] Maybe only using your computer when replying so that you can schedule for more than just a day.
  • [1:01:46] Any other commitments you want to share right now?
  • [1:02:08] I hope this was helpful to you, Aggie, and I hope it was helpful to you, the listeners.
  • [1:02:54] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 305_Aggie_Mastermind_-_Phone_and_text_communications_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

This is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our first question is from a listener who has been struggling to get a professional diagnose of what she believes is ADHD. She keeps getting the runaround and is asking for advice on where to go from here. Vanessa wants tips for dealing with avoidance issues when it comes to her work and financial habits, and another listener is asking what they should be looking for in an ADHD coach and what they should expect once they find one. 

Daniel wants to find out what he can do when he lacks the motivation to get things done, why sleep is so important, and getting tested for sleep apnea. Emily's question is what can she do with her history of unfinished projects, and Ben has a question about how marijuana and alcohol affect people with ADHD. Another listener asks the panel how to stay focused on a project once the new wears off.

We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:

You'll Learn:

  • [02:04] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A.
  • [02:33] Listener talks about trying to get diagnosed and having issues with professionals that don't have any knowledge of ADHD.
  • [03:45] They suggest she get a second opinion and still do the management techniques.
  • [06:03] What is causing you to down an ADHD diagnosis? What are your challenges?
  • [07:01] How long have you suspected you have ADHD?
  • [07:17] The challenges of just starting college is something they give some feedback on.
  • [09:42] Vanessa's question is around tips for dealing with avoidance issues with her work habits, she explains.
  • [12:21] Eric is asking the panel, who of you have ever felt this way?
  • [13:33] They talking about and discussing some core issues.
  • [14:15] In regards to your finances, what have you put into place to help you?
  • [15:49] The next question is what should I look for in an ADHD coach and what should I expect once I have one?
  • [16:13] Will says it depends on how old you are and where you are in your life because that makes a difference. They talk about the credentials you should look for.
  • [18:06] They talk about the ways to find a coach that works for you and the personality that you might work best with.
  • [24:24] We are back with Vanessa once she finished what Eric asked her to do.
  • [27:24] Daniel wants help with a lack of motivation to do things he needs to do and wants to do.
  • [27:45] Eric gives a rundown on ADHD and motivation.
  • [29:50] What is your need for stimulation? Are you low energy or high energy?
  • [31:28] They discuss his lack of sleep and how important it is for people with ADHD to get rest.
  • [37:32] How would you feel if you looked back on your life 30 years from now and know that you wanted to make changes but didn't.
  • [39:46] Emily says that her life is a series of unfinished projects, what can she do?
  • [41:01] Eric addresses this with her.
  • [45:46] How long have you had boxes in your home? How long has it been since you moved?
  • [51:40] Ben has a question about how alcohol and pot affect ADHD.
  • [52:13] Eric says that the current research doesn't now encourage the use of marijuana to manage ADHD symptoms; he gives details.
  • [55:48] A listener has a question around the hyperfocus of starting something new and then getting tired of it as the new wears off.
  • [58:19] Can you set yourself up so that you are doing more than one thing at a time?
  • [1:01:47] They discuss planning breaks, do a project, and then give yourself a time frame for time off.
  • [1:05:08] We do this every 2nd week of the month with Will and Brendan.
  • [1:06:38] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: 304_December_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Kyle. Kyle is a nineteen, born and raised near Vancouver British Columbia and was diagnosed with ADHD, an attentive type in June of 2019. Since his diagnosis, he has learned a lot about himself, how ADHD affects him and many great and not so great things that life has to offer. He is on the show for some coaching and assistance from Eric about the choices he needs to make and how ADHD can affect his future.

Kyle discusses his childhood, pivotal moments growing up, and how school was always easy for him. He speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD as a senior, then realizing he could see himself in the way his dad did things and how he talked to him about getting tested for ADHD. He also tells us about partying in 10th grade, how it affected his classes, and how marijuana helped and hindered his ADHD. He also talks about his friend dying right in front of him and how it was his wake up call that something needed to change.

What is your action plan to make college happen? This is a question Eric asks because Kyle wants to go to college, but right now, he is not financially able. They discuss asking his parents for money, getting student loans, and the pros and cons of both. Kyle doesn't like to ask for help, but to make this dream come true, he is going to have to do something. Eric talks to him about making the plan and following through, whatever that might look like.

Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. Once you have an action plan and the process, it doesn't seem so overwhelming. If you are not happy with your job prospects straight out of high school, ask for help, and take the next step in your education like Eric is encouraging Kyle to do. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.

You'll Learn:

  • [01:39] Kyle, welcome to the show!
  • [02:40] He is looking for some coaching and advice about what he wants to do with his life.
  • [04:31] Kyle talks about his childhood and some of the pivotal things that have occurred in his life.
  • [07:05] How was a school for you growing up?
  • [08:26] Kyle speaks about what he did when school got too hard and how he handled it.
  • [09:43] He tells us that in grade 10 he started partying and when he stopped doing homework.
  • [11:16] Did your parents provide structure for you growing up?
  • [12:42] Kyle discusses telling his parents and siblings they need to get tested for ADHD.
  • [15:39] In 10th grade did your grades decline?
  • [16:43] He chats about how marijuana affected his ADHD both the good and the bad.
  • [18:37] Kyle talks about a traumatic event that happened to him this last year.
  • [19:48] Did the realization of your mortality wake you up?
  • [25:56] Kyle says that he wants to go back to school, but the cost of living is so high that he can't work part-time and survive financially.
  • [27:06] Have you started saving money while you are working?
  • [27:35] Are your parents not able to help you with college? Have you thought about student loans?
  • [28:50] Kyle speaks about not wanting to ask his parents for money to help him.
  • [30:01] How are you with asking for help in general?
  • [31:15] Did your parents go to college? Would you be the first one in your family to get a degree?
  • [32:21] He chats about his extended family.
  • [34:30] He talks to Eric about the homework Eric assigned him to do before the podcast.
  • [36:38] What are your earning prospects at your current job? What is the highest earning potential?
  • [39:34] Kyle tells what his go-to response is too tricky situations?
  • [42:34] He wants to work with people and help them through situations he has been through. They discuss his whycue.
  • [47:00] Eric talks to Kyle about college and how to save money, time, and career choices.
  • [48:45] Kyle tells us he is always trying to find ways to save money.
  • [51:34] What actions do you need to do to make visiting colleges possible?
  • [52:17] They discuss his action plan to make college possible in his future.
  • [57:05] You have been talking about one school, what are the other options?
  • [58:22] What about online courses? Have you ever taken one?
  • [59:35] What are all the helping professions in the area you live in?
  • [1:01:00] Kyle says he has a cousin that has a degree in social work, so Eric says to message her.
  • [1:02:27] Now that you messaged her, how does it feel? Do you feel empowered?
  • [1:04:34] They review the action steps and go through each one to see the objective.
  • [1:07:01] Eric encourages Kyle to take the next step and move forward.
  • [1:09:23] Can you make school your full-time job?
  • [1:10:44] When will you take the following action step and call to set up an appointment with the college?
  • [01:11:34] Eric asks Kyle to contact him later today and let him know what he found out.
  • [01:12:49] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_303_Kyle_Taking_the_next_step.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Welcome to the second mastermind session of ADHD reWired. Will Curb is in the hot seat this episode discussing his podcast with Roxy, Tina, Aggie, and of course, Eric. A mastermind session is where we have one person bring a topic that they want some help with, and everyone in the group will give their insight to help them with that particular topic.

The group today will discuss Will's question of where he should be, how he can figure out his trajectory for 2020. He is thinking that just having the podcast isn't enough. He feels like he could do more to monetize the podcast, but he doesn't want it to appear like he is in this only for the money. Do people appreciate a service more if they spend money on it? This is Will's conundrum.

What can I do to grow the podcast in 2020? Eric and the mastermind group talk about how great the podcast is and share their ideas on how Will can do this and let him know that the podcast is doing great. They discuss the reviews on the podcast and relay how much people are relying on what he says about ADHD to help them with their diagnosis. They also chat about doing a content calendar for all the topics that Will wants to use for his podcasts in the new year.

This mastermind episode is all about helping Will to see ways to grow his listeners and grow the content of his podcast. Listen in as the group gives him valuable advice, fantastic ideas, and offers to help him in any way they can. If you have never listened to Will's podcast the link is below, if you are a fan, please let him know what you would like to hear about in the coming year.

Links:

Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb

You'll Learn:

  • [02:19] Welcome to the second mastermind episode.
  • [03:35] Will describes what he is wanting help with.
  • [06:15] Eric chats about head junk around money.
  • [07:41] How would you figure out if people would pay for your service?
  • [08:32] They open the floor to the mastermind for their response.
  • [09:28] How do you self assess what you have done so far?
  • [12:20] Eric says he should get a group to listen to his podcast and let him know how good it is.
  • [13:34] Are you getting reviews on your podcast?
  • [16:51] Eric pulled up Will's podcast to read the to help Will.
  • [19:10] Will are you enjoying creating the podcast?
  • [20:23] Will speaks about the numbers related to his podcast and how many downloads he gets per week.
  • [22:42] Aggie gives her input to Will about what he is doing.
  • [25:01] Will wants to know how he can grow the podcast in 2020.
  • [25:08] Eric gives his ideas on how to improve Will's podcast.
  • [27:02] They discuss the tools that some people need to manage their ADHD.
  • [29:23] Do you have a way for people to call in or questions they may have?
  • [31:34] They speak about Will's dry sense of humor and how great that is.
  • [33:13] What would it look like to have a tutorial about the tools and would you want to collaborate?
  • [34:37] a content calendar, it will help you coordinate your topics for the year.
  • [36:44] Will talks about a calendar tool and how to effectively put things into it.
  • [38:38] Do you think people are looking for how to use the tool? Maybe do an episode on the tool you use then have other people talk about the one they use.
  • [41:34] What tools are you going to use to create the content for this?
  • [44:15] One of Will's goals this past year was to finish all of the courses he signed up for.
  • [47:37] Are there questions you are afraid to ask around technology?
  • [51:30] Managing your systems is a topic Will wants to explore.
  • [53:00] Eric thinks the should get into neuroscience like talking about dopamine and ADHD.
  • [54:15] If you keep your focus very narrow, you will have the most credibility.
  • [58:07] They discuss the next action steps for Will to take.
  • [1:01:18] Eric gives him audio hacks.
  • [1:02:13] Planning a project is the first step.
  • [1:02:47] Tina thinks that Patreon is the best voting system Will can use.
  • [1:03:41] What things do you the listeners want to hear? What do you yell at the speakers?
  • [1:05:38] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 302_Will_Curb_Mastermind_-_Deciding_what_to_offer.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

This episode of ADHD reWired is one of two mastermind sessions that will be released this month. Tena is in the hot seat this episode talking about emotional dysregulation with Roxy, Will, Aggie, and of course, Eric. A mastermind session is where we take a topic or issue that someone is having a problem with and do a deep dive into it to help the person find clarity.

 

Tena discusses how emotional dysregulation has affected her life. The group speaks about what triggers to look for and how being dehydrated can affect your behavior. Tena and Eric both talk about when they were diagnosed with ADHD, how it changed their lives, what they are doing today to manage it, and how self-compassion is critical when you have ADHD.

 

They all give their thoughts to Tena around what she can do to help herself at work, what software programs can be beneficial, and her need for a team to see what she misses. Tena goes on to discuss where her issues show up other than when she is at work and what they think would help her cope with it better.

 

Listen in as they have an informative discussion about triggers that create emotional dysregulation, issues surrounding self-care, self-management, drinking more water, and adding exercise. The mastermind panel gives Tena ideas and tools to manage the problems she is having, that you can't control ADHD with logic, and she needs to ask for help sometimes to manage it.

 

If you have issues with emotional dysregulation or want to know what it means, this is the episode for you. This mastermind team brings a lot of knowledge, ideas, and insight into this issue, and it's all to help you. If any of this resonates with you, don't miss this episode.



You'll Learn:

  • [03:52] Welcome to this mastermind episode.
  • [04:18] Tena discusses what her emotional dysregulation issue is.
  • [06:18] She tells us that she isn't processing tasks out far enough, and when she isn't prepared, she gets furious.
  • [08:00] Eric tries to get to the bottom of why her emotional dysregulation takes over at times.
  • [08:43] Will asks her if she drinks enough water.
  • [11:29] What does ADHD acceptance look like for you?
  • [12:34] You have been managing your ADHD for how long? What does that look like?
  • [14:38] Eric talks about his ADHD diagnosis and how he's trying to manage it.
  • [16:26] Tena speaks about being able to have self-compassion around parenting.
  • [17:06] Aggie gives her perspective on the issues Tena is having.
  • [18:45] Roxie chats with her insights also and examples of what Tena can do.
  • [20:09] When you were in real estate did you have a team that helped you? Maybe you need a team now in this business you have.
  • [21:37] What is the background around when your emotional dysregulation? 
  • [23:18] Will talks about being upset when he isn't prepared for something that is happening and gets mad.
  • [26:37] Tena says she needs an inventory system because she doesn't have one, and maybe that would help her down the road.
  • [29:01] They all give Tena some idea of software tools she can use to help her in her company.
  • [32:50] Tena where else does this show up beside at work?
  • [33:21] They discuss her organizational skills and expectations of others.
  • [34:52] She says she doesn't know where to start most of the time.
  • [36:52] How often do you have a specific repeated mistake?
  • [38:35] Is there a particular time of day that you usually lose your cool?
  • [40:36] Tena speaks about her retirement project that has turned into a successful business.
  • [42:21] Where are you compared to most eBay sellers? Do you get ranked?
  • [44:38] Tena says she does not currently exercise because it is such a struggle.
  • [45:28] Excercise is part of emotional self-management.
  • [48:18] Eric thinks that Tena should have a YouTube channel to offset the costs of hiring people to help her.
  • [50:31] Fascination attracts people.
  • [54:25] Will speaks about a dirty pan and cookie sheet that ruined his day. You can't control the ADHD beast with logic.
  • [56:51] Tena, what do you see yourself doing to try to manage this?
  • [57:33] When you feel the emotions rising, do something physical, it can help.
  • [59:06] If you can financially support this podcast, it would be much appreciated.
  • [1:00:15] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles:

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: 301_Tena_Getting_emotionally_derailed_-_Mastermind.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

ADHD reWired is doing something different today, Cameron Gott is interviewing Eric. Cameron is an ADHD coach, that typically works with entrepreneurs, professionals, and small business owners to make better decisions and leading teams. He also trains coaches with two organizations and has started his own podcast.

Cameron likes to use the curious accountability model for interviewing and will interview Eric with this same process. He likes to use it because it is a useful model for people with ADHD; we tend not to look back and reflect. Cameron wants us to imagine a rope bridge, the near side is resources, and the far side is the successful outcome. The middle of the rope bridge is the actual engagement, the anchor that leads from the resources to the successful results.

He starts by asking Eric questions about where he is at right now and how he feels about this being his 300th episode. Eric says that over time, he has become a perfectionist, and the challenge this can be when editing a podcast. He talks about his son's diagnosis of ADHD and autism and how that was the impetus for him starting the podcast.

Listen in as Cameron pulls some interesting new information out of Eric. With Eric on the other end of the microphone, you never know what he might say. You won't be disappointed, and you will learn a little about what makes Eric tick. Don't miss episode 300.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:05] Welcome to the show, Cameron.
  • [04:08] The topic today will be curious accountability.
  • [07:13] Eric where are you as you stand in this place, what is it to be here at this outcome?
  • [12:38] They discuss Eric's accomplishments and how much he has done with this podcast, the spinoffs, and his coaching.
  • [18:37] What was the impetus for starting this podcast?
  • [22:38] His son was born and he realized his son was ADHD on the autism spectrum.
  • [29:12] Eric talks about the first episodes and how they unfolded, there was no grand plan.
  • [32:29] Was there any time commitment on your part when you started this podcast?
  • [35:19] Eric discusses his coaching groups and the promise he made to it.
  • [40:29] He tells us he struggled with work-life balance when he had his practice. He worked hard for his son but he never saw his son.
  • [45:34] He speaks about releasing episode 47 @ 55 mph and the feedback he received from his listeners.
  • [48:34] Consistency with wiggle room
  • [51:56] Is there a surprise that came out of the left-field from this journey you've been on?
  • [57:35] Looking forward what do you see happening in the future? Opportunities for growth? Spinoffs?
  • [1:02:46] Thank you, Eric, for 300 episodes, and we can't wait for more.
  • [1:03:28] Cameron's podcast is translating ADHD @ translatingadhd.com.
  • [1:04:44] Cameron, thank you for doing this episode.
  • [1:05:00] Thank you, everyone, and if I forget someone, know that I appreciate you.

Links and Resources

Direct download: 300_Cameron_Gott_interviews_Eric_Tivers.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our questions today are about walking the line between self-care and coddling, how to manage the anger of your ADHD diagnosis, breastfeeding and ADHD medicines, and the guilt when you chose to stop breastfeeding to get back on track. They discuss a question about self-regulating with a focus on how to handle active real emotions management instead of losing your mind and some tricks they use to alleviate the stress. The last question today is about letting people know you've been diagnosed with ADHD and how to handle the feelings of coming out.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug. You should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

Your Resources:



You'll Learn:

  • [02:03] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A.
  • [02:30] They discuss their thoughts on a viewer's question about self-care vs. coddling.
  • [08:12] Ways to know the difference between the two.
  • [12:05] A view wants to know how to handle the anger of diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [13:20] The team speaks about how they are managing and tips that might help.
  • [18:08] The external thoughts that go through your mind when getting the actual diagnosis of ADHD.
  • [29:41] A mom's question about breastfeeding and the meds to control ADHD.
  • [31:35] They ask questions about her doctor and the meds that are safe to take.
  • [34:16] The guilt when you decide to stop breastfeeding in favor of the meds.
  • [37:01] You can bond with your baby even if you don't breastfeed.
  • [42:22] The second child is not more relaxed than the first one.
  • [44:48] A question about how to self regulate and how to handle strong physical reactions without losing your shit.
  • [44:49] Eric gives us ways he handles his responses.
  • [47:30] Can you remove yourself from the situation?
  • [49:45] Will talks about what works for him when he needs to manage his emotions.
  • [56:29] How did you tell people about your diagnosis? Did it feel like a coming out?
  • [01:00:25] Brendon gives ideas on how to say to people that you have ADHD.
  • [01:04:13] Do you have a community that will support you? Friends, neighbors, or coworkers?
  • [01:06:26] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show.
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Direct download: 299_Nov_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Dusty Exner to the show. Dusty is an ADHD coach, mother, and musician from Vancouver B.C. She was formerly the front person for the punk rock band Kill Matilda. Dusty is one of the founders of girls rock camp La Paz in Baha, California. She lives in a suburb of Vancouver with her husband, daughter Melanie Sue, bird Professor, and dog Hemingway.

Dusty discusses being diagnosed with ADHD, touring with her band and living in a van, and the fact that she is trying to get used to being successful with her coaching business. She tells us she is still interested in music, and they have talked about getting the band back together, but she doesn't know what that will look like at this time.

She talks about being a mom, and all the struggles that you have to fight through with ADHD. Dusty chats about strategies to use when you feel that you are not present with your kids and how to practice self-compassion. Remember, it's the little moments you get each day with your children that matter, take advantage of those times. 

If you are struggling with ADHD, your career, and your family, this is the episode for you. Listen in as Dusty lays it all out, how she handles it, and some tips and tricks to make it easier for you. You won't want to miss this discussion so plugin, sit back, and get ready to be wowed.

You'll Learn:

  • [03:16] Welcome to the show, Dusty.
  • [04:41] Dusty talks about when she was diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [05:09] What did he see that made him think you had ADHD?
  • [05:51] She talks about living in a van and touring with her band and dog.
  • [09:17] Dusty says she is trying to get used to the idea of being successful and talks about building her coaching business.
  • [13:16] She plays the banjo now but is still involved in music. She and her husband are talking about getting the band back together.
  • [15:49] Dusty discusses her husband and his background in music and her ability to raise money.
  • [17:46] She believes that her ADHD caused her to fail at music the first time because it was so hard to settle down to practice.
  • [20:43] Dusty talks about missing being in a band and how ADHD affected it.
  • [30:04] They speak about instruments and which one Eric plays.
  • [32:11] Eric tells Dusty about the song he wrote for the conference.
  • [34:52] Eric talks about a blog post that he read about having children and how difficult it is to make time for them.
  • [37:21] What strategies do you use to take the time to play with your kids?
  • [40:24] She discusses how she worked around being a new mom with starting her new business and everything else she does with ADHD.
  • [42:51] When you find yourself not being present with your daughter, how do you practice self-compassion?
  • [49:04] When do you feel successful with ADHD? 
  • [50:13] They talk about the book The Success Principles by Jack Canfield.
  • [51:28] Dusty chats about her degree in Anthropology.
  • [56:15] Is imposter syndrome real? Have you ever felt it?
  • [59:03] Dusty talks about how she coaches people and their relationship to money.
  • [01:01:57] Thank you so much for being on the show, Dusty!

Links and Resources

Direct download: 298_Getting_Used_to_Success_Dusty_Exner.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:41pm CDT

ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Natalie Walker to the show. Natalie is a professional musician and just released her new EP in September, which was her first since 2015. This Colorado-based singer has seen many changes in the last four years, from parting with her longtime label to being diagnosed with ADHD. Natalie has learned to embrace her different brain and has opened up about the challenges that have come from being a young, awkward kid with ADHD, learning how to navigate a thriving creative path to adulthood.

Eric and Natalie discuss music, albums, and writing songs. Natalie tells us what she's been up to since her last album dropped in 2015 and her new EP in September, why she likes Instagram but dislikes Facebook, and how to make Instagram do the marketing for this podcast. Natalie speaks about starting her label and her inability to do the bookkeeping herself.

Have you ever looked at your financials and been ashamed? Natalie discusses seeing her and feeling like a failure, how her scarcity mindset tells her she will never be rich, and all the problems she feels come with having large amounts of money. They talk about getting a financial planner and a bookkeeper, don't stress yourself out over something you aren't good at instead concentrate on what your strengths are and let someone else handle the rest.

Listen as Eric and Natalie talk about issues surrounding money, how financial advisors can help, and where to get referrals. Have you listened to Natalie's music? Her new song Starry Eyed Kids closes out this episode, it's the latest single off of her recently released EP Evenfall. You won't want to miss this behind the scenes look at a successful musician with ADHD and her struggles with money.

You'll Learn:

  • [02:21] Welcome to the show, Natalie.
  • [03:27] Eric talks about writing an original song for the ADHD conference and the hardest parts of writing and singing the song.
  • [06:38] Natalie tells us she doesn't play an instrument and sing because it is to difficult. She starts with a feeling when she writes.
  • [07:48] She speaks about what happened between her 2015 album and the one she just released.
  • [10:43] She chats about starting a patreon last year.
  • [12:21] Natalie talks about her opposition to Facebook and the chaos that it contains.
  • [15:05] Do you understand Instagram? Do you like to engage in that way?
  • [23:34] She tells us she started her label and chats about why she did it and her anxiety around doing the books.
  • [26:09] Should she hire an accountant or learn to do it herself?
  • [29:57] Natalie discusses her inability to manage her finances and how it makes her feel ashamed.
  • [34:04] Her mindset is that she will never be rich, she feels afraid of money and the financial mistakes she could potentially make.
  • [35:05] Do you have a financial advisor? Do you have a scarcity mindset?
  • [38:30] Natalie says that she had no models for managing money when she was growing up. She wasn't good at math in school, so she stays away from it.
  • [42:56] Ask a friend or coworker if they have a financial advisor and if they would recommend them.
  • [45:05] Natalie says there is so much noise around money, and she can't shut her mind off.
  • [48:24] She wants to know when Eric got a financial advisor and how he went about it.
  • [54:42] What makes a bookkeeper that handles the music industry different than a regular bookkeeper?
  • [59:45] Eric is talking about making Natalie accountable for reaching out to her network to ask for help finding a bookkeeper and financial advisor.
  • [01:03:15] Making money making music is the dream for Natalie.
  • [01:04:07] Thank you to all of our patreons that support this podcast you have no idea how much it is appreciated.
  • [01:07:31] Starry Eyed Kids off her new EP take us out.

Links and Resources:

Direct download: 297_Create_Dont_Suffocate_with_Natalie_Walker.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:09am CDT

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

We are discussing time blindness and why people don't allow themselves enough time to get where they are going without being late. Ways to remind ourselves what we need to take with us before we are in the car and strategies to help teenagers understand time restrictions. 

Eric, Brendan, and Will talk about the different types of behavior therapy and compare DBT for ADHD and CBT. The unknowns with CBD because it isn't regulated, the connection between ADHD and sleeplessness plus some strategies that might help you get some rest. Reducing screen time before bed is essential so we can shut down our brains and let them take a break from information gathering.

Our monthly Q & A sessions are a great way for us to talk to listeners and hash out things they are wondering about. If you have a question, please feel free to email us at ADHDRewired.com, and we will try to give suggestions on ways to handle whatever it is.

Listen in to this episode and see if the questions asked and answered are possibly things you have been wondering about. These entertaining friends can solve the pressing issues with an optimism that will leave you asking for more.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:24] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A.
  • [03:45] Our listener asks a question about time blindness.
  • [04:20] Have you been able to make any improvements? What strategies have you put in place, so you are on time?
  • [06:10] Do you tell yourself something will take you ten minutes, but it takes much longer?
  • [09:13] Have a plan for what to do when you get there if you are early.
  • [11:30] Why do we only remember things when we are getting in the car to leave?
  • [13:02] How do we remind ourselves much earlier? What can I use to jog my mind before?
  • [23:29] What are some strategies to use when teens with ADHD that have time blindness?
  • [28:12] Making things much worse than they are, magnifying things. A listener wants approaches to stop doing this.
  • [37:95] Ryan asks, how well does DBT work with ADHD compared to CBT?
  • [42:26] They discuss CBD oil for sleep and to relax muscles.
  • [45:41] ADHD and lack of sleep seem to go hand in hand and strategies that can help. Eric gives examples of what he had to do at his house.
  • [54:27] A listener asks about reducing screen time and what counts as screen time.
  • [01:01:04] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Direct download: 296_Oct2019_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:20pm CDT

Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Elaine Birchall. Elaine is a social worker and a hoarding behavior and intervention specialist. She is the director of Birchall Consulting and is dedicated to helping those with hoarding behaviors to learn to manage their possessions and vulnerabilities. She founded the Canadian National Hoarding Coalition and hosted the weekly Voice America radio show Take Back Your Life When Things are Taking Over and many other things.

Elaine describes hoarding as a disorder that leads to excessive accumulations of stuff, some or all of your living spaces are not useable because of things and stress or impairment of functioning because there are piles of stuff. You might say to people I am a bit of a hoarder, but unless the symptoms repeatedly occur, consistently and extend over some time, it's probably not hoarding. The younger a person is when diagnosed with the disorder, the better the chance of recovery is.

For some people decluttering a room is very difficult. Elaine gives us tips and tricks to keep it from taking so long. The key to a list is keeping it close by, you don't want to look for it, or you might get sidetracked, and the whole hampster on a wheel things starts over.

Elaine tells us to set three goals every day to get your decluttering done and still have time to do what you want. She talks about her scaling system so you can decide how to categorize the items you need to get rid of. Can you rip your house apart and get it all done in one day? Elaine says to find out how much energy you have and do a task that matches it. Don't have the power to do a 15 min job, but try to handle an hour's situation. It won't work. 

Listen to this fantastic conversation, and if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. You never know when you may have an ah-ha moment. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.

You'll Learn:

  • [03:04] Elaine, welcome to the show!
  • [03:47] They chat about hoarding confoundedness and vulnerabilities.
  • [04:21] Elaine, how did you get into specializing in hoarding?
  • [07:52] There are three criteria of hoarding. Elaine defines and explains them.
  • [12:21] Hoarding and ADHD can have very similar rules.
  • [14:35] It needs to be repeated, consistent, and extend over some time before you can call it hoarding.
  • [15:53] When diagnosed early, it is easier to recover than if you wait, and the groove gets more profound, then you can only manage it.
  • [22:32] What triggers the hoarding disorder? What is the Path?
  • [27:33] Being in control of a part of your life gives you peace like a clean.
  • [29:51] Don't put it down, put it away!
  • [30:19] Catch yourself when you say I'll pick it up later. Tell yourself, do it now.
  • [31:58] The trick is to take a second, hold the thing in your hand, and ask yourself if I was looking for you where you would be?
  • [32:44] Two ways to remediate the clutter is the swiss cheese method or pick a spot and start in a corner and work your way around.
  • [35:27] Externalize the message so that it occupies time and space. A chalkboard list or a list on your phone.
  • [38:01] Set three goals every day (1) Have joy, fun, and play (2) remind yourself that you are a developing human being (3) Legitimate work.
  • [41:48] Elaine explains her rule of three.
  • [42:27] Elaine talks about her scaling system around clutter.
  • [44:02] Can you rip your house apart and do the whole thing in one day?
  • [44:48] Gage how much fuel you have and find a job that matches that.
  • [49:24] Elaine runs two support groups for hoarding, but she is preparing to do an online group also.
  • [51:32] Elaine gives us some tools to use on how to approach someone with this disorder.
  • [52:06] Get Elaine’s book, it is designed to fill the gap if you aren’t getting help.
  • [54:31] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

Links and Resources

Direct download: 295_Elaine_Birchall.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

In this Mastermind Session, we have Emily in the hot seat on the subject of emotional regulation. She tells us that she is not capable of regulating anything when her switch gets flipped. When that happens, she does and says things that could get her injured or put in jail, and that while she is in the moment, she feels very positive she is in the right. 

Are conflict and the feelings it causes a way to self-medicate? They discuss why she levels up to crazy mad so fast and the euphoria she feels afterward. She tells us that she does not repress her emotions. If someone makes her angry, she will let them know in no uncertain terms. Emily gives examples of what she means when she says she is ready to change her perceptions up to a point.

Eric talks to Emily about coming to conflict from a place of love instead of anger. Finding out why the person acted that way instead of assuming they have character has flaws. Try doing something to reset the mind instead of giving in to the anger.

Did you know that the natural fluctuations of hormones both monthly and through different phases of life can increase ADHD? If this gives you pause, and you think, could it be that easy? Please talk to your doctor.

If any of this resonates with you, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. Listen to this mastermind and see if they can help you come up with the answers you are seeking. If not, answers maybe ideas of where to search next. Sit back, relax, and push play.

You'll Learn:

  • 01:33] Welcome to the show Emily, Roxy, Aggie, and Will.
  • [02:03] Emily tells us a little about why she is here.
  • [07:14] She tells us that she is ready to change her perceptions of situations up to a point.
  • [08:09] They discuss whether a conflict is a way for her to self-medicate.
  • [11:51] Have you had any negative fallout from your actions?
  • [12:52] She is being controlled by the anger that consumes her.
  • [14:07] Emily tells us she does not repress her emotions. If she gets mad at something someone does, she lets them know.
  • [16:35] She tells us what she means by changing her perceptions up to a point.
  • [18:01] They talk about her being impulsive and that it is a part of ADHD.
  • [19:41] When your switch gets flipped, where do you feel it? Temples? Chest?
  • [21:49] Eric encourages her to reenact and do role play so she can learn to handle her feelings.
  • [26:10] They discuss her personality and how great it would be if she could react in a loving matter instead of anger.
  • [33:27] She is encouraged to leave when she feels like she is going to explode, go to an empty room or her car.
  • [36:04] Eric talks about her brain being hijacked.
  • [38:58] Are you open to discussing new medications? Please speak to your prescribing physician.
  • [44:11] Have you ever taken an anger management class? Would you?
  • [44:59] Anger can be a secondary emotion, and fear could be the primary emotion.
  • [45:23] Progesterone levels can affect your ADHD medication.
  • [48:10] Hormone levels change monthly and can affect the effectiveness of your meds.
  • [50:29] Eric talks about the vagus nerve that can be used to reset your reactions.
  • [52:39] Emily speaks about the commitments she wants to make from what's been discussed today.
  • [54:33] Thank you, Emily, for sharing today and keep working on it.
  • [56:32] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com
  • [57:34] If you would like a pack of podcast postcards to hand out, please request them at www.ADHDreWired.com.
  • [58:04] If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review and to the podcast.
  • [58:45] Not sure where to start Eric, give us some titles of books that can help.

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Direct download: 294_Mastermind_Session_-_Emily.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Welcome back to ADHD reWired. In this episode, we welcome Tanya Brakeman. Tanya is an Interior Designer, writer, teacher, and relationship mentor. She has spent over ten years engaged in the field of transformation leadership. She has developed a curriculum in the study of the erotic discipline called 'Revel, the Audacity of Ecstacy.' Revel is a daringly vulnerable investigation into how we relate to ourselves, influence our relationships, and express our uniqueness in our community and world.

Do you treat others better than you treat yourself? Are you wrestling with your self worth? Tanya believes that the acronym for self is a single evident life force, that we are individually unique in this universe. She also discusses restoring our connection to the intelligent erotic life force in such a way that dignity naturally arises, self respect returns, and how empowering it is to trust your own sense of wisdom.

Tanya describes the four spheres of influence, why she uses the word erotic, and what she means by it. She asks us if we use our bodies as a source of intuition and listen to it when it is telling us something. They speak about how emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD and how, when we express ourselves to the world, we are experiencing ourselves.

Listen in as Tanya tells us how she dealt with her abusive childhood, how she overcame it and decided not to be a victim. She chats about sexual expression and not being afraid to discuss what you want or what you need even when that includes BDSM. 

This is a conversation about finding one’s self in, eroticism, intimacy, and relationships and how ADHD can affect it. If any of this resonates with you, grab a snack, plugin and learn how to express yourself.

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You'll Learn:

  • [03:20] Welcome to the show, Tanya!
  • [03:51] Tanya discusses why she got into the study of sex, love, and intimacy and how it changed her life.
  • [05:49] Have you heard of the sex-positive community?
  • [07:30] They speak about 50 Shades of Grey and how that opens up conversations that might have thought were tabu until then.
  • [10:09] Tanya discusses how and why people misuse sex, love, and intimacy and how that affected her as a young child.
  • [13:28] Just because your body can be aroused doesn't mean that you like what is happening.
  • [23:22] Tanya talks about the four spheres of influence and what they mean.
  • [26:10] She explains erotic the way she uses it, not the plasticized way the world uses it.
  • [28:51] Do you listen to your body as your sense of intuition? Do you trust your gut?
  • [31:30] She discusses restoring the connection to the intelligent erotic life force.
  • [34:25] Emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD; it's essential to recognize it.
  • [36:15] As we express ourselves in the world, we experience ourselves.
  • [37:15] Tanya chats about her wedding in 30 days, and she hasn't started planning it yet.
  • [39:42] They speak of her love story and how her finance pointed out that she had ADHD.
  • [42:03] There is a difference between bodily urges and knowing.
  • [45:15] The body and the mind coming together is the core point, no matter how you get there.
  • [46:08] Tanya tells us what nurture is all about.
  • [51:00] Do you have real self-respect? Do you have a deeply embodied sense of dignity?
  • [54:54] Do you ever have conversations with your children about sex, love, intimacy, and power?
  • [57:40] Tanya talks to us about the subject of sexual intelligence, sexual expression.
  • [59:10] "Everything in the world is about sex, except sex and sex is about power."
  • [1:00:33] How do we find you, Tanya?
  • [1:02:00] Tanya tells us her adult children are her wedding planners.
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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 293_Revel_in_Better_sex_intamacy_and_relationships_with_Tanya_Brakeman.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

ADHD reWired welcomes Brian Behm to the show. Brian is a freelance creative director and motion artist based in Austin, Texas. His Augmented Reality Streetwear Project, NO_SYS, works to empower and amuse people through secret messages. He is excited about how Augmented Reality plays into the future of Art.

 

Brian was diagnosed with ADHD last year at age 41. He started researching ADHD, and what he found was eyeopening. He could now explain some of the quirks he had instead of wondering why he had them. Why, when he got in an emotional situation, he would shut down and not be able to talk, and why his brain didn't kick in on command so that he could finish tasks that needed to be done. 

 

He left a lucrative job to open his own business doing freelance work. He has done work on many things like the Grammy's and a backdrop for a Diana Ross concert. His lack of time management sometimes causes him to say yes to projects when he shouldn't, but he is still a work in progress and doing very well.

 

Listen in to this conversation about discovery, trials, and reinventing oneself. Brian tells us about being in an Ironman Triathalon, working on Indie films and a new project called Augmented Reality Streetwear that he is excited about. He isn't letting ADHD stop him; he is learning how to stop ADHD and living his life around it. This is an episode you won't want to miss.

 

 Your Resources:

 

You'll Learn:

  • [02:47] Welcome to the show, Brian!
  • [03:00] Eric and Brian chat about giant cold beverages to combat the heat in Austin, TX
  • [03:34] Brian speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD at age 41.
  • [04:51] He talks to us about his last job with Rooster Teeth and what led to him leaving that job.
  • [07:42] Brian didn't know that there was an emotional to ADHD until he started learning about it.
  • [09:26] They talk about doing everything except what they need to do and the reasons for that.
  • [10:50] Brian says when he gets into an emotional situation, he can't talk and shuts down.
  • [15:58] Brian tells a story about a co-worker that was a brilliant animator.
  • [21:14] His schedule is horrible, and his time management is atrocious.
  • [21:53] What did it feel like when you took your medicine for ADHD for the first time?
  • [24:52] He talks about an assault in his 20's and how the fear changed how he handled his life.
  • [27:08] Brian speaks about the trauma he was going through when he left his job. The shame of not being able to deliver the project.
  • [28:28] He had a friend send him a clip of Robin Williams telling Matt Damon in Goodwill Hunting, 'It's not your fault' it helped him so much.
  • [30:11] Have you ever felt the need to do a type of 12 step program with your ADHD diagnosis?
  • [39:45] He has done work for the Grammy's, and he has done drape background for Diana Ross.
  • [41:45] Have you ever turned a project down that you didn't have time for, but you were scared that they wouldn't ask you to work with them again?
  • [46:39] Brian discusses feeling so good for a few weeks that you almost forget you have ADHD and then bam it rears its head again.
  • [47:56] He talks about doing a mastermind with Seth Godin.
  • [50.34] Brian speaks about an Ironman Triathalon that he competed in and how stressed his system was.
  • [57:23] Brian says how helpful this podcast has been for him while trying to figure out ADHD.
  • [58:01] He talks about books that have helped him and chasing down what other people are reading.
  • [1:00:45] Brian tells us how to find him on social media.
  • [1:02:01] Would you wear a shirt that says I hate my boss if he couldn't see that it said that?
  • [01:03:44] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show.
  • [01:03:53] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: 292_Diagnosis_Recontextualized_Everything_-_Brian_Behm.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Jessica McCabe and Brendan Mahan. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. 

Our questions today are about being overly sensitive to rejection, how to know the difference between essential tasks versus important ones, and everything in between. We also talked about the different types of medicine and how your dose might need to be tweaked to find what works best for you.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you.

We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD.

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You'll Learn:

  • [02:13] Welcome to the show Jessica and Brendan for our monthly Q & A.
  • [03:13] Listen to find out if people with ADHD are more sensitive to rejection.
  • [08:20] They chat about why you feel like having ADHD is the reason for everything. 
  • [12:31] Is age 12 too late to ADHD medicine?
  • [13:19] They discuss why looking for a and not having a schedule can really mess with how you deal with your ADHD.
  • [23:18] Learning about and acceptance of ADHD are two of the best strategies you can have.
  • [32:11] Is being on time hard for you? Do you like having to beat the clock?
  • [40:05] How do you identify the things that are a priority to complete?
  • [49:24] They talk about how ADHD can sometimes make you feel like a failure as a parent.
  • [55:01] When your child is unloading and frustrated might not be the time to discuss them embracing their ADHD.
  • [57:08] What is the best way to limit adults with ADHD usage on devices?
  • [01:02:30] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show.
  • [01:03:43] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 291_Sept_Q__A_w_Jessica_McCabe_and_Brendan.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Sarah grew up in urban poverty with domestic violence, alcohol, drugs, and all before she turned 14. She had a hard time in school and with making friends, but her tenacity got her through, she ended up graduating from college with an MBA in finance. For the last 11 years, she has had a career in higher education. 

She discusses her childhood, the abuse, and being diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and depression. She tells us why her son hasn’t seen his grandparents in 4 years, and why she hasn’t told her family about the way her father treated her.

Stories like Sarah’s need to be told so that maybe her words can help someone heal. She is a strong, resilient woman because of and in spite of her upbringing. Listen in as she explains how she feels and why she feels like it was her fault. I am sure there are people we know who this will resonate with maybe suggest that they listen to this episode with you.

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You’ll Learn:

  • 02:49] Welcome to the show, Sarah!
  • [03:25] Eric and Sarah discuss her childhood and growing up a victim of domestic violence by her father.
  • [05:41] Mental Health in her family is never discussed.
  • [06:32] How is your relationship with your dad now? Do you have one?
  • [07:43] She tells us about an incident when she was caught holding hands with a boy walking down the street, and her father reacted violently against her.
  • [09:55] Her dad's brother was the only one that knew what happened and he was an alcoholic.
  • [10:40] She thinks that people would think it's strange that she has a good relationship with her dad.
  • [11:27] Sarah speaks to us about her father threatening her son; he no longers sees his grandparents.
  • [13:23] Have you ever felt that if you tell someone about the abuse, it will blow up everything you have tried to build? 
  • [17:20] You can't numb the hard stuff if you want to feel the good stuff.
  • [18:39] Have you ever sat in the muck? How long did it take you to get out?
  • [19:20] Sarah speaks about her and trying to deal with her suicidal feelings.
  • [21:20] If you could go back and talk to your 10-year-old self, what would you say?
  • [25:41] No one will ever know how awful and painful this was for Sarah, but it is ok to have strong feelings and to see that it wasn't her fault.
  • [27:33] Once she was diagnosed, everything started making more sense. Why wasn't this diagnosed years sooner?
  • [29:48] Sarah reminisces about staying up all night with her mom watching tv and cooking 3-course meals at midnight.
  • [33:30] Shame grows with silence, secrecy, and judgment.
  • [38:10] It took Sarah 10 years to get her undergrad degree, and she got her MBA after she had her son.
  • [40:40] She tells us about a guy she dated in high school that was controlling that she stayed with for four years. She failed classes because he followed her to college and stalked her.
  • [45:46] Even the most resilient people need to stop and take a minute to say, this is hard!
  • [47:00] How has the adversity you have faced shaped your ability to show up for life's challenges now?
  • [49:52] Sarah says sometimes you have to be ok with not always being ok.
  • [50:40] Eric's hope for Sarah is that she will continue working with her therapist and continue to tell her story and keep healing.
  • [51:58] Eric will put some more resources on his website. 
  • [53:03] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

 

Direct download: ADHD_290_Surviving_Childhood_with_Sarah_Edgewood.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Ari Tuckman is back on the show to discuss his new book and new findings regarding how ADHD affects sex and intimacy. Ari is a psychologist in Pennsylvania working to help others live their best lives. Many times, living your best life requires understanding your sexual needs and wants and how they affect your partner or spouse.

Ari has spent a great deal of time researching how people with and without ADHD relate to and process sexual activities and intimacy. In his new book ADHD After Dark, he shares the results of a survey taken of those with and without ADHD to reveal their levels of sexual eagerness. He then dispenses this down to share how varying levels of sexual eagerness affect intimate relationships and how to find ways to connect in the gaps.

This conversation is full of great information about the true core issue of any sexually deficient relationship… communication. Ari shares some amazing statistics, I share some really terrible dad jokes, and together we hope to inspire you to use better communication skills to create a more unified sex life.

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:59] Welcome back to the show Ari Tuckman!
  • [02:51] Ari is back to discuss sex and intimacy for those with ADHD.
  • [03:24] Ari shares some of the recent shows he’s gone to.
  • [03:56] Why does Ari study ADHD and sex? 
  • [05:58] Romantic and sexual satisfaction overlap and affect one another.
  • [07:24] Ari has been studying the difference between willingness and eagerness.
  • [09:03] How do you address the core issue of communication to improve sexual interaction? 
  • [10:22] What is emotion regulation and how can you employ it? 
  • [13:03] Ari reveals several of the differences between the sexual interactions of those with ADHD and those without.
  • [17:25] Which categories did people with ADHD rate themselves higher in on a survey of sexual eagerness.
  • [20:36] What considerations should a person who is beginning a relationship think about? 
  • [23:35] Learn about the differences between ADHD and non-ADHD regarding masturbation, kinkiness, and monogamy.
  • [27:25] How does masturbation affect your life and sex life? 
  • [28:50] Where does kink fit into this spectrum? 
  • [31:31] What is consensual non-monogamy?
  • [40:46] Does Ari’s research touch on cheating and sex addiction? What does it reveal?
  • [46:33] Is porn use for those with ADHD really about porn?
  • [47:50] The problem with labeling things an addiction…
  • [50:06] Did Ari open up the survey to same-sex couples? 
  • [51:10] Ari shares 5 tips that men and women with and without ADHD could use to better their sex lives.
  • [56:37] Learn more about the CHADD conference for this year.
  • [57:47] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 289_Sex_Intamacy_and_ADHD_with_Ari_Tuckman.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

What do you do when your entire experience with money has been negative? Mastermind ways to overcome the negativity and get in tune with your finances! Agnes has had a tough time getting the people in her life to realize that she is ready to take control of her finances and learn what it means to be financially savvy.

When she should have been learning the ins and outs of money management, Agnes was instead dealing with the death of her father. Since then she and her mother have had conflicting ideas on how to approach money management. Listen in as Agnes shares how she has dealt with money in the past and how she’s looking to manage it in the future. Overcoming the emotional aspect is a big one for her.

The mastermind group gives amazing advice for ways to approach money and insights on why she’s been clashing with family members over the management of their trusts. The group also provides an amazing number of resources when getting started with money management. If money management is an issue for you as well, take heart, the reason money is a problem for most people is that we don’t talk about it often enough! Stay! Listen! Learn! This group gives some amazing advice. 

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:34] Agnes shares a bit about where her issues with money started. 
  • [04:20] What needs to happen for Agnes to start working on her finances?
  • [08:39] Will steps in with some great information about how to get started and who to look for.
  • [10:56] Agnes works through the mental block she has surrounding the various aspects of her inheritance and the familial burdens that come along with it.
  • [14:06] Emily steps up to ask clarifying questions about Agnes’s issues with paying people and continuing to feel like a burden.
  • [15:28] What is the thing that she’s gone through with her mother over and over again?
  • [16:39] Perhaps the issue is that the people around Agnes also don’t know anything about money…
  • [19:51] Who has Agnes given permission to know about her finances? Why?
  • [24:23] We are back from the break and diving into educating yourself on finances.
  • [31:06] Agnes commits to reaching out to a financial planner/fiduciary to help her.
  • [38:03] Emily recommends checking with the bank for financial classes and encourages Agnes to only share her financial woes with people directly related to her money.
  • [41:05] Maybe having someone address finances in a positive light is all that Agnes needs.
  • [44:42] You won’t take care of it later. Start putting money away now.
  • [50:43] What is Patreon?
  • [53:17] Finances are like dieting… learn why!
  • [54:31] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 288_Mastermind_Agnes_Gaining_Financial_Literacy.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:46am CDT

August’s Q&A was a great one for everyone needing tips and tricks for helping their children and themselves get and stay “organized.” Brendan and I help talk through various strategies we’ve used to help our kids with schoolwork and assignments as well as ways we stay on top of our homes, cars, and calendars.

We start the session off with a question about the progress that’s being made with making ADHD a nationally recognized health issue and our recommendations for bringing awareness to your state politicians. The only way to really raise this issue up is being persistent and helping others to recognize the effects ADHD has on so many other health issues.

Have you ever wondered if stimulants have an impact on your creativity? We had an awesome question from a creator in the group asking about the long-term effects of taking stimulants and staying creative. This question led to our discussion of the distinction between being a creative person and being a creator. 

Do you have questions that you need to be answered or a solution to a problem you experience every day? Sign up for next month’s Q&A at www.adhdrewired.com/events

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:38] Welcome to the August Q&A session with Eric and Brendan.
  • [03:50] Any progress or thoughts on the goal of raising ADHD to the federal level?
  • [04:50] Learn what you can do to help the push for awareness!
  • [09:38] How to stop keeping so many tabs open on our internet browsers.
  • [15:16] Tips for sticking with calendar reminders for notifications.
  • [22:18] Do stimulants affect creativity over the longterm?
  • [30:47] Could stimulants increase study speed? Other exercises or practices? 
  • [33:36] How to help children with ADHD remember school work and assignments to curb procrastinating.
  • [39:47] Learn helpful strategies for keeping your home, car, etc clean when you are ADHD inattentive? 
  • [51:02] Does Eric feel like he’s changed since he started his podcast? 
  • [54:44] Has Brendan changed since starting his podcast? 
  • [1:00:25] If you want to join in next month’s Q&A, check out www.adhdrewired.com/events
  • [1:01:11] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 287_Aug_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Ann Marie Silverberg is a wife, mother, dog trainer and was recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen in as we chat about her road to diagnosis, how ADHD affects her life and business, and why, in many ways, she views the condition as a strength. 

Ann Marie’s road to diagnosis was a fairly long one. Like many others trying to find a reason for their behavior, she had an Aha! moment, but an actual diagnosis was long in coming. It was almost as if no one WANTED to diagnose her. She shares the struggle that she went through and what led to her finally receiving the help she needed.

Do you have sensory processing issues? So does Ann Marie! She uses that sensory overload to her advantage in her work. Listen as she shares why she’s very similar to the animals she trains and how that similarity makes her an expert at her craft.

This was an awesome conversation full of positivity and advice for keeping on track with your goals. We dig into how Ann Marie cues herself for behavioral change and the importance of positivity in everyday life.

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You’ll Learn:

  • [01:35] Welcome to the show Ann Marie Silverberg, a certified dog trainer and behavioral consultant!
  • [03:44] Learn why Ann Marie decided to work with aggressive dogs.
  • [05:24] What has Ann Marie learned from working with anxious and aggressive dogs about her own behavior? 
  • [06:06] Why trying to parent keyed her into a possible underlying issue in her own behavior.
  • [09:58] How long did it take for Ann Marie to be diagnosed with ADHD after she had her “Aha!” moment.
  • [18:02] Why setting realistic expectations is very important to maintaining your sanity.
  • [21:54] How does ADHD show up in Ann Marie’s business? 
  • [24:39] Do cues work to remind Ann Marie to use the spreadsheets she creates? 
  • [31:24] Ann Marie shares some of her sensory processing issues and how they affect her business for the good and bad.
  • [37:08] What cues does Ann Marie use to reinforce behavioral changes? 
  • [39:13] How does she leverage her strengths in her business? 
  • [47:50] Does Ann Marie struggle with low frustration tolerance? 
  • [53:02] Connect with Ann Marie!
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  • www.ADHDreWired.com

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Genevieve’s coaching session was so good we had to break it into 2 parts. Last week we discussed a variety of topics, but this week we dig deeper. Genevieve has a variety of passions but finding the time and energy to not only start them but complete them has been a struggle.

Genevieve discusses several business ventures she has considered and started and we dig into how those ventures can support her. We also discuss ways she can stay on track and create success. She has a lot of passions and philanthropic goals, so helping her complete those goals is important.

Genevieve really did have some amazing ideas and questions. Listen in if you’ve had any issues staying on track in your business and life. If you didn’t listen to part I, go back now and hear how we tackled some of the issues leading into Genevieve’s business creation.

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:07] Listen as Eric introduces Part 2 of Genevieve’s interview with a listener comment.
  • [03:14] How do you figure out your priorities when you have multiple passions? 
  • [07:27] Genevieve shares the passions she wants to pursue.
  • [10:41] We unpack how YouTube can be monetized.
  • [14:53] Are there any connections between Genevieve’s various passions and goals? 
  • [20:02] Can Genevieve connect her Etsy work and her YouTube work? 
  • [21:37] What will pay the bills? What strategy has Genevieve employed?
  • [28:04] Why is procrastinating on purpose important? 
  • [31:53] What can you do that makes everything else easier? 
  • [40:39] Back from the break and how do you remember the one thing that needs to be done? 
  • [41:42] What could get in the way of doing the ONE thing? 
  • [45:50] Determining the timing of task is very important.
  • [50:24] Are Genevieve’s next steps clear? 
  • [55:33] The more we say no to, the more we get done.
  • [1:00:58] What could Genevieve do to systematize her time?
  • [1:04:23] Connect with Genevieve.
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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 285_Im_not_Broken_Im_Different_with_Genevive_Svigny_-_Part_2.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

There is a fine line between feeling broken and feeling different. Today’s guest is Geneviève Sévigny, who was recently re-diagnosed with ADHD. She has been struggling with how to connect to her friends and ways that she can discuss her symptoms with them. 

This is a 2-part episode chock full of ways that you can approach well-meaning friends and acquaintances when they say things that set you on edge. Geneviève is open and honest about her struggles and beliefs and the conversation was so seamless that we went way over the normal span of an episode. Get ready to dig into the beliefs you have about your diagnosis and how it affects your life.

We also discuss some of the internal conversations we have with ourselves and how our self-talk affects our relationships and worldview. Geneviève shares her struggles in the hope that others feel less alone and can learn from her experience. You won’t want to miss this 2-part episode.

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:53] Welcome back to the show as we discuss the feeling of brokenness.
  • [04:27] How do you stop feeling like you’re broken and lazy?
  • [10:25] What are some ways to discuss the symptoms with friends without frustration?
  • [16:26] Ways to respond when friends say, “I do that too!”
  • [28:25] Back from the break and working to understand ourselves and our gifts.
  • [33:59] We discuss the implications of, “It’s not me, it’s my ADHD.” 
  • [42:12] Geneviève shares why the French think of ADHD as lunacy.
  • [48:30] What sucks more than ADHD? Brain injuries!
  • [50:53] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 284_Im_not_Im_Different_Genevive_Svigny.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Brendan and I are back for July’s Q&A session! The goal of these Q&A sessions is to allow you, the listener, a chance to submit questions and situations for us to help talk you through and mastermind. It doesn’t matter if the issue is personal or professional, sometimes you just need to talk it through and look at it from a different perspective.

Our questions this month range from how to get “unfrozen” when making decisions to medications to questions on coaching styles. The questions were in-depth this month and Brendan and I really dig in to help answer your questions. As usual, if you’ve been dealing with problematic ADHD symptoms, then you need to listen to this episode.

Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you are prescribed a medication, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are effective for all people. There are a variety of options and you’ll need individual help to determine which medications are right for you.

This Q&A covered a wide range of topics and we provide some fantastic takeaways no matter what stage you’re in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also struggle with our own flare ups! Lack of sleep and competing priorities is problematic for everyone, but when you have ADHD it’s worse! (just ask Brendon!)

Your Resources:

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:34] Welcome back! This is the July Q&A session.
  • [05:48] Julie needs to learn how to break out of the frozen zone and make decisions.
  • [15:10] Daniel needs some help figuring out his medication times.
  • [23:39] Back from the break and responding to a question about managing dual diagnoses.
  • [27:36] How can you focus on the positives in the midst of failure? 
  • [33:50] Is group coaching comparable to 1:1 coaching? 
  • [42:43] How do you motivate yourself to get up and go when you have several responsibilities?
  • [46:42] Welcome Diane to the show! She asked a live question about overcoming sleep procrastination.
  • [56:22] How do you break big projects down into smaller steps so that you get them done? 
  • [1:03:21] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

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Direct download: 283_July_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Welcome back to another mastermind episode. Today we have Madeline in the hot seat as we work through the issues she has been facing with getting more done and having productive free time. We discuss ways that she can get more done while still playing video games but also doing things in her free time that restore and rejuvenate not just kill time.

This mastermind begins with a discussion on how to break through and do the I don’t wanna’s, ways to help Madeline do her chores, study and how “I’ll do it later” is just a lie we tell ourselves. They talked about what they feel like when they think I don’t wanna, is it resentment because you have to do it?  Is there guilt because you feel the resentment?

Madeline is given some great advice in this mastermind! Listen in and learn some fantastic tips to manage your I don’t wannas, learn to rewrite the script in your head and make the I don't wannas into a positive outcome..

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:04] Welcome back! Madeline is in the hot seat on this episode.
  • [02:16] Everyone is introduced by Eric.
  • [03:04] Madeline tells us what she wants to Mastermind today.
  • [03:58] Has Madeline done research on whether play is part of productivity? 
  • [05:26] Does anyone feel rejuvenated after using technology? 
  • [12:27] Madeline talks about how she likes to do non productive things first thing in the morning.
  • [25:49] We are back from the break and dive into working through the transitions of I don’t wanna’s.
  • [27:51] What video game has Madeline played that does make her feel good?
  • [32:52] We now shift to how to be more productive and how to beat the I don’t wannas.
  • [32:58] What are Madeleines key I don’t wannas that she is struggling with?
  • [35:17] What chore does she do that when it is done she it makes her feel really good?
  • [42:02] How can we help Madeline do her chores like drying dishes, scooping kitty litter and decluttering her desk?
  • [46.38] Stopping the I’ll do it later syndrome.
  • [54:19] Is there a degree of opposition when someone asks you to do something?
  • [55:58] Madleine needs to learn new scripts in her mind and use scripts to do it.
  • [58:24] What's the equivalent of wiggling the pinkie finger for the tasks you don't wanna do?
  • [1:03:12] How is accountability brought into the situation?
  • [1:09:29] After listening to what has been discussed, what things does Madeleine think she can commit to?
  • [1:11:17] Final thoughts?
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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 282_Mastermind_Session_Doing_Stuff_You_Dont_Feel_Like_Doing_-_Madeline.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Welcome back to another mastermind episode. Today’s hot seat member is Derek and we work through the issues he has been facing with communication and relationships. We discuss a variety of topics ranging from moving your internal conversation to an external one, and establishing strong and appropriate communication boundaries. 

This mastermind starts off with a discussion on appropriate conversation lengths and topics. Derek shares an issue he has with his unwillingness to limit his conversations to an appropriate amount of time. A lot of times he relies on his wife to pull him out of conversations that have gone over the acceptable social timeframe. Learn the groups’ tips and tricks on how to limit your conversation.

This led into a conversation about boundaries and appropriate tactics for addressing conflict in relationships. Learn how to keep hard conversations from becoming catastrophic events by regularly expressing grievances in a controlled manner. Keeping things in only leads to having harder conversations later.

Derek is given some amazing advice in this mastermind! You wont want to miss the references to Brene Brown’s book as the tips are very actionable. Listen in and learn some fantastic tips to manage your boundaries and communication in a variety of relationships.

Your Resources

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:16] Welcome back! Derek is in the hot seat on this episode.
  • [02:18] Derek shares the topics he needs to mastermind.
  • [03:06] What does Derek mean by wanting his “true” feelings to be known?
  • [08:19] Does Derek have relationships where he can interact unfiltered? 
  • [10:54] What is guiding his interactions? What is his internal monologue? 
  • [14:37] Learn tips on how to exit a conversation.
  • [22:48] We are back from the break and dive into boundaries, bad conversations, and medication.
  • [27:02] When do the hard conversations happen and how often does Derek let things roll off of him? 
  • [33:23] How about creating weekly check-ins to establish a space to discuss conflict? And other great tips.
  • [42:57] Learn how to get more time together with your spouse by using your resources when you have kids on the spectrum.
  • [49:21] Use your body as a cue to protect your boundaries. 
  • [55:20] How Brene Brown approaches trust both for ourselves and others.
  • [1:01:40] Always be aware of how you’re coming off to other people.
  • [1:05:10] Roxie and Derek discuss work boundaries and their perceptions of a specific situation and how avoiding conflict creates a bigger story.
  • [1:09:49] Derek speaks out his commitments for this mastermind and how he’ll stick to them.
  • [1:12:48] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 281_Mastermind_Communication_and_relationships_-_Derek_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

This episode is another Mastermind episode designed to help a member work through something that has been holding them back from success. Our Mastermind hotseat participant is Roxie and she’s looking for help creating systems for remembering her priorities. We discuss various reward systems, memory enhancement tactics, and dig into the root of the problem.

To frame the issue, Roxie uses her need for coffee as the catalyst for her memory concerns. She and her husband sit down every month and create a budget for their spending. Within a few minutes, hours, or days, she’ll forget everything they are working toward and make bad spending decisions. Today we dig into how to reset her memory and break the habit of rewarding herself with coffee breaks.

From doing chores for coffee, to using the Starbucks rewards system, the Mastermind group gives Roxie tons of great advice. Her biggest issue we find is triggering her memory on the plans and future wants that she and her husband are saving up for. Learn how to create effective memory triggers that work in this episode. You wont want to miss the creative journaling ideas, QR code triggers, and tattoos!

Your Resources

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:21] Welcome back to the show and another Mastermind Session!
  • [02:49] Roxie wants to mastermind maintaining systems on this episode of the show.
  • [06:11] Learn how coffee represents a reward system and also a budget buster.
  • [08:55] Additional questions about how purchasing coffee is affecting Roxie’s life and ways to approach the issue.
  • [16:19] One strategy for curbing spending is to create barriers to spending.
  • [23:24] How to disrupt our routine when we’re on auto-pilot.
  • [25:10] It’s more helpful to remind yourself what you do want to do versus what you don’t want to do.
  • [28:59] Would a point system help in the reward system?
  • [32:28] When the issue isn’t what you do or don’t want to do but instead it’s a cycle of behavior.
  • [34:45] Learn how order is the number one thing Roxie wants her day to revolve around, and that can be used to curb the forgetfulness.
  • [38:09] Could journaling help? Learn more after the break.
  • [44:46] Do you beat yourself up when you fall off whatever horse you’ve created?
  • [47:16] How can you reinforce your priorities when you make decisions in the moment?
  • [49:55] What two phrases can help keep you on track when you have competing wants?
  • [53:15] Can living with an enabler be overcome? What about having an external accountability partner?
  • [56:57] Mastermind members share their tips and tricks for creating memorable reminders and Roxie responds.
  • [1:01:51] Creating QR codes that link to videos could help with reminders!
  • [1:04:40] The members help with additional reward tips for Roxie’s coffee habits.
  • [1:07:35] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it!

Support the Podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired.

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 280_Mastermind_Session_-_Routines_Budg_runs_-_Roxie.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

On this episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Miriam Reiss, a career and life strategist who is living with ADHD and working to help those with ADHD crush finding the right job for them. She shares information about her programs and the 5 stage process she puts all of her clients through for building their best career. You wont want to miss a minute of this great conversation.

Learn all about the 5 stages of Miriam’s job searching process. Each stage is designed to help you identify your core goals, the way your brain works, and how the two come together to influence your perfect job. She focuses heavily on figuring out the right environment for your brain and how there is no one job that is “best” for someone with ADHD.

Eric and Miriam also dig deep into the importance of preparing for your interviews. Just because you think you know exactly what to say in an interview and how you come off, does not mean that your interviewer’s perspective is the same. Learn some tips and tricks on how to crush the interview not only by impressing your potential company but by interviewing them as well.

Miriam leaves you with so many great tips and tricks for managing the job search. Listen in and listen close to glean all of the amazing nuggets she gives. What was your favorite takeaway? Let us know on your favorite podcast app by leaving a review and rating.

Your Resources

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:44] - Welcome back to the show! Today’s guest is Dr. Miriam Reiss.
  • [02:38] - Learn how Dr. Reiss got into the business of focusing on career coaching.
  • [06:23] - Where does Dr. Reiss start when she begins working with her clients? 
  • [10:02] - What are the 5 stages of Dr. Reiss’s program?
  • [21:22] - Miriam continues to discuss the 5 stages and the job search strategy.
  • [25:34] - How does Miriam help her clients overcome the barrier of the fear of networking?
  • [28:51] - What is her response to the person who asks her what the best job is for someone with ADHD?
  • [34:33] - What does it mean to create an ADHD friendly environment? 
  • [38:50] - How entering an interview from a place of self-respect alters the energy of the interaction.
  • [46:43] - Learn how Dr. Reiss helps her clients evaluate their work environment.
  • [49:05] - What is the process for taking stock of the things they hate in their jobs? 
  • [55:09] - Asking the right questions in the interview is key to loving your job!
  • [57:02] - How should a person with a spotty work history address that in their interview?
  • [1:02:10] - How to reach Miriam!
  • [1:03:37] - Hear Miriam’s final thoughts for you!
  • [1:04:31] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: 279_The_Right_Job_for_you_w_Dr._Miriam_Reiss.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

It’s June’s Q&A epiosode on the podcast and I’m joined by Brendan to answer your questions. We chat about topics ranging from the effects and need for medication to how to manage and cope with various aspects of having ADHD. There were a ton of great questions this month and you won’t want to miss the responses.

What do sticky notes, note pads, and index cards have in common? Several of our questions had to do with accountability. Write things down! Put away the computer and put pen to paper, not only does this help keep you focused, you are also more likely to absorb the information. Learn more throughout the show. 

Need to dive deep into how manage family responsibilities and schedules when members are on different systems? Change your verbiage and you may be able to alter their response. We spend a good bit of time on this topic because keeping an ADHD family on track is very important.

There were so many fantastic questions this month that we didn’t get to them all. If you’re not already, consider becoming a Patron to access the full episode. Also, let us know what your questions are for next month’s episode.

Your Resources

Brene Brown: the Call to Courage
ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups
www.ADHDreWired.com/events

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:40] Welcome back to the podcast for June’s Q&A episode with Eric and Brendan.
  • [02:45] Our first question is from Shawn, asking about life hacks for feeling more functional.
  • [07:05] How to stay focused in meetings and not get flustered by questions.
  • [12:17] Learn how permission relates to accountability? 
  • [16:57] Eric asks Brendan what he tells clients who have issues taking responsibility for issues in their lives.
  • [24:15] Eric and Brendan take the first live question on how to engage family members in an ADHD household in awareness and proactivity.
  • [44:37] Learn about medications, long-term use of medications, and side effects.
  • [50:34] How to get written meeting notes into Evernote!
  • [52:30] Tips, tools, and insights for managing distractions to move forward in life.
  • [57:47] Why breaking chores down and writing them on index cards reduces overwhelm.
  • [1:00:39] How to cope with being gifted and ADHD.
  • [1:04:21] Any tips on becoming less sensitive about family member’s remarks on ADHD?
  • [1:09:59] Time ran out for the podcast episode. If you’re a Patron check out the unedited video for the full set of questions.
  • [1:11:27] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com

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ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group

Early registration for ADHD reWired’s Spring season of our online, video-based coaching and accountability group has ended, and the groups are full. Our next registration signups begin May 10th.  To sign up on the email list, which allows you to register on May 7th, visit http://coachingrewired.com.

ADHD Women’s Palooza

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 278_June_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:00pm CDT

Today on the podcast I’m joined by Sharon Weinberg to discuss how ADHD affects the leadership role. We chat about how ADHD changes the dynamic between leaders and their team members and how best to approach different kinds of conversations to create strong bonds and positive environments.

As a leader with ADHD, it is important to understand and acknowledge how the condition affects your interactions with your team. It is also important for employees with ADHD to be open in conversation to elicit the most pertinent and usable feedback. Altering and realigning messaging helps create a positive environment for all. Sharon also shares in-depth about how evaluating processes and altering them to better match the capabilities of those with ADHD leads to more efficient and effective teams.

One of my goals for this year is to re-evaluate my leadership style and the ways that I lead. This conversation with Sharon was unbelievably enlightening and provided me with amazing insights into how I can change my own processes. If you are a leader with ADHD or you have ADHD and want to develop a better relationship with your leaders, this episode is for you.

Your Resources

Dare to Lead - Brene Brown
Leading with Emotional Courage - Peter Bregman
Ram Charan
ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups
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You’ll Learn:

  • [01:14] - Welcome back to the show! Today I chat with Sharon Weinberg about ADHD and how it affects leadership roles.
  • [04:08] - Sharon has been developing leaders in the corporate world for many years and across two different careers.
  • [08:00] - Leadership is about communication, strategy, and implementation and Sharon reveals what that means and understanding leadership legacy.
  • [14:50] - Context is key when providing feedback to your colleagues and co-workers.
  • [16:13] - Proficiency and consistency are required for building behaviors both with ADHD and in leadership.
  • [18:05] - Sharon and I discuss the connection between ADHD and rejection-sensitive dysphoria and ways to address them in a team setting.
  • [34:25] - We return from the break and dig into collaborative decision making and how it helps people with ADHD to finalize decisions.
  • [41:54] - Before a final decision can be made, you have to move from divergence, through convergence, to a decision.
  • [44:01] - Being clear about expectations and how the final decision will be made.
  • [46:45] - Sharon gives pro-tips on how to create an agenda for a meeting.
  • [53:52] - Sharon provides some insights leaders listening to their intuition and developing their blind spots.
  • [1:06:41] - We discuss the difference between getting by and excelling or thriving.
  • [1:08:33] - There is an art and a science to leadership and you need to put both intention and attention together to be a successful leader.
  • [1:10:34] - Connect with Sharon: 

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Direct download: 277_Leadership_and_ADHD_with_Sharon_Weinberg.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Today on the podcast I’m joined by Susie Gutierrez a singer, songwriter, actor, and all-around creative soul. We talk about her journey to being diagnosed with ADHD, how being empathic has impacted her relationships, and how important sleep schedules are.

We talk about topics ranging from her short-lived career as a mascot to her songwriting journey. We also discuss the reasons she stopped seeing a therapist and instead started working with an ADHD coach. She also shares how important giving yourself permission to practice self-love is. 

Susie was a blast to have on the show! She has an amazing upbeat personality and sheds light on different facets of living with and managing ADHD. Check out our conversation to gain some insights on how ADHD may be affecting your life.

Your Resources

https://hsperson.com/ | Dr. Elaine Aron
https://tannergers.com/ | Tanner Gers
ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups
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You’ll Learn:

  • [01:21] Welcome back! Susie Gutierrez and I chat all about HSP and related topics.
  • [05:18] Working as a mascot was a way of hiding for Susie, is she still hiding? 
  • [08:28] Susie describes what it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP).
  • [11:50] HSP is not a DSM but it is something that we need to be careful about.
  • [16:08] Susie chats about her weird sensory triggers like whispering and baby talk.
  • [22:35] Back from the break and we move into stimulation seeking behaviors we have.
  • [26:07] Susie chats about how her high level of empathy and her ADHD diagnosis has affected personal relationships.
  • [33:30] Susie shares her sleep issues and her belief that they are related to her ADHD.
  • [39:38] Susie was diagnosed two years ago and is on her first round of medications. We chat about the changes in her life since introducing meds (when she takes them).
  • [52:36] Therapy and coaching help in completely different ways but both are valuable.
  • [55:29] Does being an empath connect with improv? 
  • [1:01:11] Self-love is so important, give yourself permission to take care of you.
  • [1:03:27] Check out Susie on Medium, Instagram, and YouTube
  • [1:05:11] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: 276_HSP_Empaths_Sleep_and_ADHD_with_Susie_Guiterrez.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Today we are sitting in an ADHD mastermind session, where our group will chat about how clutter affects our lives, what we can do about the clutter on a day-to-day basis. How can you be proactive about not making the clutter, how to keep the house clean, and how you can get your family involved to work together to keep your place organized.

We talk about how you can get a hold of clutter by making decisions on the spot and taking a few minutes to take care of the mess, so the clutter doesn't pile up in the first place. What you need to do for the first "domino" to get your family started on a team effort for household chores. Tying one habit to a habit that's already in place can quickly transfer into more work done.

Your Resources
The One Thing Book | How you can make a difference on outcomes

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:39] Marisol shares her troubles with clutter and her family’s role in clearing clutter in the house.
  • [06:01] Does Marisol fulfill society’s role as a female who should do the housework even though she’s a full-time mom and she works full-time.
  • [07:39] The processes Marisol have tried to get her family to pitch in to clear the house.
  • [09:55] What can her children do that are 10 and 6 years of age?
  • [12:50] List of house chores and who has responsibility for different house chores
  • [16:34] What is the first domino of getting the family involved in household chores?
  • [20:52] Fit one thing here and there and add small items one at a time to achieve your goal.
  • [27:10] Atomic Habits is the book recommendation for this episode from Eric.
  • [27:54] Carrie talks about having goals for the month and to pick one goal at a time.
  • [32:51] What is the self-talk when you put something down where it doesn’t belong?
  • [39:09] How to use the two sticky note strategy for a reminder.
  • [42:44] How can we queue ourselves to remind us to do an activity when we don’t want to?
  • [54:07] Methods to make sure things have a “home” to place them repeatedly to keep track of items you can easily lose.
  • [58:40] The open loops we have created the anxiety which we feel on a daily basis.
  • [60:18] What Marisol can get rid of from her craft space to make her space a place she can craft with her kids.
  • [64:45] Is not giving things away Marisol isn’t using a way of not saying goodbye to her friend?
  • [65:56] What would Marisol’s friend say to her if she saw her craft table?
  • [67:03] Marisol decides to donate the art supplies she hasn’t used to her daughter’s preschool teacher, who her daughter is very fond of.
  • [70:13] Marisol’s teacher will be receiving the supplies by a certain date for a sense of urgency.
  • [74:45] Using pictures to show others what you would like them to do.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 275_Mastermind_Clutter_with_Marisol.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Welcome back to the monthly Q&A episode. Brendan Mahan and I take questions from the group about everything from setting boundaries to setting and accomplishing goals. Learn about finding your “Why” Q, and how setting S.M.A.R.T. goals helps you stay on track in the long-term.

We then move into ADHD medications, irritability, and the stigma surrounding the disease and its symptoms. Finding the right kind of medication and dosing is paramount to reducing symptoms of the medication. Brendan and I also help walk through post-school and work activities and how making minor tweaks helps with the medication crashes and over-stimulation.

Brendan and I also address the stigma surrounding medications. For most people, medications are safe and effective. Seeing your doctor and finding the right medication for you is the most important piece of that. Knowing that you are not alone in the symptoms you are experiencing is also helpful, but realize that the stigma surrounding ADHD is daily being debunked by science.

Join us as we chat about the good and bad of medication, overstimulation, and setting goals and boundaries. We cover so many topics in this episode and share so many great coping tips. You won't want to miss this epic Q&A session!

Your Resources

ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups
www.ADHDreWired.com/events

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:51] Welcome back! Brendan Mahan helps in our monthly live Q&A.
  • [03:22] Nick asks about strategies for long term focus and motivation techniques.
  • [05:32] We dig into Nick’s current strategy and ways he can improve by setting S.M.A.R.T. goals.
  • [11:55] Eric asks Nick to define his “Why”Q for language learning.
  • [13:33] Brendan and Eric provide tips on reinforcing long-term motivation and goals.
  • [15:07] Kerry asks about resisting the urge to blurt out every opinion, how do you overcome this?
  • [21:00] Use reflective listening to resist the urge to blurt and validate the thoughts the other person is sharing.
  • [27:31] What are some strategies to handle irritability with and without medications?
  • [35:23] Consider listening to the music you like in middle and high school. That music brings a great deal of comfort and helps set the emotional tone.
  • [39:25] Jacinto seeks out advice for being diagnosed and treated with ADHD because his mindset is affecting his family.
  • [49:03] Michael asks how to scale the wall of awful and Brendan shares more about the wall and how it’s built.
  • [54:18] Find your time wisdom. Figure out how long it takes to do things.
  • [57:36] Attention is not just about focus. Learn how to make smooth transitions.
  • [1:00:06] Create a monthly reminder to review the things you’ve learned and keep track of your “aha’s” and “re-ha’s.”
  • [1:02:16] Don’t feel disappointed when you looking to scale the walls of awful in your life. Just start fresh each time.
  • [1:03:47] This episode of ADHD reWired is brought to you by falafel waffles - just kidding… making sure you read to the bottom!
  • [1:05;54] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at www.ADHDreWired.com
Direct download: 274_May_Q__A_-_Update.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:00pm CDT

Today we are sitting in an ADHD mastermind session, where our group will ask Will Curb questions about different aspects of ADHD, how Will moves through and deals with certain obstacles. You can check out our panel guests on previous episodes of ADHD rewired.

We talk about the value of information, how to create habits after learning executive functioning skills, what ARC can do for you. Will talks about why he likes being an admin in the coaching group. Will’s mom recently passed away and we talk about how he is dealing with his grief and the steps he is taking to move through this emotional time. He talks about his podcast and his current and future plans.

Your Resources
The One Thing Book | How you can make a difference on outcomes

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:15] Will shares the mastermind schedule, starting with ARC.
  • [05:30] The why behind this type of learning.
  • [08:49] Marisol’s question for Will. Does Will want to keep his podcast a set number of episodes?
  • [12:12] Why sponsorship is difficult to do with ADHD podcast.
  • [13:10] Cary asks Will about his five Whys.
  • [19:03] Why Will feels validation is important.
  • [21:00] Carl suggests setting monetary goals.
  • [26:23] What kind of subject trees can Will create for his podcasts?
  • [29:32] Marisol asks how Will plans to keep up his interest throughout keeping up his podcasts, especially without immediate feedback.
  • [33:32] Carl suggests using his podcast as an open forum for creating a course on social media.
  • [37:49] Will called himself the “fraud police” and how covering everything isn’t a good idea.
  • [41:07] Eric asks Will to shoot him questions point blank.
  • [45:41] What subjects and ideas are important to an ADHD podcasting community.
  • [48:38] Do the podcast you would want to hear and be yourself.
  • [49:41] What charity would Will donate to if he could have used funding to give back to the community.
  • [51:55] Do you think your podcast would be able to extend the ADHD brand?
  • [56:30] What to do when someone in your classroom knows more than you do.
  • [57:13] Potential names for Will’s podcast

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 273_Mastermind_Sessions-_A_new_ADHD_podcast_with_Will_Curb.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:40pm CDT

Russell Barkley joins me for the fourth time as a guest on my podcast.  He is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the Virginia Treatment Center for Children and Virginia Commonwealth Medical Center in Richmond, Virginia. Board certified in three disciplines: clinical psychology, clinical child and adolescent psychology, and clinical neuropsychology. Russell is a clinical scientist, educator, and practitioner with 23 published books and 41 editions, more than 290 scientific articles and chapters related to the nature, assessment, and treatment of ADHD and related disorders. He is the founder and editor of the newsletter “The ADHD Report”. He has spoken at over 800 events and has been recognized for his contributions.

ADHD and Russell’s work has sometimes been considered “over pathologizing”, however, his message is to get the science out for those with ADHD so these individuals can get proper treatment and lead healthy lives. Russell talks about why neuropsychological testing is inappropriate and misleading as a test for ADHD.

Russell is a proponent of discontinuing the use of neuropsychological testing for ADHD. We talk about a controversial device, recently approved by the FDA, for treating ADHD, and new, innovative, research using Virtual Reality for ADHD at the University of Berkley, California.

Your Resources

Russell Barkley | Dr. Barkley’s website
The One Thing Book | How you can make a difference on outcomes
When An Adult You Love Has ADHD | Russell’s book for those who live with adults who have ADHD

You’ll Learn:

  • [04:12] The misuse of neuropsychological testing for diagnosing ADHD.
  • [06:35] Comparing test group averages versus classifying individual people.
  • [09:15] Why neuropsychological tests are not accurate for testing for a diagnosis of ADHD.
  • [10:13] Why people with ADHD are passing neuropsychological tests.
  • [11:41] What categories are included in neuropsychological tests assessment.
  • [13:33] Test environments are not conducive to someone’s everyday normal environment.
  • [16:53] Neuropsychological testing may be useful for physical brain injury situations.
  • [19:45] How should a medical provider be evaluating ADHD, the timeframe and what conditions to rule in or out based on second or third disorders.
  • [23:50] What should you do if you are experiencing something else other than ADHD? Other testing which can assess ADHD and impairment.
  • [26:32] Russell’s definition of executive functioning skills.
  • [34:32] Device which has shown improvement for treating children with ADHD.
  • [41:16] New and novel research using Virtual Reality for possibly diagnosing ADHD.

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 272_Russell_Barkley_on_Life_Expectency_an_ADHD_part_2.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:24pm CDT

Russell Barkley joins me for the third time as a guest on my podcast.  He is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the Virginia Treatment Center for Children and Virginia Commonwealth Medical Center in Richmond, Virginia. Board certified in three disciplines: clinical psychology, clinical child and adolescent psychology, and clinical neuropsychology. Russell is a clinical scientist, educator, and practitioner with 23 published books and 41 editions, more than 290 scientific articles and chapters related to the nature, assessment, and treatment of ADHD and related disorders. He is the founder and editor of the newsletter “The ADHD Report”. He has spoken at over 800 events and has been recognized for his contributions.

ADHD and Russell’s work has sometimes been considered “over pathologizing”, however, his message is to get the science out for those with ADHD so these individuals can get proper treatment and lead healthy lives.

Russell has learned how ADHD is a bigger factor in life expectancy than the big five killers put together. His goal is to get people to take ADHD more seriously to avoid negative outcomes which are correlated with not treating ADHD. Genes related to nicotine addiction and smoking, which are identified as ADHD genes, in and of themselves reduce life expectancy. Your lifestyle habits with ADHD are modifiable and, with positive changes, can expand your life expectancy. The higher the level of conscientiousness, the better lifestyle choices, and higher life expectancy.

Your Resources

Russell Barkley | Dr. Barkley’s website
The One Thing Book | How you can make a difference on outcomes
When An Adult You Love Has ADHD | Russell’s book for those who live with adults who have ADHD

You’ll Learn:

  • [04:02] Russell is welcomed to the show and explains his “why”.
  • [05:45] Why ADHD is considered the “diabetes of psychology”.
  • [07:15] How Russell conducted research for his book “ADHD for Adults” and why this led to his research on life expectancy and ADHD.
  • [10:35] Reduction in life expectancy based on time of diagnosis.
  • [12:41] Putting reduction in life expectancy in focus related to other health care factors.
  • [14:48] How ADHD genes reduce your life expectancy, outside of the other factors studied.
  • [23:30] Conscientiousness is stopping to contemplate the outcomes of your actions to effect and self-regulation as a factor of a healthy lifestyle.
  • [26:36] The best predictor of your lifespan is conscientiousness.
  • [27:38] Self-regulation and executive functioning measures and how this affects life expectancy.
  • [29:10] Creating cues in your environment for self-talk, self-imagery which creates self-regulation.
  • [31:12] Addressing the underlying problems of self-regulation and self-control to create the basis for change.
  • [32:22] Develop self-compassion in order to move forward and obtain your goals.
  • [33:33] Message which resulted from Dr. Barkley’s research.
  • [35:12] Primary care physicians need to understand the underlying problem and take a different approach to changing behavior.
  • [38:16] How you can bring this information to your primary care physician’s office.
  • [40:10] It’s OK to be vulnerable in disclosure and have the courage to talk to others about ADHD.

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 271_Russell_Barkley_on_Life_Expectency_an_ADHD_part_1_V2.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Welcome to this month’s live Q&A episode! I’ll start off myself (as my co-host is either mid-interview or heading back to join me). Let’s dive in! First, Kimberly asks about ADHD and PTSD, since her doctor suggested that she might only have PTSD and seemed to completely discount the ADHD. She’s also curious about gut bacteria helping with executive function. We’ll dig into both topics, including the point that trauma is about how we perceive a situation.

Marisol then joins the episode. As a microbiologist, she has some insight into gut-brain connection and the role of gut flora. She recommends starting by looking into the NIH Human Microbiome Project and journal articles from the American Society for Microbiology. (Meanwhile, someone in chat recommends Heads Up Health.)

After the first break, Brendan is back! We then hear from Marisol about her question, which is about thinking your feelings instead of feeling your feelings. Sometimes, for example, someone can feel anxious about something without having the physical components.

Other questions we’ll address in today’s episode include how long after diagnosis it takes to start getting ADHD under control, whether imposter syndrome is linked to ADHD (and what to do about it), what to do when you’re tired of self-care, the role of exercise for people with mobility limitations, and more!

Your Resources

NIH Human Microbiome Project
American Society for Microbiology
Brené Brown
Fighting Imposter Syndrome | TED
The Survival Guide for Kids with ADHD | John F. Taylor
My Brain Still Needs Glasses | Annick Vincent

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:25] Eric welcomes listeners to the monthly Q&A.
  • [01:59] Kimberly shares a question about ADHD and PTSD.
  • [05:07] We hear about how Kimberly was first diagnosed with ADHD, and what led to her diagnosis.
  • [08:01] How does Kimberly see her difficult past experiences impacting her?
  • [10:48] Kimberly talks about her next steps in scheduling appointments with therapists (both where she is now, and where she’s moving to soon).
  • [11:53] I share my thoughts on the gut bacteria link to executive function.
  • [13:55] Marisol joins the episode, and starts off by talking about whether she has any insights into the gut-brain connection.
  • [18:40] Brendan is back! He talks about how his radio interview went, then we dig into Marisol’s question about thinking your feelings.
  • [23:21] We hear Brendan’s thoughts on the topic of thinking your feelings.
  • [25:34] How long after diagnosis does it take for you to start to get your ADHD symptoms under control?
  • [29:20] It’s really important to focus on permission when talking about self-care.
  • [32:16] What is Marsol’s support system around ADHD?
  • [35:25] The next round of coaching groups starts July 15th!
  • [36:00] Mimi asks whether imposter syndrome is a typical ADHD thing, and how to eradicate it.
  • [40:51] Brendan shares a story involving an event that he mistook the date for.
  • [43:41] What do you do when you’re tired of self-care?
  • [45:48] We compare productivity systems and performance.
  • [47:59] Sheila’s question involves suggestions about exercise for people with limited mobility.
  • [53:43] Mary wants to know how to catch herself when she starts spending too long on the wrong thing.
  • [57:52] We hear one more question, this time from Robert. He wants to know where to begin as an adult with an ADHD diagnosis.
  • [59:41] If you want your question to be guaranteed to be answered in the next Q&A, join the VIP line at the $15 level on Patreon!

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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: ADHDRewired-270_April_QA.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:31pm CDT

Kali’s father recently passed away: this podcast is dedicated in memory of her father.

Kali Stanton joins me on this episode of the podcast.  She lives in Minnesota and is a teacher, wife and mom. Her most recent hobby she enjoys are piano lessons. I previously interviewed Kali  in Season 6. She has had many changes in her life since then, including moving to a new town and a new job. Kali was diagnosed in 2015 with ADHD and has now been told she now does not have ADHD.

In the last three years, Kali has had many changes in her life, including having her ADHD “undiagnosed”. The new clinic which treated her sent her to a psychologist for a more accurate diagnosis of Kali’s situation. Kali wasn’t sure what to do, then decided that instead of focusing on a diagnosis, she would focus on how she felt and if the therapy and methods she was practicing were making her feel better or not.

Kali has learned how having empathy for other family members and assisting them when they are diagnosed can help the entire family be better together. She also realizes there are times you need to take a break with another who you are in a relationship with to preserve the relationship for the future.

Your Resources

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:02] Kali talks about her diagnosis and her “undiagnoses”.
  • [05:06] She was told her diagnosis of ADHD with the psychiatrist wasn’t valid.
  • [09:02] More adults are misdiagnosed with ADHD than are children.
  • [10:15] Using strategies and coaching group instead of looking for a diagnosis.
  • [12:10] His current wife and others in his family who held him accountable for his actions.
  • [13:07] DSM and the lack of validation for patients and getting help for ADHD.
  • [15:00] Being on time is a hard challenge, especially with a partner.
  • [23:35] Family history and how that plays into the diagnosis with ADHD.
  • [26:27] Obsessive, compulsive checking your activities, if you did or didn’t do something.
  • [31:44] Autism community, diagnosis and polarization and overlap with ADHD.
  • [37:10] Seeing ADHD symptoms in family members and having empathy for them.
  • [47:14] Kali’s mom diagnosis and why her diagnosis helped her to put things into perspective.
  • [52:04] Putting on “the translator” when trying to decipher what a family member is talking about.
  • [53:18] Having compassion and taking a break with others who you have a relationship with.
  • [55:40] Resources which helped Kali learn about ADHD and how to deal with symptoms.

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 269_Family_Challenges_through_the_lense_of_ADHD_-_Kali_Stanton_V2.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:00pm CDT

Todd Ellis joins me on this episode of the podcast.  Todd is 43, is a grandfather of one and works for Microsoft Corporation outside of Seattle for the past 18 years. He was diagnosed at age eight. He recalls being a “spark plug” for his parents. As the youngest of three and the only boy, his parents didn’t understand his behavior.  His parents moved around quite often because of his parent’s work, so he was often the “new kid” at school. He found school boring and dull, except for science classes. He skipped most of high school,

In the last few years, Todd has “discovered an inner joy in helping people realize and reach their potential. Through this crazy tenure I have found space to reflect and what I have discovered has shaken my core.” His fulfillment is expressed in more “humanistic ways” with CrossFit, cookies, mindfulness and service to others. His personal mission is “To inspire and cultivate within everyone I meet, the reality that we all can stretch and reach milestones which lay far beyond what we comprehend as our current limit.”

Todd has learned through trial and error that he doesn’t have to be pegged into a socially “normal” role. He gravitates towards others who will also “go deep” to solve a problem, find out more information as these are the people who will connect you to others in life.

Your Resources

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:02] Todd’s introduction and background.
  • [07:50] Todd learns that he doesn’t have to be the way everyone else wants him to be and gets off his medication.
  • [08:30] Todd chats about leaving high school before graduating and chasing his new girlfriend to Florida.
  • [10:12] Rebuilding after his relationship fails and moving back in with his parents.
  • [12:10] His current wife and others in his family who held him accountable for his actions.
  • [19:23] Todd’s family, including his four children and his wife’s family.
  • [20:50] Moving to Minnesota, his new job and the beginnings of his new family.
  • [23:37] Todd’s 21 jobs he had at 21 years of age.
  • [25:00] Todd falls in love with personal computing and his brother getting him into tech field.
  • [31:28] Todd’s typical day, driving 50 miles each way to work.
  • [38:40] What is going on now at Microsoft Corporation and the work culture.
  • [42:17] His engineering team switch and how that gave him a different perspective.
  • [44:35] The book “Hit Refresh” The Quest to Rediscover Microsoft's Soul and Imagine a Better Future for Everyone.
  • [47:25] Workplaces and why they should make accommodations for their employees
  • [51:04] How does Todd “wear” his ADHD label in his work environment.

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 268_Neurodiversity_in_the_Workplace_with_Todd_Ellis_from_Microsoft.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Paul Phenix joins me on this episode of the podcast.  Paul, at the age of 75, has an extraordinary story of his journey with ADHD and is the oldest (and most wise) guest on my show to date. Paul has struggled with ADHD throughout his life, especially when attending medical school to be a veterinarian. Since his retirement, Paul has learned to enjoy life, leisurely activities and how to say, “Thank You.”  

Since his childhood, Paul has loved animals of all species: from the 500 frogs he brought into his mom’s parlor to the python he put under his new bride’s bed, he has been active with animal research and welfare since the age of 5. When he found out as a child he could take care of animals for a living, Paul knew what he wanted to do as an adult.

Paul has learned through research since being diagnosed at age 50 how to be a good problem solver, alternative therapies which work for lessening his anxiety and how to use different strategies to get through his day.

Your Resources

The Gift of Adult ADHD: How to Transform Your Child’s Problems into Strengths  | Lara Honos-Webb PhD

The Red Green Show - Adult ADHD, ADD Blog   | Totally ADD

The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results  | Gary Keller

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:46] How Paul found out he had ADHD.
  • [05:00] When Paul learned he could be a veterinarian and the social negativity he experienced when he was young.
  • [07:50] Wild animals Paul brought into his home as a child.
  • [09:45] The size of the python Paul’s new bride found next to their bed!
  • [15:21] How Paul’s life changed after being diagnosed and treated with medication.
  • [17:35] Rejection sensitivity and other issues that changed when Paul started to manage his ADHD.
  • [19:19] Wellbutrin’s benefits for those with ADHD.
  • [21:07] Two times for those with ADHD: now and not now and hyperfocus.
  • [25:57] What Paul can do for enjoyment at this period in his life without feeling guilty for having fun.
  • [28:10] What advice Paul would give to his past self and learning how to say “Thank You”.
  • [35:49] Tapping your body meridians to relieve anxiety.
  • [38:20] Hypnosis and the benefits for those with ADHD.
  • [44:30] Paul was the first person in New Hampshire to bring a dog into a nursing home and the therapeutic power of dogs.
  • [50:35] How a golden retriever saved a family’s life.
  • [53:30] Releasing anxiety around daily activities.
  • [57:01] The more information we can get to kids, the better off they will be.

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Adeola Sogbein joins me on this episode of the podcast.  Adeola is a listener of the podcast, and he has an inspiring story to share with us.  Over the last four years, he has lost the weight equivalent of two adults (330 lbs) and was diagnosed with ADHD at the same time.  He comes on the podcast to talk about the importance of having people on your side and not giving up.

In a way, Adeola’s journey started when he fell asleep in a job interview.  That led to a sleep apnea diagnosis, and once he was able to treat that, many things in his life started falling into place.  That diagnosis allowed him to lose an incredible amount of weight. Shortly after that, he was diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia.  In this conversation, he shares how he embraced education, and that allowed him to manage these things.

Connect with Adeola Sogbein:

Email - sogbeina@gmail.com

Your Resources

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:49] - Adeola explains his history with OCD and how he has worked to overcome some of those challenges.
  • [06:43] - Adeola describes what was going on in his life when he was diagnosed with ADHD.  Things started with a sleep apnea diagnosis.
  • [09:14] - A book on Adult ADHD changed Adeola’s life.
  • [11:07] - Three women came into Adeola's life and helped him through this period in his life.  He also shares some of the resources he accessed.
  • [13:24] - Adeola talks about receiving his ADHD diagnosis and describes his emotions following that diagnosis.  
  • [19:00] - I explain the idea of the domino effect.  Adeola identifies sleep apnea as that first domino.
  • [22:46] - Adeola shares how he started this journey through education.
  • [24:44] - We talk about how important it is for children with IEP’s to know what is on their IEP and why they receive certain accommodations.
  • [27:10] - Adeola was just recently diagnosed with dyslexia and dyscalculia.  He expresses that he finds it difficult to explain this to neurotypical individuals.
  • [30:23] - Finding a proper support group has played a huge role in Adeola's success. This leads to him describing some of his exercise routines.
  • [33:44] - Adeola explained how moving to the right apartment for him helped him with his ADHD symptoms.  
  • [36:48] - As he worked through his ADHD symptoms, Adeola re-engineered his life.  He shares what he means by “re-engineering life” and explains how he did it.
  • [44:45] - Adeola has gone back to school and talks about his experience with online classes.
  • [48:11] - Adeola shares how he views himself now that he has lost a significant amount of weight.  
  • [51:40] - Adeola says that once his sleep apnea was under control, everything fell into place.  He also talks about the importance of drinking the right amount of water.
  • [56:28] - Adeola talks about the book he wrote on his journey.  

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 266_Losing_330_pounds_after_sleep_apnea_ADHD_dyslexia_diagnosis.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

This episode is the recording of March’s live Q&A.  The questions answered in this episode were submitted by listeners of this podcast, both ahead of time and live.  Brendan Mahan once again joins me on this Q&A.

We cover a variety of topics on this episode.  We talk about anxiety, impulsivity, consistency, resiliency, accommodations, and much more.  In this conversation, Brendan has many opportunities to point you to episodes of his podcast.  

You can listen to our live Q&A sessions on the second Tuesday of every month at 1:30 pm Eastern.  Join Brendan Mahan and me as we answer your questions live. You can register at http://ADHDreWired.com/events.  

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

Your Resources

ADHD Essentials Podcast

How to ADHD YouTube Channel

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:29] - Deborah asks what accommodations would be appropriate for someone who works a desk job.   We share several accommodations and tips on the timing of requesting accommodations.
  • [10:19] - Chelsea asks how to be more consistent.  She is having trouble keeping pace with her goals. I suggest focusing on resiliency instead of consistency.
  • [20:38] - Susan would like to find a good ADHD coach.  Because coaching is not covered by her insurance, she’d like to find good coaching that fits in her budget.
  • [26:24] - Meghan shares that she is impulsive with the things she says.  She asks how to slow her response to avoid saying hurtful things to her husband.  Brendan and I provide some strategies to try.
  • [35:56] - We answer a question from Facebook.  This person wants to know how ADHD medications impact Autism Spectrum Disorder.  
  • [39:28] - Theresa asks for events like this Q&A for youth.  Brendan points out that he does a podcast on/for this population.
  • [45:14] - Brendan talks about navigating anxiety and getting that in check before looking at the ADHD.  I talk about doing food experiments with a family. Certain foods impact how we feel.
  • [49:13] - Kate asks how to identify what is ADHD and what is anxiety.  Brendan shares some tips on this identification process. I take a more clinical approach to the topic.  
  • [53:43] - Rosa would like to know how to get a day back on a track after experiencing anxiety. I can relate to this, and I share how physical exercise helps me. Brendan also suggests social interaction.
  • [58:10] - Brendan goes through some important and useful episodes of his podcast.  

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 265_Q__A_March_2019.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

My guest this week is Linda Donalds.  Linda was diagnosed with ADHD in her early 40s.  Like so many who were diagnosed later in life, the ADHD diagnosis helped explain so many of her struggles.  Professionally, Linda is a board-certified hypnotist.  She’s been an active member of the Guild of Hypnotists for over 20 years, and in recent years has shifted her focus to using her hypnosis for helping adults and teens struggling with ADHD and sleep-related issues with ADHD. 

Linda is an alumnus of our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups and knows that I am somewhat skeptical of hypnosis.  In this discussion, I am setting aside my judgments, and I will be open and curious. 

Linda explains that hypnosis is a state where your brainwaves slow down, and it’s like being on the edge of sleep without actually falling asleep.  It allows you to harness your busy thoughts by exploring the past, present, and future.  In this episode, you will get the opportunity to participate in a guided hypnotic experience. 

Connect with Linda Donalds:

Website: http://newhorizonsinhypnosis.com

Bonus Gift from Linda: https://newhorizonsinhypnosis.com/adhdrewired/

Phone: 508-246-2721

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:56] - Linda talks about working in two spaces that have a lot of skepticism, hypnosis and ADHD. She shares some specific concerns
  • [07:22] - Linda says there is a fine line between using ADHD as an explanation and an excuse.
  • [09:28] - Linda gives a thorough an explanation of what hypnosis is. As a hypnotist who specializes in sleep, she puts things into context by comparing it to sleep stages.
  • [13:11] - Hypnosis has three characteristics, and when these characteristics exist together, you have a hypnotic state.
  • [23:17] - Linda lays the groundwork as she prepares to lead us through a hypnotic experience. This includes some safety disclaimers and suggestions.
  • [26:47] - Linda walks us through a guided hypnotic experience.
  • [37:08] - Linda brings us out of this hypnotic experience. She agrees with me that there are a lot of similarities between hypnosis and meditation.
  • [39:47] - I share my experience with meditation and explain that having a voice guiding me helps me significantly. Linda explains that hypnosis allows you to harness the busy thoughts.  We also discuss the role of memories.
  • [51:23] - Linda shares how hypnosis can help with sleep issues.
  • [57:10] - We end this discussion by talking about the evidence for hypnosis, and the lack of evidence of hypnosis as a treatment for ADHD.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 264_Hypnosis_-_this_is_different.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Dawn Nickel is my guest on this episode.  Dawn is a certified professional recover coach and holds a Ph.D. in Healthcare Policy with a focus on women who experience issues related to mental health, addiction, and intimate partner violence.  Dawn has taken her life experiences of being in recovery from substance abuse, domestic violence, cancer, codependency, grief, and workaholism and turned it into an empowerment movement called She Recovers. 

 

It is a fact that people with ADHD have higher rates of addiction.  Because of that, I’m excited to share this conversation with you.  You will hear Dawn share her incredible story that includes four overdoses by the time she was a 20-years-old, a pregnancy at that same age, struggling with workaholism, and defending her dissertation in recovery from surgery.  Dawn says that we are all recovering from something.

 

Connect with Dawn Nickel:

Email - Dawn@SheRecovers.co

Website - SheRecovers.co

Facebook - She Recovers

 

Your Resources

 

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:01] - Dawn shares her story and tells us how she got to where she is now.
  • [08:33] - When Dawn went back to school, she found herself addicted to the pace of school. She calls this “toxic productivity.”
  • [09:30] - Dawn describes the experience of her daughter falling into drug use.
  • [12:08] - Overachieving was a confirming experience for Dawn.
  • [12:33] - Dawn considers workaholism “the final frontier.” I share my struggles in this area of life.
  • [16:10] - By having nine retreats a year, Dawn is guaranteed periods of time away from work.
  • [18:04] - When I am working longer than I want to, I find myself getting annoyed. Dawn says this is a matter of being aware.
  • [20:01] - Dawn talks about identifying bottom-lines and high-lines and using healthy accountability to meet goals.
  • [29:20] - Dawn tells us the story surrounding her cancer diagnosis. She defended her dissertation from the hospital post-surgery.
  • [36:12] - “Everyone knows what addiction looks like. Nobody knows what recovery looks like.”
  • [43:08] - Dawn talks about working with Shelly, and witnessing the changing perspective with shame.
  • [52:16] - Dawn shares the story of She Recovers and describes their offerings.

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 263_Recovery_and_Community.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:00pm CDT

We have a different type of episode for you this week.  Brendan Mahan joins me for this episode. We’re talking about sleep!  Brendan and I had our monthly Q&A episode last week, and we ended the episode on the topic of sleep.  

Since the beginning of the year, my sleep has been incredible.  On the other hand, Brendan has struggled with sleep. He cites a number of changes in his weekly schedule as the primary reason for this.  Throughout this conversation, you will hear many of the changes in routine and strategies I have implemented that has led to a higher quality of sleep.  

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

Your Resources

Sleep with Me Podcast

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:31] - Brendan shares the reasons why his sleep has not been great recently.  
  • [05:32] - My wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms because of our differences in sleep.  
  • [06:52] - Brendan provides us with another reason why his quality of sleep has suffered.
  • [08:44] - I share my strategy behind using specific language with my goals to help me get my sleep on track.
  • [10:38] - Another goal I have for this year is on the topic of difficult conversations.
  • [14:07] - Brendan talks about how boundary-setting helps his sleep.
  • [20:55] - One of my goals was to have a deeper connection with myself.  A meditation class is helping me accomplish this. I’ve also started journaling.  I talk about how my writing strategy is soothing for me.
  • [29:24] - I have been participating in a meditation class, and explain my efforts to stomach the “woo woo.”  
  • [35:27] - Sleepytime tea has been a key addition to my evening routine.
  • [38:29] - Believe it or not, closing my closet doors helps me wind down and prepare for sleep.  If I’m going to look at a screen an hour or two before sleep, I put on Blublocker glasses. This leads to a discussion on boundaries around screen-time.
  • [46:21] - I talk about using supplements and medication to help with sleep.  
  • [49:53] - I have changed what I listen to at night.  I play a sample of what helps me go to sleep.
  • [55:04] - 9:15 is the tuck time.  9:45 is my next target-time, to get upstairs.
  • [58:56] - I use sleep notes in my Sleep Cycle app, and it indicates that when I stick to my strategies, my sleep benefits from it.
  • [1:08:05] - Warm showers and meditation have helped me the most with my sleep.

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This episode is the recording of February’s live Q&A.  The questions answered in this episode were submitted by listeners of this podcast, both ahead of time and live.  Brendan Mahan once again joins me on this Q&A.

This week, we had several listeners join us on the podcast.  You will hear us talk with a couple of people who were diagnosed later, and are working through things like finding helpful therapists and being ready for coaching.  

You can listen to our live Q&A sessions on the second Tuesday of every month at 1:30 pm Eastern.  Join Brendan Mahan and me as we answer your questions live. You can register at http://ADHDreWired.com/events.  

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

Your Resources

CHADD

How to ADHD

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:18] - Brendan shares that he is filling in as principal for a school.
  • [06:50] - Brendan explains why he is no longer a fan of the concept of behavior management.  
  • [08:24] - Anna has a question about dyslexia.  Some of the characteristics of dyslexia are becoming apparent.  She wonders how dyslexia is displayed and diagnosed.
  • [13:48] - Amy joins the call and shares that she was diagnosed with ADHD at 41.  She doesn’t feel that the therapists she has encountered aren’t that helpful.
  • [18:32] - I ask Amy some follow-up questions and Brendan and I share some thoughts on her situation.  
  • [27:24] - Rob was just diagnosed with ADHD at 50.  He wonders where to start. We give him some resources.  
  • [31:52] - Juliet joins the call and is looking to manage anger and frustration she feels, specifically with her 8-year old who has ADHD.  This is an aspect of ADHD that is not discussed much. I share some of my thoughts on regulating these emotions.
  • [45:24] - Brett talks with us about being ready for coaching.  
  • [56:33] - Tina joins the call.  She brings up the idea of using a filter in interactions with others.  
  • [1:01:07] - Brendan and I talk about our current sleep habits and progress.

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ADHD Women’s Palooza

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Justin Classen returns to the podcast for this episode.  He previously appeared on Episode #195.  Justin learned that he has ADHD in April 2017.  Since then, he has been devoting himself to a journey of acceptance and developing a true sense of awareness.  Prior to his diagnosis, Justin would describe his life as a seemingly endless series of impulsive catastrophes.  Since he was last on the podcast, Justin continues to make tons of progress and positive changes in his life from improving his health, getting control of his finances, and being more organized.  Justin is here to share the message that if he can do it, so can you.

“You know you have ADHD when you set reminders to set reminders.”  The progress that Justin has made since our last discussion is impressive, and in this conversation, you will hear him describe the strategies he has implemented and the results he’s experienced.  One area that Justin is struggling with is readjusting to home life after a week away for work. We discuss some ways he could transition between those two worlds.

Your Resources

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones - James Clear

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:43] - Justin describes his life since he was on the podcast over a year ago.
  • [03:21] - Justin explains the type of work he does.
  • [05:15] - When discussing his progress, Justin emphasizes how vital medication is.
  • [06:34] - We all experience setbacks, and Justin describes how he recovers from these situations.
  • [07:32] - Justin tells us how he avoids misplacing his wallet, keys, and phone.
  • [08:36] - Having clocks and timers in various locations helps Justin stay on track with appointments and tasks.  
  • [09:56] - Justin talks about some of the pleasant surprises he’s experienced since his diagnosis. One is the repairing of relationships, and he explains how he fixed these.
  • [19:57] - Justin says these high-energy and impulsive tendencies are still there.  He shares how he keeps those things in check.
  • [22:32] - Justin talks about his self-care.  
  • [27:04] - Justin has a strange schedule with seven days away from home and then seven days at home.  He talks about his struggles with juggling those two different routines.
  • [29:46] - Audiobooks are something that Justin has been enjoying recently.  He shares how the books he is listening to are helping him work through things.
  • [33:14] - Justin talks about giving back to the ADHD community.  He would like to do something that’s more interactive and intuitive.
  • [41:28] - Meditation is something Justin is curious about.  I share some tips on meditation and mindfulness for Justin, who is a very physically active person.  
  • [45:12] - Justin talks about keeping track of the positive things he’s doing for himself.  
  • [47:58] - Justin asks about molding his home life and work life together.  

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 260_Progress_is_Power_with_Justin_Classen.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

This episode is another mastermind group session!  This conversation is with ADHD reWired Addmin, who help with our coaching group.  This week, Juliet sits in the hot seat. Also in the mastermind call are Kat, Dave, Katie, and Roxy.

In this conversation, you will hear Juliet describe her situation and challenges.  Juliet feels that situations in her life go in circles. She’d like to change her outcomes by doing things differently instead of doing them the same ways, expecting different results.  Throughout this conversation, you will hear the other members of the group and me ask her questions, share our own experiences, and provide some action-items to help her get past these things that seem to be holding her back.  

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:05] - Juliet shares that she keeps going in circles with everything.  She provides a few examples of this happening in her life. This is what she’d like to mastermind.  
  • [04:21] - Juliet describes what is happening now in this area. 
  • [06:02] -  Working on this area of her life is important to Juliet.
  • [07:22] - Juliet is not sure how other people view her.  She feels this comes from her personality being extreme on both ends.
  • [10:10] - There is a fair amount of neurodiversity in Juliet’s family.  She talks about her self-concept as a person and mom on the spectrum.
  • [12:49] - Juliet describes her last job and why she lost interest in it.
  • [16:26] - I suggest Juliet come up with a more proactive self-care plan.  Kat asks Juliet about the difference between self-care and selfishness.
  • [18:31] - Dave points out that Juliet is navigating a lot of situations.  
  • [21:10] - Katie asks how long it takes Juliet to notice she’s getting burned out in a job.  We talk about preemptively handling this situation.
  • [28:03] - Katie encourages Juliet to consider taking “staycations” to avoid burnout from work.  She also suggests Katie find someone in the workplace to help her with honest feedback.
  • [30:00] - Juliet talks about the possibility of working with families of children on the spectrum.  I see the passion when she talks about this possibility, and encourage her to pursue this.
  • [33:02] - Juliet describes her ideal work day.
  • [37:28] - Roxy asks Juliet if there are things that work to bring her into the present.
  • [39:46] - Roxy wonders if there are things outside of her support group that she’s like to implement to help her regroup.  
  • [42:11] - Juliet talks about how she manages her calendar and tasks.  
  • [45:47] - I share an opinion on empathy with people on the spectrum.  
  • [47:30] - Kat talks about working with a client going through self-care guilt.  She shares her personal experience.
  • [50:56] - I share how I manage certain events on my calendar.
  • [51:57] - Roxy talks about giving herself a time-out can help in some interpersonal situations.
  • [56:05] - I share a situation where I lost my patience with my son.
  • [58:55] - Juliet shares the actions she would like to take.

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Direct download: 259_Mastermind_-_Preventing_Burnout.mp3
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Direct download: 259_SPECIAL_AD.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:48pm CDT

This episode is another mastermind group session.  This conversation is with ADHD reWired alumni from our 14th season.  This week, Katie returns to the podcast and is in the hot seat. We are joined by Kat, Roxy, Juliet, and Carrie.  

In this conversation, you will hear Katie describe her situation.  She would like to find her passion and potentially make a career out of it.  Katie enjoys creating content, specifically on YouTube. By the end of the conversation, Katie has an idea of what she wants to do, and she will have a timeline for herself to accomplish this goal.  

Connect with Katie:

https://www.youtube.com/user/katiecuppycakemakeup

Your Resources

The Art of Asking:  How I learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help - Amanda Palmer

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:19] - Katie shares that she is looking to mastermind finding her passion.  She has struggled with decisions, so figuring out what passion to focus on has been difficult.
  • [02:56] - Carrie asks about any limitations.  Katie would like to turn a passion into a career, but she’s having a hard time wrapping her head around that idea.
  • [03:47] - Roxy asks Katie to list some of her passions.  Katie explains why she is drawn to content creation via YouTube.  This leads to a discussion on the number of things Katie is good at.  
  • [08:11] - In the past, she got overwhelmed when she restricted her efforts to one thing.  She shared an example of this happening.
  • [09:53] - Kat suggests the idea of “seasons” with a podcast or YouTube channel, which would allow her to keep her interests in several areas, rather than focus on just one.
  • [12:26] - Juliet follows up on Katie’s earlier comment about being a Kindergarten teacher.
  • [14:55] - Carrie asks Katie to consider what she likes about each of her options.  
  • [22:03] - Katie describes “work.”  She describes what she finds fulfilling.  
  • [25:17] - Katie talks about how Jesse’s skills complement her own.  I talk with her about doing what you love and incorporating outsourcing.
  • [31:18] - Katie gives a few reasons why she is interested in moving toward following her passions.
  • [32:14] - We talk about talents and “gift.”  
  • [33:32] - Katie says a lack of action on other things in life and the fact she’s not on her medication is making moving towards her goal difficult.  I share that ADHD is a performance disorder.
  • [36:08] - Katie shares what she is doing to simplify things.
  • [41:15] - Katie tells us what her lifelong vision is, which is something that is happening soon!
  • [45:29] - Carrie asks if there are pain-points that might help Katie focus on specific things.  She admits that she does not ask for help enough.
  • [50:59] - Katie says she struggles with meal prep.
  • [53:48] - We discuss the idea of Katie having a YouTube Channel on being an ADHD mom.
  • [57:27] - Katie shares a recent epiphany.
  • [1:03:43] - Katie decides how and when she will take action.
  • [1:12:40] - Katie comes up with an impromptu song about her time on the hot seat.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 258_Mastermind_-_Asking_for_Help_and_Making_Decisions.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode is the recording of January’s live Q&A.  The questions answered in this episode were submitted by listeners of this podcast, both ahead of time and live.  Brendan Mahan once again joins me on this Q&A. On this episode, you will hear Brendan and me discuss a handful of listener questions on sleep, multitasking, anxiety from goals, and other topics.  

You can listen to our live Q&A sessions on the second Tuesday of every month at 1:30 pm Eastern.  Join Brendan Mahan and me as we answer your questions live. You can register at http://ADHDreWired.com/events.  

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

Your Resources

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:59] - The first question comes from Christian.  He has been struggling with sleep and finds himself waking up frustrated.  We try to figure out what could be causing his sleep issues, and we give him some tips.
  • [17:22] - Drew asks if it’s possible to have attention focused in multiple places at once.  Brendan and I explain why it’s not possible to be good at multitasking. Brendan shares his thoughts on this topic.
  • [28:20] - Sarah is looking for advice on how to show her husband that the behaviors of their daughter with ADHD are not a matter of “not caring.”  We talk about helping her husband see things from a different perspective and trying to create better habits for children (and ourselves).
  • [44:22] - Mike joins the call to ask about money.  Finances are something he struggles with but isn’t sure how to unload that responsibility.   Brendan and I talk with him about some solutions.
  • [55:58] - Kenya wonders why just thinking about writing goals down causes anxiety.  Brendan talks about how he plays with language, and sometimes ADHD wins. This question allows me to go on a rant.  
  • [1:04:47] - I share a new strategy to get to bed at a better time.  Brendan talks about a new snack that helps him avoid unhealthy snacks.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 257_Jan_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Eric Zimmer joins me on this episode of the podcast.  He is a serial entrepreneur, coach, and host of the podcast, The One You Feed.  Eric is endlessly inspired by the quest for a greater understanding of how our minds work and how to intentionally create the lives we want to live.  

At the age of 24, Eric was homeless, addicted to heroin, and facing long jail sentences.  In the years since, he has found a way how to recover from addiction, and build a life worth living.  While Eric doesn’t know if he has ADHD, he does know a lot about doing hard things in order to live the life you want to live.

In this conversation, you will hear Eric, and I talk about perfectionism, battling depression, and meditation and other forms of self-care.  We also discuss the balance of being content and striving for growth. We even get a little “woo woo” in this conversation!

Your Resources:

The Spirituality of Imperfection - Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham
Happiness is a Choice You Make - John Leland

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:37] - Eric explains where he got the name of his podcast, The One You Feed.
  • [05:05] - Half a lifetime ago, Eric was homeless.  He tells us his path to that point in life.
  • [09:15] - “The nature of addiction is that it’s chronic.”
  • [10:40] - We talk about recovering from failure.
  • [13:19] - Eric shares his thoughts on perfectionism.
  • [18:51] - Eric says you need to throw the kitchen sink at depression.  He shares what is in his kitchen sink.
  • [26:29] - Eric talks about trying to balance being content and striving for growth.
  • [32:17] - Eric describes why he feels that he is a spiritual person.
  • [39:23] - I share my recent experiences with meditation and journaling.
  • [45:18] - Eric describes his meditations, and says to try things and see what works for you.
  • [48:43] - Eric talks about open meditation.
  • [51:48] - Self-care is exhausting, but trying harder is even more exhausting.
  • [54:19] - Eric states that we aren’t built well for long-term rewards.  We share tips for people who are not in an exercise routine.
  • [1:00:30] - Eric explains how we figure out how to unlock the key to our mental health.
  • [1:05:22] - Eric says that learning life lessons like a spiral staircase.  
  • [1:07:46] - The more we do hard things, the easier it is to do hard things.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 256_The_One_You_Feed_with_Eric_Zimmer.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

Isaac Boutin joins me on this week’s episode of the podcast.  Isaac has been diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and Tourette’s. He also might be the youngest guest we’ve had on this podcast, as he is finishing his senior year of high school.  When I talked with Isaac, his story and attitude were so positive and inspiring, I knew we needed to have him on.

Recently, an academic advisor suggested to Isaac that he appear on a podcast or radio show.  He reached out to me, and here’s his appearance! Throughout this conversation, you will hear Isaac talk about the impact ADHD, OCD, and Tourette’s have had on his academics, sports, and life in general.  

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:35] - Isaac shares the story of his education.  He describes how he pushes himself in his studies.
  • [05:46] - An academic advisor suggested to Isaac that he look for an opportunity to be a guest on a podcast or radio show.
  • [09:15] - When he was younger, Isaac felt ashamed of himself.  As he got older, he realized he’s happy with who he is and chose to no longer hide his diagnoses.
  • [14:39] - Isaac describes his study habits.  This includes studying while he runs.
  • [19:55] - OCD and Tourette’s are part of Isaac’s everyday life.  He describes their impact.
  • [24:34] - Isaac shares a recent example of his compulsions.
  • [27:03] - We talk about OCD and Exposure and Response Prevention.
  • [36:38] - I talk about Jia Jiang’s efforts to deal with the fear of rejection. Check out his book, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection.
  • [43:23] - Isaac loves talking about sports, and he shares their role in his life.
  • [51:52] - Isaac explains how his medication has helped him.
  • [53:04] - Isaac believes that having ADHD helps him in hockey, specifically with being “clutch.”
  • [56:12] - We look ahead to the future, which includes attending university and Toastmasters.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 255_Exercise_Study_Habits_and_a_Healthy_Perspective_with_Isaac_Boutin.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode is another mastermind session.  Kat, Katie, Juliet, Dave, and Carrie join me in this discussion with Roxy, who is in the hot seat.  Roxy has decided that the theme for this episode is “aging out of opportunities.”

In this discussion, you will hear Roxy express a desire for a change, but she is a bit overwhelmed by the number of options she has.  Throughout the conversation, it becomes clear that Roxy feels drawn to the idea of being an ADHD coach.  We talk about what appeals to her about being an ADHD coach, and some of the reasons she feels some apprehension.  One thing that intimidates her is marketing, and I share my experience of overcoming this and other fears in my journey.  

Your Resources:

Building Your Ideal Practice

You’ll Learn:

  • [01:42] - Roxy shares that she’d like to mastermind the theme of aging out of opportunities.  She feels she has too many options and too little clarity. 
  • [02:23] - Juliet asks if there are areas with positive experiences that could help guide her. 
  • [04:07] - Katie asks a clarifying question about the theme “aging out of opportunities.” 
  • [05:35] - I share what I envision when I hear “aging out of opportunities,” and ask Katie to further explain it from her perspective.  This leads to a discussion on pursuing becoming an ADHD coach. 
  • [10:11] - Dave feels that Roxy discounts her career, and wonders if she doesn’t value it. She says that living in a college town impacts the way she views things.  
  • [18:22] - Carrie wonders how much satisfaction Roxy currently gets from helping people. 
  • [25:12] - Juliet suggests Roxy consider teaching/coaching hairdressers. 
  • [26:50] - Roxy shares what her future would look like after a coaching certification. 
  • [31:13] - We talk about changing our perspective on “starting late.” 
  • [36:48] - Roxy says her first action is to talk more with people to determine the next step. I push Roxy to set some decision dates. 
  • [41:12] - Kat asks Roxy what her word of the year, “courage” looks like to her. 
  • [45:04] - Roxy shares some of her fears about this change, but believes these fears are out of her control.  Marketing is something that intimidates her. 
  • [50:36] - Kat says that they were drawn to me because I am authentic, and Roxy needs to be herself in everything, including marketing. 
  • [54:00] - Katie addresses the fact that Roxy doesn’t see herself as consistent.  
  • [56:56] - We talk about acquiring testimonials, and learning marketing. 

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Direct download: 254_Mastermind_-_Cut_The_BS.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

I’m joined on this episode by LeDerick Horne.  LeDerick is a poet, leader, speaker, and disability activist.  LeDerick was diagnosed with a learning disability in the third-grade.  A tireless advocate for people with all disabilities, he uses his gift of the spoken word as a gateway to larger discussions on equal opportunity, pride, and self-determination.  

LeDerick has appeared at the White House and the United Nations.  He co-authored the book, Empowering Students with Hidden Disabilities: A Path to Pride and Success. He has also released two spoken word poetry albums.  I met LeDerick and had the opportunity to see him speak at the CHADD Conference, and I’m excited to have him on the podcast.  

In this conversation, you will hear LeDerick share his personal educational story and explain how the help from different people helped him be successful.  As a poet and writer, he shares some useful tips on writing and he points out that “everybody edits.” LeDerick has a lot of great insight into disclosing disabilities, specifically in the workplace.  He shares how by sharing your strengths, weaknesses, and the accommodations you need and using resources and allies, you can set yourself on a path for success.

Connect with LeDerick Horne:

Website - http://lederick.com

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:00] - LeDerick shares his story.  He talks about his educational journey and explains how it lead to where he is now.
  • [06:49] - LeDerick talks about his decision to self-disclose on the job. He describes self-disclosure as a powerful set of skills.
  • [10:53] - There is a risk in self-disclosure, and LeDerick describes how he explains this situation.
  • [13:03] - LeDerick reads some poetry from his first album. It’s a piece entitled “Nina.”
  • [18:07] - A counselor encouraged LeDerick to forget about his spelling, but just focus on writing.  He explains how she helped him get past the things that tripped him up with writing.
  • [21:35] - LeDerick talks about his writing process.
  • [25:33] - I share that I have changed my internal dialogue about how I think about myself as a writer.  LeDerick shares some of his wisdom in this area.
  • [30:14] - As adults, relying on the people around us is something that can help us be successful.  
  • [42:13] - LeDerick shares his thoughts on self-disclosing without risking a loss of employment.  He shares a resource, the 411 on Disability Disclosure.
  • [44:12] - The understanding of our rights as people with disabilities is essential.  
  • [47:16] - We talk about using discretion in disclosing in the workplace.  
  • [49:40] - LeDerick ends out discussion with another poem, “An American Idea.”

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 253_Self-Advocacy_and_Disclosure_LeDerick_Horne.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:50pm CDT

This episode is the recording of December’s live Q&A.  The questions answered in this episode were submitted by listeners of this podcast, both ahead of time and live.  Brendan Mahan once again joins me on this Q&A.

On this episode, you will hear Brendan, and me answer a handful of listener questions.  You will hear us answer questions on unstructured time, regulating emotions in the workplace, and the transition from high school to college.  You’ll also hear a story of a near-fight involving Brendan, and he has the ability to turn that situation into a learning opportunity.

You can listen to our live Q&A sessions on the second Tuesday of every month at 1:30 pm Eastern.  Join Brendan Mahan and me as we answer your questions live. You can register at http://ADHDreWired.com/events.  

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:26] - Juliet is struggling with finding time for herself.  She asks for suggestions on carving time out of a busy schedule.
  • [07:35] - Elliott asks about making the best of unstructured time.  I share some of my experience with unstructured time and the importance of accountability.
  • [19:09] - Brendan shares a question that came in ahead of time.  This person wants to know how to regulate their emotions at work.  Brendan shares why this scenario may not be a regulation of emotions issue.
  • [23:01] - Tracey is unsure how to identify rewards.  I explain that people with ADHD are less sensitive to rewards and need more of them.
  • [33:40] - Brendan shares his thoughts on his 2019 goals. He also tells a story that provides a good example to his philosophy “don’t get mad, get offended.”
  • [43:54] - Helen asks a question for son about homework and study habits as he prepares to enter college.  Brendan suggests checking out Episode 22 of ADHD Essentials Podcast for more information on the transition from high school to college.
  • [49:00] - David joins the call to update us on a question in a previous episode.  He is considering going back to college to study for a second career. He is searching for advice about the college process.

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 252_Live_Q__A_-_Dec_2018.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

The guest for this episode is Shelley Ann Morris.  Shelley is an administrative assistant receptionist who assists people who are blind.  She volunteers at CKCU FM and hosts the show Welcome to My World.  Shelley is a triathlete who does sprints and Olympic distance triathlons.  She was born with significant vision loss.

In this conversation, you will hear Shelley talk about being diagnosed at age 44, and she explains how being born with a vision disability gave her the skills and tools to cope with ADHD.  Shelley talks about coming out of the “dark days” and how connecting with a coach and counselor, she was able to find success in the workplace and life.

Connect with Shelley Ann Morris

Website: www.ckcufm.com/wtmw

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:32] - Shelley was diagnosed with ADHD at age 44.  She describes her vision loss.
  • [05:12] - Shelley explains why she sought a diagnosis.
  • [09:17] - She describes how being born with a vision disability gave her the skills and tools to cope with ADHD.  It comes down to decisions to be better or bitter.
  • [15:22] - Shelley talks about her dark days and challenges.
  • [21:43] - Taking positive steps and forgiving others in her dark days helped her find her way.
  • [24:36] - She explains how she connected with a coach and counselor, and what she worked on with them.
  • [26:46] - Shelley describes how she works best.
  • [30:35] - The variety of tasks and the energy from people helps Shelley succeed as an administrative assistant and receptionist.  She also talks about the benefit of having a good manager.
  • [32:01] - A listener of Shelley’s radio show was prompted to seek an evaluation for ADHD.  
  • [34:40] - Shelley explains that because she’s been hurt, she goes out her way to not hurt others.
  • [35:24] - While she was between jobs, she managed volunteers.  When she introduced herself via email, she encouraged people to communicate challenges with her.
  • [42:32] - Shelley describes some of the accommodations she receives to be successful at work.
  • [48:38] - Shelley says that ADHD is a bigger beast to deal with than low vision.
  • [52:50] - Listening to music helps inspire Shelley.  
  • [55:18] - Shelley explains why she sometimes feels like The Grinch, but not for a reason you’d expect.  This leads to a discussion on background noise and distractions.
  • [1:00:50] - Shelley says there are a lot of resources to help.  
  • [1:02:00] - Shelley talks about her athletic endeavors as a triathlete.

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Productivity Q&A

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The guest of this episode is Emily Parks.  Emily is a productivity consultant and the owner of Organize for Success.  She is an Evernote certified consultant. A lover of technology, Emily can help with prioritization, email, calendar management, and everything else that we could all use help with.  

In this conversation, you will hear Emily share a ton of super helpful tips and strategies.  This is a can’t-miss episode if you would like to become more efficient in areas of your life with things like digital clutter, time-blocking, and email.  At the end of the episode, you’ll even hear Emily share some tips specific to this holiday time of the year.

Connect with Emily Parks

Website - OrganizeForSuccess.biz

You’ll Learn:

  • [02:26] - “Our brain is made for thinking, not remembering.”
  • [03:28] -  Emily shares her answer to “What’s the best tool for remembering things?” She shares a few reasons she loves Evernote.
  • [05:36] - Emily says that she uses Evernote as her external brain.
  • [07:19] - When it comes to Evernote, Emily never recommends having too much of anything.  
  • [08:57] - Emily shares tips on naming folders in Evernote.
  • [10:54] - I describe my “1-2-3 Hack.”
  • [12:42] - If using the subject line is too overwhelming, you can rename your default notebook and use it as an inbox to hold items for processing.
  • [15:38] - “One is the most productive number” is Emily’s line of thinking behind having people do an audit
  • [24:57] - We tend to scatter our organization.  Emily talks about managing this clutter.
  • [27:27] - Emily addresses the issue of social media notifications.
  • [31:00] - It’s easy to get sucked into the neverending stream of videos on Facebook.  Emily shares how to keep yourself from falling into those traps.
  • [34:49] - Emily encourages me (and all of us) to do our daily wrap-up.
  • [43:11] - Daily planning is very important for people with ADHD, and Emily gives tips on staying on track.  
  • [51:20] - Emily talks more about time-blocking methods.
  • [57:26] - Emily and I share a hatred of email.  Emily shares some tips and tricks related to email.
  • [1:00:35] - Emily gives a few tips on keeping phone calls short in length.
  • [1:03:00] - Email: Checking vs. Processing
  • [1:07:24] - Emily talks about staying productive and on-task during the holidays.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 250_Best_Productivity_Episode_Yet_with_Emily_Parks.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am CDT

This episode is the recording of November’s live Q&A.  The questions answered in this episode were submitted by listeners of this podcast, both ahead of time and live.  Brendan Mahan once again joins me on this Q&A.

On this episode, you will hear Brendan and I recount our experiences at the CHADD conference.  We also dive in and answer a handful of listener-submitted questions on topics like digital minimalism, holiday stress, and time blindness.

You can listen to our live Q&A sessions on the second Tuesday of every month at 1:30 pm Eastern.  Join Brendan Mahan and me as we answer your questions live. You can register at http://ADHDreWired.com/events.  

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

You’ll Learn:

  • [05:36] - Brenan shares his most significant takeaway from the CHADD conference.
  • [09:00] - I talk about my takeaways from the conference.  
  • [18:39] - Gerald asks about digital minimalism regarding smartphones.  We talk about some of the apps we like to use, and how we manage our apps.
  • [28:47] - Lisa talks about having original plans derailed, and then failing to get back on track.
  • [33:59] - We talk about the stress that is induced by the holidays.  We share some ideas on how to simplify and redefine the holidays.
  • [44:26] - Lane feels overwhelmed by work email.  We both hate email and share some of our strategies to manage it effectively.
  • [55:14] - Someone asks about time blindness.  This person is having trouble with managing several calendars in one and struggling with isolating their important appointments.  During the discussion of this topic, I talk about FreakyAlarm, but Brendan shares why he wouldn’t use it.

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 249_Nov_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:00am CDT

I am joined on this episode by Alex Hey.  Alex is a new ADHD coach from Sioux Falls, South Dakota.  He is launching his new coaching practice, Reset ADHD. His mission is to help people hit the reset button on their ADHD.  Alex is turning his mess into his message. Alex has had to hit the reset button a fair number of times in his life.

In this conversation, you will hear Alex share some of his poetry, which is what made Alex stand out to me and invite him onto the podcast.  Alex provides us with some of his backstory, which includes a diagnosis about five years ago. Alex also talks about his coaching service, Reset ADHD, and the unique perspective he has.  

This episode does contain a conversation around suicide.  If you experiencing suicidal thoughts and you don’t know where to turn, here are resources for help:

United States - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Outside of the US - http://suicideprevention.wikia.com/wiki/Online

Connect with Alex Hey:

Website - http://ResetADHD.com
Twitter - @ResetADHD
Instagram - @ResetADHD
Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/resetadhd/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/resetadhd

You’ll Learn:

  • [05:23] - Alex reads a poem he wrote.  I previously heard Alex read this, and it’s a big reason he’s on this episode.
  • [07:00] - Alex shares some of the background information behind this poem.  
  • [08:50] - Alex was diagnosed at the age of 20, and describes his history with depression.
  • [10:23] - Alex describes the role that his relationships have played in his breakthrough.
  • [11:57] - We talk about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria.
  • [12:56] - Seeking support for yourself is vital, and Alex talks about his progress in this area.
  • [15:16] - Alex reads his love poem.  
  • [17:35] - Alex describes his poem-writing process, and we discuss the power of storytelling.
  • [20:55] - Alex shares some of the thoughts that he corrects, and he describes the process.
  • [29:36] - I share that when I’m in the moment of “the suck,” what is helpful for me is to stay curious about what I can gain from the experience.
  • [35:05] - Alex talks about the role of prayer and faith.
  • [37:59] - Alex shares some information on his business, Reset ADHD.  He also explains why he decided to become an ADHD coach.
  • [43:20] - We talk about the state of Christian-based ADHD coaching.
  • [45:45] - I explain how giving free talks can help grow a coaching business.
  • [51:09] - Alex has written a four-part blog post about the growth mindset.  
  • [53:20] - Live life in permanent beta.

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

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Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: 248_Reset_ADHD_-_Alex_Hey.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode contains the second part of my discussion with Laurie Peterson.  Laurie is the owner and director of Diagnostic Learning Services in Plano, Texas.  Laurie and her group assess and diagnose students and adults with ADHD, Dyslexia, and other learning disabilities.  Laurie was diagnosed with ADHD in her late 20s. 

In this conversation, Laurie and I discuss the steps following the diagnostic assessments she administers.  Medication plays a considerable role, but Laurie also shares how to work to improve skills in areas with lower scores. 

Connect with Laurie Peterson:

Website - http://Diagnostic-Learning.com

You’ll Learn:

  • [05:08] - Once we have the information from the testing, what do we do with the information? The first step is medication, but it is not the entire solution.
  • [06:20] - Laurie explains how to improve vocabulary skills by reading.
  • [07:57] - Laurie shares how to build your perceptual reasoning skills, problem-solving skills, and visual processing skills.
  • [11:53] - I share how an instructor used color overlays to help a student read.
  • [14:33] - Improving your problem-solving skills can be done by playing games.
  • [18:08] - Working memory can be improved, but there is a lot of technology to help.
  • [20:22] - Laurie explains how she uses Alexa to put together her shopping list.
  • [24:20] - I talk about a few of the benefits of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group, including shame-free accountability.
  • [26:18] - Environmental modification is a large piece of ADHD management.
  • [28:34] - We discuss interactive metronome therapy, diet, and exercise.
  • [30:48] - Laurie shares information for those that believe they may have ADHD, but have not yet been diagnosed.
  • [33:19] - Laurie talks about the cost of this type of testing.

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Productivity Q&A

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Want to be a guest?

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Direct download: 247.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

On this episode, I am joined by Laurie Peterson.  Laurie is the owner and director of Diagnostic Learning Services in Plano, Texas.  Laurie and her group assess and diagnose students and adults with ADHD, Dyslexia, and other learning disabilities.  Laurie was diagnosed with ADHD in her late 20s.

In this conversation, you will hear Laurie and I discuss the battery of diagnostic assessments she administered to me.  You will hear us discuss the verbal comprehension, perceptual reasoning, working memory, processing speed, and memory assessments I took.  We describe what these tests are, and what my results tell Laurie.

Connect with Laurie Peterson:

Website - http://Diagnostic-Learning.com

You’ll Learn:

  • [04:08] - Laurie shares her ADHD story.  
  • [06:37] - Laurie talks about how she views and approaches the diagnosis when she meets with people.  
  • [09:02] - I describe the battery of tests that Laurie did with me.
  • [09:56] - Laurie explains why she looks at verbal comprehension when assessing for ADHD.  This leads to a discussion on how I am more of an “audio reader.”
  • [14:23] - Laurie puts the scoring of these texts into context, and how scores can improve.
  • [17:14] - We discuss how “verbal regulation” is where impulsivity and the organizing of ideas meet.
  • [18:08] - Laurie talks about some vocational options for people who score higher in verbal comprehension testing.
  • [19:20] - I scored in the “very average” range of perceptual reasoning. I explain why this surprised me.  Laurie explains this realm of the testing.
  • [24:52] - Laurie talks about vision therapy, which retrains the muscles in your eyes.
  • [32:01] - The next domain we cover is “working memory.”
  • [37:43] - Processing speed is a domain in which I scored “below average.”  Laurie explains that score is common for people with ADHD.
  • [43:18] - Coding and symbol search were two subsets that I didn’t enjoy.  I explain why I struggled with these.
  • [46:42] - Laurie explains the adult memory test.
  • [51:00] - Laurie describes the kind of background information she gathers.
  • [53:00] - Laurie shares a few areas where my wife and I have different perceptions of my skills.
  • [57:07] - I confess I thought, “What if I don’t have ADHD?”  Laurie confirms that I do have ADHD.

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Registration for the winter session of our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is now in full swing. The next registration event is Thursday, November 29th at 3pm Central.  To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.  

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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

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Direct download: ADHD_246.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode is part of a four-episode series of mastermind session.  A mastermind group is a concept that comes from the book, Think and Grow Rich.  We have implemented this concept into our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups. Alumni of our coaching groups have the opportunity to work with me as “addmins,” and those members get an entire hour to sit in the hot seat in our mastermind sessions.

This week, Natalie is sitting in the mastermind hot seat.  Natalie has recently experienced some pretty significant life changes.  This has allowed her to step back and determine what she wants to do with her life.  In this conversation, you will hear us walk through some of these things with Natalie.  

You’ll Learn:

  • [04:22] - We check in with Dan’s progress since his time in the hot seat.  
  • [05:57] - Dianna shares that she is making progress.  She has set up a sleep study.
  • [07:20] - Sandra says that she needs to listen to her hot seat session again because she had so many great things to work on.
  • [09:34] - Natalie provides us some backstory.  She has recently moved and is in a bit of a reset stage in life.  
  • [11:12] - Natalie finds herself overwhelmed by many tasks, and she lists a few things that aren’t overwhelming her.  She provides us with some examples of things she needs to do.
  • [13:05] - Natalie opens her routine app, Fabulous.  I encourage her to screenshot the app and then make that her home screen image to remind her to adjust things.
  • [14:52] - I ask Natalie if she could join a professional or networking group.  
  • [16:42] - Natalie explains that she’d like to hire a personal trainer and start working out in the mornings.
  • [21:21] - Natalie says she feels weird having a masters degree and living at home with her parents.
  • [22:43] - Dianna asks Natalie if she’s done a brain dump.
  • [25:06] - Natalie discusses one YouTube habit she would like to create.
  • [31:42] - We realize that Natalie’s morning routine is more like a morning menu.  I share with her that she needs to create habits, not routines.
  • [35:45] - I encourage Natalie to keep things basic, for the purpose of getting started.
  • [41:58] - Natalie talks about the first video she will be producing.  
  • [46:41] - Earlier in the conversation, Natalie said she would like to travel the country for four months.  She talks about the conflict between this and working a job, and the type of work she is considering.
  • [50:46] - Natalie says her lack of routine is what’s holding her back right now.  
  • [53:39] - Natalie talks about needing to find online work in order to accomplish her goal of being mobile.
  • [59:10] - Natalie shares that she is trying to find herself after the end of her marriage.
  • [1:03:48] - I suggest to Natalie that she write a letter.
  • [1:07:00] - Dan takes a few seconds to give Natalie some encouragement to get started.

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Registration for the winter session of our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is now in full swing. The next registration event is Thursday, November 29th at 3pm Central.  To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.  

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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events.

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This episode is the recording of October’s live Q&A.  The questions answered in this episode were submitted by listeners of this podcast, both ahead of time and live.  Brendan Mahan once again joins me on this Q&A. On this episode, you will hear Brendan, and I talk with a few listeners and read some questions that had been submitted.  We talk about ADHD and substance abuse, a child with ADHD who becomes emotionally sensitive with redirection, and something we label, “procrastappointment.”

You can listen to our live Q&A sessions on the second Tuesday of every month at 1:30 pm Eastern.  Join Brendan Mahan and me as we answer your questions live. You can register at http://ADHDreWired.com/events.

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

You’ll Learn:

  • [11:26] - Erica brings up the topic of ADHD and substance abuse.  Brenden and I share our experiences as smokers.
  • [24:04] - Sarah asks if there is a term for her type of procrastination.  We invent one called “procrastappointment.” We share some tips on getting out of this pattern, including not taking appointment cards!
  • [33:38] - Marisol recently had parent-teacher conferences.  The teacher asked about her daughter’s emotional sensitivity.  Brendan shares some of his expertise with this situation.
  • [40:49] - Marisol wonders how to teach her daughter that redirections are not a failure.
  • [47:20] - Rachel asks about self-guided learning and online classes with an ADHD brain.  I share that I consider this to be “registering for good intentions.” Brendan talks about how to create the structure to be successful in this type of endeavor.
  • [51:07] - Sarah asks if we have figured out how to slow down our lives.  I believe she has taken the first step by asking that question. I encourage anyone in this situation to decrease overwhelm by saying “no” like we are passing out candy on Halloween.

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Our next registration event for the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is this Thursday, November 15th at 11am Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.  

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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events.

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Direct download: 244_Oct_Q__A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode is part of a four-episode series of mastermind session.  A mastermind group is a concept that comes from the book, Think and Grow Rich.  We have implemented this concept into our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups. Alumni of our coaching groups have the opportunity to work with me as “addmins,” and those members get an entire hour to sit in the hot seat in our mastermind sessions.

This week, Dan sits in the hot seat.  In this conversation, you will hear Dan talk about over-committing.  He explains why he has a hard time saying “no,” but this results in sometimes not meeting the deadlines.  Dan has a major traveling project coming up, and this situation is the foundation of this discussion.  

You’ll Learn:

  • [8:48] - Dan sets up this conversation and shares that he struggles with overcommitment.
  • [11:44] - Diana asks if Dan has traveled in the trailer before. Dan also talks about setting expectations at work vs. expectations outside of work.
  • [15:14] - I ask Dan how often he ignores the little voice in his head. Dan believes he can be intentional about giving the little voice time to pop up.
  • [17:10] - I share that having a Plan B doesn’t take much time, and the reward is great. Dan talks about his Plan B.
  • [19:08] - Dan explains that he needs to learn how not to say “yes.”
  • [20:18] - Sandra wants to know what Dan has done with this RV project, and how he prioritizes the tasks.
  • [24:31] - Sandra asks more about contingency plans when working with the list.
  • [25:32] - Dan says that there are not hard-stops in their schedule unless it’s for a meeting.
  • [26:39] - Dan says that his list is written in a shared note-taking app that he and his wife can use.
  • [29:54] - Natalie asks Dan if he has considered getting an antenna to boost his cell phone signal. She also asks for examples of little things that need to be done in the house that overwhelm him.
  • [34:15] - I ask Dan for some time-frame dates. I challenge Dan to consider what he would do if he had no time or less time to prepare.
  • [38:58] - Natalie reminds Dan that friends will be coming into his house so that they will be more understanding than a customer.
  • [40:38] - After Dan talks about envisioning looking what “done” looks like. I talk about the difference between a due date and a done date.
  • [49:45] - I ask Dan what the situation would be if he had to tell someone he can’t do something or hit a deadline he committed to.
  • [51:50] - I ask Dan to consider what carries more weight, the current satisfaction of saying “yes,” or the future disappointment of not being able to meet the deadline.
  • [52:46] - Dan explains how it’s possible to build a reputation as the go-to guy, but then expectations can hurt your career.
  • [54:53] - Dan shares that he would be receptive to a suggestion that he seek assistance with a task. I draw a link between Dan’s perfectionism and self-worth.
  • [58:54] - Diana talks about her own personal experience in the area of self-worth. Dan shares what he wants to gain from this journey. 
  • [1:02:46] - I used to say “yes” to everything, and this brought me stress from being overwhelmed. I changed my default answer to “no.”
  • [1:07:22] - Natalie suggests bringing yourself back to the big picture and asking why you want to do something.
  • [1:10:37] - Natalie brings up Dan’s wife and kids. Dan shares an experience from his ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group.
  • [1:14:33] - Dan admits that he is scared.
  • [1:17:12] - I share how I threatened myself with Workaholics Anonymous.
  • [1:18:55] - Dan shares his takeaways from this conversation. 

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Our next registration event for the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is November 15th at 11am Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com

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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events.

Want to be a guest?

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Direct download: 243_Mastermind_Navigating_Overwhelm_with_Dan_Johnson_3_of_4.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode is part of a four-episode series of mastermind session.  A mastermind group is a concept that comes from the book, Think and Grow Rich.  We have implemented this concept into our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups. Alumni of our coaching groups have the opportunity to work with me as “addmins,” and those members get an entire hour to sit in the hot seat in our mastermind sessions.

This week, Sandra sits in the hot seat.  She explores a topic that a lot of us struggle with and we haven’t really discussed on the podcast.  Sandra feels that she struggles with communication and what she calls “verbal regulation.” In this conversation, you will hear us discuss the issues surrounding communication, and the participants share their experiences and the techniques they employ.

You’ll Learn:

  • [10:21] - Diana was in the hot seat on our last episode, and she committed to scheduling a sleep study.  She shares her progress.
  • [12:44] - Sandra lays the foundation for this discussion.  She would like to talk about what she is calling “verbal regulation.”  
  • [17:06] - Sandra says that neuro-typical people tend to make comments to her on this topic.  
  • [19:04] - Dan asks Sandra about her structure creation skills.  She shares a story about someone comparing her work as something similar to the movie “A Beautiful Mind.”
  • [23:52] - Dan asks a clarifying question about her reactions to compliments.
  • [24:46] - Natalie shares that she had similar situations.  She asks about Sandra’s processing characteristics.
  • [29:02] - Sandra talks about trying to communicate to her co-workers how her brain works without it sounding like an excuse.
  • [30:18] - Diana asks in what types of situations this becomes an issue, and she shares her experience in this area.
  • [34:18] - Diana suggests beta-blockers or alpha-blockers.  
  • [36:20] - Natalie suggests that Sandra talks to her friends about their perceptions of her.
  • [38:28] - We talk about fidgets and the advantage of having a more obvious fidget.
  • [40:23] - We put Sandra’s negative self-talk on trial through role-playing.  
  • [47:19] - I talk with Susan about processing speed and the role it plays in things like communication.
  • [55:05] - Natalie shares that she’s also a slow processor and intelligent person, and she talks about things she does in conversations to help this communication.  
  • [59:22] - Dan explains how he builds trust with people by preparing them for his communication style. He also suggests practicing conversation.
  • [1:01:11] - Sandra finds practicing conversation to be difficult because of other ADHD tendencies. Dan shares how he accomplishes this.
  • [1:03:57] - Sandra talks about a recent course she took on self-observation and self-coaching.  She says that a lot of feedback she got in this discussion reinforces what she learned from that.
  • [1:06:10] - I talk about acceptance being a gift to ourselves and other people.  I also share how slowing my speech has helped me.
  • [1:10:41] - Natalie reminds us that we need to start small.  
  • [1:13:36] - Sandra shares what she would like to learn and improve in the near-future.

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Our next registration event for the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is November 15th at 11am Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.  

Support the podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events.

Want to be a guest?

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Direct download: 242_Mastermind_Sandra_-_Communication_2_of_4.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode is part of a four-episode series of mastermind session.  A mastermind group is a concept that comes from the book, Think and Grow Rich.  We have implemented this concept into our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups. Alumni of our coaching groups have the opportunity to work with me as “addmins,” and those members get an entire hour to sit in the hot seat in our mastermind sessions.

This week, Diana will sit in the hot seat, and we are joined by Natalie, Dan, and Sandra.  The morning routine on non-urgent days is what has Diana hung up right now. Throughout this conversation, you will hear us offer suggestions, tips, techniques, and strategies to help her make these mornings productive.  If you find it difficult to get started in the mornings, you should have plenty of things to try after listening to this episode.

You’ll Learn:

  • [11:02] - The members of this mastermind introduce themselves, including Diana who is sitting in the hot seat this week.
  • [13:57] - Diana shares that she’s been struggling with her morning routine on non-urgent days.
  • [15:30] - Diana talks about the things she’s implemented to try to create some consistency.  
  • [21:05] - Dan asks if Diana has experienced insomnia and what may have caused that lack of sleep.  This leads to a discussion on sleep.
  • [27:02] - Sandra asks about Diana’s medication.  
  • [29:55] - Sandra suggests Diana recall the last time she had a non-urgent morning and it didn’t work out the way she wanted.  
  • [33:16] - I ask Sandra if she’s ok with choosing comfort over courage.
  • [34:47] - Dan shares that when he thinks about data and analyzing what’s working and not working, his mind gets stirred up.  Diana talks about what the pebbles are. These are the small things that seem to trip her up.
  • [37:19] - Natalie shares that this conversation is speaking to her because she shares some of these issues.  She finds herself wasting entire mornings by hitting the snooze button. The Fabulous app is something that has helped her.
  • [40:00] - We discuss the individual steps that could help with her morning routine.
  • [43:38] - Natalie says that the inside of her refrigerator makes for a good dry erase board.
  • [47:26] - I suggest the app, Wake and Shake Alarm and the clocks Clocky and Tocky. I also talk about the Pavlok, which I don’t wholly endorse.
  • [54:30] - Dan asks, “What’s important to you?” when trying to find the motivation to get up and get the day going.  He also suggests finding the areas where other people are depending on her.
  • [57:09] - Natalie explains how she has benefitted from this conversation and the strategies she is going to implement to help her with these areas where she is having trouble.
  • [58:30] - I explain why sleep hygiene is more important than the number of hours of sleep.
  • [1:02:54] - Sandra shares that this discussion reminds her a lot of her own mastermind.  She shares some advice I gave her in that mastermind.
  • [1:08:09] - We talk about using music to motivate in the morning.
  • [1:09:12] - Dan suggests that Diana’s husband helps get her going in the morning.  
  • [1:13:13] - We talk about vitamins, specifically Vitamin B.
  • [1:14:52] - Diana has resisted undergoing a sleep study.  We convince her to make an appointment for a sleep study.
  • [1:16:57] - I suggest morning errands and exercise classes to help Dianna get moving in the mornings.
  • [1:20:28] - Diana shares what she would like to commit to.

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If you’d like to secure an early spot and an early registration price for our winter session of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group, RSVP for our registration event on October 25th at 3 pm Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.  

Support the podcast on Patreon

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events.

Want to be a guest?

Hey, What about you?  Do you have a story? Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 241_Mastermind_-_Morning_Routines_-_Diana_in_the_Hot_Seat_1_of_4.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

Do you say that you “are ADHD” or say that you “have ADHD?”  Through people-first language, we show that people are more than their diagnosis.  However, over time, I’ve come to appreciate how nuanced language is, and how important it is to let people express their identity.  Living with ADHD is a story.  As we change, so does our relationship with ADHD.   

One way I’ve helped people capture their relationship with ADHD is an exercise I’ve been doing with my coaching groups.  I call this exercise, “Dear ADHD.”  I encourage members to write letters to their ADHD.  Since this is ADHD Awareness Month, I invited members of our alumni membership community to write another letter to their ADHD.  What you will hear on this episode is some of those members reading their “Dear ADHD” letters. 

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ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group 

If you’d like to secure an early spot and an early registration price for our winter session of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group, RSVP for our registration event on October 25th at 3 pm Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.   

Support the podcast on Patreon 

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired 

ADHD reWired Facebook Group: 

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application. 

Productivity Q&A 

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events

Want to be a guest? 

Hey, What about you?  Do you have a story?  Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician?  If you answered “yes” to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here

Direct download: 240_Dear_ADHD_-_Special_Episode.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

This episode is the recording of September’s live Q&A.  The questions answered in this episode were submitted by listeners of this podcast, both ahead of time and live.  Brendan Mahan once again joins me on this Q&A. This month, our conversation keeps looping back around to play and planning.  

You can listen to our live Q&A sessions on the second Tuesday of every month at 1:30 pm Eastern.  Join Brendan Mahan and me as we answer your questions live. You can register at http://ADHDreWired.com/events.  

Connect with Brendan Mahan

ADHD Essentials Podcast

You’ll Learn:

  • [08:48] - Erica asks about planning fun.  We talk about the struggles of prioritizing, initiating, and planning.
  • [18:10] - Marisol asks how to stay in motion when there’s nothing to react to.  This continues our conversation on planning. Brendan shares how he uses motion to get back on track.
  • [24:47] - Marisol sat in the hot seat in May and talked about diet and exercise.  She gives us an update on her progress.
  • [26:45] - Gerald asks if we have any rules to help us be productive.  We share some of our “guiding principles” to stay on track throughout the day.
  • [32:45] - We talk about trying to diligent about phone usage, specifically between the hours of 9 pm and 9 am.   
  • [36:50] - I share how staying up too late will impact my ability to function with my family.  “It’s about what I want most vs. what I want now.” This leads to a discussion on parenting.
  • [45:35] - Dianna asks Brendan and me what podcasts we enjoy.
  • [52:16] - AJ asks for strategies for making phone calls.  
  • [57:09] - Alyssa wonders how to make yourself do something that seems unbearably boring.   We share our own experiences and share what does and doesn’t work for us.

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ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group

If you’d like to secure an early spot and an early registration price for our winter session of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group, RSVP for our registration event on October 25th at 3 pm Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.  

Support the podcast on Patreon

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ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events.

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Hey! What about you?  Do you have a story? Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 239_September_Live_Q__A.mp3
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I have two guests joining me in the studio for this episode.  Alex is a proud husband of eight years and is a father to two children.  He teaches special education at the middle school level. His daily practice of mindfulness and meditation has had a profound effect on his life. His ADHD witness story comes into focus in 2008.  The most recent stage of his ADHD journey began with the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group. Alison joins Alex (her husband) on this episode. They have known each other since 2008, and she is a mental health nurse.

In this conversation, you will hear Alex and Alison share how they have navigated the obstacle course that is a marriage or relationship with one person who has ADHD and one person who does not.  Alex and Alison discuss their challenges and explain how they resolve conflict.

Connect with Alex:

Email: aganderson1@gmail.com

You’ll Learn:

  • [09:45] - Alex shares how the two met.  He explains why he saw her as mysterious.
  • [12:30] - Alison talks about the impact diagnosis, and medication had on their conversations.
  • [13:46] - Alison was once brought to tears by Alex having a spotlessly clean living area.
  • [16:06] - We talk about our memories from before we started medication.
  • [22:30] - Alison talks about one of their challenges with parenting. Alex describes his feelings when he’s frustrated with his son, who displays some ADHD characteristics.
  • [26:12] - Alison shares how she allows Alex space in some of these difficult situations.
  • [27:47] - Alex struggles with sharing what is happening in his brain.
  • [30:06] - When Alex’s ADHD is winning, Alison takes his reactions personally.
  • [31:55] - I share that non-ADHD spouses can understand ADHD by listening to these conversations.
  • [33:11] - Alex explains how they engage in constructive problem-solving.
  • [37:38] - Alex considers himself lucky to have someone like Allison, who understands his situation.
  • [39:17] - Alison says that she’s needed to explain Alex’s characteristics with her family.
  • [41:10] - We talk about the dance between accommodating and enabling.
  • [50:54] - Alex talks about why he made the decision to join the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group.  Alison chimes in with developments she’s seen.
  • [55:22] - The two talk about changes they’ve seen since Alex joined the group.
  • [59:20] - Alison shares what she has learned about ADHD since meeting Alex.
  • [1:02:30] - We talk about the long-term aspect of marriage, which involves things like apologizing, and the process of resolving conflict.
  • [1:11:24] - Alex shares his experience with mindfulness.

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Our fall season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group will begin on September 24th, and the group is now full.  If you’d like to secure an early spot and an early registration price for our winter session of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group, RSVP for our registration event on October 4th at 2pm Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.  

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Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired

ADHD reWired Facebook Group:

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application.

Productivity Q&A

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events.

Want to be a guest?

Hey! What about you?  Do you have a story? Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Direct download: 238_A_mixed_marriage_Alex_and_Alison.mp3
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Shawn Smith joins me on the podcast this week.  Shawn has his Master’s in Education and Counseling.  He is the proud founder and CEO of Don’t dis-my-ability Consultation Services, an innovative, multi-faceted coming specializing in the emerging field of neurodiversity.  He is a counselor, psychotherapist, and national award-winning entrepreneur.   

Diagnosed with ADHD Inattentive Type at age 30, Shawn struggle through every level of the public education system prior to his diagnosis.  It took Shawn 32 attempts to earn the 18 credits required to graduate high school.  Medication gave Shawn’s brain a jump start it needed to wake from 30 years of slumber, taking his thought process from dial-up to fiber-op.  

In this conversation, you will hear Shawn talk about his company and the services he provides.  He explains why his company being located in a cooperative creates a constructive environment for his work.  Shawn discusses his background, his struggles in school, his diagnosis, and why the entrepreneurial life fits him well.   

Connect with Shawn Smith

Website - Don’t Dis My Ability 

You’ll Learn: 

  • [07:45] - Shawn describes the Villa cooperative, where his business is located.   
  • [09:41] - Shawn provides some details on the services Don’t dis-my-ability provides, and shares how this environment fits him.   
  • [10:47] - Keynotes and workshops are things that Shawn frequently does, and he describes the content of these offerings. 
  • [11:54] - Shawn describes his life before diagnosis as “hell.” 
  • [12:28] - We discuss the idea of being “lazy.” 
  • [14:07] - Shawn describes some of the strategies he uses to stay organized and productive. 
  • [15:47] - Shawn talks about growing up and seeing people around him making changes he wasn’t making. 
  • [18:23] - A labor dispute is what led to Shawn’s diagnosis. 
  • [22:07] - Shawn describes the changes in his life after diagnosis, and he started medication. 
  • [24:06] - Shawn talks about being “snuck in” to college. 
  • [25:26] - We talk about trying to filter out background noise, and I share my technique for accomplishing this.   
  • [28:45] - Shawn shares more specific information on the services Don’t dis-my-ability provides. 
  • [30:35] - Shawn talks about being a social entrepreneur and describes some of the challenges he faces in this role.  We also talk about being drawn to entrepreneurship out of boredom and resentment. 
  • [34:42] - Shawn says the name of his business came from a rap beat he had in his head. 
  • [40:06] - Shawn lists some of the things he does with his company.   
  • [42:50] - Shawn shares how he plans projects. I talk about using Miranda to help with time zones.  We also talk about the challenge of writing checks and addressing envelopes as “macro thinkers.” 
  • [45:49] - Shawn describes how to make context matter. 
  • [48:37] - Shawn talks about his podcasting experience, including his upcoming video podcast, Don’t dis-my-ability Podcast.  
  • [52:50] - Shawn speaks about the term neurodiversity and why it’s being used. 
  • [1:00:05] - I talk about the book Rocket Fuel, and understanding the unique skills we as people with ADHD have. 

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ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group 

Our fall season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group will begin September 24th, and the group is now full.  If you’d like to secure an early spot and an early registration price for our winter session by RSVPing for our registration event on October 4th at 2pm Central.  This session starts January 7th. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com.   

Support the podcast on Patreon 

Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall.  Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired  

ADHD reWired Facebook Group

If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application. 

Productivity Q&A 

Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30pm.  Go to http://erictivers.com/events

Want to be a guest? 

Hey! What about you?  Do you have a story?  Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician?  If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here

Direct download: 237_Dont_Dis-My-Ability_with_Shawn_Smith.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:00am CDT